The Hug Page

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  31,218 Replies to “The Hug Page”

  1. Petalpaw/stream(Petal)
    April 5, 2020 at 5:51 pm

    I’m very stressed right now. I need to study all of the year’s work and memorize it, and I just really don’t feel like I can do this. By the way, it’s in two days. Anything for a self-esteem boost or memorization help?

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    • Meowz is now Spiritshade and doesn't want to be called meowz
      April 5, 2020 at 7:57 pm

      what I do for stress is look at blogclan, but it seems you’ve tried that….. Just know that I’m sure you’ll do great on whatever is coming up. If you’ve studied, then you should be fine! 🙂

      • falling feather
        April 6, 2020 at 4:24 am

        I agree with Spiritshade (like how I didn’t use Meowz! oops I just did)


        • Spiritshade
          April 6, 2020 at 2:38 pm

          😛

    • Pinestripe
      April 5, 2020 at 11:06 pm

      *Hugs* You can do this!


    • falling feather
      April 6, 2020 at 12:13 am

      You can do it!
      I can assure you that if you’ve been learning this stuff all year it will be easier to remember than you think!
      I’m really sorry about this but, if you want to study then you probably shouldn’t be on BlogClan.
      I think that you’re on BlogClan because the test is stressful. I think you should spend 30 minutes (max)
      making a playlist of songs you like then listen to them while you study.
      You can also ask someone you know to help you study.
      For memorization help, I find repetition works for me.
      You got this!!!
      PS I really like your name!!


    • April 6, 2020 at 12:45 am

      You can do anything you set your mind to!💕🎉

    • -Spirit Is Chasing The Easter Rabbit-
      April 6, 2020 at 4:39 am

      *hugs*


      - mistaken for a shadow

    • Leafpaw (Leafgrowl)
      April 6, 2020 at 3:38 pm

      I know something that might work for self-esteem. When you are studying and you get overwhelmed go and do something that you are good at, then once you feel better you can get back to studying or whatever the stressful thing you are doing. It works for me.


  2. April 6, 2020 at 1:21 am

    I’m so depressed. My mom said I don’t have a gymnast body, so all these gymnastic and flexible stuff I want to learn I can’t do because i don’t have that type of body.
    I might as well not exist then because that’s what I want to learn, but I can’t because I don’t have that kind of body.

    Then she went on a whole “Love yourself!” And “You have a different body” thing and it’s just so frustrating. I can never do the things I want to do and now my life is a waste. I never learned gymnastics or did any flexible cool things and now I’m just a blob who doesn’t have that body type.
    I want to be tall(I probably am going to be)
    But I have to be short to have a gymnast body, and that’s not happening.
    So my life is a waste.
    Everything I worked for is in the toilet.

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    • Pinestripe
      April 6, 2020 at 1:41 am

      I believe you can still learn to do those things. I don’t know much about this, but I think there’s no reason why not. You can always start out learning simple things first, and then see where it goes from there.

      *Hugs.* The one thing I do know is that you will find happiness.


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    • Leafpaw (Leafgrowl)
      April 6, 2020 at 1:54 am

      *Hugs* There is a reason that every TV show on earth says “You can do anything if you believe you can!” and if being short was the key to being a gymnast then I should be able to do a backbend (which I can’t and I am really short) and every person who wants or is a gymnast is tall. *Hugs* Believe and be confident!


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      • Swiftnose
        April 6, 2020 at 5:37 pm

        I agree. My favorite game show Takeshi’s Castle is all about competing in physical challanges. All types of people participated in the show, and there wasn’t a certain group who was better than the others. Even a KID won once. So…

        Don’t think you can’t do something because of your body. You can. All right? Now go. Go do what you were born to do.


        I am Iron Cat.

    • falling feather
      April 6, 2020 at 3:53 am

      Your life is not over because someone says you can’t do something you want to!
      Yes, it will be harder because you don’t have the “right” type of body for gymnastics.
      Speaking from someone who only did Tumble Time as a three year old, I think that you should try stretching.
      Set small individual goals like, can you touch I touch my toes, can I do a cartwheel, can I do a somersault, can I do a handstand, can I do the splits?
      These are individual things you can learn without going to a gym.
      Then, once you see if you can learn these things talk to your mom or keep pushing yourself.
      Remember not being able to go to a gymnastics specializing gym is not the thing holding you back.
      If you want to learn something you can learn it at home.
      You got this!


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    • -Spirit Is Chasing The Easter Rabbit-
      April 6, 2020 at 4:42 am

      Dreams are not a waste.
      You can still learn them, no matter what anyone else thinks.
      *hugs*
      Also, try to do small things that might help.


