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71,660 comments

  • So I’m turning 13 tomorrow and I was kinda struggling with the thought that I was going to be a teenager. But I had a good talk with my mom and I realized something.
    Age is just a number.
    I don’t need to completely change everything about me because I’ll be a ‘teenager’.

    Be the same person you’ve always been; don’t feel pressured to grow up. Later on, you’ll need a job in stuff. But just remember, age is just a number.
    I’ve struggled with that for awhile. I never wanted to grow up. But I don’t really have to grow up.
    I can be responsible, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be young at heart.
    Thought I would share that with people who are struggling with growing up.💚

  • my supposed best friend has been horrible to me today
    we were looking for dresses to wear to our 5th form dinner at the end of the year and I showed her a picture of a jumpsuit I likes because I think it would accentuate my figure (I am very tall and skinny). She told me I defo shouldn’t because it would make me look like a lesbian and only the weird kids would wear them. We have quite a passive relationship so I don’t think I could ever tell her that it upset me even though she is always telling me off.
    Later on she called me out as an attention seeker for this card I get signed by teachers every lunch to make sure I eat which I asked for so I can help myself (I think she’s jealous because nobody cares whether she goes or not).
    It’s always difficult because we have another friend and we are like a trio and she decided to take her side
    I feel like i’ve seen a side to her I really don’t like and i’ve counted on her for so many things and to lose her would be horrible but at this point I really don’t like her

    • That sucks. Maybe talk to her about(if you hadn’t). Explain to her how she made you feel. If she didn’t mean the things she said, I am sure you would be fine. If she doesn’t . . . I don’t know. Sorry if this advice doesn’t works. **walks over to you, hugs **

    • wow that’s rude! maybe something’s going on with her, but that’s absolutely not fair for her to treat you like that. maybe you should stop interacting with her to protect your own mental health. you also could talk to her about your concerns; maybe she’s just lashing out and doesn’t realize how her actions affect you. but if she continues to be rude, you should take care of yourself. *huggles*

  • I feel like I’m not going anywhere in life.
    First, I’m having a hard time with school. Especially with math. See, every kid in my age group are more advanced with math then I am, and I am afraid to my teachers this, cause I don’t want to seem dumb (and I’m not dumb. I know that. It’s just other kids might see it that way), and since a lot of my classes involve advanced math…you can imagine the struggle. And, I’ve tried to get better at math. The problem is, I just get so caught up doing something else that I forget. And that happens too often. And I don’t know what to do about that.
    Things aren’t any better in the friends department. I only see my friends like what? Once a week, and even then, they barely talk to me. Mom wants me to get a facebook page, but she wants it to be a ”Childrens account” so she can moniter it, and I don’t want to be monitered…the sad fact is, my only real friends are the people on a site called Young Writers Society…and you guys as well.
    And I have no idea what to do, and I feel like I’m going to be homeless when I grow up. I don’t want that. There are so many things I want to do with my life, but at the rate I’m going, I feel like I’ll never get them done.

    • Hey there don’t feel so down. You could talk to your mom about the math part, my mom always helps me about with this stuff. Maybe you can sneak in the Facebook account. I suggest that you ask you math teacher to explain it more to you in your free time. Sorry if it isn’t good advice. I have never felt that way. **huggles**

    • What helps me is to make a list
      Make 3 sections, a b and c
      A is top priority. It must get done. Something like homework or 10 minutes of math study time
      B must get done in a span of 3 to 5 days.
      C is stuff you want to do. Fit this in your free time.
      Hope this helps.
      This should also help

      *drops fluffy rabbit in lap. Rabbit gives hug*

    • Math sucks and I need it so badly it is annoying.

      If you need extra help or study time that is okay Star.
      It has been scienctificly proven girls’ expertse does not lie in math. (Except for those amazing women who helped us get to the moon . Seriously, those gals were down right awesome.)
      So if you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. There are plenty of sources you can go to for help, either online or with your school.

