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I’m nervous and each day feels like a battle. I wonder when my next panic attack is going to happen because the nervousness just sits there until it gets to big and explodes, and then starts all over again. I’m also very angry about the fact that I have done nothing to improve my life, I’m stuck, everything’s a dis-organized mess, and I want to draw and show you but I suck at anatomy and I still have not figured what style I like yet. I feel like I’m getting nowhere and each day is a lonely hole.
Aw I’m sorry Snowy! Please don’t give up. I would say so much right now but I have little time but for you and everyone here, these are an encouraging song (apologizes again):
“When I’m alone, when I’m afraid
When I have had all I can take
Losing my grip, I start to slip away
When I can hear the voice of doubt
Inside my head, screaming loud
Strengthen my faith, and help me say today
Today
I will follow, I will press on
Even when the walk feels long
Your hands hold me together
Your love is with me forever
Through the broken, through the victory
I will praise You through it all
And run hard ‘til the race is done
I, I’m gonna press on, press on
I’m gonna press on, press on
How many storms have I been through
How many led me right to You
You’re using the pain, the hardest days for my good,
My good
So what do I fear God, You are with me
Guiding my steps today
Through the mountains, valleys, sun and rain
Lord, lead the way, lead the way!
I will follow, I will press on
Even when the walk feels long
Your hands hold me together
Your love is with me forever
Through the broken, through the victory
I will praise You through it all
And run hard ‘til the race is done
I, I’m gonna press on, press on
One step in front of the other
No looking back, no looking back
One step in front of the other
I’m gonna press on, I’m gonna press on
One step in front of the other
No looking back, no looking back
One step in front of the other
I will follow, I will press on
Even when the walk feels long
Your hands hold me together
Your love is with me forever
Through the broken, through the victory
I will praise You through it all
And run hard ‘til the race is done
I, I’m gonna press on, press on
I’m gonna press on
I’m gonna press on
I, I’m gonna press on, press on
I’m gonna press on,
I’m gonna press on,
I’m gonna press on, press on
One step in front of the other
No looking back, no looking back
One step in front of the other
I’m gonna press on, I’m gonna press on, I’m gonna press on.”
~ Press On by Mandisa
I am praying for you Snowy! May StarClan light your path. 🌌
Don't give up; Hope will come in timeThanks Foxtail. <3 Don't apologize for sending me this song, I like it.
Okay, Snowy, calm down. Take a deep breath. You don’t have to worry about all this stuff 24/7. There will be plenty of time for learning anatomy and finding your own style, and it’ll change over time anyway. You can always share your drawings with us, even if they’re terrible (they’re not!). When you feel yourself getting nervous or upset, take a deep breath and silently count to ten. Then remind yourself that you’re safe right now and your panic attack will come when it comes. It won’t help to worry about it. As for organizing, pick a small area that’s messy and take five minutes every day organizing. Then you’re done. *huggles*
Thank you Wavey. That’s great advice – – I’ll try it. Maybe then I will feel like I am getting somewhere.
You’re always getting somewhere 🙂
Oh Snowy, I’m sorry. I’d try to think of happy things when I get nervous, while not always effective it usually helps me when I get worked up. There is still time to try and improve! I’d practice drawing if you don’t like your style right now. I’m sorry you feel so lonely, but you can always talk to us! *huggles*
I keep seeing weird swirly visions every time i go to sleep, and it’s kinda scary i have np idea whats happening its been going on for 3 years
I’m no medical professional, but I’ve heard of something like that. They don’t harm you and some people experience stuff like that for as long as you have. I think that is the only thing they do, but you could do research on it or tell your parents. <3 *Hugs*
I’m sorry, I’ve never heard of that before so I don’t really have any advice except to reaserch it and consult a doctor. Does it bother you at all? Is it like a dream or while you’re lying in bed awake? Do you have your eyes closed or open? *huggles*
It happens when i have my eyes closed and open, and they aren’t dreams really. They’re just swirly lines.
