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I’m back. After a long time. Because I’m selfish.
So I’m dealing with a lot right now. My sister tried to cut herself yesterday, and my friend is very depressed and she’s struggling and I want to help her and I can’t and I don’t know what to think. I feel selfish for being happy when everyone else is going through a lot.
Next issue: time for me to show y’all how petty I am. So I feel worthless. And unwanted. I’ve posted similar things here before and people always tell me “you’re not useless” but what have I actually done that accomplished anything or made any difference? And I feel left out. All of you on the blog are amazing and you’re all so talented and I literally can’t do anything.
And my birthday is coming up soon but no one cares because someone else’s birthday is on the same day and they are far more important than I will ever be.
Sorry for being pathetic. I don’t deserve any of you.
Hey, Anon. I’m sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. In middle school, one of my closest friends started cutting herself, and it terrified me. She didn’t know what to do and I thought I would be betraying her by letting her parents or an adult know. It’s a really difficult situation, and in times like this, I’d recommend researching what medical professionals most recommend for helping a depressed friend. I’ll link some resources at the end of my comment. 🙂
I think that anyone that hasn’t thought that they are worthless before is lying. We have this tendency to view ourselves in an ever-lasting state of comparison to those around us–if I don’t have the same accomplishments as this person, then I’m worthless. I do it A LOT. I don’t have a part-time job, and everyone else around me does. I am not getting straight A’s, like my sister did when she was in college. However, I know that I have to tell myself that these concepts that society has instructed us equal that equal worth, like beauty, accomplishment, or success, do NOT equal worth. That’s arbitrary and stupid, and people that benefit from other’s accomplishments, beauty, and wealth are the ones that told us that they mean something. Do you know why you have self-worth? Because you’re a person. The concept of human rights dictate that because you are a person, you have the right to safety, you have the right to worth, and you have the right to the pursuit of happiness. Whether or not you will feel it naturally, much like other human rights concepts, does not take away from the fact that YOU HAVE WORTH. And life becomes a whole lot better when you start telling yourself that.
It’s not going to happen automatically. For example, it’s not just going to be “I feel pathetic. Wait Kat said I am not pathetic, and I have worth. I’m better now!” Just like how when you study for tests, you don’t just read “Okay the book says that there are two distinct corgi breeds, Pemrboke and Cardigan. I’ll remember that forever now!” You have to put it in your brain, and practice it, and flesh it out until it becomes a part of you. I’m still struggling to get there, but I know that I will. And even then, it won’t be perfect. Like Mr. Rogers said, “Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”hat person, that someone, is you.
You deserve the world, anon. Please know that. You have the right to it. Good vibes to you.
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edit: Eek, I almost forgot to add the links
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-help-a-depressed-friend
https://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/therese-borchard-sanity-break/ways-to-help-a-friend-or-family-member-with-depression/
Please look out for yourself, too. If it’s too much of an emotional burden, you have the right to take some time to yourself
Be excellent to each other.I know you said that people said you have worth and you probably don’t want to hear it again, but you do have worth! You may be thinking, really Stormy? What do I do that shows my worth? Many things Anon, many things! Giving a kind word to someone that needs it, saying hi to someone, asking how their day was, joining someone’s role play (trust me, that has made my day when someone joins my rp 😛 ). Just having a presence on the Blog shows your worth. Your presence could be what makes someone happy 😀 . Feeling left out is a natural feeling, many people have felt that. Hey, I’ve felt that way before. I’m sure no one has purposefully left you out. I also know how it feels to think that people are more popular than you. You may think that people on the Blog are super talented, perfect, and have super high self-esteem, but I’m sure they’ve felt the same way you do. I know I’m not perfect! Some people also don’t comment on birthday posts. I can sometimes be one of those people but I’ll try to be better about it! 😀 If you think you don’t deserve us, that is incorrect. That might have come across kinda rude, but it’s true. You’re incredible and awesome, you just don’t know it. Don’t let the negative thinking overwhelm you 🙂 And about your sister, you should tell a trusted adult if they don’t know. And call some of the hotlines Kat listed and the ones above for your friend. It is not selfish to be happy. You deserve to be happy! Stay strong Anon <3
Star Wars And CatsFirst of all, I understand how you feel with most of these. Right around 7th grade, my whole friend group hit a really big slump and most of them where not in a good place. I often felt guilty because they would be having a really bad day and I was still happy and didn’t know how to help them. I’ve never quiet mastered the whole supportive friend role because I am awkward and bad with feelings, especially in real life, but I’ve come to realise a couple things. You shouldn’t feel selfish for being happy, because it is not your fault that they are going through tough times any more than it is their fault. Also, just let them know you care about them and listen as best you can if they want to talk. Sometimes it helps people to just let it out and tell someone they trust, even if all said person (ahem, me) can do is awkwardly give them a hug.
