The Hug Page

The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…

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[image description: gif of a brown bear sitting down and raising its arms with a smile and blushing cheeks. “FREE BEAR HUGS” is written at the top with a red arrow pointing down at the bear.]

(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)

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A note from BlogTeam: From now on, we will no longer moderate comments on the Hug Page that go into specific detail about events. Instead, commenters will post in a vague manner, such as “I’m having a bad day, I could really use some hugs”, and other BlogClanners are welcome to provide comfort and support. This change is not because of any specific event or person, but because it is extremely difficult to mitigate questionable comments and determine what parts of certain comments are suitable to moderate, as well as making sure that replies with advice are in no way harmful to the original poster or others. If you ever feel like you need advice about a serious situation, you are welcome to reach out to BlogTeam, because your health and safety is our top priority. However, no one on BlogTeam is or has ever been a mental health professional in any way, and all we can do is provide advice. We implore you to always reach out to a trusted adult or hotline (listed above) about a situation that worries you. You are still welcome to come to the Hug Page if you need any hugs or comfort from your BlogClan peers, but the cause of your distress can no longer be explained——no matter the situation. Thank you so much for understanding <3

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  • I haven’t been very active on here lately, and I feel bad about that, but I’m also just really angry and upset about some things that I’ve read on the internet about people abusing animals, like recently I saw someone comment on a YouTube video saying that they really badly hurt (probably killed) a cat, and that just made me soooooooo ANGRY, like why would you treat an animal that way? And their comment had four likes, and someone even responded with “Good man.” Like WHAT? And I’m just really upset and sad about a lot of things right now.

  • So I believe my period started
    And the only pads my mom had to give me were quite big
    So now I’m kinda uncomfortable
    And we won’t be able to buy new ones until umm Sunday, since everything is closed
    And my mom wants me to go up to see my cousin But I still feel kinda uncomfortable since the pants I’m wearing are quite tight so I feel like everybody can see that I’m wearing a pad

    Also, I’m going on Anon on here, but I told a couple of my friends in private about this, so please don’t say who I am. I kinda like need adjusting to the idea if it makes any sense.
    Also, I have quite an important day tommorow, any advice on how to not let period ruin my day?

    • Hi, Anon! First off, congratulations. Periods can be wild, but it is a rite of passage in some cultures! 🙂

      I also want to start off by saying do not let ANYONE shame you or tease you for having a period. It is normal, it is natural, and anyone who gives you a hard time needs to come right to me so I can set them straight! Menstruation is a normal bodily function. Nothing weird or inappropriate about it.

      I totally relate to the issue with pads! I’m very small so all pads I’ve tried are too large for me. I use pantiliners and they work pretty well for me, maybe look into them. 🙂 I also use tampons, which can be scary at first, and I do recommend them for times when you’ll be active (like swimming or running), but it is totally up to you.

      Even if people can see you’re wearing a pad, it isn’t a big deal, really. Just a normal part of life. ❤ Just know you’re more aware of pads because you’re the one wearing them. Passersby are unlikely to notice. If you’re too uncomfortable, it’s okay to postpone. For tomorrow, make sure you have extra pads in your purse/backpack/etc, and take a sweater or something with you to tie around your waist, just in case of a leak!

      Finally, I want to say that if you have any questions, any at all, please feel free to reach out to me on Discord. Women’s health is something very important to me and I am happy to be there for you if you need someone. I will never turn you away, so please don’t hesitate to message me. ❤ 🙂

    • The first time I got my period, I was 10 years old and very small (13 now but still on the smaller side), and the pads my mom gave me were so huge I felt like I was wearing a huge diaper 😛

      Maybe wear looser pants? Also, no one really notices whether or not you’re wearing a pad, even if your pads are big. <3

      • I totally agree! It’s been some 5 years since I first got my period (wee I was a bit of a late bloomer 😛 Got mine when I was… 14? 15? One of those two 😛 ) and basically no one will notice you wearing pads, even if they’re gigantic 😛 I used to wear really large and long ones because my flow was c r a z y as my body tried to figure out what it wanted to do, and nobody batted an eye! Even if they do notice, those who have periods have this silent sort of “I understand the struggle and I won’t bring it up” thing 😛

