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  • I’m soooo sickkkkk ugghhhhh.
    I already missed one day of school and I don’t want to miss tomorrow because I have tests AND my school forces you to make-up PE days. But I feel awful.
    Just blahhhh

  • Romantic love is inescapable and I want it to go away :[

    I’ve always found the couple drama in books quite annoying. Get out of my way love, I WANT BLOOD AND GORE! And all the songs. Love, heart break, drama. I’m tired of it. Get over it and find something else to sing about, please. Too many movies end in a nice lovely kiss while I roll my eyes in the background.

    I feel like something is wrong with me. Why can’t I just clap along with everyone else at the oh so adorable couples like everyone else? Why do I get so angry at myself sometimes? I like a guy, he doesn’t like me back. Get over it and do your math homework, please. I get all “oh no he doesn’t love me whatever will I do” just like all those stupid girls in the books, and I hate it. I want to just be over it already. It’s stupid. It gets in the way of our friendship. If anyone finds out, his girlfriend will kick my rear end (she actually said that once, but I think she was joking b/c she has no idea that I actually do. However, she still would not be pleased.) , he’ll friend zone me, and it’ll be a huge mess (if any of my friends ever join blogclan, you modos better get ready for a panicked “help please delete these comments before my social life turns into the dark forest” 😛 ). (To any of my real life friends are reading this: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS YEE SNOOPS)(Yes I’m that paranoid 😛 ) There’s no point to it, and yet I still can’t keep myself acting normal around him. It’s been 2 years, and I’m tired of it. I’m tired of being annoyed with myself, I’m tired of slowly drifting farther from the guy who’s been a wonderful, supportive friend my whole life, and I’m tired of writing stuff like this (oh please dear blogclan help me sort out my terrible big deal crush what ever shall I do HOW ABOUT GET OVER IT). I don’t want to be like the stupid girls I complain about in the books. Why can’t I just get over it? The logical part of my mind is struggling to comprehend what ever idiotic part of my brain controls romantic love :[ . I want to just flip a switch and go back to being normal.

    The other day he asked me who I liked. I want to be able to tell him and giggle over it with him like back in the good ol’ days before my stupid emotions got in the way and mucked it all up. With my last (and only other) crush, I told him and his response was “Heck yeah, he is a cutey” (he’s pan) and it was fun. He’d tease me about it, offer me suggestions on flirting that both of us knew I’d never use, and we’d gossip and behave like normal immature 6th grade best friends.

    But now it’s a mess. In 7th grade, I was a jealous mess. In 8th grade, I was silently hoping he’d look my way (oh the drama) . Now I’m just tired and plain annoyed that I’m still like this.

    I miss when I could hang out with him without getting tung (how do you spell tung? Not like this, anyway 😛 ) tied and quite and panicking and heart racing and all that stupid true love junk when I could just be enjoying the wonderful friend he is and shooting him with nerf guns. Now we don’t talk much because i’m awkward and frustrated and jealous. I used to get to hear all his rants about penguins and how his favorite color is clear. Now I don’t know if he even likes penguins anymore and at some point he changed his favorite color to dark blue and I didn’t even notice.

    Cookies if you read this all 😛 . It’s pretty stupid, but it feels good to complain about it if I’m being honest.

    And now I go back to agressivley slamming the skip button on every romantic song that comes on as I try to stop my skeptical view of romantic love from tearing my pour little idiotic heart (although that’s really just a blood pumping organ why do we even say love comes from the heart? I’m pretty sure that bit comes from some section of the brain. 😛 ) up into little sentimental shreds.

    Great starclan I can’t believe I just let myself right another thing like this oof :[ oh well

    Any ideas on how to get my head out of the clouds but not cut him off completely? Because he is a wonderful friend, and I don’t want to loose him or hurt him.

    • Has he noticed that you’ve been a little… Distant? If he’s been asking you about it, or you think he might be suspecting something… Ugh. I have some advice, but I don’t think you’re going to like it 😛 I think, you should find a chance where the two of you can be alone, and you should just tell him. Let him know that you aren’t expecting anything on his end, that you just wanted him to know what was going on. Tell him that you know he won’t leave his girlfriend, and that all you want is to be his friend, but you can’t seem to stuff down these feelings.

      In my opinion, there’s a difference between confessing your love, and discussing it. What I’m suggesting isn’t going up to him and saying “Hey, I’ve had a crush on you for two years, would you finally break up with her and notice me for once?” It’s a, “I can’t control how I’m feeling, I’m sorry that this might complicate things, but I feel you have a right to know.” But don’t apologize for how you feel, because you can’t control that.