Also know how you feel here. Don’t feel bad about feeling worthless either. I deffinatley have days like that, where I just feel like I’m wasting my life. It’s natural. Also, I’m sure your not worthless.
yep saying it again. One thing I always like to reference is the movie “it’s a wonderful life”. I dunno if you’ve watched that one, but it basically teaches about how even the most ordinary person in the world has helped others and done great things that they didn’t realize mattered. And besides, you still have life left to live. When the present ways me down, I like to think about the future.Well, first of all, happy early birthday! Blogclan cares 🙂 Also, I don’t know how old you are, but chances are there’s not anyway to tell who’s going to be important or not at your stage of life. When people look back, their not going to care about who was popular in middleschool or highschool. Also, your family and close friends probably care a lot more about your birthday than the other persons.
You’re not being pathetic, you’re being human. Don’t feel bad about feeling bad, it’s okay to feel upset. You deserve all of us, and to feel happy and worth something and to have your birthday celebrated. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise, because you deserve to have good days and bright futures.
I am very EarthyI’m sorry to hear all of what you’re going through. <3 Do your parents know about your sister? If they do or if they don't, you should tell someone you trust (or talk to them) and make sure she gets support – and it can be from you, too. As for your friend, the links Kat gave are what I'd recommend, and remember once again, that it is absolutely okay to let a trusted adult know what's going on if it is needed.
And as others have said, a lot of us – if not all of us – have felt that way before, because of tendencies forced on us (usually) by society; and it's not true, because you mean something, you have worth and are worthy of being loved. I know you mean a lot to all of us here on BlogClan. Part of what helps with feeling good about yourself, though, is believing it deep down. It won't be fixed all the way right away, but if you work at it and let yourself be and feel, and you can be happy, it's wonderful to be happy! – it'll have you feel better. This advice might be all over the place but I hope you feel better, and realize how amazing you are.
Speaking of talent, do you have some hobbies you love to do? I'm sure you're naturally talented in those (and in other things as well, but hobbies are fun to pursue!), just keep doing them and loving them and you'll fly! And when your birthday comes, we'll all be celebrating.
Best of luck, I hope you feel better soon! *Huggles* <3
Anon.
The only time it is bad to be happy when someone else is sad is when envy is prowling in your heart.
But you do not sound like you are envious. You sound like someone who is the exact oppsitie of envious, a compassionate person.
What is the difference you ask?
An envious person rejoices at another’s misfortune while a compassionate person moves with pity for the suffering person.
An envious person does not lift a paw to help. But you, a compassionate person, loves so much that in some manner, even if just by sharing a smile, brings joy to the sufferer and tries to lessen their suffering. You know that these people need help, and you want to help them. Trust me, a little bit of kindness goes a long way.
Think of Mother Teresa or St. Terese the little Flower. They did not let feelings of worthless get in the way of doing good. I am serious. Did you know that beside opposition from outside forces, Mother Teresa almost give up on being the amazing person she is because of her dark night of the soul? She went through years (Years!) of depression because she was scared all of her work was not worth it. I say all the million’s lives she touched say her work was more than worth it. And the Little Flower. Terese thought of herself as only a tiny violet in a garden full of glorious roses, sunflowers, and lilies. You would think that considering she was the youngest of her four sisters and she never left her convent. She must have done something for her to be the Patroness Saint of Missions, right? She did, by doing every little thing out of love and kindness. It could have been a smile, a word of advice, doing dishes, a hug, and countless more. St. Terese even wrote a book titled the Little Way that touched so many souls, inspiring people she never met to act with kindness.
I know you feel alone. But you are never alone. And YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS!!!
Every gift you give is precious and every smile you make is sunshine brought down to earth.
Where would the world be without you?
Pretty cloudy I say. I know you sister and friend are very lucky and grateful to have you.