    • aw anon I’m sorry <3
      Starting your period can be a really scary experience and the first few always feel strange. I was 13 when I started (almost 5 years ago aha) and I felt a w f u l at first. Like i felt like my childhood was over and my mum would never love me again (which i realise is SO S T U P I D but yknow I was petrified)
      Pads are weird and may feel weird, but if you try different brands and sizes youre bound to find one you feel comfortable in!! And I promise no one will ever notice that you're wearing one 🙂
      The first 2 days or so are the worst, so make sure you always have extra pads on you just in case 🙂

    • Like the others have said, no one will notice! And even if they do, they’ll keep their mouths. I’d say for tomorrow, (although that’s today isn’t it?) bring lots of extra supplies and also some advil in case you get bad cramps.

  • idk i’m just a little frustrated right now

    i’ve been playing viola for 4 years (this is my 5th year) and i’ve just felt really down about it lately. It was never my choice to start playing, since my mom made me, and sure i’ve felt down about it before but this is different. I guess there’s a few things. First, I was practicing Wednesday because I have to otherwise my mom won’t give me my allowance (which is fair) and it just went really badly? I couldn’t get it right at all, and the piece was notably worse than it was the day before. I couldn’t figure out why. On top of that, my bow hand starting slipping for some reason? My teacher always says my right hand is my weakest point, which makes sense, but it was to the point where I’d start the piece with a good bow hold and two pages later it would be a full inch too high up and extremely uncomfortable. I don’t know how or why that happened. I cut my practice session 5 or so minutes short because I was getting really frustrated, and that’s when things get the worst. I didn’t practice Thursday because I felt terrible about my playing, and I pretended I forgot when my mom asked. I promised myself I’d practice the next day. That was today. I just finished “practicing,” and I want to cry. I swear to StarClan I’m just getting worse. You’re probably going to say that isn’t true, but it’s terrible. The piece is progressively getting worse, my bow hand is doing the same thing no matter what, both my shoulders hurt, and my right hand fingers hurt from gripping the bow because I’m trying to keep my hand in place but things are just getting worse. My teacher always tells me to relax my right hand and I try so, so hard but now I’m going against all of that effort because my stupid hand keeps slipping up and I don’t know how or why. I cut my session 10 minutes short today. I tried to play the second piece I was supposed to start this week yet haven’t touched (and my lesson is tomorrow) and things went horrendously. I couldn’t play it at all. It wouldn’t bother me as much if I hadn’t been able to play it last Saturday, during my lesson, just sight reading. Somehow my practice is making me worse. I tried to end today on a good note, but I just wasn’t playing well, and I gave up. For the millionth time, I just wanted to be so done with this whole viola thing, but I can’t do that until this year ends.

    And then my teacher is forcing me to do this competition thing I really don’t want to do. I did one last year, at her request, that was a school thing. It’s for soloists, and it went fine – I didn’t win, but I wasn’t disappointed. I was happy that I didn’t mess up, and that was all that mattered. Now she wants me to do a county competition in March. I would be totally fine to do it if it weren’t for one thing. I’m turning 14 in a week, meaning I’ll be in the senior age group, which is 14-19 by the time the competition rolls around. My teacher says I’m good, and that I can still win, but I know I can’t (realistically, I’m not even being pessimistic here, I’ve heard the other kids play and I admire them a lot), and my recent practice session fails haven’t helped. If I was just three months younger, I could be in the 10-13 group, and I’d do it. But there’s no point in me preparing and stressing over a competition I don’t want to do nor one I can win. Plus, I really don’t want to pay $25 (USD) for a piece I don’t even want because it’s required for the competition. I told my mom I really don’t want to do it, but she’s not going to do anything about it. I told my teacher, and she doesn’t care at all. She says it will be a good experience, and I get that. I’m trying really hard to see where she’s coming from. But this really is not something I’m interested in. She doesn’t realize the only reason I’m playing is because I have to, and the only reason I practice is because I want my allowance, because horseback riding gear is not cheap and I need all the money I can get. She expects me to go into music as a career, and I really don’t want that. But that’s besides the point. Bottom line, I hate my playing lately, I’m being forced into a competition that’s stressing my out even three months in advance that I have no chance of winning, and I can’t quit until the end of this year at the earliest. Just hoping for some hugs and maybe advice, if you got through this whole thing. Sorry I’m so upset about something so small, but I’m tired of dedicating so much time to viola when I really don’t like it and it’s an extremely negative experience.