      Focus on what you can do Star, and don’t waste a moment worrying.
      Take one step at a time, even if it is two steps forward, one step back. That is the only way the journey will be done.
      Purple Dusk

  • trigger warning: mentions of suicidal thoughts
    So, I occasionally have suicidal thoughts, although I feel depressed a lot more, and I want to get myself help, for LGBTQ+ stuff too, but I’m too scared to go to a therapist, even one online, because I’m always either too young for the therapy (I’m not thirteen yet so that rules a lot out), or I have to pay, which is undoable without telling my parents. So, I went into the bathroom in my school, and there was a suicide hotline to text, and I wrote down the number, but for some reason I’m nervous to text the number, so I can get help. I know I should, but I almost feel guilty for doing it since I’ve only had a few suicidal thoughts, so maybe I’m not suicidal enough to go to a hotline or something. I don’t know why. Is this normal to feel, or am I just being paranoid?

    • I’m so, so sorry that you’re feeling this way, Anon, and that you’re having these thoughts at such a young age. While I can’t say that I’ve gone through the same experiences as you, I did have similar (and possibly more intense) thoughts around the same age so I wanted to share my burgeoning road to recovery that I’m on.

      It’s normal to feel scared about getting help. For so many years of my life (about a third of my life, if I’m counting right), I was hesitant about calling anyone or talking to anyone. I knew that the guidance counsellors were available at my school and I would always see posters and ads around for hotlines that I could call in to if I needed to talk to someone. I acknowledged the fact that they were there, but I always stopped myself before doing it, like there was an invisible wall between me and every single avenue of help available. I never went to my guidance counsellors because I believed that they weren’t prepared to help someone so young with something that usually popped up in high school or beyond, and I didn’t own a phone at the time, so calling a hotline in secret felt practically impossible. Eventually, my thoughts were quelled, but they would always come back into focus every once in a while, like a stray comment that made me go, “Oh yeah, I was in a pretty bad place once.”

      It was only this year that I finally forced myself to climb over that invisible wall and went to my university’s counselling program because my thoughts resurfaced and I went, “Yeah, I should probably deal with this at some point.” I didn’t realize just how much I needed to tell someone who I knew could help me until I went to my first meeting. If there’s anything I want you to take away from this, it’s that the hotlines, therapists, and counsellors are there to help you and know how to help you. Please, don’t wait to reach out, if only to just vent and let someone know everything; to this day, my counsellor is the only person who I’ve talked to in real life about my darkest moments, but it still helped me so much to have someone who would listen to me. Nobody is “not suicidal enough,” because any suicidal thought is one too many. You have people who care about you and care about your well-being, even if it’s so hard to see just who they are.

      I kept my thoughts close to me and let them fester in solitude, and from my own personal experience, I highly recommend taking that first leap of faith to find help. It’s scary to jump into unknown territories and it’s so tempting to stay closed off in the darkness that we’re growing continuously used to, but more often than not, you’ll find solid footing when you land <3 It's a long and arduous road to travel on; I'm two months in and it's hard getting back into the rhythm of doing things that I used to enjoy and working on improving the parts of myself that need to be worked on, but it is better than what I was doing before (which was... nothing).

      If you need someone to talk to in private, my metaphorical door is always open. If need be, just leave a comment with instructions for the mods to keep it unmodded (it will be deleted later on) and I can email you privately to talk 🙂 I hope you find peace within yourself soon, Anon, and it will come sooner with help 🙂

    • Omg
      Somecat I can relate to
      It is normal to feel paranoid about talking to someone about it because you don’t know how they are going to react
      (tbh I haven’t talked to anycat yet)
      When you feel like it is the right time to speak out, you can and,
      don’t worry
      *hugs*

  • Hi. Now I don’t know what to do at all. Brokenstar kicked Swallowfeather and Swallowfeather was crying. Then Brokenstar went to the headteacher and told her that Swallowfeather was kicking her. AND THE HEAD BELIEVED HER.
    Swallowfeather got into huge trouble and now I can’t even trust the head. What am I meant to do?