      And Flame, I get it, romance in movies and books is annoying. Only because that’s the only aspect it seems to focus on. (My favorite video game, has a storyline, and there’s no romance whatsoever except for a side character but it’s just dorky. It’s all about friendship, and I love it. My favorite artists, don’t sing about love). Romantic love isn’t something to be hated, or turned away from. It’s something for the individual person, you can choose when you’re ready for it. And I promise, it’ll never be like a “I’ve known you for a week let’s seal it with a kiss and know we’ll be married in a year” like no. 😛 That’s what happens in the movies and it’s annoying. But that’s not all it is. I don’t have any experience in romance, but it’ll never be that simple, and it’ll be worth it in in the end. Of course, if you don’t have any romantic feelings towards anyone, that’s just you. But if you’re feeling those emotions, it’s not a bad thing. It doesn’t make you one of the stupid blondes in a romcom.

      Hopefully this helped somewhat. If it didn’t… ummmm. Uhh…. *hugs* There. 😛

        • In general, I think the way romance is portrayed, is not typically the best. Shows, movies, books etc. don’t show romance the way it’s supposed to be in the real world. Heck, the “real world” has lost most of its morals at this point. I just believe you need to find the person who completes you, no matter what completion is for you.

        • sdfghgfdfghjgf mood love triangles and love drama angst plots are so ironically funny to me as an aro person. especially cheating plots. it’s so easy to avoid cheating just.,. don’t do it 😛

          • The weird part about me is that I’m actually a huge romantic when it comes to fictionalized romance and if I hear any of my friends having romance drama, I’m immediately like “spill the tea now” but as soon as any of that starts to get close to me personally, I’m like “bye felicia”

            • i feel that!! my friend has a steady boyfriend and i always want to hear about what cute things they’re doing. he goes to a different school, so she’s always texting him at lunch and she gets this really sweet smile on her face and it’s adorable. and i have lots of ships and stuff for fictional characters, but it usually ends up being stuff that has obvious roots in canon. it annoys me when people take any sort of affection from characters that aren’t strictly related and spin it as romance though. like is adopted sibling or friend affection not good enough for you? that happened in real life once too and it made me so uncomfortable aaaaaa

              • Mhm, that last part is why I adore the show Elementary to bits – Throughout the entire series (SPOILERS BY THE WAY), there were so many chances for the writers to make Sherlock and Joan’s relationship romantic, but they didn’t. They presented the audience with a bond and love between two people that was not romantic but was just as deep (if not deeper). “Partners” can’t properly describe their relationship because it sounds too shallow, but it’s an incredible feeling to watch their relationship flourish and not fall into the trope of “the two main leads, who are of opposite sex, end up in a romantic relationship with each other.” (END OF SPOILERS) I really wish more shows and other pieces of media would portray bonds like that 😛

                • Also because I will never stop nerding out about Elementary, (more spoilers) they actually address the possibility of them being together in an episode and directly say that they’re “two people who love each other” but in a non-romantic way and gah the writing is so good and the character development and I love Elementary and ahhhhhh (end of spoilers)

              • Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I just don’t get it. In shows/movies/books I almost always ship what’s canon. They love who they love, that’s all that matters to me. I get annoyed when people see stuff that isn’t there.

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        I want to be able to come up with a million excuses for why your suggestion won’t work (to stay in my little safety bubble of stability) but I’ve come to the reluctant realization that it probably would work :[ . I know he probably wouldn’t tell anyone, at most his girlfriend, and she and I are friends so she knows I about as much of a threat to her love life as a rock probably wouldn’t freak out. I’m also pretty sure he wouldn’t freak out or anything.

        Honestly, I’ve never really though about just telling him. I think you’re probably right. It would be nice to clear the air, get the secret out, and not have to worry about hiding it. Who knows, maybe that would even help me get over him. The only worries I can think of (and trust me, I’ve been thinking about this for a bit since seeing your comment, cause it was sort of a shock of “why don’t I just tell him? ) is that A.) it’ll get out to the school somehow (Unlikely, since I trust both him and his girlfriend, and also literally no one in the school would care other than them) B.) He or his girlfriend freaks out (Again, unlikely. Both are great people, at most it would just make things weird between us but hey they already are) or C.) I make him feel bad about it. (Much more likely :[ he tends to blaim everything on himself.) But honestly, even those excuses suck. I have to admit it: this would probably work.