    Thank you to who ever reads this <3

    • Maybe during your next lesson, sit down with your teacher and tell her your frustrations during your practices? Maybe ask for some help in fixing the “issues”. And if you can, try to explain that you aren’t looking for music as a career, and maybe hint at the fact that everything is because your mom told you to?

      I hope things get better, Moon. <3

    • I am so, so, so sorry. This is not small, you have a big reason to be upset. Nobody should be trying to force you into doing something you absolutely do not want to do, never mind think about running your life with it. I’m really sorry. You should sit your mom down and tell her all of this. It isn’t fair she is trying to force you to do this, which clearly makes you miserable, and not giving you the money you need to do what you enjoy if you don’t. You are trying it to see from your mom’s and teacher’s perspective, right? It isn’t very fair that they aren’t doing the same for you. *HUGS* I’m sorry Moon, I hope you try to work it out with them <3

    • Hugs! Try talking to your teacher about how you don’t like playing the instrument? Talk to your mother about how you really don’t like it? Hopefully you being happy is more important to her than you playing the viola! I can’t relate, if I could I probably wouldn’t be playing the bass! But I’ve definitely seen a few kids who are forced to play certain instruments. Honestly, being forced doesn’t do anything. You won’t get better if you don’t love the instrument and playing it. Try asking your mom why she wants you to play Viola, then tell her why you really don’t like it or want to. Remember, BlogClan is always here for you! Hugs!! <333

    • Sorry, Moon! I can relate a bit. Back then, I hated doing piano, but my mom forced me into doing it more, but I like it better now. Main reason is because I can play a bunch of legendary songs (Office theme song, viva la vida, some of the Simpsons theme song, etc), which really impress my parents. Perhaps you could make an agreement with your parents of you playing a different instrument? I’ve heard that playing string instruments are pretty tricky. Piano is pretty simple, at least for me. I don’t know, you could do some research, perhaps. Hope this helps!

      Infinite huggles for you!

    • Oh gosh, Moon, I can relate with that from gymnastics. Sometimes it’s just an off day or two, where your body just decides not to function. I’d suggest going back to the basics and doing lots of repertoire and drillwork, to realign your muscle memory and give your muscles some break as well. You will get through this Moon, one day at a time. And Moon, if you don’t enjoy it, remember you always have a choice. Hugs, hope everything gets better, love you <3

  • I found out that my crush Sorrelpaw is dating another girl named Cinderpaw. I’m really upset, angry, sad, and jealous. I’m really jealous of Cinderpaw because she’s super pretty, popular, and everyone loves her. I don’t know what to think. I really loved Sorrelpaw and know she’s with somebody else 💔

    • *hugs* I’m so sorry Pasty, but remember that most middle school relationships uhhh don’t last long to say the least 😛 You will get a chance with Sorrelpaw! Just show her that you’re just as good as Cinderpaw and don’t be nervous 😉

  • I feel really worthless and useless. Today in class, we were supposed to have a sub, but she wasn’t there so we were alone for fifteen minutes, and I was trying to get everyone to do their work but no one was listening. Then another kid told everyone to sit down and wait patiently, and they somewhat quieted down. Then another teacher came in because she didn’t have a class that hour and was like “Oh my gosh you guys should listen to [kid’s name] he’s very wise and smart.” Now, I’m technically class president, so I was supposed to be telling everyone what to do but I was feeling really tired and kind of sick so I wasn’t up for it. But then everyone started asking me why I didn’t say anything and that I didn’t do my job properly and that [kid] should’ve been class representative. Yeah so that kinda sucked. (But at least [kid] is actually a good person. I have nothing against him.) So now I feel absolutely useless and I literally can’t do anything.

    Also I really hate myself and I feel like (oh gosh I’m gonna sound like a self-absorbed whiny brat) some of the mods hate me. Or at least strongly dislike me. (Oh look I can’t do anything and I also complain.)

    And I feel sick. I know I don’t have a cold or whatever, but I just feel uncomfortable.

    (Tomorrow’s my geometry midterms! Wish me luck!)

