Is Millie The Better Mate? by Ebonypaw

Ebonypaw tackles the age-old question: Who is Graystripe’s best mate?

Artwork by Vialir

This is an argument that has been going for a long time: Who will Graystripe chose in Starclan, Silverstream or Millie? Most people have answered “Silverstream”. I however, disagree with this. I think Millie is the better mate.

First of all, Silverstream was NOT a good mate. Sure she saved him from a river, but any other cat could’ve. It’s not even that special considering Silverstream was Riverclan. SilverXGray was extremely rushed, even so that LeafXCrow looked well developed compared to SilverXGray. Silverstream would’ve been a horrible mother, and it’s pretty much proven here:

“Graystripe looked ready to burst out of his skin. “Fireheart,” he whispered, “Silverstream is going to have my kits!”

His heart thudding, Fireheart looked from Graystripe to Silverstream. She quivered with happiness, her green eyes glowing with pride. “Your kits?” his voice echoed with alarm. “Are you both out of your minds? This is disastrous!”

Graystripe blinked and would not meet his friends eyes. “Not necessarily. I mean, these kits will join us together forever.”

“But you come from different Clans!” Fireheart protested. From the uneasiness in Graystripe’s expression, he guessed that his friend knew very well what difficulties the kits would cause. “You can’t ever claim these kits as your own, Graystripe. And Silverstream,” he added, turning toward the RiverClan cat, “you won’t be able to tell anyone in your Clan who the father is.”

“I don’t care,” Silverstream insisted, giving her chest fur a quick lick. ” I’ll know that’s what matters.”

Graystripe looked as if he wasn’t to sure of that. “It’s stupid that they can’t know,” he murmured. “We haven’t done anything to be ashamed of.” He pressed himself against Silverstream’s flank and shot Fireheart a helpless glance.”

-Forest of Secrets, pages 142-143.
Lying about a kit’s parents is a horrible thing to do and has never worked out. Mapleshade and her kits were exiled, Leafpool was humiliated and gave up her medicine cat duties, Brokenstar was bullied, etc. Not only that, but Silverstream said “I don’t care”. If Silverstream actually stayed in camp, she would’ve still been alive.

Silverstream would’ve probably been miserable in Thunderclan. She had friends and her father treating her like a spoiled brat. Graystripe later ended up betraying Riverclan because his heart still belonged in Thunderclan. Silverstream and Graystripe’s romance ended up hurting themselves and other cats including Mistyfoot and Fireheart. Fireheart almost got in trouble for sparing Silverstream. Silverstream’s only excuse for standing up for herself was “Crookedstar’s my dad”. Silverstream is not a good mate and would’ve been a horrible mother.

Now let’s take Millie. Many take Millie to be harsh and abusive, but is that actually true?
Millie was friendly to Graystripe when they first met, trying to comfort him when Graystripe lost against Duke. Millie then took Graystripe to another forest that reminded him of Thunderclan’s forest. Graystripe then told Millie about the clans and taught her to hunt. After a while, Millie had to chose between her peaceful kittypet life and a dangerous life in the forest. She chose to be with Graystripe and made each other happy.

Graystripe was dying of thirst and starvation. Rogues and kittypets had no code, so they wouldn’t have helped Graystripe. Millie came back with Moss and took care of Graystripe until they were ready to go search for the clans. Millie almost died many times because she left behind her kittypet life. She gave up a lot to be with Graystripe and help guide him home. This shows why Millie is a great mate.

Millie also isn’t a bad mother. She had her right to yell at Blossomfall because she isn’t a kit anymore. Sandstorm didn’t care when Redtail died, Cloudtail and Ferncloud (Ashfur was traumatized) grew out of Brindleface’s death, Brackenfur, Brightheart, and Thornclaw weren’t jealous of Cinderpelt. Bumblestripe didn’t care about Millie’s attention even before he was with Dovewing.

Something I noticed in OOTS is that Millie later got used to and accepted Briarlight’s injury. In Fading Echos and Night Whispers, she thought Briarlight was going to die because of what happened to Wildfur. A true family member has to spend most of their time with the dying family member when a family member is dying. In Sign Of The Moon, Millie was upset Briarlight ran away and got so stressed that she yelled at Blossomfall (She still had a right to). In The Forgotten Warrior, she saw how Briarlight was doing and trusted Jayfeather, She even led a patrol! In The Last Hope, Millie fights for the Clans in the Dark Forest battle. In Bramblestar’s Storm, Millie is worried that Briarlight would drown and got angry at Bramblestar due to her worrying about Briarlight, but forgave him and trusted him when Briarlight survived. She also spent most of that book comforting the kittypets and even talked about how much she loved Graystripe and Thudnerclan. “I wouldn’t change a thing. Except that I wish my daughter Briarlight hadn’t been injured. I’ll never leave ThunderClan, but I’ll never forget that there’s another way to live, either.”-Bramblestar’s Storm, page 109. Then in VOS, she fully realizes Briarlight is okay and isn’t shown to check on her because she trusts Jayfeather.