I think you should probably tell your parents, like Snowbreeze said. I’m really bad at giving advice, sorry I can’t help more.
Talk to a doctor….. huggles
That happens to me sometimes but not all the time (sometimes when I close my eyes but mostly it’s when I’m really hot). Talk to your parents or doctor or someone. It could just be your eyesight/body and it could just be normal for you but who knows. Huggles! 🙂
I really need some help
Ok so I had playing netball today and joking around with my friend Lilyheart and she said” I don’t like you. You know your really annoying.”
Now I bet you can all imagine how this felt but sometimes she has these moments so I just let it be.
Then she said “ Oh you prefer Willowdapple to me and Songpetal, you only hang around with us because she does.”
Wow that hurt
Then she goes on and says “ The other day we all agreed on something but you just wouldn’t stop going on about your idea, you looked at Willowdapple like she should take your side”
Ok so this is in the middle of PE and I am almost in tears
Then she goes on”Your so smart and you think your so good”
Meet NEARLY CRYING IN A PE LESSON
And still she doesn’t stop “ Me Willowdapple and Songpetal never get any time alone any more. We were doing just fine until you came along last year and now we don’t get any time alone because you just want to be with Willowdapple, you don’t want to partner up with ANYONE but her”
Wow this is me in tears looking away form one of my first friends I had made at my new school who has now revealed that she HATES ME.
Then we have a break and Lily heart goes for a drink.
I go up to Willowdapple once the teacher has gone and tel, her what Lilyheart said, trying to hold the tears.
Then they come, with force in a PE LESSON
Lilyheart comes back and Willowdapple challenges her on it.
To make it worse the previous day when we were going on a school trip and sorting out partners Lilyheart said she wanted to be with Songpetal, who was already going with Willowdapple she said” Oh I’ll go with one of the boys then.Mapledrift you are really annoying “
Wow what a great few days I have had
I’m really sorry she’s treating you like that. Talk to your other friends about it, talk to your parents and tell a trusted adult at your school so they can watch out for you should anything happen (which it probably won’t, but just a precaution). Is this the same friend that’s grandfather has cancer? She’s probably lashing out because of that. Let her know you want to be her friend and that you’ll be there for her, but it doesn’t help when she takes it out on you and that you’re not responsible for what’s troubling you. *huggles*
Yeah that is
Lilyheart has depression and has recently found out that her grandad has cancer so I don’t know whether she is just feeling down or not
I think you should probably tell a counsler, if your school has one. I’m sorry she treated you that way. I hope things get better between you two soon. *hugs*
I’m sorry… huggles
That is so unfair!!!! Lilyheart had no right to say those things (sorry but she sounded a bit like Ivypool. I love Ivypool but I’m just making a comment). If she was really your friend, she would never have said that. Friends aren’t supposed to do that to one another. They aren’t supposed to favor one over the other (ok there are best friends and friends but as in don’t favor best friends over this best friend I guess). She sure was not acting like a friend there (more like a bully if you ask me). I’m so sorry that happened to you, Maple. *sighs* We must treat others the way we want to be treated. Lilyheart sure wasn’t thinking about that. Did she want to hurt your feelings? It seems so but who knows. But like you said, she probably has depression and sometimes that can make one do or say things to cover the pain that one is feeling. But it still hurts. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words hurt and feel way more. They can build you up, tear you down, make you feel like a criminal, make you feel like a king, lifted your heart, dragged you down…….Words are POWERFUL weapons. And sometimes we are just not ready to stand up and fight against them. Sometimes we need to take a breath, sit down, and think for a moment, then stand back up again and fight. Not fighting with mean words like the other did, but with forceful, emotional, polite, strong, and, yes, forgiving words. Sometimes your shield ain’t strong enough. Sometimes your sword ain’t sharp enough. But that’s okay. Keep going; keep fighting. Your sword doesn’t have to be sharp to strike. Your shield doesn’t have to be the stablest of them all. We all can be broken through and stabbed. And it hurts. I know it does. But it makes us stronger too. Lilyheart’s words must be shoved aside. Her friendship doesn’t matter at the moment. But yours does. You can still try to make amends. You may be striked again and again and maybe even knocked out. But you won’t be knocked out forever. Be yourself and don’t let those words get to you. Your tears will cleanse the pain long enough for the wounds those painful words left to heal. Yes, there may be a scar. But that is proof that wounds can heal. 😉 Everyone experiences things like this. But everyone handles it differently than others.
