The Hug Page

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  32,987 Replies to “The Hug Page”

  1. May 27, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    I need help. For the last couple of weeks, my nerves have been really frayed. I have been blowing up and getting really mad at people for no particular reason, and it may be partly because of quarantine, and partly because of the fact that my parents are always getting into fights with my brother leaving me to hide in my room for sometimes even 3 or 4 hours at a time. This happens almost daily, and it is really stressful. My emotions have been piling up, and the end of the year testing anxiety makes it worse. Last night, I finished Mockingjay, the third book in the Hunger Games series, and even though it is one of the more complicated and intense books I have read, I do not usually cry at these sorts of books. But I cried last night. I couldn’t stop, and even though I wanted to stop, I had some vague hope that by crying, I would be able to let go of the emotions that have been building up inside me. It didn’t work. Today I feel as sad, anxious, angry, and on edge as ever. To make matters worse, I am so anxious I can’t concentrate on schoolwork. I have trouble sleeping and am constantly thinking about negative things. To make matters worse, and it feels a little petty, but I still feel hurt, for a Girl Scout thing, I was supposed to work with a couple of other girls over google docs, but the creator of the document put me on view. I texted her multiple times about this, but she ignored me. Between all this, I feel like I am about to explode. Over the last few nights, when I do sleep, I have nightmares and start waking up terrified. I am scared to go to bed. I can’t calm down, and I am scared to talk to my parents about it. I need advice and hugs.


    Join the apprentice army!

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    • falling feather
      May 27, 2020 at 4:23 pm

      the same thing happened to me (your brother fighting with your parents) but with my sister.
      i think you should tell your parents how you feel. this will help because your parents probably dislike the fighting with your brother just as much as you do.
      crying doesn’t solve anything for me either.
      i think you should meditate, do yoga, or self-talk.
      when you can’t sleep try to remember what you have and what you are looking forward to, and what you want to do.
      that girl is girl scouts sounds terrible! maybe you could tell the group leader or tell her parents.
      *hugs*
      try to let things go and accept what is out of your control.
      *hugs*
      i wish you the best!
      🙂


      carpe diem

    • May 27, 2020 at 4:55 pm

      Oh, Cinderpaw!! I’m so sorry about this. Those Girl Scout girls were probably jealous at your skills and didn’t want you to work on it because they thought you would outshine them. I’m serious, you are amazing, and you should talk to your parents about this. If you still feel reluctant, think about it this way. Don’t they have a right to know what’s been making you blow up at them? Or, think about if you were your parent, wouldn’t you want to know what was troubling you?


      John Hancock

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    • May 29, 2020 at 1:08 pm

      cinderrr i don’t have much advice because i’ve never dealt with this stuff before, but i can give you hugs!!! *virtual hugs* stay safe, ily


      don't look at me like that

    • May 29, 2020 at 6:47 pm

      Nightmares are usually a cause of stress and anxiety, and that is definitely what you’re dealing with right now. 😕
      I CAN RELATE WITH THE BOOK!
      I recently read a book(the end of a series) and I was like frozen after the last chapter.
      I felt weird that whole day cause I didn’t know how I felt about it, and suddenly, i got anxious in the car and i had a PANIC ATTACK about the book’s ending.

      Crying helps release stress, but it can also put stress on us. If you just ended a stressful book, AND things are stressful in your house, I’m sure you’re pretty stressed out. I had the same thing at the same time. My sister was fighting a lot with my parents.
      Try to think happy things before you go to bed. Remember something funny. 💛

      Take deep breaths, and please talk to your parents or a trusted adult. You’re dealing with anxiety, and if you can’t calm down, your anxiety can get worse. Trust me, talking to someone who has wisdom really helps fight anxiety. And if you didn’t like the ending, try to think of the things you DID like about the whole series, or about how it was probably best.
      I call it Logic or Love. Like- “I LOVED THESE TWO TOGETHER!!!! WHY DIDN’T THEY END UP TOGETHER?! WAAAAH!”
      But- “Was it for the best?”