      - mistaken for a shadow

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    • April 6, 2020 at 2:23 pm

      What?? I thought you could be tall to do gymnastics. But let me tell you something; it’s not the end of the world. I know it feels like it, you’ve been working on this forever, and I would feel the same way. But it’s not over❤️ *hug*


      So what?

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    • Goldenfawn
      April 6, 2020 at 2:38 pm

      I did gymnastics for 6+ years and you don’t have to be short or a specific body type! I worked with tons of different girls and they all had different heights and weights. If they work hard, anyone can become flexible. If this is your dream, I promise you don’t have to give up on it. 🙂 Don’t let this one thing define you, though. You’re so much more than “a blob” even if you couldn’t do gymnastics. ❤️


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    • April 6, 2020 at 3:06 pm

      You wanna know what a ballerina is? A tall, thin, stick on pointe shoes.

      I’m not a stick by any means, let me assure you. But guess what? I do ballet twice a week. I’m in my right splits, I can do a double pirouette(most of the time.) So your body does not define what you can and can’t do.

      Prove to your mom that you’re serious. Stretch, gain some flexibility.(Warm up first and watch some stuff on Youtube so you don’t hurt yourself) and by the time this Quarantine is over, your mom will know that you’re serious about this and it’s something you have a passion for. 🙂


      #ThankYouWoojin

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    • Moonmist’s new name is Echomist
      April 6, 2020 at 4:20 pm

      I am probably the shortest person on earth for my age but I’ve learnt gymnastics! If you work hard and really want it, you could definitely do it. 😀

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  3. Silverfrost
    April 6, 2020 at 5:16 pm

    I don’t normally comment on the Hug Page because I don’t like broadcasting my problems. I feel like I’m complaining and being difficult when I comment on here, but I really need advice on this one, so here I am.

    Anyway, my best friend is being cyber bullied, and I don’t know what to do! I’m too scared to stand up to the bully, which is odd, because I’ve stood up to bullies for others before. I also feel like it would be tattling if I tell an adult, and I don’t know what to say to help my friend! I’m a failure, not being able to do anything about the bully, and I feel like I’m letting my friend down after she’s helped me through many difficult times. This is affecting my personal life too, and my older brother is starting to notice something is up, but I can’t cough up the courage to tell him about it! I’m being a terrible person.


    A Diamond in the Rough

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    • Moonmist’s new name is Echomist
      April 6, 2020 at 5:23 pm

      Oh, Silverfrost! The first thing is you are not complaining! The second thing is you are not a terrible person! You are kind and supportive.
      Tell an adult. It’s not tattling if something bad is happening. Be very nice and kind to your friend, and make them feel wanted to fight the ‘bully effect’.
      Huuuuuugggggssssss.

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 12:33 am

        Aww, you’re so sweet! 🙂 <3 Thank you, I feel better already.


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • Spiritshade
      April 6, 2020 at 5:27 pm

      *hug* you are not being a terrible person. This is something that a lot of people face. If you make your friend happy, and get rid of a cyber-bully, you are not tattling. you are being responsible and awesome. I know this might be hard for you, but it’s the best thing to do.

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:48 am

        Thanks for giving me awesome advice!


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • April 6, 2020 at 5:30 pm

      You’re not a terrible person, and telling an adult about the bully is not tattling. Tattling is petty lies to beat your enemies for no good reason.

      This is something that is serious that needs to be sorted out and is presumably making your friend feel horrible. Sorting out the situation by having more experienced people with more power over the bully than you help out is the right thing to do, and you and your friend will feel so much better afterwards when it stops.

      Telling someone is the right thing to do and you’re not a failure for not standing up to a bully. You don’t have to tell your brother if it doesn’t help how you’re feeling or the situation. Just let someone know who can properly help.

      You’re great 🙂.


      Bold of you to assume I'm Navy

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:50 am

        Thank you! You’re great too! In my honest opinion, you give some of the best advice I’ve ever had. 🙂


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • Leafpaw (Leafgrowl)
      April 6, 2020 at 5:49 pm

      First step is to breathe and calm down. It’s not tattling if someone is getting bullied or hurt. *Hugs*


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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:51 am

        Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • falling feather
      April 6, 2020 at 5:53 pm

      You really need to support your friend.
      She is the one being bullied.
      You should tell her to screenshot the messages too.
      You can do it!