StarClan be with you, Maple. 🌌 Talk to your parents about it. No, it is not tattletaling. Expressing what you feel to someone will make you feel a lot better in the end, especially if they understand you and want to help you (like BlogClan 😛😊 And at least you talked to Willowdapple about it [right?]). I will be praying for Lilyheart and her granddad. Hopefully she will exit her state of depression and come back to you. 🙂
I got the first F I’ve ever gotten today. It was on a math quiz, and I thought I did okay. I checked with the rest of the class, and everyone got a good grade. I’m usually an A student, I do my work and I turn stuff in. I felt like crying. Next period, we were working in groups. We were only allowed to work with two other people, so one of my friends joined another group. When she was leaving the table, I JOKINGLY told her that she had been rejected from the table. I made it very clear that I was joking, and this was one of my close friends. One of the assistant teachers heard me, and she screamed at me. For a good minute. She told me I was a rude person and that I was a bully. I was almost in tears. I hardly know what I did wrong. I can’t wait until the weekend. Sorry for the rant.
I’m sorry about that. On the bright side, getting your first F ever only now is fantastic! You sound like an amazing student, and your grade probably won’t suffer too much for it. Can you make it up? Everybody gets an F sometime, it’s just part of being human. One test doesn’t define your grade or how smart you are.
Talk to the teacher of the class about the assistant’s behavior, and maybe avoid that assistant for a few days. Make sure your friend knows it was a simple joke and that you would never purposefully hurt her. *huggles*
Sorry about that dawn.
Don’t think about it too much. There are plenty of ways to get your grade back up. And remember everyone makes mistakes sometimes. As long as you learn from what you did wrong and try doing better next time, you should be proud of yourself. Don’t feel too bad.
And maybe if you want to, tell the teacher that yelled at you that it was just a joke and you didn’t mean it.
*hugglesx100000* 😀
Aww, don’t worry.
It’s just one quiz.
I had that happen to me last year.
That’s really rude of that teacher, and sometimes you need to know both sides of the story.
Don’t worry, at our school the lunch duty ppl are pretty rude too. Even if your just joking with your friends (we’re all very close) you can easily get yelled at.
I hope you feel better soon.
In the meantime, finish up any hw and then watch a good comedic movie, tv show, read a book, etc.
I’m sorry you got an F Dawn. As long as you tried your hardest, you should be proud of yourself!We all get bad grades once in a while, but remember that doesn’t define us. I’m sorry the teacher yelled at you, I think she should have been calmer about it, and willing to listen. You’re a great person! *hugs*
It’s going to be fine Huggles
Hey y’all, in case ya need a little laugh, here’s a random spoof my friend wrote.
(The Doctor and Clara are hanging out in the TARDIS)
Clara: So… when are we going to go to? I’m bored of this time.
Eleven: Let’s go to a random castle in the middle of England, mid eighties.
Clara: Why?
Eleven: Because it’s where everyone else is going…?
Clara: Alright then.
(The TARDIS wooshes away)
MEANWHILE
Hermione: RONALD!
Ron: What? I’m right over here!
Hermione: Where’s Harry?
Ron: He’s talking to Barty Crouch Jr and his pretty blonde friend.
Hermione: What!? I thought he was dead!
Ron: Oi! Look for yourself if you don’t believe me!
(Hermione turns around and walks to Harry)
Hermione: Um, Harry? You care to explain? Why Barty Crouch Jr is here?
Harry: This is the Doctor. He just looks like Barty. And this is his friend Rose.
Ten: Hello, I’m the Doctor.