      I had to do this cause I’m a cry baby with my books😄 and get really upset. I hope you feel better! *huggles*


    • May 29, 2020 at 7:46 pm

      I’m so, so sorry, Cinder.
      A lot of times at the start of quarentine, I was the exact same way. I blew up at people for no reason, and for some reason, my anxiety levels were super high. I was grounded from everything that calmed me down.
      But then I started getting into things that helped me a lot, like Roblox and computer and YouTube. I was already into this sort of stuff before, but now it was an outlet for me to let out all the anger I had been bottling up inside on something that doesn’t care if you vent at it, rather than at someone’s face. It was really useful.
      I know that it’s tough, but I promise you, it’ll work.
      Scarlet the Kitty (who is currently sleeping on my beanbag chair) sends you lots of hugs and face nuzzles (cuz that’s what she does)
      -Cotten


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  2. Birchpaw/song
    May 27, 2020 at 3:38 pm

    I just found out my grandma died today or yesterday (I still don’t know all the details). Ever since my grandpa died she was never herself and I think that she wanted to die, believing that she would be with him. When we were getting a grave for my grandpa, she said buy one for me and put it next to his. She really had nobody there for her. Almost all my grandparents are dead, other then the one grandma I have left. I can’t talk to her, hug her, or see her again and I don’t know what I am going to do. I feel so bad because she really wanted us to come to her and she was very forgetful so she did not know that there is coronavirus so we can’t go anywhere. She lives out of the country I live in so we really could not go, but I think she thinks that we don’t care about her. I don’t think I can do anything anymore. I wish she knows how much I love her, but I don’t know if she does. Every time summer break comes, it comes worse every year.

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    • falling feather
      May 27, 2020 at 4:28 pm

      I know it doesn’t change anything, but I am so so sorry for your loss.
      I think your grandma knows that you love her. You are her family.
      *hugs*
      I wish you and your family the best!
      🙂


      carpe diem

    • May 27, 2020 at 5:00 pm

      Try and face-time, if she can figure out how it works. Maybe write her a letter. You should tell your family about your worries. Convince them to go visit her, you may not be able to hug her, but you’ll be able to see her face and she’ll be able to see yours. She will always know how much you love her, but in these dark times we need love a little more. You’re also being a very considerate person by thinking of this. Maybe to convince your parents try the excuse that you haven’t seen her for blah,blah,blah years/months/weeks. Something like that.
      *hugs*
      Love is an incredible thing, and your grandma knows that you love her.


      John Hancock

    • Emberblaze (Emb)
      May 27, 2020 at 5:04 pm

      I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure your grandma knew that her whole family loved her. *hugs*


      Scars~I AM THEY

    • Silverfrost
      May 27, 2020 at 6:34 pm

      I’m so sorry 🙁 I’m sure your grandma knew you loved her. You’re her family. I’m sure wherever she is right now, she’s happy and she’s watching over you. Sending you and your family hugs and condolences. ❤️


      A Diamond in the Rough

    • Crimsonclaw "Crimsonpaw"
      May 27, 2020 at 8:58 pm

      I’m so sorry for your loss, Birch! I know what that feels like. 🙁 *Hugs*

    • May 28, 2020 at 6:34 pm

      Oh Birchsong I am so so sorry…

      *hugs*


      SrizelFTW

    • May 29, 2020 at 1:05 pm

      your grandma still loves you birchpaw!! why do i know this? because why would you want to come live with someone that you dont like! we’re here for you, stay safe and *virtual hugss*


      don't look at me like that

    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 5:06 pm

      I’m so sorry for your loss. Is there a way you could remain in contact with your grandma? Writing letters, calling her on the telephone, even virtual messaging/chat? Telling your family how you feel could help, too. <3

    • May 29, 2020 at 6:51 pm

      I’m so sorry for your loss, Birchsong💚💚💚
      Maybe try and FaceTime or call, or text your grandma? Or send her a letter about how much you miss her? I’m 100% sure she knows you love her, but I’m also sure it’s confusing with this quarantine, especially if she doesn’t know about it.
      Or send her a “care package” with cookies and a candle?

      I’m sure if she heard from you, she’d be delighted!!! *huggles* ❤️❤️❤️


    • May 29, 2020 at 7:50 pm

      Oh no!And
      First off, I know exactly how you feel about not seeing your last grandma. My grandma and I are super close, and she’s an hour and a half away from me, which she probably will be for a while now. I miss her more than anything in the world right now (yes, more than school ;P). I know it’s not as far as another country, but it’s still a long way away.
      Your grandma knows you care about her, and she loves you more than a lot of things, too. She probably misses you, and hopes to see you again. And maybe this year you can go visit her.
      I know this probably isn’t good advice, but Scarlet the Kitty and I send you lots and lots of hugs and hope things get better. I’m sorry your grandma died <3
      -Cotten


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  3. Silvs
    May 27, 2020 at 4:46 pm

    My grandpa died and I wasn’t there for her.