    • I can say, with absolute certainty, that I don’t hate you, Star 🙂 Neither do I dislike you! You are an amazing part of the BlogClan community and I’m so sorry that you feel this way about yourself 🙁 It definitely wasn’t a good thing for the other kids to say those things, but please try to keep a chin up! Even if you can’t change how things went down today, you can at least use this experience to learn what you can do in the future 🙂 Mistakes, failures, shortcomings, whatever you feel like calling them, they’re part of life and as terrible as we feel about them, we can use them to improve ourselves and become better than who we were before <3 I'm sure that if you put your mind to it, you can be better than how you were yesterday, or the day before or the day before that, if you take the time to step back and look at how it went 🙂 And communication is all it takes to find the information you need about some of your questions or insecurities! I don't hate or dislike you, and I'm sure that the rest of BlogTeam can agree, but I can't speak for them 🙂

      And good luck on your geometry midterms!

    • This is not true, not true, not true, not at all.

      I really really really really like you, my friend!!!! You are a great friend <3 🙁
      You don’t recognize your own self worth, which you have so much of. Like you said! “You’re part of this world. The world is a machine, and machines do not have extra parts.”

      This counts to you, too.

      Everyone loves you <333 Here's a lollipop 🍭 *hug*

    • I’m so sorry that you feel this way, Emby 🙁 I can’t claim to know what you’re thinking or what you’ve been through, but I do know that the world wouldn’t be better off without you because BlogClan wouldn’t be the same <3 You've made friends here who care about you and I'm sure that they'll agree with me when I say that you do matter and make a positive difference 🙂 Without you, we'd have one less person brightening up another person's day, and putting a smile on someone's face can be one of the best feelings in the world <3

      If you're feeling suicidal or unsafe, please call at least one of the following hotlines:
      International suicide hotlines: https://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines
      Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868
      Hotlines, crisis lines, and lifelines for kids, teens, and women (USA, other countries available): http://worldhelplines.org/usa.html

    • Absolutely not.

      I hate to admit, but I don’t know you that well because I’ve been inactive. I can’t know anything about what you’re going through right now, but I promise that all of us are here to help you. I’m sure that you’re an amazing person and I would love to get to know you better. We are always here ❤️

      As someone on the blog said before, “You’re part of this world. The world is like a machine. Machines don’t have extra parts.”

      You’re here for a reason, my dear. Nothing is better off without you.

    • Hey, Emby <3

      I can’t stop you from feeling how you feel, but I promise it isn’t true. There are going to be people who don’t like you, and that may be all you feel sometimes, but there are also people who love you. You always have BlogClan, and we all care about you. We’d all miss you if you were gone. Not many people can say they have friends from all across the globe who care about you the way you do, and remember that. Without you, we would all have an Emby-sized hole in our hearts, because you’re amazing, and you matter to us all <3

  • i’m going to vent about my stupid classmates and continuation of the pikachupaw crisis
    my STUPID FREAKING CLASSMATES noticed last week FINALLY that pikachupaw was gone, and now all they’re asking me is “where is she?” and because i have to respect her privacy and that there’s a reason her parents didn’t tell the school so i reply with “i don’t know” and the they go all like ‘OooooOoooooOOOooOOOoOhHHhh i thInk she’S dEAdAdADADdddd” the stupid idiots i hate them so much they have no idea that that could be a terrible terrible possibility and they’re treating it like nothing
    well i don’t hate them and i know hate won’t bring pikachupaw back and all it’s doing is draining my energy and causing negative feelings but i swear i can’t go by a single day without someone asking me or peacockpaw
    and i had two dreams about her coming back to school. like apparently my subconcious is thinking about her, even though i’m not…
    that’s what worries me most- that i’m not worrying about her. i mean, i shouldn’t let it clog up my emotions all the time but i’m barely thinking about her and when i do, it seems more like i’ve accepted i won’t see her again which i refuse to believe
    and we tried talking to her sister again… and appears the laughing stuff wasn’t to cover it
    the only stuff she told us that wasn’t repeating herself was that she didn’t get sleep
    but why would she stay in the hospital for 3 weeks i she didn’t sleep for 2 days on a weekend
    honestly, i don’t know if i’m too worried or not worried enough at this point…

  • whats the point of being in a friend group when ppl hardly talk to u

    whats the point of speaking if you don’t even have a voice anywhere

    whats the point of going after people even though they’re gonna leave u behind

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