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A note from BlogTeam: From now on, we will no longer moderate comments on the Hug Page that go into specific detail about events. Instead, commenters will post in a vague manner, such as β€œI’m having a bad day, I could really use some hugs”, and other BlogClanners are welcome to provide comfort and support. This change is not because of any specific event or person, but because it is extremely difficult to mitigate questionable comments and determine what parts of certain comments are suitable to moderate, as well as making sure that replies with advice are in no way harmful to the original poster or others. If you ever feel like you need advice about a serious situation, you are welcome to reach out to BlogTeam, because your health and safety is our top priority. However, no one on BlogTeam is or has ever been a mental health professional in any way, and all we can do is provide advice. We implore you to always reach out to a trusted adult or hotline (listed above) about a situation that worries you. You are still welcome to come to the Hug Page if you need any hugs or comfort from your BlogClan peers, but the cause of your distress can no longer be explainedβ€”β€”no matter the situation. Thank you so much for understanding <3

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  • Ok.
    So.
    The new Trolls movie came out. (I KNOW but I REALLY wanna watch it.)
    Sadly, I can’t watch it.
    But I did find the soundtrack on Spotify.
    And am now addicted to their song, The Other Side.
    Go look at it on Spotify. If you don’t have Spotify, then look up the original soundtrack on YouTube. And listen to it.
    This song is exactly what I’m going through and probably what some of you are too. This song is an encouragement through this time of uncertainty and brokenness. But it’ll all be ok.
    Hugs for all from Scarlet the Kitty!
    -Cotten

  • The situation with my mom just got way worse. Today, I forgot to do two things (less than usual). My mom proceeded to scream at me for 20 minutes IN PUBLIC and threatened to punish me if I screamed at her in public (hypocracy, am I right?). Luckily no one was around to hear it, thank goodness. Now she is threatening to make me “pay” my own phone bill by not forgetting things. On top of this, she wants to tell my dad her side of the story that will play her as the “victim”, for a lack of better words. Luckily my dad does know how she twists the truth a bit but seriously, it’s the principle that matters.

    She expects me to act perfect despite everything that’s going on (not seeing my dad, no school or friends, no break from my mom), because I am almost an adult. Well guess what? I AM NOT AN ADULT. AND EVEN THEN, ADULTS ARENT PERFECT. So stop making me have to be perfect, and feel bad about myself for not, when being perfect is IMPOSSIBLE, meaning I will never be good enough for her. She also sometimes makes me feel like a burden because she says how I am adding to her stress.

    Let me also get a few things straight:

    – My mom and I live in Canada. I spend most of my time with her in Canada, and in normal times I go to my dads in the states every other weekend and during summer and Christmas. The borders are closed and, surprise surprise, I am now in lockdown with my mom. Sometimes I wish I was with my dad because HOLY HECK this is awful

    – My house is small, and the walls are thin. This means that if I call anyone, my mom can and will hear me. Sometimes she listens into conversations I have with my grandma about random things that don’t have to do with her, so imagine her reaction when it does, in a negative contradiction of her perspective. I can text my dad, but it is a hassle, and still not 100% a perfect option. If my mom ends up doing the phone thing, I will inevitably forget to do just ONE THING and boom, I can’t talk to ANYONE without her phone, which means she WILL know when I talk to people about it.

    – My mom says that she yells at me a lot because she is stressed out with work (she works for Health Canada). The same person, who expects me to behave perfectly since I am 2 and a half years from being an adult, is an adult and needs to better manage her stress.

    – I have autism. My mom also compares me to other kids to “motivate” me into being more independent but it makes me feel bad about myself. I do like myself but I sometimes want to be normal so my mom isn’t stressed out all the time and so that she won’t yell at me a lot.

    -Other than that, my mom is a good mom. She stands up for me, she helps me, she has fun with me, but these elements are the worst. She gets mad at my dad for being the “fun” parent while she screams at me, maybe because she needs to scream at me less but doesn’t. My mom just needs to stop enforcing impossibly strict control over me and using me as her emotional punching bag every time she gets stressed and calling me selfish for not being able to abide to her control. She asked me many times if she was being too strict but in these situations it is basically the wrong thing to do to say no.

    Also one more thing: you may remember that over the summer, my mom and I had drama. This extended to when I was far away from her at my grandma’s. So basically, I was taking a shower and my hair was a bit greasy after. My grandma gently pointed it out, but I ended up having a panic attack about it because my mom gets SUPER mad about these things. I feel like I am getting a fear of failure because of all this.

    I have to go eat dinner now bye

    • I’m so sorry Bramble. <3

      I know, this situation is making a lot of family relationships very very rocky. (There have been more cases of erm domestic abuse lately.) So, while you're not in the best situation, know that you aren't in the worst, and it can be managed for now. If there's things you really cannot forget, perhaps write them down. Even if it doesn't 100% work, it's something you can show your mom to say "I'm trying, Mom, I really am." If you can, approach her when she's calm, or happy, or something, and bring up the topic and calmly, and nicely, ask her to please chill out a little(use better words) and just tiptoe onto it. If she seems to be getting frustrated, then stop.