Purple Dusk
Anon, trust me, you’re extremely important to all of BlogClan!!! And no one is more important than another! Maybe try reminding someone of your birthday? (Oh, happy early b-day!!) try talking to your friend about it? Has she told her parents? Do your parents know about the situation with your sister, if not, make sure to talk to them! And it’s not selfish to feel happy when people around you aren’t! Remember, your feelings aren’t wrong or bad. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
What is sleep again?I’m so sorry. If your sister is hurting herself or your friend needs professional help, you should call/text a hotline or go to a school counselor. It’s ok to be happy, because you’re not happy about their struggles, you’re just happy.
Happy birthday! <3
🧧新年快樂!🧧Have you ever made anyone smile? If some than you’ve changed that person’s life. And your friends, what would their life be with out you?? And, BlogClan what would it be with out you? See, people need you. And, look how many people replied to your comment. YOU DO MATER!!!
🚦Cottonsneeze🚦Oh no!
First off, make sure someone you trust to handle it well knows that your sister is cutting herself. They will be able to help her stop.
Second, share the love of God with your friend. Tell her he is there for her and that it will all work out.
Third, I feel the exact way you do, unwanted and unloved. It feels like my brothers are taking everything from me. So when I start to feel that way, I start to write down whatever is on my mind in a journal, and then I put the journal away to read or to write in later. Then in two or three years, I go back and read what I wrote back then and think, wow, I was so childish back then.
Also, I’m pretty sure you’re not useless, because God wouldn’t have put you on this earth just to be useless. You have done something great in your life, and even if you havent, just remember to
Go where you’re sent, stay where you’re out, give all you’ve got- Jill Briscoe
Fourth, I care about your b-day! Happy day!
Lots and lots of hugs!!!
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i love mardi grasI tried to close the bus window and it closed on my finger.
And this something around 20 years old girl in front of me just laughed.
Laughed that I was dumb enough to close a window on my finger.
Some people are so kind and awesome, I don’t get it.
It might have just surprised her and she accidentally laughed. But she should have apologized afterwards. <3
#ThankYouWoojinUnfortunately, that is life.
And it is so annoying.
Hope you get better!
Huggies,
Purple Dusk
Ouch, that sounds painful. 🙁 *hugs*
🧧新年快樂!🧧auditions are tonight. and I completely forgot to practice my song with the music. I’m going to mess this up and I’m not going to get the part. I also barely have time to practice after school because my stupid self decided to sign me up to audition at 3:05 (there’s five minute time slots and the first one at 3 was taken) so I could get it over with. great.
It’ll be okay. If you don’t get it now, at least you’ll have the experience for next time. Don’t measure your worth based on whether you get the part. <3
#ThankYouWoojinGreat advice Blueheart!
Give it your best Darkie! We are all routing for you!
Purple Dusk
MY BROTHERS ARE RUINING MY LIFE!!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
They take everything from me. They annoy me. No one sees my side of all the arguments we have! They are going to kill me!!! Help!!!!have
Today my brother Shepherd said I was a liar because my dad is mad about who ate all the gummy worms. I know I didn’t do it, and I know who did. But Shepherd is accusing me! EVEN THOUGH HE KNOWS I DIDN’T DO IT!!! I’M GONNA DIE!! HELLP!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
i love mardi grasSit down with your parents(not in the middle of an argument though) and tell them about everything and how upset you feel.
#ThankYouWoojinI’ve tried.
Try with grandparents?
And how did they react?
#ThankYouWoojinOh, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Maybe try talking to your father alone about it?
They be mean?
Act kinder to both your parents and brothers.
Notice:
Kinder, not nicer or meaner.
Ways to start acting kind:
Talk sweet, help out, offer encouragement, share treats.
Apologize and work towards a solution.
Being kind will seem to not work at first, but has long lasting impression on all involved.
Stay strong,
Purple Dusk
I was at a mental health awareness lecture today and this website was recommended to me! Has tons of advice and videos, from dealing with issues yourself to also having a friend that has been having issues.
https://seizetheawkward.org/
Be excellent to each other.(trigger for mild suicide mention)
The friend I was talking about earlier who was planning on suicide came back to school today!
This is what happened today
My friend was going to have a play date with me today, but she got sick 🙁
Now we can’t have it 🙁 🙁 🙁
Waaaaaaaaa 😭 😭 😭
ŸĖĘĒÊÈÉT ÏŠ MŸ MÏDDŁĘ ÑÅMĘ 🐯IT’S SO UNFAIR!!!😫my mom didn’t let me watch this movie because it was a school night. She said if I don’t talk about it she’ll let watch it on Friday but my little sister is ruining my chances. She keeps talking about it so that I can’t watch them.!!?!?☹️ Why do siblings have to be so annoying??!!