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  4. May 28, 2020 at 1:23 am

    if you saw my post on the tavern, you’ll know that my school did a sort of makeshift clap-out for us. i just got back home and it hit me that… this is it. this is how my last year going to school with my friends is ending. i’m not going to have any more classes with them again, i’m not going to sit with them at lunch again, i’m not going to stay late after the bell rings so i can hang out with them a bit before my bus comes again, i’m not going to give my teachers hugs after school again, i’m not going to have any classes with them again. it almost physically hurts. i miss my friends so much already, even though i just saw them less than an hour ago. i miss the rest of my grade a lot, too. i’m not going to know one single person at my high school except my sister and one of her friends, and both of them will be seniors by the time i’m a freshman, meaning i only have one year to meet people. i’m so scared.
    i remember posting about this a long time ago, maybe at the very beginning or very end of seventh grade. i remember you guys saying that “it’s okay, you’ve still got a year” but now that year is up. i don’t even know if i’ll be able to do anything over the summer with my friends… i’ve had one or two gatherings with crowpaw and her family, but that was just at our house and theirs. our grade was supposed to go to kings island at the end of the year (actually, i think we were supposed to go today). obviously we can’t, so my friends and i agreed that we’d all go as a lil group sometime this summer, but i don’t even know if we’ll be allowed to go before school starts up again.
    sorryy, this got a little long. i just wanted to get my feelings out. all i want right now is a good, long hug with each of my friends but i can’t even do that, hahahahahahhaaahhhhhh…
    lol i haven’t cried this much in a while

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    • May 28, 2020 at 3:27 am

      It’s good to cry sometimes. It gets all of your feelings out. You’re right it is your last year of middle school! So, what I’m getting from this comment is that your friends aren’t going to be going to the same school? Well, I’ll tell you this. That a true friendship will survive that, and sometimes you have to learn to let go. It’s not a wonderful thing to learn, but it’s something you’re going to learn sometime, might as well learn it now. Schools are sometimes just a place, but what make schools great are the friends we have in them. The experiences we go through at them. I’m going to quote something from Hamilton which can refer to also what experiences we have at school , “We laugh and we cry and we break
      And we make our mistakes.” Also, we rise and we fall and we break and we make our mistakes. The point is, your friends are going through this too. If they’re going to the same school, they’re still kind of parting from you. But you’re not going to lose each other if you don’t want to. You just have to make an effort to keep that bond, it might not be as strong as before, but, even when a fire only sparks a little, it gives off a bit of heat still. It’s better to keep the fire going than losing altogether. You’ll have the chance to make new friends without “betraying” your other friends. It’s good to branch out sometimes, try new things, you have to look around sometimes to see other possibilities.
      *hugs*
      You might not be able to hug your friends, but you can hug us.


      John Hancock

    • May 28, 2020 at 4:39 am

      Awww, Darkie. <3

      I'm so sorry, it must be so hard. But maybe you can find some way to still meet up with them, like have weekend hangouts or something every week. It's not ideal, but it seems the easiest way. I'm sure you'll find it easy to make new friends, you're energetic, and you always put a smile on my face. There will be other girls like you looking for a friend, that's your target.

      I'm so so so so so sorry you're going through this right now, I wish I could just hug you forever haha. 😛


      #ThankYouWoojin

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    • falling feather
      May 28, 2020 at 6:03 am

      it’s ok to cry sometimes
      this sounds like one of those times
      *hugs*
      you will get through this
      and if you are as nice and funny as you are on BlogClan then i think you will have no problem making friends
      i just had a zoom call with my friends today and that was a lot of fun. you should try to do that with your friends.
      it might not seem like a lot at first but it really made me feel better and i think it will do the same for you 🙂


      carpe diem

    • Leafsky
      May 28, 2020 at 4:12 pm

      It’s alright, Darkpaw. I felt like this when I moved from Primary to Middle School, and Middle School to High School, too. I was able to keep my friends even though most of them went to a different school. Some of them I had to let go, and however much I denied it or didn’t want to, I had to. My former friends became distant anyways. Even if you do lose some of your friends, you’ll still keep some. Don’t worry. You’ll meet new friends in High School and you’ll be surprised at how you can make friends faster than you expected. I really hope you can keep some friends of yours. *Hugs*

    • May 29, 2020 at 12:43 pm

      hi darkiee
      hugs aren’t really my thing but if you’re missing your friends remember you can still zoom/skype/discord with them 😀 and if you’re nervous about next year don’t worry you’ll probably make friends in like a few weeks, i know someone in my homeroom who’s like a complete introvert and has a comfterble group of friends 😉 and it’s okay to cryyyy ilyyyy


      don't look at me like that

    • Bloomkit
      May 29, 2020 at 3:50 pm

      I remember when I went to a new school and I didn’t see my friends again. It can be very, very hard, but at least you have the chance to see them again! While it can be hard to not be able to see them, think of this new year as an opportunity to make more friends, rather then a time of losing them. Remember, no matter how long you spend apart, you still can stay friends, and while this sounds weird, I know from experience that sometimes distance can strengthen a relationship, not just break them.