        I just don’t think I have the guts to do it 🙁 social interaction is kind of scary in general, and also I like to keep things the same. I’ve had the same friends for a while, a social status of exactly 0 (popular kids neither like nor dislike me, just how I like it), and have had a very drama free social life overall. I’m just afraid of rocking the boat and breaking it. Also, I often feel uncomfortable putting myself out there like that. It’s been a long time since I’ve talked to someone in real life about emotions. I generally just yell at stuffed animals about them, talk to my cats, sacrifice mine craft sheep to the void, and also rant on the hug page.

        But it would probably work. :[ :[ :[ :[ :[ :[ :[ :[

        I shall have to think. Much think.

        Thank you though much thanks 🙂

    • ahhh I’m really sorry I have no idea how to solve your problem but I hope it gets better!! I’m not sure if this is a thing that happens for people who aren’t on the aromantic spectrum, but the first paragraph sounds a bit like romance repulsion. But it also might be that society in general is hyperfocused on romance and prioritizes it over other relationships that are in no way inferior, which is so frustrating. If you want, I have long recs of books, movies, songs, tv shows etc. that don’t have romance or where romance takes a backseat. *huggles*

      • Thanks 🙂 also I would be interested in some nice non-romantic music if you have some suggestions

        I may or may not be on the aromatic spectrum (I can at least relate to demiromantic) , I am, in general, a very confused a questioning person 😛 currently identifies and cisgenderishmaybeonthenon-binaryspectrum? and also probablystraightbutwhatifI’mace? IDK. Labels are a lot of work.

    • Oh gosh

      Here’s my advice, though I’ve pretty much always been single so…

      I would catch him alone sometime and tell him that you like him. Also tell him that you know he has a girlfriend and that you support them together, but you just want him to know how you feel. It might help to get that off your back. Maybe you can say something about how you don’t need to be his girlfriend, but you want to be friendly? Idk I’m terrible at this stuff but I hope this helps

  • Sooo some of my classmates and teachers got quarantined today. They came back from a skiing trip in Italy and won’t be back in school for 2 weeks. Those teachers include my Psychology and French teachers so that’s great, especially with exam season coming up. Just goes to show you how these things can affect you. Let’s just say people are starting to panic, just a bit.

      • one of the main fears is “ahhhhhh i’m going to be 18 in less than a year i’m going to be a legal freaking adult how the heck am i gonna handle that”

          • that’s reassuring 😀 hopefully once i have my eighteenth birthday and get settled in college as a real adult i’ll feel better, but knowing me some other fear will take its place 😛

    • Congrats!
      Happy Late Birthday!

      Being older is scary.
      My grandmother was telling me about future flight plans and how we were almost separated.
      The flight attendents said my little siblings would be alright because there was an adult in the group.
      I asked who, only for my grandmother to respond, “You.” :0
      Since when is a nineteen year-old able to watch five children of different ages in a airport? For more then 15 mins?!?! In modern day America where everyone is super crazy about safety?!?!? :0 :0:0:0
      At least my brother Blastoise would have been there helping. And my grandmother caught it and fixed it.

      Purple Dusk

  • I just had the worst orthodontist experience ever

    I went to an ortho meeting to get my top braces (I had bottom ones already)

    The woman there didn’t know what she was doing

    The orthodontist who runs it had to help and did put on my braces. But you know the thing that they use to stretch out your mouth? Yeah, I forgot what that felt like, and my mouth is small. Also the operation hurts. A lot. (ugh I hate braces)

    The lady took extremely long to put in my wires (about 10 minutes per wire) which my orthodontist would have done in about 1 minute

    As she was placing my second wire in, I was like “yes I’ll be freeee soon”

    Then as she was working A BRACKET FELL OUT

    So then the main ortho guy had to do the 5-minute bracket procedure on that tooth AGAIN

    he didn’t use the stretchy mouth thingy, he used his own finger and I felt like he was ripping my cheek off

    and it took twice the time it was supposed to

    after that it was dizzy

    now my head is killing me and I have to get to homework and I have to study really hard for something because I have a test on Thursday (yup it’s test season)

    so yeah

    thanks for reading all this, I just had to get it out

    and pardon the double spaces I don’t know why I did that

    (also my school computer broke)

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  • So lately, my health has been very bad. I always have been pretty healthy, but lately I’ve had bouts of sudden dizziness . I also have been feeling tired and my stomach constantly hurts. My mom has had to pick me up at school 4 times already because of this. I really want to tell my friends, but I am worried they won’t understand. What should I do?

    • True friends will understand the basicness of you needing help.
      These same friends will want to help you.

      Huggies
      Purple Dusk

      P.S.
      Have you been getting enough sleep? And vitamuns?
      Both will help fight off whatever you got.