    • Hi Moonmist. Although I am sure this is not the case, most Brokenstars are weaklings once you stand up to them. However, if it is the head that is the case, you should calmly explain that you are not at fault. Explain everything that Brokenstar did! Quick tip: Teachers are likely to believe those who are more confident. Huggles infinity!

    • Here are a few things you might be able to do;
      1 – tell the head teacher that Broken* * was lying
      3 – even though Swallowfeather got hurt, help her or take her to the nurse and tell another teacher about Broken*
      Hope this helped
      *hugs*
      (Hope you agree that s/he should not have the respect of a leader)

  • okay so idk if you saw my earlier comment here

    March 8, 2020 at 5:58 pm
    so i started school in feb because thats how school works where i live. anyway there’s a lot of new people this year, and i’m friends with some of them. there’s this person, i hang out with them a lot as a friend. i do stuff for them that i normally wouldn’t do for any of my other friends. does this mean i like them? and if i did like them, making me homosexual, and i told them, they’d probably freak out, because lgbtq+ is still sort of new in our school. help please 🙁

    so anyway, i have a plan. it sort of sucks but yeeeeeeeeeaahhhh idk. so the friend i mentioned above, they said that in their old school, they were a sort of therapist? i’m going to ask them tomorrow if they can help. i wont mention it’s them, and if they ask, i’m not gonna say it. i know they’ll try get me to tell them, but i wont. aaaaaaahhhh i’m nervous. basically the first time i’ve ever felt really nervous before, as i dont really have stage fright, i’m not scared of exams, not really scared of being physically hurt by someone else cause i’ll just get them back, and i’m not scared of height/thedark/thosethings.

  • I have a crush.

    I’ve had a crush on her ever since September. She’s beautiful, and she’s nice, and I like her. Let’s call her Flowerspark.

    Now, there are three problems: Flowerspark is straight, she has a boyfriend, and I’m not so much in love with her as I’m in love with the idea of her.

    I do like Flowerspark, I’ll give you that. We were friends when we were kids, but now we’re not. It’s not that we had a falling-out or anything, it’s just that we went our separate ways. She’s still an acquaintance to me, and I do think that I’m in love with her. But it’s more that I’m in love with the idea of Flowerspark and what we used to be.

    Do I really have a crush on Flowerspark? Should I tell her as I have a 0% chance of getting together with her? I’m confused, and I need some help.

    • Maybe you should try to become friends with her. Get closer with her. You don’t have to tell her that you have a crush on her, just that you’d like to be close friends again.

    • *hugs* honestly I know how you feel… I mean first of all straight girl crushes are a big mood, and second, I used to like this girl who I used to be good friends with, but just like you and Flowerspark we eventually drifted apart. I had this idea of her in my head that reminded me of how she was when we were friends, but she and I barely interacted. I tried SO DESPERATELY to try and win back her friendship, and she was nice to me, but it didn’t really work… and then when she found out I had a crush on her, it got really awkward really fast
      Now, I’m not saying that you should never tell her or never try and talk to her, I’m just saying that in my situation it didn’t exactly work out 😅
      Also I’m literally the worst person in the world to be giving advice on this kind of thing, and I’m only in middle school so I really know nothing 😛
      I would just say, do whatever you think is the best decision, and it’ll be okay <3

  • I’m scared of myself and what I’m gonna do. Lets just say I did something rather stupid because I was mad at myself. I can’t get help for it without my parents finding out , my parents honestly don’t understand what I’m going through and they wouldn’t understand. I can’t go into anymore detail because I’m trying to keep my comment kid friendly. I just don’t know who to turn to anymore.