      Just a normal passerby

    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 4:46 pm

      I’m sorry Darkie. Like Crookedmoon said, it’s good to let all your feelings out. Strong friendships are able to survive things – if you both desire contact and connection, you’ll find a way to make it work! <3 Whether that means meet-ups, online contact, or both, it will be okay. As for making new friends, perhaps it will be like when you started out at this school? An old saying is "Make new friends, but keep the old", meaning that even if you make new friends, you'll still have your strong bonds with the others – also, I'm sure that with your charisma, you'll be able to make some new friends; find some people to sit by that seem interesting at lunch, or ask them a question about classes, things like that. 🙂 *Hugs*

    • May 29, 2020 at 7:58 pm

      Oh no.
      Darkie, I felt the same way when I migrated from elementary to middle school. I cried really hard when I got home, because it had hit me I would never see my best friend (let’s call her Starwarspaw) again, and that I wouldn’t know anyone at my new school. (Like, yeah, I was super psyched, but still.)
      Then I went to middle school, and made a ton of new friends. One I had met from camp (we’ll call her Lionpaw) and the other four I met simply by walking up to them and saying hello (Dawnpaw, Sirenpaw, Cocoapaw, and Sugarpaw).
      I’m sure you’ll make a buttload of friends, and in the meantime, you have us here on BlogClan to help you through it (and me, ahahaha).
      For now, (you remember her as a kitten) Scarlet the Kitty sends you lots of hugs.
      -Cotten


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  5. May 28, 2020 at 2:57 am

    Hi, i have a hard choice. I am hard of hearing, and there is a school not too far for kids specifically who are dhh. I want to go, but here’s the thing, i have a friend, we will call her blossomkit. She introduced me to Warriors and we are very close. But, if i go i wont see her again. When i think about it, I always think, “But I cant leave Blossomkit!” I want to go. It’s a great opportunity for me and I learn ASL. If anyone else on here is hard of hearing or deaf, you would know it makes everything way easier. The school has great reviews and is huge! Either way I change schools next year. But, they have no choir. I love choir. I need advice. Ps. I just thought I would say it, no one on BlogClan has done it, but it is NOT deaf and dumb. I’m not even fully deaf

    • Purple Dusk🌸
      May 28, 2020 at 9:33 pm

      Ask your Mom if she can connect with Blossomkit’s mother. Tell her this is your best friend and YOU want to stay connected.

      Even if you don’t see each other every day, you both can still hang out and have playdates.

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    • Birchpaw/song
      May 29, 2020 at 1:13 am

      I think that you can still keep in touch with Blossom if you go and I think you will learn better! Hugs!

    • May 29, 2020 at 12:48 pm

      if you want to go, you should! but if you’ll miss blossom, ask her parents if you guys can hang out and that sort of fun stuff 😀 ilyyy *hugs*


      don't look at me like that

    • May 29, 2020 at 8:00 pm

      I say you find a way to keep in touch with Blossomkit, like calling her or email. Then you go to your new school and write a letter to the principle of said new school if you could have a choir there, to help other kids with singing, as it is one of your passions, and probably is other kids’, too.


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  6. Anon
    May 28, 2020 at 9:12 pm

    I’m having a breakdown, and I don’t know why, I’m also having a bad panic attack because I saw someone’s pet tarantula in a tiktok, and I’m wearing my binder so now I can barely breathe and I’m getting lightheaded and disassociating, I don’t know how to get out of this one

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    • May 28, 2020 at 9:46 pm

      Okay. I’ll try to help. Hold on. Panic attacks are horrible.