Rose. And I’m Rose. Rose Tyler.
(Suddenly the TARDIS wooshes in. Clara pops her head out, followed by Eleven.)
Eleven: Here we go! Random castle in the…
(He notices Ten and Rose.)
Eleven: (mouths) Rose… me…?
Clara: Doctor?
Eleven: Clara, we may have a problem.
(As the two pairs of Doctors and Companions take a step toward each other, they were blown back by the sudden appearance of a car. A car that left a trail of fire behind it. Out of the car stepped a young man in an orange vest.)
Marty: Woah…
(From behind him, a group of cats and other people stepped out of the car.)
Firestar: Yowzah! Twolegs!
Sandstorm: Fire, my love, you know it makes me feel sad when you say that.
(Sandstorm notices Eleven)
Sandstorm: Doctor…
Eleven: How do you know me, cat?
(Eleven crouches down)
Sandstorm: It’s me, my love. River.
Eleven: Bu-
Clara: Doctor, why are you talking to a cat?
Eleven: Ah, well. You see… This cat… is my… wife.
Clara: Are you telling me you married a cat too?
Eleven: No, no. This cat is River Song.
(Clara gives him a strange look.)
Firestar: Sandy, why are you talking to a twoleg?
Sandstorm: Well… Firestar, this is my husband.
Firestar: You mean your mate? But Sandstorm! I thought you loved me!
Sandstorm: I do, sweetie!
(Eleven stands awkwardly off to the side.)
Sandstorm: Oh don’t give me that look, Doctor. I “died” with no chance of seeing you again. I met Firestar, you met Clara.
Clara: Oh, we’re not- I mean, not ye- er- nope.
Eleven: Yeah… Heh.
(Eleven looks around, noticing all of the people.)
Eleven: Okay, so it appears we all have reached a rift in space and time, dropping us off at this point. But why?
There’s the confusion.
XD that is amazing
Yeah, she did a great job!
wow! your friend has inspired me to write a Warriors/Wings of Fire/Survivors/Percy Jackson/Heroes of Olympus/Kane Chronicles/Lunar Chronicles/The Selection/Origami Yoda/My Little Pony/Steven Universe/Miraculous Ladybug/Teen Titans/Star vs the Forces of Evil/OK K.O./Gravity Falls crossover sometime! 😛
Goodness that’s a lot Wavey 😛 Hope you have fun doing it!
Anyway that’s hilarious from your friend! 😂 (I don’t watch Doctor Who but that still sure was funny)
Hahaha! This is great!
I have a very stupid problem I’m so frustrated when I’m not able to help people especially when they’re fighting against discrimination in my mind it’s always been very black and white that no matter who people love or who they are or what color their skin is or whatever they’re still people and it’s very difficult for me to comprehend why people can be so shallow and blind and mean toward these people. I understand that it’s not in their religion or whatever. The basics. But I just can’t see why people turn on other people like that. I want to change it. I want a world where everyone is respected and everyone is treated as a person no matter what. But then I’d have to change people’s beliefs, and that’s wrong too. I wonder if I’d been raised in a different household would I feel this way? I’d like to say yes, and I feel like I would since my parents are very accepting but we never talked about this stuff it was a conclusion I came to on my own. But I don’t know, and that scares me. Our differences are what make us special, but at the end of the day we’re all humans. Two very valid reasons on why discrimination is stupid, but they’re coming from completely opposite ends of the spectrum. Different, same. Same, different. Heterosexual, homosexual. Maybe I’m thinking too hard about this, but it doesn’t make sense to me. Who back in the earliest ages decided that people should be this way and that way even though some people aren’t? Why? Why after thousands of years hasn’t this changed? I was talking to someone today about the anti-LGBTQIA+ and interracial marriage community and family she lived in and while we were talking, different scenarios of how she could be herself ran through my head, but none of them were good and they were all risky and sad. They aren’t things I’d be comfortable talking about, and while trying to figure something out I pushed her a little for information, which I feel terrible about. I want to be there for her and I want to help her find a safe community and life where she can be herself, but I’m worried that will happen again or I’ll say the wrong thing. I’m a problem solver. I’m trying to solve this problem. But then I’m just a kid who might be part of that community they hate so much anyway. Why would they listen to me? What can I do? Would I even want to change their beliefs? There’s nothing I can do even if I had the power to, and I just hate that so much. I’m incredibly lucky to be in a very welcoming and openminded family and community, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care about other people who have less openminded families and communities. It just… ugh. I don’t know what to say or how to express my frustration.