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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:52 am

        ❤️


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • Emberblaze (Emb)
      April 6, 2020 at 5:55 pm

      First of all, the Hug page is always here, sometimes I want to just keep everything in, but you need to talk about stuff once in a while. So, about the cyberbullying, you should tell an adult, it isn’t tattling because if it’s bullying and someone is being put down, it’s only right that an adult knows. You aren’t a failure and if possible tell your family because they can help you with this situation. I promise you, you aren’t being a terrible person, and you can still help your friend. I hope this helped and *hugs*


      Scars~I AM THEY

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:52 am

        Thanks, Emb!


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • -Spirit Is Chasing The Easter Rabbit-
      April 6, 2020 at 6:06 pm

      You are not a terrible person or a failure.
      *hugs*


      - mistaken for a shadow

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:55 am

        And you are awesome.


        A Diamond in the Rough

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    • April 6, 2020 at 6:35 pm

      You’re not a terrible person! Tattletale as much as you can.(Even though it’s not really tattletaling)
      Cyber bullying is a really serious thing, and your friend can later be in danger.
      I think it’s best if you tell an adult or the principle about it(if you and your friend go to the same school).
      Never be afraid to tell someone about stuff like this. *huggles* Hope everything works out💜

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      • Silverfrost
        April 7, 2020 at 1:55 am

        ❤️💜💙


        A Diamond in the Rough

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  4. THE LAZY CAT NEEDS HELP (LazyKat)
    April 6, 2020 at 7:19 pm

    Okay, so I’m tired of people fussing over me just because I have Cerebral Palsy (I think that’s what it’s called?) but at the same time I feel like i’m being unfair to the people who care about me so much and I understand that I can’t do anything about how I’m born. I just try to be a “good girl” but between the fact that I have a VERY short fuse and that I’m an introvert and very independent definitely doesn’t help. Also I have made a new friend but now the original trio (you know who I mean) are MAD and I still feel like I want to be friends with that nice new girl…..AUGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • falling feather
      April 6, 2020 at 9:07 pm

      I don’t know what to say about the first part, sorry. Good luck!
      If I were in your shoes I would stick with the new friend because your other friends (Softkit and Foxkit?) seem like they want your attention
      but don’t actually value it. To me, it sounds like they are messing with you.
      Also, if you stick with the nice new girl I think she will be more loyal to you because she’s new and wants friends (I think, I don’t really know).
      I know you said you are independent but if you are loyal and supportive of your new friend then she will more likely be the same to you later on.
      Big take away: Don’t fall for the Softkit and Foxkit bunch, they sound like they are going to do something mean (maybe I’m paranoid).
      Go for the NICE new girl!
      I wish you the best!


  5. April 6, 2020 at 9:21 pm

    Repost because it wasn’t really seen!

    This is a really weird one so just bear with me. 😛

    So, I have this sort of habit of like, being good at something for a while, realizing it, and then obsessing over it. Like, I can’t stop thinking about how I’m doing it when I’m doing it, and then overanalyzing it and then comparing it with others and stuff like that if it makes sense.

    Ummm that sounds kind of confusing. 😛

    So for an example(this isn’t a real one, but just to give you the basic idea). Let’s say, I was really good at climbing trees. Every day I’d climb trees, not really think about it, just naturally climb trees really well. Then, one day, I finish and I suddenly think, “I just climbed a tree! I was good at climbing the tree!” Then, after that, every time I climb a tree I literally think about which branch I’m grabbing, why each branch is good to grab “This one has a good hold and a strong base, that’s why I pick it. See?” And after that, it just doesn’t feel natural anymore, at all. Then every time I see someone else climb a tree I judge how they’re doing it and think that I could do better, then I realize it’s probably not true and I’m just dumb and prideful and I continue walking and get angry at how silently rude I was.

    Basically, that’s what’s been happening but with other “talents” I’ve discovered in myself. They just don’t feel natural anymore and I hate it because they are things I liked about myself but now they don’t seem real anymore.


    #ThankYouWoojin

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    • Pinestripe
      April 6, 2020 at 10:47 pm

      Here are some more ideas (it depends on what the talent is, though, so they may or may not apply): You could try doing it faster than you usually would so that you don’t have time to overanalyze. Or try thinking about something else whenever you get too focused.


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    • falling feather
      April 7, 2020 at 4:25 am

      I don’t think you are doing anything wrong when you analyze yourself.
      It might not feel natural but you are probably just doing that to get better.
      See, it’s like you can climb trees pretty good but the next time when you realize it you are thinking about how you can do it better.
      It might seem weird that you have been thinking about how you are doing it but about the “dumb and prideful” part I think that it is okay that you are thinking that way.
      I mean except for the part where you judge them. PS It would be really cool if you become some judge on America’s Best Tree Climbers (I would totally watch you!)
      I think Pinestripe has a great idea, instead of analyzing yourself you could find new ways to make it more challenging!
      You got this!
      PS You will have lots of time to hone your new talents thanks to the Coronavirus Stay Home Schedule.