Millie isn’t ashamed of her previous life and was NEVER rude to Firestar. “You can rely on my loyalty until the day I join StarClan, and you must believe that I will live and die to protect ThunderClan. But I don’t want to change my name. I have always been Millie, and I see no shame in it.” -Dark River, page 86.

If Graystripe really loved Silverstream, then why would he chose Millie to be his mate? If he does chose Silverstream over Millie, then honestly I won’t like him anymore because that is the action of a jerk. Silverstream also approved of Graystripe being with Millie and let her live when she was about to die. This is why Millie is the better mate and not Silverstream.


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  • Nice article!
    But I do disagree with you on the Silverstream parts. I have nothing to say about the Millie parts, they’re awesome.
    And I noticed something: Graystripe seemed to like silver tabbies 😛

  • I think the real question is, if Graystripe is actually the bad mate here. Think about it. He loved his first mate so much, that he took a second mate that looks EXACTLY like Silverstream. It is even proven that he will choose Silverstream over Millie. That is just terrible. Millie was basically like a clone to Graystripe, to make him forget about Silverstream. So actually, no matter how good Millie is, Silverstream will always be the better mate for him. Life’s unfair, isn’t it?

  • I agree with most of your points. However a mother must care for all her kits equally. No kit is better or worse than the other. A mother’s love is for all her kits. A mother should not make a kit feel unloved, shall not abuse one, and shall not favor one over the other. I agree that I would be scared for Briarlight but to ignore her littermates? Besides, a mother pays attention to her kits needs. Briarlight said that Millie doesn’t need to be with her all the time and the mother needs to know what her daughter needs or wants. And she should also listen to the medicine cat. If the doctor says for he mom to leave the room, it is obviously for the best and everyone knows that. But don’t get me wrong, Millie’s great! It’s just that what I said above is what I believe.
    Also, Silverstream has blue eyes (like Millie).

    • Yes, I completely agree. However, it’s one thing if the children in question are kits, like with Rainflower. Blossomfall and Bumblestripe were older apprentices/warriors when Millie began fussing over Briarlight. If they were kits, I would be pretty angry at Millie. But they’re not. While I agree that Millie should care about her kits equally, I also believe that her kits were adults who didn’t need their mother’s support. And just look at Bumblestripe. He turned out fine…. sort of. I still haven’t forgiven him for the Dovewing thing….. let’s just say I’m a fervent Tigerwing shipper and leave it at that. 😀

      • Aren’t apprentices still technically kids? Your mother abandoning you at any age could be really upsetting. 😛

  • I agree with every word you wrote! Millie, in my opinion, has always been the better mate! I just think she’s an all around more interesting character. Plus, I find it so unfair how Millie gets judged harshly too quick while Silverstream gets all the attention. Great job, Ebonypaw! 😀

  • Great article.

    Is it me or do Mille and Silverstream look similar? (Greystripe, is it cause you love them or are they just your type?) I love SilverXGrey more, but MilleXGrey is pretty good.

  • well I do love silverxgrey but ig millyxgrey is ok. But I think he would choose silver I mean they had the most memories and that was his first mate..

    • I know this is an old article but I’m pretty sure it’s been confirmed that Gray will choose Millie over Silver in StarClan, plus Graystripe has been with Millie over the course of more of his life than Silverstream, which was…what? A few moons at the most?

  • Um I do respect your opinion, but… Silverstream was the better mate.

    Everyone remembers that Millie rejected Blossomfall and Bumblestripe when Brairlight had her accident. But the thing people forget is that Millie kinda rejected Graystripe as well!
    Silverstream NEVER rejected Graystripe though.
    So yeah.
    KananXHera forever ❤️

  • It’s hard to chose… I personally believe that Silverstream would have been a great mother. WHen she said I don’t care she meant she doesn’t care that no one else will know she knows. Also Leafpool wasn’t alive then I’m pretty sure she didn’t know about Brokenstar and Mapleshade lived a while ago so she probably didn’t know about that. Silverstream was kind and she didn’t want her clanmates to know also sometimes being hif anything alf clan has worked think about Bluestar and her kits she might have lost Mosskit but that wasn’t her fault. Silverstream would have never given up Riverclan if given the choice and that may have helped Graystripe to eatheir feel happier in Riverclan or made it so Graystripe wouldn’t feel so sad about his kits being in a different clan. Know I am not arguing that eatheir would be a better mate but I do believe that if Silvestream had survived she would have been a great mother and mate. Also at the end were you saying Silverstream was being a bad mate for letting Graystripe move on and be mates with Millie because if so I have to disagree with that if anything that makes her a better mate. It means she loves Graystripe so much she is willing to let him be happy and take a new mate. So all in all I have to disagree when you say Silverstream was a bad mate and would have been a bad mother.

  • I totally agree with you Silverstream wasn’t the best mate with graystripe really.
    Millie might have bit neglected her kits, but at least she and graystripe had some interactions! Silverstream? Well…she and graystripe’s relationship was curt and bit confusing….So I think Millie was more better. GOod article!:)