I was talking to my mom a couple days ago after having learned about sexualities in health class, and I was thinking I might be asexual. I still have crushes and stuff, so I’m not aromantic, but I just don’t like the other thing. In that class so many people seemed comfortable and ready for that thing, and I’m not. At all. I was worried it might just be a phase and I don’t want to offend anyone who actually is asexual. It took me a few days to talk to my mom about it, and while she was accepting and told me it was fine if I am asexual, she said I am socially younger than most people my age. She said that she was the same way and that it took her longer to come to the same conclusions and emotions than her classmates. That hurt. I’ve spent my whole life trying to fit in, and here she is saying that it might never happen all because I’m socially younger. And the worst part is when I look back on my life and how I act versus the people my age, it makes sense. It does take me longer to get into age trends and such. Maybe that’s why I feel so uncomfortable in high school. Anyway, my mom says that’s why she thinks I’m asexual. I did think about it being a phase, but when she said it might be a phase that was really weird to me. Hurtful, even. Maybe it was because of the socially younger part, but I don’t know. I was talking with a friend of mine who’s younger and saying they might be asexual, but then someone else mentioned that it was because most people that age are asexual at that point. That just hurt so much. Because maybe it is a phase and my mind hasn’t grown in yet, or maybe it’s not and I’m overworking myself. I don’t know. I don’t know who I am. I can’t define myself.
Sorry to bother you all.
Hey it’s not a big deal. And you don’t have to decide your sexuality now. There’s people that don’t figure it out until they’re a lot older. You could be demisexual or heterosexual or asexual or who knows. Your mom wasn’t trying to talk you out of anything, I think she was just trying to tell you you don’t have to decide anything right now. And you’re not offending anyone who is asexual because there are 1000+ different levels of even one sexuality. But don’t worry. We’re here for you.
I know she wasn’t trying, but it still stung. Thanks Russet <3
What do they all mean?
Asexuality is when you don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone, heterosexual means you are attracted to someone of the opposite gender, and demisexuality is when you are don’t feel sexual attraction to someone until you have a deep personal relationship with them.
Oh good thank you I needed that 😛 (I keep forgetting all the “uality ” stuff and which means what)
Wavey, you aren’t bothering anyone. You always help everyone here feel better, and I’m hopeful I can return the favor, at least in making you feel better. I’m pretty bad at giving advice haha. The way people phrase certain things hurt, and I’m sorry that happened with you and your mom. As Russet said it can take varying amounts of time for us to figure that sort of stuff out. Just remember, we’ll be here to support you, whether whether it is sooner or later! *huggles*
aww I don’t know, sometimes I feel like my advice is really harsh and isn’t helpful or is too short. but thanks! <3
No your advice is always great! And super helpful! 😀😀😀
Really? Thanks! 🙂
Hugs. For the first part, think about it like this. Say you said or did something inspiring, so your friend used that inspiration to create something inspiring that inspired another person etc. until it reached someone who is going to make a change in the world, a good change. I know it sounds stupid, but it’s possible. You just have to be yourself to do great things. I don’t have advice for the second part.*hugs*
That would be really cool. I’d love to do that. Thanks!
