The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…
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(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)
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A note from BlogTeam: From now on, we will no longer moderate comments on the Hug Page that go into specific detail about events. Instead, commenters will post in a vague manner, such as “I’m having a bad day, I could really use some hugs”, and other BlogClanners are welcome to provide comfort and support. This change is not because of any specific event or person, but because it is extremely difficult to mitigate questionable comments and determine what parts of certain comments are suitable to moderate, as well as making sure that replies with advice are in no way harmful to the original poster or others. If you ever feel like you need advice about a serious situation, you are welcome to reach out to BlogTeam, because your health and safety is our top priority. However, no one on BlogTeam is or has ever been a mental health professional in any way, and all we can do is provide advice. We implore you to always reach out to a trusted adult or hotline (listed above) about a situation that worries you. You are still welcome to come to the Hug Page if you need any hugs or comfort from your BlogClan peers, but the cause of your distress can no longer be explained——no matter the situation. Thank you so much for understanding <3
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advice on being gay?
Well, first off, there’s nothing wrong with being gay! It’s perfectly natural and a part of who you are, just as your arm is part of your body and how you like Warriors 🙂 There’s no 10-step process to being or acting gay – it’s just who you are and how you already act, and the only difference is that you know a little more about yourself now 😀
A few random quotes (from me, songs, and just some random stuff)
“I deserve to be alright, I deserve to sleep at night”
“Everything is temporary…and this feeling that’s so scary”
“I say I’m fine but that really means help me.”
“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, when one only remembers to turn on the light”
“Numbing the pain for a while will only make it worse when you finally feel it”
“A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits”
“On particularly rough days when I’m feeling sure I can’t possibly endure, I remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%, and that’s pretty good”
aaaaaa thanks moona these help alot 🙂
Small update (trigger warning, mention of self harm)
So I saw my dad’s razor blade on the counter and got really tempted, but I didn’t cut so proud of myself, instead I’m drawing and writing, that’s prob a much better way to cope
Yes yes yes yes yes yes yesss that is sssssooooooooooooooooo much better. <333 Please never. ever. do that. <3
It's such a better way to cope. So much better. *hugs* You should be proud.
I’m proud of you for not giving in <3
Next time you feel an urge like that, instead of taking it out on yourself, I recommend grabbing a pencil and furiously scribbling on a piece of paper with the side of your pencil's lead. It might make you feel better, and it's much healthier than the alternative. <3
Yes! Great job on getting this under control!
So today my crush came up to me and started talking to me, BUT HE WAS WAYYYY TO CLOSE TO ME! but I really like him but I don’t want him to get in trouble for not social distancing and…
I NEED HUGS AND ADVICE!
A) advice for crush
B) we were playing cricket and EVERYONE who was playing probably saw and now I feel… embarrassed
C) I don’t wanna get him in trouble!
D) I am celebrating the fact that i managed a 30 minute cricket match next to my crush and talking to him! I am very proud at this achievement!
You can see how torn I am between happiness, worry and embarrassment!
In three words –
I. Need. Help!
*hugs* (: <3333333333
If someone is too close to you, it’s absolutely fine to say, “Hey, could you back up, I sort of need a bubble!” and smile. They have no reason to be upset after that.
So things have been happening… lots of bad days… lots of bad help… and I’m literally on the verge of not getting out of bed. Ever. If it makes sense, I guess I’m always the therapist, the one that fixes all the problems. The one place I haven’t been doing that (like I should) is BlogClan. I just don’t have the words because at the end of the day I’ve already been through giving out so much comfort that I myself want to cry my eyes out. I myself am a unhappy person. I feel like that if everybody else were happy I’d be happy but I always fail at it. I’m so tired… and even without comforting people my life is still a wreck. I wish I could just have never grown up. Now I’m seen as an adult (I AM A FREAKING TEEN) and I suddenly get hit with the weight of the world.. I just need to be the one getting comfort this time I guess. I know that sounds so selfish but I- I need help.