      John Hancock

    • May 28, 2020 at 9:47 pm

      So, try some deep breathing. You need to try and find your remedy, there’s always a remedy for anyone. DON’T give up on trying to find your remedy. My friend’s remedy was watching funny memes on TikTok. Totally didn’t work for me, but try maybe watching Some Good News by John Krasinski, totally fine if that doesn’t work. https://www.google.com/search?tbs=sbi:AMhZZivmbqvaGxliVLhaCmd-wqDO2oBpXRMNCLvyGbvRYrit8yvatWbjJVPWDk89LH3FxC1KvjvI80dEyAJDbo_1hvyFrWrNKCPhwjZs9HBc4GntGyLBdEBWmT8rgEclBnaEzgTA4xY6oEH7BUoz28zjhj9ZCUCsEkzkMyPceYU96YnWSsbKB3sCTY1uXAj6DDnvJAlDdyptr0tI9hN641FNcMa467WTH0KRL7cYGu4Y9Ntj-wFNYtXsQOrkuRQru2ZHXwdkL6y_1O0pEkHQnrMqZjII0SA5zY-VGEELPxzY18l5cFd6O9PGBBSjLerI1IiVX697GTZYr-8ynZrTsiohMWxIZjJH4LaQ&btnG=Search%20by%20image&hl=en&safe=active
      Just click on the rainbow image, that’s how to stop a panic attack, it still works sometimes for anxiety attacks, though. Try and call your friends if you don’t want to text them to tell them. You can create a code that you text to them which means that you’re having an anxiety attack, and you need someone to calm you down. For me it’s Double AA or battery.
      Tips to help with an anxiety attack:
      Look around you
      Find five things you can see
      Find four things you can touch
      Find three things you can hear
      Find 2 things you can smell
      And one thing you can taste
      How to prevent anxiety attacks ahead:
      Manage stress by changing habits
      You can run, jog, bike, exercise or anything like that to relieve stress.
      Practice mindfulness
      You can look up mindfulness cards, there are some cards that you can buy, but you can also meditate, that’s probably more effective.
      Embrace imperfection
      You can’t control everything.
      Do things now
      If you put off things for too long, your to-do list will start getting stacked up, and lead to anxiety.
      Do some light exercise
      Relieves stress.
      Engage in activities that make you happy
      Start drawing, if you like drawing, just do something that makes you happy.
      Take deep breaths
      You need to take control of your mind, if you breathe fast your mind starts to think you are in an unhappy situation, and starts to panic. So take nice deep breaths.
      Acknowledge that you are having an anxiety attack
      You’re not in a worse situation.
      Keep your eyes closed
      Unless you are doing the find five, four, three, two, one things than close your eyes and think of a happy place.
      Use essential oils
      They are magical!!
      This is a copied comment of what I told Maple, don’t worry you’re going to be okay.


      John Hancock

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    • May 29, 2020 at 12:50 pm

      crookedmoon gave some great stuff above my comment, i don’t have much advice for panic attacks, but *hugs!!* whoever you are ilyy and stay safe!!


      don't look at me like that

    • Birchfoot
      May 29, 2020 at 3:12 pm

      I think first things first, please take your binder off if you’re already having breathing problems or are hyperventilating. Secondly, stay away from tik tok right now if it’s the cause of your anxiety attack. I don’t know how tiktok works but I do know other social medias allow you to block certain tags, so posts that are tagged in a certain way won’t show up on your feed – that might be worth looking into

      Crooked moon is right with the grounding exercises, as panic attacks often get you in your head and away from the rest of the world. The five things, four things, etc. is always a good way to get you to focus on your physical surroundings and get you out of your head for a little, and alternatively, a therapist once told me to pick an object in the room and describe it in as much detail as possible (size, shape, possible weight, colour, etc etc). Grounding exercises like these can help you refocus on the world around you, even if just for a short time. Since panic attacks can make you feel very detached from your surroundings (for me, at least), grounding exercises are very helpful to refocus once you’ve gotten your breathing more under control

      Breathing exercises are also crucial. The one that I like the best is to breathe in for 7 seconds, hold for 4, and breathe out for 8 seconds. It really helps to slow my heart rate down if I’m hyperventilating

      Anxiety also manifests in physical symptoms. If you’re feeling lightheaded, lie down, get some water into you, and try and rest. Panic attacks use up a TON of energy, so please please rest once you’ve calmed down, because even once it’s passed in the moment, you will feel exhausted – it is OKAY to rest for the entire day after a panic attack. I’ve done it. Take a nap, watch funny youtube videos or TV, just anything that lets you do as little as possible so you can get your strength up

      Other ways to manage the physical symptoms of anxiety: take a breath and examine how your muscles are feeling. Have you tensed up? Are all your muscles clenched? My jaw especially seems to really clench when I’m anxiety and I have to focus on keeping it relaxed. Fidget toys help me manage restless energy that would otherwise build up if I’m feeling anxious – it’s a nice outlet. Headaches can also occur, so try and get some water and lie down in a dark room (with a painkiller perhaps, but make sure you read the instructions and dosage recommendations on the bottle). Overall, listen to your body!! Physical symptoms of anxiety can sometimes (for me) manifest before I’m even aware of WHAT I’m worried about, so if you feel “off” in any way, take a minute to examine how you’re feeling and take care of that accordingly

      If this is recurring, please speak to a therapist if you haven’t already. Yes, we’re in quarantine right now and I know that sucks, but some have been doing virtual sessions, so if you are in any way able to get in contact with one, please please do it