I think what you did for your friend is amazing! I doubt your mom was trying to hurt your feelings, but sometimes words hurt and I understand.i cant really give you advice about your social age because im not sure how that works.hope you find a solution to this soon.here have a smile 😄
Yeah I know she wasn’t but it still hurts. I think it means that I’m less mature socially even if I’m mature in other ways? Idk 😛
Everything will be fine, Wavey. We love you, no matter who you are. Everyone is unique, and we respect others. BlogClan loves you Wavey, and love yourself too~~~*Huggies*
That’s very sweet <3
*huggles*
I get it. It can be pretty difficult to tell if you’re asexual when you’re younger. But then again, sexuality itself is very confusing. Don’t worry- you don’t have to decide right now. Take your time to figure it out. You’re not being offensive Wavey. <3 Asexuality has a really, really broad spectrum and there are constantly different people discovering different ways to define themselves. Maybe you're asexual, maybe you're not. The only one who can say is you. I don't think your mother was trying to hurt your feelings. Most adults just naturally assume it's a child being y'know, childish due to age. I've gotten those kind of responses plenty of times. Thats not to say it can't hurt. It usually does. I'm super sorry about that, and I get it. *huggles*
You could talk to your mom about it. I've done that with my mom before. Explain to her why it hurt your feelings, how you feel about your sexuality, and see if she has any questions about it. (because from experience, most people haven't heard of being ace or quite understand it. Heck, for a while, I only understood my part of the asexuality spectrum and didn't even know about the others till I did a bit of research.) Actually, maybe you could try to do a little research on it. Asexuality is surprisingly diverse, and maybe the more you read about it you might find a term that you think fits you even more. (like demisexual or fraysexual or whatever which are all apart of the asexual spectrum)
Good luck with it, Wavey! Whatever you figure out, I'm here and supporting you. <3 (and if you do decide you're asexual or anywhere on that spectrum, you can join me in the club 😉 😛 )
Aww thank you Silv <3 I know, but I'm 14 and people in my class were talking about how they seemed to be okay with that stuff and I know some of them were probably bluffing but a good amount of them weren't.
I’m sure you’ll figure out your sexuality soon! There’s no rush. You have all the time in the world. Besides, I believe sexuality can be fluid. 🙂
We love and accept you regardless of what you are, Wave. If you’re asexual, I think that’s awesome as heck! 😀 (I have absolutely no interest in that stuff either. 😛 And I think fourteen is way too young to be involved in those things anyway, but I’m a bit old-fashioned in that belief, I guess.)
Huggles, do what you think is best 😉
oh god i think the one who said that most people that age are asexual at that point was me
i wasnt trying to talk about anyone i swear
forgive me i’m so sorry wavey
can you forgive me </3
*huggles*I’m sorry Wavey. Don’t worry about it. There will always be discriminating, we just have to make it so that it’s only 0.00000001 percent is like that 😉 And you definitely fit in here! Don’t worry about your sexuality either, it’s up to you to decide :D. You’re not bothering us at all <3
🙁
Awww what’s wrong nighty?
*huggles*
Everything ok? You don’t have to talk about it if you don’t want to <3
Do you want to talk about anything Nighty? *huggles*
Well…… um I have this crush, but I’m too shy to say anything voluntarily to him. Halp
I’d try to plan out what you want to say to him, and then maybe try to find a time where you could tell him? That’s the best I can say. I hope everything works out Nighty. *hugs*
-huggles Night-
Is there anything wrong? Feel free to talk to me if you need to, you don’t have to tell me if you don’t want to. <3
*huggles*
*stalks over to The Hug Page* Alright, I always feel nervous coming onto this page, because I don’t like to bore people with my problems, but I guess today is different. I have been in a lot of pain lately (from my jaw) and apparently, my wisdom teeth are coming in horizontally. That’s all great and all, but they have to be extracted. I’m not ready for getting an IV and shots. That terrifies me. I’m literally terrified and my appointment is next week. I don’t think I can adult on this one.*hides in corner* This has been a Bramble life update.