    • I hope you feel better soon! Those sound a little like the symptoms I have during anxiety attacks. You might want to check if you feel severely stressed and worried lately, and if you have nausea as well. it also could be allergies. you might want to talk with your doctor. i don’t see why your friends wouldn’t understand or at least sympathize with you, but you absolutely don’t have to tell them if you don’t want to. I hope you feel better soon! *huggles*

    • Do you have everything written down somewhere? Like a plan for each chapter? If not, make one. Then just look at it from an outsider’s point of view. Does this make sense? Well, what about this? Wouldn’t it be possible for the character to do this? etc.

    • I understand how you feel about writing. Sometimes even the best ideas can seem incomplete or hard to develop.
      The best advice I can give you is to start writing. It’s easier to work on ideas for your story when you see it on paper, and you can always fill in details as you go.
      If you still aren’t ready to write, make an outline. Then ask yourself questions about the parts you aren’t sure about, like ‘What could have made the character do this?’ or ‘What reason could there be for this problem?’
      Also, if you’re worried about plot holes, maybe add some completely new ideas that would fill them in. Some new characters or plot twists that you hadn’t thought about before.

      Good luck with your fanfiction! I’m sure it will turn out great!

    • I’m really good with nitpicking stuff and over analyzing it, so I might be able to help with the plot holes! Just tell me what you need help with.

    • It helps me to look up writing tips online and to ask for a beta reader/peer reviewer. You can also read your work out loud to see if it makes sense – you’re more likely to catch mistakes that way. You can also try reading your story with the mindset of a reader, although you’re more likely to be overly critical of yourself. I’m sure it’s wonderful! *huggles*

  • Oof I’m back on the hug page again 😛 And hey, look at the time, it’s midnight again (I really ought to be homeworking but I need a break) 😛 But at least I’m in a much better mood than last time.

    Anyway I’ve shoved myself back into the deep end of questioning every aspect of my identity, as I occasionally do 😛

    Andddddddddd I think I might be demiromantic. (A demiromantic is a type of grey-romantic who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand.) I dunno. Maybe? The more I read about it, the more I feel like it fits.

    But I’m only in high school, terrible at understanding myself, and I dunno I just confuse myself sometimes. So could y’all give me a second opinion? :]

    As you all may have seen on a previous page, I have no understanding of love at first sight and very little tolerance for it, I think the idea of rushing into a relationship is absolutely idiotic and why would you do that?, and the only two people I have ever romantically liked I knew well before hand. (One of them was in 6th grade though and looking back I can’t tell if it was an actual thing or just me being confused). The friend I currently like *insert long sigh of annoyance* I have liked for about 2 years (RIP me) now, and I knew him very well before hand. I might even go as far as to call him my best friend at one point. I’ve never felt romantic feelings for someone I wasn’t friends with first (although again I am an easily confused highschooler who speaks “flame’s emotions” about as well as she speaks french).

    Anyway I’m going to go do homeowork now

    • I Feel The EXACT Same Thing! We Are In This Together! If You Are Friends And Possibly Want To Form A Better Relationship, Give Him Small Hunts Leading Up To The Day You Ask Him Out. Many Things May Seem Hard But Everybody On BlogClan Are Your Friends And We Will Always Support You! Don’t Give Up Because Things Are Hard, Because It Isn’t As Hard As It Seems. We Will Always Be Here For You And Never Give Up On Him!

    • Gah, I understand how frustrating stuff like this can be! I’ve constantly been experimenting with labels to see what fits, and I’m still not sure about anything. I manage to be the L B G and T in LGBT. The best advice I can give is to try labels and see if they fit. But you don’t have to define who you are in a few words. Maybe you could also try to see what you feel, instead of trying to fit yourself into labels! I’m soft and squishy on the inside, so I can be your reassurance stuffed animal when you need it! *hugs*

    • You cannot love someone properly if you do not know them as a person first.
      Even with love at first sight, the love will not last if based off of good looks alone.
      Mr. and Mrs. Bennet from Pride and Prejudice are a good example of what happens when you love looks, not the person.
      True love NEEDS a relationship to stand the tests of time and trials. It needs a connection to be built up.
      You are wise in that matter Flamecloud.

      Don’t fret.
      You are still in Highschool.
      You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. This is YOUR time to grow into the best version of yourself.
      MY best advice is concentrate on making connections and learning to be the best version of yourself.
      Be friends with people, enjoy learning, and focus what you can do now.

      This advice has worked with me, hopefully it will work for you.
      Purple Dusk

    • Hey Flame, I hope you’re doing okay, I’ve never loved anyone romantically. But I think I might have some advice for you, maybe you can talk with him more or maybe hang out more? I’m sorry I horrible at this but if you need more advice or need support, it’s okay to rant about all your problems on the hug page! HUGS!