      But just know, that if you can just tilt your chin up and brave this, you'll come out of it a better person and I promise that you’ll have a moment to relax. <3

    • Hi Brambleheart!
      First I want you to know that I am not in your situation so I will not be able to fully understand, I will try though.
      Second, as soon as I read your post the first word I thought of was “blankets!”, I don’t know why but I think they might work for when you are on the phone.
      Third, your mom seems like she is stressed, causing her to overreact (remember this is just what I think from what you’ve said and how I’ve interpreted it). Blueheart had the awesome idea to write down things to help you remember them.
      Fourth, your mom’s idea of “motivation” is interesting. I think it would help if you found someone you think is inspiring. Then, maybe instead of feeling like you are being compared, it would be more feeling inspired!
      Fifth, if it is just you and your mom in the house right now and your mom is a healthcare worker then I bet your mom is stressed and probably has no one to talk to. I suggest trying to talk to your mom once a day to help relieve her stress (this might not work, sorry).
      I wish you the best!
      Sending lots of hugs!
      And ice cream!
      🍦🍦🍦

    • *hugs* maybe talk to a family member to sort things out with you and your mom. It must be extra hard for you to go though quarantine

    • Oml I have Autism too/ Aspergers and my gramn is like this (i cant live with my parents anymore) She tells me that she hates me and all of this stuff and wants me out of the house, for stuff that isn’t really my fault, Everything my sister does thats bad i get blamed on, probs bc my sister is actually related to her. She yells at me alot for the stupidest things and twists the truth as well, and then talks bad about me to other people. I also have anxiety and social anxiety, and yes im diagnosed with themmmm .. SO, she yells at me when i dont wanna show new people my drawings too, i dont see why. Anyway I give you hugs cus, yeah its bad. She forces me to eat food when I feel like I may puke or gag, because you know aspergers people can be sensitive to food, and stuff. she doesn’t understand really. She also compares me to other kids, even though I probably have the best room on the street, but she needs it to be perfect so if she see’s like a bit of dust on my bearow she will yell at me. if theres a wrinkle in my blankets she will yank them off the bed and tell me to do it again. i wont explain it all but hugs to yoouuu

  • My mom just almost caught me on Discord so now I might lose internet this week so rip my activity on here. :/ It’s just so scary because I know I’ll get caught one day and probably not be allowed on here againnnnnnn

  • Alright so… this is my first time sharing my personal problems online… please don’t judge me. And I don’t wanna sound selfish, too.

    First off, this is a problem that has progressed for a while. Let me start from the beginning. It starts on August 23rd, 2019. So I had this best friend; let me call her Stormflower. We were really good friends over 2018 and 2019. But then there was another ‘friend’, and let me call her Bluestripe. She kinda to be honest barged in, and became best friends with Stormflower. I had these two other friends, though, one I’ll call Sunwing and the other Shadowsong. Shadowsong was overly sensitive, though, but other than that she wasn’t too bad. Sunwing was always supporting and understanding, which I totally appreciated. Shadowsong used to be best friends with Bluestripe, but Bluestripe seemed to brush her aside and become best friends with Stormflower. And there’s one last friend I want to list before I explain the events that happened, which I’ll call Lilybright. Llilybright also barged in and became best friends with Stormflower, too. After that I felt a little… replaced. When Lilybright said something about only Bluestripe and her being best friends with Stormflower, it immediately broke my heart. I mean, I was best friends with Stormflower, still… but not really. She never hung out with me as much, and I was really mad and upset I was seemingly replaced, so I hung out with the boys. I mean, they pretty much didn’t really mention their life problems and didn’t gossip, which was fine by me. But I still felt heartbroken when I saw Stormflower, Lilybrighter, and Bluestripe hanging out together. Without me. I don’t know what I should do next… can someone please give me some advice?

    • Maybe you should tell Stormflower and the others how you feel. If they knew, then maybe they will treat you better. But if they react negatively and think that you are too sensitive, then maybe you need to broaden your horizons and find new friends by joining a club or something.

      I dealt with a situation like that last year, but since then, I’ve found new friends. You will too.
      *hugs*

    • I sort of don’t have the best connection with my best friend too. I have always still been her friend though. The easiest thing for me to do and I will recommend to you is to maybe talk to her and find more connections so that this way you become better friends. I used to have a lot of connections with my best friends but then slowly did not have any. Luckily we found some more and we still remain best friends so it might work for you if you want to remain friends. Hopefully you will sort things out. *hugs*

    • You should probably tell your friends how you feel.
      Also, when you started hanging out with other people Stormflower was probably like “cool Leafsky is talking to other people, I’ll talk to Bluestripe”
      If you want to be friends with Stormflower then you probably have to be friends with Lilybright and Bluestripe too.
      Lastly, you might have to move on. I know it is sad but sometimes you have to let it go.
      *hugs*

  • To all of BlogClan:
    We WILL push through this dark, confusing time. We have to believe in ourselves. Together, we CAN defeat COVID-19. I know it’s hard, but we have to believe we can defeat it. This will be over someday. Keep believing!- a short message from Katt

  • So I attend this online math competition thing, and today we had a match, and I absolutely failed. Like really, really, really bad. I feel so stupid and useless and worthless and I want to cry.

