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Fading Echoes

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  • (I’m posting this again because it was buried)

    Their have been so many racial tensions lately that involve things like discrimination, hatred, violence, ect. It’s really upsetting me. I want to make a difference, but it just feels like I’m not doing anything and am just sitting and watching the problems. What should I do?

    • I agree with you, but don’t feel bad! You can do a lot of stuff like encourage your friends and families to help you stop it!

    • its okay to not be able to fix everything at once <3 the key is to make sure that whenever you are presented with an opportunity to make improvements, you take it. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but people were working on it every day in little ways. You’re doing the best you can at the time, and that’s what matters <333

    • start with the small things… and make sure not to let temper get to you
      somebody said that i should die because of my etheticity and i slapped them( not my finest moment )
      that didn’t change anything except a whole lot of trouble for me.

    • I’d try talking to friends or family about it! I;m sure they could think of something. And remember, just doing little things could help! For example, if you wanted to help the environment, you can turn of the lights when leaving a room, turn off the tap when brushing your teeth, etc.! *Hugs* I hope this helped

  • Idk I feel like I’m really different when I’m on blogclan. I feel mad at myself for being a horrible person irl. I’m hating on everything I feel like I don’t appreciate anything. And now I hate my friend’s attitude, let’s say her name is Kit. Today on a zoom meeting she muted me by ignoring her a little. I mean it is partially my fault that I was talking to my other friend, (lets say her name is Soar) about an anime. I tried getting Kit to join in but she was busy. So then I got mad and left. I wish Soar would go on my side but I know she hates being stuck in a friendship mess. I don’t want to be Kit’s friend but I know she’s going to be– idk. it’s hard to explain. She’ll be all sarcastic and mad. Ok its 12. I have to sleep. Good night

    • I understand how you feel. I feel like a horrible person outside of BlogClan. But we have to realize that we aren’t horrible. You have your BlogClan friends to support you and we will help you.Try and patch things up with your friend. Don’t worry, I (Emberfox of BlogClan) will be your friend forever :3. I can’t give too much adive on how to patch things up with your friend because I’m honestly trying to work things out with mine, but I can tell you this: You will never be alone and your not a horrible person. I’m ranting on right now, but don’t worry, things will get better 🙂 . Trustme.

    • I really do get that. Blogclan brings out the best in us and encourages us to be ourselves. Sometimes I look at myself on Blogclan and myself IRL and see that I’m not trying my best to be a good person. It’s alright, though, because we still have a chance to be great. Just holding a door open can get you some brownie points with yourself. I suggest just slowly stray away from Kit, I’m also in the same position. It’s hard to leave a friend even if you know it’s the absolute best thing you could do. Even if she’s sarcastic and mad, you don’t want to be miserable in a friendship. Start spending less and less time with her. *hugs* <3

    • You’re not a horrible person! no horrible person likes cats
      *hugs*

    • *Hugs*
      Sorry you have to go through that. It sucks to have friendship troubles! 😛
      (I can tell you first-hand about that!)
      Kit doesn’t seem like a very good friend to me, and sometimes, it’s worth someone getting mad if you don’t feel comfortable in her company. Try talking to her less and less, or maybe telling her that you don’t like it when she gets mad at little things.
      Also, this does not make you a bad person at all. You are amazing and smart and wonderful, and I’m sure everyone on BlogClan and beyond with agree with me! 🙂

    • Fwosty, no!! I’m sure you’re a super positive person outside of BlogClan. Maybe try talking with other people like you’d talk with BlogClan members – which is funny and kindly! Right now it doesn’t seem like your fault. I’m sure Kit will come back tomorrow and apologize. If anything, maybe talk to her about what happened, but try to do it nicely and gently. *Hugs*

    • I’m sorry, I’ve been there a lot. I can’t give you any advice because I still don’t know how to deal with it, but I suggest talking to a trusted friend would help.

    • Awww, I’m really sorry. Maybe try telling them you don’t like them fighting? It might work. But if not, then try building a little “place” with books and snacks and pillows where you could hide out while they fight. *HUGS HUGS HUGS*

  • I hav poem:
    They had left me under that rock but that wouldn’t work like a lock.
    ‘Even though they brushed me aside, even though I’m an outcast, that doesn’t mean I can’t stand with pride