Have a huge hug, Crystal. I know your feel terrible right now but this too shall pass. Hang in there until it does. It will all be ok. ❤️
Thank you so much Ms. Kate. It means a whole lot.
I hope feel better soon, Crystal.
Hey. <3
You don't always need to be the one giving comfort. You're human, you aren't perfect. You're still a kid <3 Give people comfort, but allow them to give you comfort as well. Open your shell a bit, let them know that you also need a hug every now and then. You're not selfish, you're human. Instead of worrying about the "weight of the world" do something that makes you feel childish again. Whether it was an old tv show, movie, or youtuber you used to watch, watch it. Go back to the simpler times, even if for a moment. It won't make you weak. <3
Oh heck. That actually made me smile. Hmm.. maybe I should watch the old MAPs ;3
Ooooh, which are your favorites? 🙂
Crystal, I’m going to say something that might be a hard pill to swallow. You should not be your friends’ or family members’ therapist. Absolutely not. And if they are expecting you to act like it, then that is obviously a huge emotional burden for you – it’s likely why you’re so tired. It’s exhausting to be constantly around negativity and problems with no reprieve – this is why therapists are trained to emotionally distance themselves from their clients so as to not wreck their own health. Yes, they care, and yes they want to help people; however, they maintain certain emotional boundaries so they don’t burn out
Friends are supposed to be there to comfort each other, that’s obviously true, but your friends shouldn’t always rely on you to solve all their problems – that’s unhealthy for both of you. If you feel overwhelmed or exhausted by the negative emotions being brought up, I encourage you to have a conversation about what boundaries you need or what. Think on it for a while – what sort of boundaries would make you feel better? Would you like it if people warned you if they’re going to rant? Can you establish a sort of code for when you aren’t in the right headspace to solve other people’s problems? Remember: it is OKAY to put yourself first when you need to, and if people are not willing to accept that, then it’s likely a toxic relationship and you should have a conversation about that
It’s not selfish to ask for help nor are you a bad person for not wanting to be always solving other people’s – it’s human. We all have our limits. And it’s okay.
My sister had to go to the hospital because she had a psychotic episode. (She’s suffering from bipolar) It was last night that she was taken, and the worst thing is that due to the Coronavirus I can’t go with my family to visit her. I just hope she gets better soon…
Oh noes!
I hope your sister gets better
GOSH DANG IT CORONAVIRUS CAN YOU JUST GO AWAY?!
I KNOW FOR STARCLAN’S SAKE GO AWAY CORONAVIRUS
I’m sorry to hear that, I hope she gets better soon. 🙁 *hugs* <3
Omc I am so sorry Plippy. I’ll pray for you guys and her <333
Can you FaceTime her?
HUGS
<3
Aw, man. I hope she feels better soon!
I’m so pathetic. My problems are smaller than others and they don’t complain. I’m a whiny pathetic insane liar.
Hey, I’m not necessarily sure what your problems are, but let me tell you this. No problems are bigger than anyone else’s. Problems are problems. There’s no shame in crying, venting, or when you need it, venting. Tell people when you need help. I’m guilty of doing the same exact thing so don’t think you’re alone. I usually hide my feelings, because it feels better to help other’s with theirs. Please don’t walk down my path, it gets really rough. You aren’t whiny, pathetic, or insane for getting help. If you need recommendations, maybe try laying down, closing your eyes, and listening to music. It helps.
There is no shame in needing help sometimes. You have the right to ask for it.
Your problems matter to us, no matter how small. If they bother you, that means they matter, and good friends will see that and help you.
You can’t help how you feel, and you aren’t whiny, pathetic, or insane for needing help. We all need it sometimes.
I hope you get through whatever you’re going through. <3
The Hug Page is for anyone who is struggling, or whoever feels like they need help. It’s okay to come no matter what. <3 You're not pathetic for wanting help – if your problems bother you, then it's good to seek advice! We don't hold it against you. 🙂 I hope you get past what's bothering you. *Hugs* <3
Even if your problems are smaller, that doesn’t mean you don’t need help with them! Just because you speak out about them, doesn’t make you weak!