    • Star, we all have bad days. We all slip up, sometimes our brains just die and there’s nothing we can do about it. You’re not dumb, you just had a dumb moment. One “dumb” moment, or a slip up, or a fail, doesn’t mean that’s what you are.

      You’re not dumb, Star. I know that much.

    • Things like that happen. We can’t succeed every time, no matter how talented we are. But this doesn’t define how good you are. I know that in the future, you will succeed at many things. <3

    • *hugs* I can relate. Most of the time I just use that as motivation to get better. I believe that you will get better!

    • Don’t worry! Your mistakes don’t define who you are. You’re not useless or worthless at all. I’m considered to be one of the best at math in my class and after spring break I completely forgot how to do the math we were doing before spring break. Don’t worry everyone makes mistakes.

    • My friend had a math competition she didn’t do so well, so I can say what I told her.
      First of all, you are NOT dumb! Sometimes your brain just doesn’t work one day or another. I can say that lots of times I would make a big mistake for something important and feel so dumb about it and want to cry also. A dumb example is when I can’t get the hang of a new piano song and keep messing up. A nit dumb example is that in a violin competition I went too fast and didn’t stay on the beat. Times like that I just want to cry and hide in the corner, but I try to convince myself not to. A thing that helps (even though it gets really annoying) is that just don’t focus on that subject one day or two. You could do things that make you happy and after a few days, go back and then try your hardest. If you still feel dumb, just practice a lot. If you don’t get the hang of a concept, search a video on YouTube! *hugs*

  • Hugs for anyone who needs them!
    *Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs!*

  • So this situation about Stormflower, Bluestripe, and Lilybright (if you’ve read my comment on the previous page) has changed A LOT. For starters, Stormflower, Bluestripe, and Lilybright apologized, which made me feel a bit guilty and wondering if I was selfish. Stormflower promised to hang out and talk to me more often when she gets the chance. I feel a lot better, and I took your guys’s advice which really helped. Thank you so much.
    ~Leafsky

  • Okay…..so my family is super stressed right now, especially me. It’s not because of COVID-19, but because people have expectations that are WAY too high for me. I won’t describe them here. I’m feeling pressured and there’s a popular neighborhood clique. I’ve recently been diagnosed with anxiety and I’m really anxious about it. So my friends are all in the clique and they’re pressuring me into β€œchanging myself” for the sake of popularity. I don’t want to, but I have a sort of frenemy that started the clique and is basically forcing me out of my old habits, my handwriting, the music I listen to, my clothes, the food I eat, and so on. Help, please. hhh

    • I know that it would be hard to tell them that you don’t want to change, but I personally think that is the only solution. It would be really hard but if you do it know they would not change you into a completely different person so it would be worth it. *hugs*

    • Oh my gosh I can relate sooooo much <3

      I'm like going through something very similar so I can't be of much help, but I'll try.

      Although there are all these expectations that people want from you, remember that YOUR opinion and YOUR expectations of yourself is what matters. You have a right to your own likes/dislikes, and your friends need to accept that. You are perfectly wonderful and there is no reason to change unless YOU want to.

    • Woah, as soon as I read this I thought “wow, this sounds genuinely awful and serious if they are making someone change their handwriting”. I was like that sounds so absurd and unreasonable that someone is pressuring you to change so much, even to your handwriting.
      I agree with Gingerpaw, you need to tell them you don’t want to change. If I were you I would (I’m being super honest, brutal perhaps) prepare for the worst (sorry, slight exaggeration). I would start hanging out with other people so they will support you when you stand up to your “clique friends”.
      You just need to stand up for yourself and your personality!
      I got your back (virtually)!!!!
      *lots of reassuring-you-are-awesome-the-way-you-are hugs*

    • Dont let your friends control u. If they preasure u to do something then they arnt real friends. I personly feel like sinking into the background works for me. U dont need to be popular. Dont listen to them or tell them what you think about it. It would be easier since you dont hv to tell them face to face cuz of the virys. Typing is easier and u dont hv to worry about them being mad at u too much. If they do then u can come back here. Hope everything gets better with u πŸ™‚

  • We love you Willowfang! You can always “talk” to us!
    *super awesome you-are-not-worthless hugs*
    🍦🍦🍦 and ice cream!
    PS I’m imagining coffee ice cream

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