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    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 5:03 pm

      Crookedmoon and Birchfoot both gave excellent advice on dealing with panic attacks. <3 Please take off your binder so that you are able to breathe, and turn off TikTok. Are there filters you can use in order not to see things like that again? At the very least, stick with things that make you feel safe. <3

    • May 29, 2020 at 8:02 pm

      First off, you need to tell yourself ‘I will NOT be scared of some stupid tarantula on TikTok.’
      Then watch some of your favorite YouTubers to get your mind off of it. Or play some Roblox. Or read a favorite book.
      If you’re scared of it showing up in dreams, do one of your favorite things right before bed.
      Hope that helps!


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  7. May 28, 2020 at 11:03 pm

    IM SO UPSET RIGHT NOW
    Those two boys Rowanwhatever and Darkstrike that I’ve talked about before borrowed a series of books that I have and returned it, and THEY COMPLETELY TRASHED IT!!!!
    They dog eared it where it folded the pages, looked like they threw it at a wall a couple of times, and bent it and everything!

    I loved that series and I generously gave it to them so they could actually appreciate literature, but NO! I form a connection with each book I read and they just completely trashed all the books I owned. I hate them so much. They’re not my friends at all…
    I don’t even want to be in the same room as them anymore, or “reconnect” with their family again.
    Never.
    Those were my favorite books and I loved them and cheshire them and they completely ruined them.


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    • May 29, 2020 at 1:23 am

      You should tell someone. They could get you new books. Ask them if they did it on purpose, they might’ve done it on accident.


      John Hancock

      • May 29, 2020 at 3:42 am

        I think they didn’t do it on purpose, but their mom does the same thing to books. Most of them are just dog eared a bit but one(that I think I didn’t read) has creases and looks like it got thrown across a room. I’ll probably get a new one of that one(since I didn’t read it)😄Thanks for the advice❤️


    • Willowkit thinks featherwhisker is underrated
      May 29, 2020 at 5:22 am

      Ask them to pay for the books. I would be so mad if someone did that to my books

    • May 29, 2020 at 12:54 pm

      ah blossommm
      i can think of two type of people who enjoy reading books, i’ll call them type a and type b.
      type a- my books are very precious to me and i keep them nice and neat
      type b- i still love my books but as long as they are readable, it’s fine
      personally i think i’m more of a type b 😛 but if they actually threw it to a wall, i mean, i don’t think they would do it by accident?
      ah stay safe *virtual hugs* ilyyy


      don't look at me like that

    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 4:53 pm

      Maybe tell them how that made you feel? Until then, don’t let them read/borrow your books. They might have not ruined your books on purpose, so finding out where they’re coming from is a good place to start. Hopefully you could get new books, if that would help! *huggles* <3

      • May 29, 2020 at 6:28 pm

        Thanks guys💚 Just one book looked very damaged, but I think the others are fine. I just didn’t like how the pages were left with creases and everything.
        That’s probably just how they treat books😕
        But I DEFINITELY know not to give them any more books
        Thanks for the advice❣️


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    • May 29, 2020 at 8:07 pm

      Oh my god.
      First off, boys are horrible. I should know, I’m related to about 9 (three brothers, six guy cousins). They do that sort of stuff.
      Second, just because they ruined your books doesn’t mean you can’t love the series anymore. You could probably donate those copies if you really don’t want them anymore, then save up to buy new ones.
      Third, calmly talk to them when you get the chance and tell them you didn’t like what they did. Make sure to mention that if they do it again, you will be telling their parents.
      I hope my advice helped, and Scarlet the Kitty and I send you lots of hugs (and a bit of Scotch tape just in case).
      -Cotten


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  8. May 29, 2020 at 12:24 am

    Wow. When I told you to expect me to be here soon in my last post, I didn’t mean in the SLIGHTEST two days later. I think this may be my new record…

    As expected in my future prediction, my mom is snapping at me WAY MORE for small things. Wow. I probably have the time stone or something, or maybe its because this ALWAYS HAPPENS.

    My mom yelled at me twice today. The first time wasn’t really bad, but still aggravating. I was taking my lunch during home school, but was going to work out using my mom’s computer before I actually ate. So, I got the computer, and was loading, while my mom was talking to my sister on the phone. Unfortunately, our WiFi is terrible sometimes, and the video was taking forever to load. My mom noticed that I wasn’t working out and got upset, even more so when I explained the situation. She was like “just stay there more” and stuff before we both gave up. The only thing that calmed her down was my plan of working out after school.