You always have a place to vent here, you are not whiny or weak, you have as much right to ask for help as anyone else. 🙂
No problem is too “small” for the Hug Page. <3 No matter what, you can always post here, and BlogClan will be there for you. You are not whiny, or pathetic, or insane, or liar. You can always talk about your problems here. We love you! I hope you feel better. <3 *hugs* <3 <3 <3
You are not whiny or pathetic or insane or a liar. It’s okay if you have problems and you don’t need to pretend you’re okay if you are sad. You are loved.
Hey, don’t worry. I do the same thing. Just yesterday, my lightbulb in my room burst, and I complained and asked my dad for a new one. Then I remembered that there are people who have a reason to be complaining who are in the hospital, sick with this virus. So I felt really bad, and didn’t complain.
Now, everyone complains about something; it’s a part of life. So get this when I tell you. You are not whiny(or, at least, not as whiny as my brothers. They set the whiny bar REALLY high). You are not pathetic. You are not insane and you certainly aren’t a liar, so far as I can see. Keep your chin up.
I send my kitty Scarlet the Kitty through the screen in order to make you feel better.
So my mom got a call from my school last night so now she knows about the whole depression thing, but we’re working on getting better so that’s good
It’s good to hear that you’re working on getting onto a road of recovery <3
Glad to hear that everything’s becoming better. <3
I’m so glad to hear you’re on the the way to feeling better! <3
EEEEEEE YAY FOR MOONA
If you are insanely bored or need comfort do this…
Grab a bag, drawstring, backpack, or a shopping bag
Put in a stress ball
Put in something to listen to like a radio
Put in drawing items
Single player game (I like scrabble flash)
Maybe a favorite book, pillow, blanket, or stuffie
Craft kits
Maybe puzzles or a hobby like sewing or playing the kazoo
Snacks-
Chips
Candy
Drinks
Sandwiches
Thank you!
I am SO giving this suggestion a go!
https://imgur.com/a/uMYW89h
Update: I’ve done it and made my own boredom-busting backpack using your suggestions! 😀
Here are the contents:
– Two stress balls
– Three of my favourite music CDs
– Coloured pencils
– Playing cards (for playing solataire by myself)
– My favourite book (Tailchaser’s Song) and Worry Eater stuffed soft plush toy (Bonus: It can eat my worries!)
– Two jigsaw puzzles
– A dot-to-dot book or magazine
Thanks! 🙂
Ooh that’s a great idea! 🙂
That is brilliant Dewfeather!
I NEED THIS THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
Does an A- count as an A? I got my report card back today; I got all A’s and one A-. My grandma always asks me whenever she calls if I got all A’s; I want to tell her I did so I will continue to be one of her favorites, but I don’t want to lie. So do A-‘s count as A’s?
I would say so that it does count. However, go with what you think it is if you think that you did your best in that course, that’s what matters. Personally, if it isn’t a very important course I would be honest. It’s up to you!
I would say it absolutely counts as an A 🙂
Yep! A- minus is a GREAT mark!
It does, but why does your grandma care so much about your marks? She should like you for you! Not a piece of paper! Still, it absolutely counts as an A!
I would love to say it counts as an A as well. It really justs depends on the class. Also, you know your grandma. If she would like you more if you’re honest.
If I were you I would say I got an A-, but only because I feel bad for everything (ex. I feel super guilty if I leave one sequin the opposite color on my sister’s chameleon pillow).
Whatever you do I’m sure your grandma will still consider you one of her favorites.
You got this!
Yeah, an A- definitely counts as an A! 🙂
Yes, I’d say it does! But I’d say that your grandma would love you no matter what happened. 🙂
I would say yes. But wait: You’re grades should not determine of whether or not she likes you—that’s just wrong. I’d bet anything your grandma would still love you whether or not you got all Fs. Don’t worry <33
<3
But I would say it counts :))
Yes. A-minus just means you got from an 89.5 to a 94.4.