  6. Brambleheart is Running for SW
    April 6, 2020 at 10:40 pm

    I have no idea how long my mom and I will be sane in quarantine together.

    So because of all this stuff going on my mom suggested that I do an extra year of high school. Not because I am stupid, but because it will help me adjust to life again. I do not want to do an extra year of high school. All my friends will be graduating except for me and I will be lonely the next year, not to mention an extra year of SCHOOL. I like school. but not that much. I was kind of upset about it but tried not to show because I was trying to be “open”. My mom eventually found out that I wasn’t open and got upset at me for that. I’m sorry, am I not allowed to mot like an option? And how am I supposed to be “open” to do something when it’s clearly a decision that will affect my future? My mom says that this will help me study and get volunteer hours, but I have no idea how being lonely and probably really mad about not having friends or a life will help with THAT. I am supposed to be thinking about the “benefits” of it right now, but each one I come up with also have an equally bad thing, so I guess not. Imagine an apprentice being told that they can’t be a warrior like their friends for a LONG TIME. That’s how I feel. And, my mom says that “oh, these two people you know are doing it” to try to convince me, but am I those people? No. I am not. I hate it when she does that, because I am me and they are them. We should be treated differently instead of being compared to each other for “encouragement”. Anyways, even then, they are older, and will be graduated by the time I hypothetically enter that year, so the problem still remains… not to mention I will be an ADULT still going to high school.

    Also the whole Marvel thing happened and the movie that I have been looking forward to for so long got delayed 6 months, right when it was starting to feel close. It’s like when you are shopping with your parents and ask for ice cream and they say that they’ll get it next week. Next week never comes and you are trapped in an endless loop of waiting and you want it to stop but it won’t. Needless to say I was quite upset about this, and still am. I thought I had a good day on Friday, I talked to my dad, I watched The Current War, but that slapped me in the face. Anyways, the next day I told my mom, again trying to hide the emotion, but she guessed and was upset that I was upset. Again, am I not allowed to be upset or at the very least, VERY DISAPPOINTED about anything anymore?

    Not to mention that I can’t see my dad for who knows how long and he and my friend who I also can’t see are the two people I trust talking face to face about this kind of stuff.

    And about online school. I moved my stuff to my mom’s room and she leaves me alone, for the most part. FOR THE MOST PART… but sometimes she barges in and tells me things that aren’t related to what I am learning AT ALL, and distracts me. Other times she watches me work and I don’t feel comfortable with that, and when I bring it up she is all like, “I’m helping you” and yeah, thanks for that, but please don’t make me feel like I cannot make any mistake whatsoever or she’ll point it out to me like I am an idiot or call me out for doing things differently than her.

    On top of this I HATE Google Meet. We are using that for meetings, and I can turn the camera off, but I have a friend (Stoattail), who I am afraid will have some… interesting thoughts about this.


    Try me, Beyonce.

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    • April 7, 2020 at 12:45 am

      Calmly talk to your mom about the highschool thing. Start it off with, “Mom, I really need you to listen to me. I need you not to get mad and listen to what I say. Please.” And just tell her how you’re feeling, how you know you’ll be lonely, and you feel like you can easily adjust back into life.

      If she’s watching you or distracts you, just kindly say, “Hey mom, I’m trying to focus on my schoolwork.” Maybe crack a stupid joke or something to lighten it.

      Just keep your head glued on and don’t get angry. Be a little more open to your emotions, it might be the only way to fix all this.

      Also, any chance you could call your dad?


      #ThankYouWoojin

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    • falling feather
      April 7, 2020 at 4:37 am

      I think that your mom just wants the best for you.
      About the whole “these other kids are doing it” thing, that is probably her reason for why it’s a good idea. Maybe tell her that it is a good fit for those people but you would find it more suitable for you if you didn’t do another year.
      Try to tell her that you don’t want to go through an extra year of school.
      No offense to your mom but she probably doesn’t really care about the social things so when bringing it up, try to use reasons other than “I don’t want to get an extra year because my friends won’t be there.
      Also, prove to your mom that you can still get a valuable education at home.
      Work out a plan that outlines things you will do. Maybe Khan Academy or try to get you and your mom to read a different book each week then have a discussion about it on Sunday.
      Also when she talks to you about unrelated-to-school things she probably wants to let you know that she’s there and try to relieve some stress. Let her know that you want to focus on your studies but if she wants to do something later you could (maybe a book discussion *wink wink*).
      I wish you the best!


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