    The second time was much worse, and makes the first time seem like a pleasant conversation. It started off quite funny, because my mom was ordering takeout and I wanted fish and chips (there are A LOT of pubs in my city offering Uber Eats) but I guess today was eat fish and chips day or something, because only one place out of like, ten, had them. Unfortunately for my mom, there wasn’t anythig she liked on the menu. My mom went on a rant of how much of a hassle it was to order from two places and asked me if I could order something else, and what I wanted. I said I could, but couldn’t think of something else because I am TERRIBLE at making decisions on the fly, especially when my mom can and will call me out if I make the “wrong” choice. It’s stressful, and my mom saw that I hesitated for more than five seconds, because then she was just like “UGGH FINE I’ll order from there”, but acted passive aggressively about it for the next few minutes. I was like, ??? Accept my offer and look for something else if it bothers you that much???

    After the order I asked her is there was anything else I could help her with. She taught me a few years ago that that was the polite thing to do, so I could take initiative. Remember, MY MOM TAUGHT ME THAT. I asked her, and she looked offended by my polite question. And then, she saud, “Do something useful, for once!” Now the thing is, is I knew that there were things she needed help with, but asking that question, like I did countless times before in this EXACT situation, was more of a matter of WHAT she needed help with, and my mom knew that. This lasted until she got the food and we finished eating, when she ranted about “Oh I worked for 10 hours today AND planned out moving AND went grocery shopping CAN YOU AT LEAST DO SOMETHING USEFUL?????”

    Let me teach you something: ASKING what people need help on to find useful things to do is FAR more useful than A) not doing anything, or B) maybe doing something that messed up what my mom wants to do, making it less useful. All I did was ask for clarification, it is that bad of a thing?

    And I get it, my mom has a lot on her plate, but I do too. We are starting finals next month, and there is a chance that it could be added to our mark even if we do bad, which completely differs from my school’s home school policy. Not only THAT, but I have to help out with moving during a PANDEMIC, a situation where I have every right to be kind of not like my old, “useful” self because of all the changes, which my mom KNOWS is hard for me.

    Anyways, that’s all, got to go before my mom screams at me for being late to my shower.


    Try me, Beyoncé.

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    • May 29, 2020 at 4:00 am

      I think you should sit down with your mom when she’s not busy and try to have a heart-to-heart. Just tell her what’s on your mind, and try to explain to her that you’re trying to help. Fights never go away, they just keep starting up. They say that if you don’t have any fights, “it’s not a healthy relationship.” Try and get her to talk, too. It’s always good to hear that they’re going through the same thing. Try to keep the conversation calm, and avoid any fights, and shut down fights when you think they’re starting up. You shouldn’t have to tip-toe your way around what you say, though. If she gets mad, just try and say that you’re there for her secretly. Sometimes parents are really stressed and they just need someone’s shoulder to cry on, and they don’t feel that they can do it with their kids. Then that results into stuff piling up, but put yourself first for now. Maybe take walks with your Mom, so you can have more opportunities to talk to her, and relieve stress for the both of you? You’re doing all the right things, Bramble. It’s just a tough situation, and it’s good that you know that, but sometimes it can be annoying still.
      *hugs*
      No family is perfect…
      we argue, we fight. We even stop talking to each other at times, but in the end, family is family…the love will always be there.


      John Hancock

    • May 29, 2020 at 12:58 pm

      sometimes families fight bramble!! its okay, we’re here for you :DDD *hugssss* ilyyyyy please stay safeee


      don't look at me like that

    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 4:49 pm

      I cannot say this for sure, but this practically seems like she is abusing you. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Try to sit her down and tell her how you feel, perhaps being gentle will help her rage. Is there a way you can talk to a trusted adult about this? Best of luck and please stay safe! <3

      • May 29, 2020 at 6:13 pm

        My mom isn’t. This is just because she is stressed. She is a good mom and does a lot of thing to help me, it’s just sometimes she can be a pain in the tail to be around when she is stressed, especially in Quarantine.


        Try me, Beyoncé.

        • Snowbreeze
          May 29, 2020 at 8:37 pm

          I see; sorry for misunderstanding. In that case, having a heartfelt talk with her and about how everything is feeling could work, along with perhaps doing things you find fun together, like reading or walking.

    • May 29, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      Sorry Brambleheart…❤️
      These are very stressful times. Maybe you should sit down with her and talk about what’s going on between you two? She’s probably extra stressed with moving, keeping the house going(especially under this pandemic) and making sure you do everything you need to on a daily basis.
      I’m glad you didn’t feed into the fire; if she continues to be like this, don’t snap back.