    • the thing about your sexuality is is that it’s exactly what you want it to be. two people with the same label may not perfectly fit in with each others’ definitions of the sexuality – all that matters is that they identify with their label. labels are fluid and can be tweaked and specified to each individual person.

  • At School Lately All Of My Friends Are Whispering Secrets And Ignoring Me. Whenever I Want To Talk To My Crush, My Friends Always Come And Break Our Relationship. I Wanted To Stand Up To Them But I Never Have The Confidence, So I Just Ignore Them. Should I Try To Rekindle Our Friendship Or Should I Let It Go?

  • ok so time for another installment of me ranting about something on the hug page (i swear it wont be as long as the last ones) idk nowadays i go through these phases every few months where i feel really blah all the time
    like i said at the end of my last comment on this page (it was a reply to birchy idk if anyone saw it besides her), ive been feeling lonely as heck lately. thats why the question of whether or not i should get discord was bugging me so much— itd be an easy way for me to reconnect with some old friends, yet as ive said the idea of getting something like discord at a time when im feeling really overwhelmed by internet social stuff doesnt sit right with me. but ive realized that while id still love to talk to those people again someday, what i really need right now is someone to talk to about some kind of shared interest in person yknow?? and i do have that with that friend ive been talking about (things are p good between me and her now btw) and sorta a couple other people, but not on a regular basis; none of them live in my neighborhood/school district
    i dont think it’s to blame for this problem, but the main thing preventing me from being able to try many of the normal methods for trying to make friends is something i barely talk about so even people on here who know me pretty well may not remember it— im homeschooled. i dont like talking about it bc people are always like “luckyyy” and “do you get to sleep in???” and idk i dont want it to be something that defines me or i need to be “proud” of or anything. but i am glad that i am, mostly bc the reason for it is that i live in a relatively large city where all the schools nearby have t o n s of kids and im prone to getting super stressed and overwhelmed in noisy crowd settings, esp if that crowd is composed of teens constantly teasing each other and parroting this week’s new hot tiktok meme or whatever
    i do need some interaction with people my age however, and thats where this weekly art class i take is supposed to come in; but unfortunately since most kids arent homeschooled through high school, theres only 2 other students in my class currently and theyre constantly chatting about subjects i cant relate to, mostly harry potter. it’s not that i feel left out and wish i could join them, i just feel really envious when i see them— not only bc they see each other on a regular basis, but also bc theyre both seem equally enthusiastic about hp or whatever theyre talking about at the moment. even when i get a chance to talk to someone about a shared fandom or whatever, i usually feel like i have to hide my excitement, bc the other person often doesnt seem as invested in it as i am i dont want to come across as an obsessed weirdo
    im mostly just venting, not really asking for advice, though if anyone can come up with something besides “join another group thing” then feel free to post it

    • Yeah.
      Public Schoolers talk about stuff all the time I have no idea about.
      Mostly because I am homeschooled.

      That is where an wonderful thing called questions and answers come in. You can talk back and forth about your different lives. Because lets be honest, homeschooling IS different from public school. That has helped me.

      Just try talking to people. See if there is anything you have in common. I was talking with someone and somehow a Pokémon name popped up. Within three seconds we became friends over Pokémon. But that would not have happened at all if I never talked. I did not walk into that conversation trying to find a fellow Pokémon fan. I just went to be nice and make new friends.

      I am not asking you to join a another friend group or step out your comfort zone. If you can not go out, just be present in the moment you got. Because you never know what would happen. You could find whole new sides to people you knew for years just by being there!

      Homeschoolers unite!
      Purple Dusk

      P.S.
      You can be enthusiastic. 🙂 Just don’t jump ship.
      Your excitement will rub off on others, making them more excited.

      • thanks, but these people i’m talking about are also homeschooled. the reason i can’t participate in their conversations is because the things they talk about are usually fandoms i’m not in, jokes i don’t find funny, etc
        and i dont really have any opportunities to just go up and talk to people as that class is the only “group” thing i attend. honestly im not really sure i can do anything besides just wait and see if by some miracle, someone comes along

    • Ugh I’m sorry <3 Sometimes I feel like this too but you shouldn't hide your excitement; it's what you like. And maybe the other person is doing the same. If you show how much you like something you really could get a friend that way.

      Yeah I'm also homeschooled and lol conversations centered around it are reeeallyy annoying. Yeah, I’m homeschooled, next!!!
      Sometimes I feel incredibly lonely because of being homeschooled, so I relate there—also as a person who sucks at socializing.

      Well, here's some cookies and *hugs*

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