It’s totally fine! You can “bother” us whenever you want. We’re here for you <3
I'm pretty sure there's ways to do it other than shots. Talk to your dentist about how you feel. They'll have tips and info for you. Maybe you can have a parent or someone close to you in the room with you while you get your shot to make it easier? You don't have to be an adult all the time, so don't force yourself to be. *huggles*
Awww sorry bramblefire…
Good luck! I’m sure you’ll be fine, try to relax. Be brave and strong! I believe in you! *hugglesx100000000000*
And you’re not boring us. We’re here for you! 🙂
Good luck! Huggles
I’m sorry, Bramble! Shots are awful, but I know you can make it! <3 I get very afraid when it comes to that stuff too, but usually it's not as bad in the end as it seems. You've got this, I believe in you!!! <3 -huggles- I'm sorry you're in pain, is there any Motrin or Tylenol you can take to ease the pain? -huggles-
Ack that must hurt *huggles* 🙁 Try and disctract yourself from it just before, perhaps?
I understand how you feel. I haven’t got my wisdom teeth yet, but I still had to get my teeth extracted. Which means I have to get my wisdom teeth extracted when I’m like sixteen. I am absolutely terrified of that moment. I think all you have to do is to calm yourself down and try to think that their not trying to kill you with the shots.
I’m sorry Bramble. Before the shot, I’d try taking deep breaths and thinking of things that make you happy to calm down a little. I wish you good luck! *hugs*
sometimes i want to lay in bed
and just have a good cry
sometimes, my electric blanket stops working and i have to unplug it five times for it to work
sometimes i have to deal with emotionally broken down people
sometimes, i have to be the guy on the other end of the suicide hotline even though i have no psychology degree
sometimes i wonder if i even have true friends or if everyone just feels sorry for me???
sometimes i worry about the emotional state of people on blogclan
sometimes i take their emotional state and sort of place it on myself so i feel that way too
sometimes people are buttholes
sometimes people are anti-lgbtqia+ and it annoys me to no end
…
sometimes i just want to lay in bed
and have a good cry
Hazel, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I want you to know that you do have true friends, both in real life and on BlogClan. I worry about everyone here too, but the best we can do is give advice and hugs, which it sounds like you need right now. It makes me angry that people are anti-lgbtqia+, and I wish people weren’t. I just wish people would accept each other no matter gender identity or sexual orientation. If you want to cry, remember it’s good to cry sometimes, and acknowledge that you’re sad. *huggles*
Everyone on BlogClan are friends, we support each other. When one of us is tired or want to have a good cry, cry out loud, take a rest. Just to remember: You are not alone, and we love you~ One of my teachers told me,” If you’re tired, take a rest, just remember to stand up, and you will see the bright future.”
I just wanted to share this song because I think it’s very inspirational and it makes me feel better when I’m down, with promises of better days. ^^ 😀 (Just a warning, it does have a curse word or two in it, if this bothers you a lot, you can ignore this.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qIycUnlJFpE
I’m constantly thinking about you all, I know you’re strong and can get through the pain. You’re all amazing, and remember, if it seems like nobody cares, or nobody’s there, I’m here for you. <3 -huggles- <3
I think I just found one of my new favorite songs!
Awesome!! 😀
I’m almost crying thinking about how much BlogClan has done for me and how many amazing memories I’ve made here. I really love you guys so much, thank you again for SW. I want to hopefully someday give back to this community that has given so much to me. You’re all amazing, and I love you all. Thanks for being by my side in some of my darkest times. I can’t express my appreciation enough. Thank you to everyone. <3 <3 <3
I think we can agree on what to say to this-
You’re always welcome! 😀 <3
Willow, you are an awesome person, and we all care for and love you too! I’m very proud to be a part of BlogClan, and to have met all of these incredible people, including you 🙂
Hey y’all. If you’re one of my friends you might have heard some of this already, but I feel like I need to get this out.