I feel so hopeless and alone right now.
Right now I’m crying while I listen to Someone you loved.
It’s not like heaving sobs, I’m lying in bed with tears streaming down my face.
I feel like there’s nobody I can confide in.
My parents are pressuring my to do well in my classes but I’m not as smart as they want me to be.
I just can’t do this anymore.
I can’t please everyone, and the stress of trying to is tearing me apart.
I don’t really feel anything anymore, just empty.
The person who I thought was my best friend abandon me and accused me of being fake depressed.
I just can’t do this anymore.
You don’t have to please everyone (it’s impossible)! It is a waste of energy trying to please everyone. Getting all As/good grades should not really be a goal, your goal should be trying your hardest. It always helps to ask questions. Most people want the best for everyone, you can always talk to your parents about stress. I believe in you! You can do this and I’m sure everyone here wants the best for you!
You got this!
*hugs* I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🙁
Maybe you should try telling your parents how you feel.
You don’t need to please everyone. People should love you for who you are, because who you are is always good enough.
Oh Emby. <3 <3333 You can always confide in us. But I bet your parents have no idea you're going through this. I would try confiding in them . *hugs*
You are not alone
No matter what, we will always be here for you
And it’s going to be okay!
Just remember, no matter what anyone does or doesn’t do, there will always be something coming that will turn it around for the better
*hugs*
We think you’re enough. <3 It's impossible to please everyone. Perhaps try talking to your parents about how you feel and what they are doing. And I'm very sorry about your friend. <3
You can do this! We’re all here for you! I’m sure that everyone wants the best for you. I wish you the best.
Oh god, Emby. There there, girl.
I so get it. My parents expect the same things. Sure, I can be as smart, but this is online school. Not regular school.
My friend recently dumped me too. She accused me of being a whiny, petty brat. Which I can be, sometimes, so I don’t blame her.
But look. If you’re so depressed, tell your parents. Tell them how you feel. Just calmly say you want to talk, and then calmly explain how you feel. They might try to be calm as well, and explain your side of the story. Then you can work out a compromise that works better for all of you. Maybe they can help you with the parts you need the most help on.
I don’t intend to come out to my family for five or six or maybe seven years.
But I almost want to. I’m so tired of pretending I’m straight when I’m not. So tired of living a lie. Pretending I’m not romantically attracted to males AND females.
I’m tired of living this lie, but I don’t want to come out.
Is there anyway I could subtly hint I’m bisexual?
If you want to hint, maybe just act the same as you would if you saw a guy you were attracted to when you see a girl you are attracted to. There’s no easy way to hint but If you really want to just don’t hide it, but also don’t explicitly go and say to their faces “I’m bi”
I’m not really sure – Maple gave good advice. Best of luck! <3
Honestly, I’m really not sure if i am or not……………….
But if you want to hint, you can act the same way over those you like that are girls as those you like that are boys.
Think of Sundew. She hid the fact she was in love till she was…six? yeah, with Willow.
If you want them to actually know, without taking the time to give them hints(because parents basically know everything….that’s creepy) then you can calmly sit them down, ask them what they would think if you were bi, and then listen to their results. Then, if they realize that you are before you announce it, you can calmly talk about it. If they don’t get the hint, then you can tell them, and then you talk about them. I’m not saying they won’t be angry at you, but maybe they’ll understand why you hid the fact from them. It can be really embarrassing when you first tell someone. I mean, I have no clue if I am or not, but I feel like I’ve had small hints…..that maybe I am?
I’m here for you. Okay? Scarlet the Kitty is coming through the screen!
I finally understand what people go through to try to tell your family you are not straight
I figured out I’m bi about two weeks ago
And, sorry, I don’t have any tips, but if it helps, you can talk to a counselor
Remember, no matter what, we are here for you.
*hugs*
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On noes. . .
Is okay (Scarlet the Kitty’s tail swishes toward blue reply button)