    • Ohhhh… Poor you…. That happens to me and usually you have to tough it out… 🙁 HUGS! I hope you feel better. You know, it is more than likely that at least ONE of your parents experienced this. Whenever I just blurt out what happened to my parents, they get mad that that I thought they wouldn’t understand. I know that you won’t want to do this because I don’t understand, (not enough info in your comment but I know. must be kid-friendly) but I think you should talk to SOME adult. *Huggles INFINITY!!*

    • Thistle, it sounds like this is getting out of hand. Talk to your parents, and if they won’t listen, do you have a school counselor you could turn to??? Do you have any adult you trust? Even just a little? If so, go to them. If not, I recommend a hotline. If you’re worried about your parents finding out, go to a friend’s house or something and do it there. If they’re your friend they’ll let you do that. Or just “go for a walk” and call.

      Talk to someone. Please.

    • Thistle, I think you need to find a counselor to talk to, or a different trusted adult like a teacher. I want you to be safe, but someone in real life with more experience might be able to help you cope with your difficult feelings better than we can.

      If you’re having any suicidal thoughts, please call one of the helplines we have listed above. They’re there to help you <3

      We love you thistle. Please get professional help if you can

  • This comment mentions suicidal thoughts and depression
    I just finished texting a lifeline, and I’m really proud of myself, and the counselor referred me to an app in the end, and it looked like something I could really benefit from, and I was excited about trying it. Buuuuuuttttt I haven’t told my parents about my worsening mental health condition and suicidal thoughts, and they use a parenting thing so that they have to give permission for every app I download, except ones already downloaded by one of my brothers. My mom has an app she uses, and it’s pretty similar, so I tried downloading it, but it asked to ask my parents permission, none of my bro’s have similar apps or anything, so if I want it, I’ll have to tell my mom that I’ve been depressed since January and suicidal since February. I know she will want to help me, but I’m just having trouble plucking up the courage, even though I know she’ll be happy I told her. I also don’t know quite how to tell her. I know it’s going to be the next step, and if I want to get the help I need, I need to tell her, it’s just so, irrationally, hard!

    • I am so, so proud of you, Moona <3 It's incredibly scary, taking that first step to a better you, but you did it! And I know you can continue taking more steps beyond it 🙂 It'll be hard to tell your mom, for sure, so here's a quick little bit of advice to help you through it: plan out what you're going to say on paper. You can either write it down on paper or use a note-taking app, but the end-goal is just putting everything you want to say out in front of you. From all of those notes, pick and choose the ones and put them in different lists/orders to see the best way of explaining and telling your mom about how you've been feeling. And, if it ends up being really emotional when you're telling her, you can give her the list and go over it together 🙂 You don't have to take this advice! I just found it really useful for me, since I did something similar with my counsellor for figuring out what I should do next.

      My door is open if you need a soundboard to bounce ideas off of 🙂 You're incredibly brave and strong for reaching out, Moona, and I know you can continue to be just that in the future <3

    • I’ve been in a similar situation before. I know how hard it is to share stuff like that but just know once you do, things will start to get better. Good luck and I’m proud of you x

  • aaaa so anyway today i went up to my friend that i think i have a crush on, and i asked them about my situation. i didn’t tell them that it was actually them that i liked though because yeah….. they didn’t really give me any advice….. on monday i’m gonna ask them to help me cause i think i could be homosexual and im sort of scared… (sorry all homosexual people :/ )

  • This probably doesn’t seem that Hug-Page-worthy, but it’s starting to get mean so here I go:
    96% of my grade says “nerd-word” every time someone says something even remotely intelligent. Their starting to act like being a nerd is a bad thing. Of course I’m the one getting called a “nerd” more than anyone else. I’m a proud nerd/geek/dork, but I don’t want everyone to hate me.
    Please tell me if you have any ideas on what to do.

    • If they hate you because you’re a proud nerd, that’s their problem. If they say that to you, just say “Thanks!” Take it as a compliment. You’re a nerd, you’re proud of it, thank them for noticing you. 😛

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