  • Ok, I got a problem. So, I have this friend, let’s say, Fish. She used to be my best friend in 3rd grade. I trusted her. Now, not so much. Last year I realized that it was an unhealthy relationship but I still held on, and during quarantine, I’ve managed to distance myself from her. We barely talk unless we’re in a break-out room. She’s crazy popular and everyone seems to bend to her will, and I’ve seen it happen. If she has beef with someone, her whole group will turn into pariahs. I used to be a part of her group, so I know how it goes. I feel really bad for what I’ve done, but the least I can do is redeem myself and be nicer to people. Anyways, Fish always pit everyone in the friend group against each other and really crushed everyone’s self-confidence. She was always making these silent digs and then when someone left to either go to the bathroom or just wasn’t there, she gossiped to the rest of the group about them. A lot of times she told us their secrets or told ours to someone else. I’m fine now since I’ve gotten away from her but today I was in a break-out room with her and she asked me for my phone number or email, I’ve given her my email but I also don’t know if it’s the right thing to do. I want to break ties with her, but that might end up being ugly. She also knows that I’m bi, and if she hasn’t already told her current posse, then if I stop being friends with her she definitely will. I also think I need to come out to my family and everyone at school, but I don’t know how to. I just need some tips on how to approach this situation and break ties with her finally. Thanks!

    • I know what that’s like. But to be completely honest, I feel like I would be the one like Fish. Everyone should be aloud to kept their own privacy on who they like, or what gender they are. I think you should try to be nice to her, but don’t get involed in her dirty work. Stay away from her but don’t make her think that you don’t want to be friends with her. She isn’t the boss of you. I’m in 7th grade and I feel like Middle school is the perfect place for the bigger, older kids to start picking on the smaller 6th graders. The way that others treat people isn’t always even and fair. I think you should tell a teacher or adult about how you don’t want her to tell your secrets. Try to start spending less time with her and soon enough she should leave you alone. I hope this is helpful!

      ~Ember

      • Thank you! I think I’m going to do that, I called her to see if she had changed but she had revealed a secret about a friend concerning their gender identity so I think I’ll take this advice. There’s obviously going to be no way that I can completely avoid her in junior high, so I’ll talk to her a bit but ultimately stray away from her.

    • Wow, you got a tough problem there!
      She does not seem like a good friend, but it can still be hard to break ties with her.
      You are right about coming out at school, and to your family, you have nothing to be ashamed of! Time for everyone to see the real you, and that includes the wonderful person you are. 🙂
      I suggest you break it to her slowly. Find her at a time when she is relaxed, or not as mean, and tell her how you felt when she was mean to others. Tell her what a good friend is like, and how you are going to be that friend, but not to her.
      I hope this helps! Remember, you are amazing, and BlogClan believes in you! 😀
      Good luck! 😉

      • Thanks! I’ll try to lightly tell her that we’re not friends anymore, thanks for the advice.

    • Ooh, that seems like a pretty tricky situation! Maybe try talking to those people in the group about what you saw happening when they weren’t there. I’m sorry about how you have to deal with this. Maybe talk to some teachers, friends, or family about it? I’m sure that they’ll have some better suggestions than me, but I still hope that whatever advice I gave you helped, at least a tiny bit. <3 *Hugs.*

      • Thanks, I have talked to my friends about it and we all feel the same way that we need to put some distance between Fish and us. I think I have it under control now after a recent call, thank you!

  • “Everybody’s lonely sometimes, but I would walk a thousand miles just to see your eyes” -Alan Walker, “Unity

    No matter who you are, there’s always someone out there who will stick with you through the highs and the lows. You’re not alone in this. I believe in each and every one of you. Have a wonderful week, BlogClan!

  • this is your daily reminder that every blogclanner that is intrested in operation H.S.P will do the thing
    (Hug, slap, protec)

    • I am the Deputy of H.S.P, no fellow blogclanner will be sad under my watch!!

  • Not a really big problem, but I still feel I need to say it. 😛
    You don’t have to answer or read this, and I’m sorry for complaining so much! 😛
    So, turns out, I’m lactose intolerant. But I really really love milk. I also kind of see it as a disadvantage, because, like way back in the old times I wouldn’t have survived because they drank a lot of milk. I know, times are different now, but the thought still gets me down.
    Sorry again!

    • a problem doesn’t have to huge for it to be said <3 i'm sorry you're going through this; just remember that there's lots of lovely substitutes for milk that are delciious, and you'll get to try them all. <3

    • try almond milk! it tastes a bit better if i do say so myself

    • My brother is lactose intolerant, and he can still drink lactose-free milk! Try looking for some when you go grocery shopping!

    • There are substitutes for milk that taste really good! 🙂 I personally like coconut milk, and there are many others as well.

      *Hugs* I hope you feel better about this. <3

    • Like Vips said, there are a lot of substitutes for milk you can try! A girl in my class is also lactose intolerant, and she says that almond milk and treats like dairy-free ice cream is delicious! <3 And please don’t worry about posting! We all love you and want to help you as much as we can. <333

  • My throat hurts and I threw up at school today 🙁 I just need some hugs rn

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