I’ve been feeling kinda emotionally numb lately, and I don’t know why. Like, if it’s a joke or something I genuinely laugh and find it funny, but when it comes to let’s say nighttime, I just feel… empty. As in I’m still concious, but the emotional side of me fades in and out, especially towards sadness. Which doesn’t help because my imagination is all over the place and I often end up thinking about death/the world ending which I have to physically hurt myself so I will stop thinking about it. And sometimes I think if I cry, it’ll feel better, but I can’t- as in my eyes physically don’t tear up. Sometimes it’s more sad than empty. Often it’s both, swapping in and out. It’s one of the reasons I haven’t been sleeping well, because it forces me to stay awake until around midnight where I practically pass out in my bed.
Sometimes I feel like slumping on the table and giving up, except I cant, because I’m a scholarship student and “a model for the 6th graders” and I feel like I have to be polite and not get into trouble and stuff. Even playing my instruments (piano and clarinet) don’t help because I’m so scared I’m going to embarass myself in the keyboard sectional concert, and I have to not let my mom suspect anything because she doesn’t understand and won’t understand.
At the same time, I’m trying to stay friends with my best friend, whose mom hates me and this other girl named Redpaw and is threatening to draw my best friend out of our school because she isn’t socialising a lot and hanging out with us instead. There’s also the worry about Crowpaw, who’s in hospital, and my grades, and trying to keep what little of my reputation that remains. On top of that, there’s my piano grades, my band piece and being polite to the teachers. Everyone I know is stressed out and worried and I keep trying to be the peacemaker and solve problems and arguments and now I’m in the middle of almost all the pointless drama that’s going on right now. Everyone I know is expecting me to be kind and understanding. Birdpaw is having anger issues and she is constantly stressed because of things and I’m afraid she might get suspended or leave the school, or worse, stay and take it out on me, because i’m the only one with the lack of backbone to stand up to her, even when she’s making things worse for herself.
Singing is one of the only things that keeps me relatively sane, but my best friend has a strange hatred for singing and keeps telling me to shut up whenever I start humming anything under my breath. Redpaw has already stopped being my friend and last year two of my best friends left this school, and my current friends will either not understand or are too worried themselves. I can’t tell anyone irl, because they won’t understand either. And I just… I don’t know.
Sorry.
Hugs
Stream, don’t be sorry. That is a lot of stress you should not have to shoulder by yourself. Please don’t hurt yourself, could you try and think of things you like and foucus on that when you feel empty or sad? If you are having trouble sleeping I suggest asking if you have melatonin around your house. It helps me when I have trouble sleeping, and if you do have some hopefully it will help you. I’d tell a school counsler about all the stress of being a model student, and see if they have any advice. If you are nervous for the concert, I’d count to ten and take deep breaths, my friend told me it really helps her when she’s getting ready for a band concert. I’m sorry your best friend’s mom hates you and Redpaw. That is unfair to you, your best friend, and Redpaw. I hope Crowpaw gets out of the hospital soon! I know the stress about grades all to well, but just know that no matter what grades you get they don’t define you, and neither does your reputation. Just try and practice your piano and band piece so you get more comfortable with it. Could you possibly tell your friends that while you care for them all, you are very stressed as well and can’t handle them all piling their problems onto you. As for Birdpaw, I don’t really know what to say but I hope things get better. I’m also sorry about Redpaw and your two best friends moving away. I really hope everything gets better. *huggles*
Ack, I’m so nervous about posting this here. As some of you may know, I draw, and I feel like I’m getting NOWHERE, this being the reason why my DeviantArt account is empty. Buuutttt, only to share with BlogClan, here’s some unfinished sketches of mine. I also posted this on the Tavern, I don’t know why I am posting them here, but I just don’t like them that much and I’m stuck. Sorry for poor image quality on some of them. Please let me know what you think I should do to improve.
https://gettingsomewhere.imgur.com/all/
This link might work better: https://imgur.com/a/hPaHs
I think they all look really good! If you don’t think they are good enough, just practice and don’t be afraid to experiment with how you draw things 🙂
*hugs* I think they all look amazing, Snowy! <3 I think this might be you being overly-critical on yourself. (Did that sound mean? I'm really sorry if it did!) I would try posting one or two of them on DeviantArt, and ask for advice. I hope you feel better about this soon! <3 <3 <3