      Calmly ask if you can clean the bathroom, or wash the dishes if she needs to pack something, or go get groceries. If she snaps at you, just take a deep breath and say ‘Just let me know if there’s anything I can help with’.
      And again, sit down and try to talk to her- not about how you’re feeling, but maybe at first, how stressful everything is.
      Talk to her about that you know she is stressed out and you would love to help with anything to get the stress off. Or, you could talk to her about what you’re feeling. 🧡
      *huggles*


    • May 29, 2020 at 8:09 pm

      I agree with Crookedmoon. Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel, then politely ask if you can hear her side of the story. Then work out something between you.
      Btw, good luck running for senior warrior!


      I is the Lone Star Girl

  9. May 29, 2020 at 5:11 am

    Wow. I feel SO bad for you, brambleheart. Your mom seems like a tough person to live with, especially during quarantine. Maybe try to clear things up with her by doing one of her favorite activities with her, like gardening or baking.


    My name is clickable

  10. Mapledrift
    May 29, 2020 at 11:26 am

    If you are openly LGBTQ+ on Instagram, Tiktok or any other main stream social media, PLEASE go private for Pride Month. I have recently discovered that something called Pridefall has been organised, a group of homophobes are going to send awful things to LGBT accounts, however small your account is please, consider going private.
    These people are planning to send graphic material, of a nature which I can’t disclose on the blog, and I believe some may even try and find personal details. Even if nothing comes out of this it is better to be safe than sorry, so yeah, private your accounts and don’t respond to any DMs from people you don’t know

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    • ❄️🐍 Viper That Strikes On Frosty Night (Viperfrost) 🐍❄️
      May 29, 2020 at 11:33 am

      An additional note that they may actually try to target smaller accounts more often, since they’re more likely to respond to a DM or talk to an unknown person. ^^ Stay safe, everyone.


      #Vouch4Viper

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    • May 29, 2020 at 12:59 pm

      ah ty for the advice map!!


      don't look at me like that

    • May 29, 2020 at 3:53 pm

      I don’t understand why people can’t just mind their own business.

      Guys, please stay safe. <3


      #ThankYouWoojin

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      • Rowanstar XXX has changed his name to Redpaw and is now looking for a mentor
        May 29, 2020 at 4:00 pm

        Same^^

    • May 29, 2020 at 4:04 pm

      Thanks for the advice, Maple. I don’t have any social media accounts, but your advice will probably affect other people with social media in a good way. It’s just so wrong that people do that. They’re so narrow-minded, there’s a possibility of being different people!! I remember that on this tv show, this older man was gay, and his partner had passed away already, and his parents send him stuff every year like funeral things with dark balloons and everything. I think they send him to him on the anniversary of when he came out, it’s just who would do that to their own kid??? So, they act like he’s dead. It’s just so wrong, I don’t get why people feel the need to do these type of things.


      John Hancock

    • Snowbreeze
      May 29, 2020 at 4:51 pm

      People are so needlessly cruel. Stay safe, everyone. <3

    • Silverfrost
      May 29, 2020 at 7:05 pm

      Honestly, this is crazy. People should be free to be whoever they want. 🙁 Like, my sister is part of the LGBTQ+ community, and the rest of my family, me included, strongly support it. We’ve already gone private. Please stay safe everyone ❤️


      A Diamond in the Rough

    • May 29, 2020 at 8:10 pm

      thanks for the advice, maple. Sadly, I have no social media life, and no one but people on here know I’m LGBTQ+, but it’s good to know that. So thanks.


      I is the Lone Star Girl

    • Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
      May 29, 2020 at 10:35 pm

      And if you have tumblr, definitely turn off anon asks!! Stay safe y’all!!!


      i Amn just….. a litle creacher

  11. May 29, 2020 at 10:12 pm

    Help. Please.
    I woke up this morning thinking I would be getting my hair dyed purple. Just for the summer.
    I was wrong.
    I ended up going there and learning the shampoo we were using didn’t work.
    I’m really mad at myself for getting my hopes up that I would finally get purple dye put on the ends of my hair. I even told my friends I had a surprise for them.
    (And I will get the chance to get the ends dyed, just not with the shampoo. With permanent dye.)
    I really need advice. And hugs.


    I is the Lone Star Girl

    • May 29, 2020 at 10:45 pm

      Aww, *hugs*. I tried getting my hair dyed, but my hair is too dark, and it didn’t show up at all. Even if you don’t want it to be permanent, you can just dye the ends and if you grow to not like it over time then you can just trim your hair.
      *hugs*
      Keep your hopes high, even if you get knocked on your butt. Get up. Get up. Get up!
      -Steve Maraboli


      John Hancock

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