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  • so i have to do this play and its more stressful then i thought
    i would like some hugs
    stress also seems to drain my spelling capabilities, i just spelled some soem, thought thoght, and spelled spedded.

  • Hey there, it’s been a while since I’ve said anything.
    I have a piano competition in two days, and I’m really stressed. My piano teacher expects me to do well, but it’s so hard and I keep messing up.
    Next, I’d like to ask for some advice – I’m going into high school soon, and I need to choose my classes. If anyone has any experience, should I take AP Human Geo or Chemistry? And should I take a language in my freshman year?
    Thinking about high school is just stressing me out a lot and I feel like I won’t be able to succeed and make it to a good college. I have this friend who is very ambitious – she’s skipping like 3 courses and I just can’t help but think that I won’t succeed unless I do that as well, but it’s a bit late already.

    • I took AP Human Geo last year. It got cut off because of COVID, but it was a fun class. You learn a lot about where people are in the world and about culture. It’s a mixture of geography and sociology (study of society)/cultural anthropology (study of culture) I would say. Also, it’s understandable to be feeling nervous about starting high school. I was, too. I recommend just taking things at your own pace and exploring the things that you are interested in. There will definitely be some challenges along the way, but there will be good moments, too.

      Also, best wishes on your piano competition! I think you’re very brave for competing even if you feel nervous and sometimes mess up.

    • I’m sorry Star <3 Try not to worry too much about your teacher; just focus on doing the best you can and you'll do FANTASTICALLY.

      I've taken APHG before. What kind of career do you want? Make sure your classes are geared toward that. It's definitely not too late to get a jumpstart on your classes and make it to a great college. If you're in America, high school grades are the ones colleges look at. Middle school stuff doesn't matter as much. Just keep your goals in sight and you'll do fine! <3

    • First, good luck with your piano competition! I’m sure you’ll do great, and remember that even if you do mess up a little, just keep going and act like nothing happened.

      Second, I think it depends on a few things. For starters, do you like science? If you don’t really love science, I would not recommend taking an AP class. I am in an honors level science, and I don’t like science, so I quickly learned that taking that class was a mistake. For me, the class is very hard, and it’s hard to focus in, while the kids who love science excel in it. Another thing to consider is if freshmen tend to take AP classes. At my school, it’s more juniors and seniors who take AP classes, while freshmen and sophomores stick with either honors or regular level. Basically what I’m trying to say is that if you like science and you know that it’s a class that some freshmen take, I say go for it. If science isn’t your thing, and you aren’t sure if many freshmen are in the class, I would lean towards chem. (Gosh I really hope AP Human Geo is a science class, cause otherwise I feel ridiculous for saying science so many times. My school doesn’t offer that so I’m just guessing since you said “or chemistry”, and chem is science.) Also, I would take a language. I know most colleges look for 3-4 years of a language. I recommend taking Spanish! It isn’t too hard to learn, and it’s spoken in many different countries. Don’t worry! High school really isn’t as scary as it might seem, and if you work hard and get good grades, you will be fine. You don’t need to feel like you should be skipping ahead.

    • You’ll do great on your piano competition! Here’s some luck: 🍀🍀🍀
      Try taking lots of deep breaths and getting plenty of rest before the competition starts. 🙂
      I’m sorry, I can’t help with your other problems, I’m still an apprentice. 😛 But there are a bunch of cats on this blog who will give you plenty of good advice. 🙂

    • Firstly, good luck on your piano competition! I can relate to the feeling you get. I play the piano too and that’s how I feel all the time. It’s natural to feel that. And also it’s fine to mess up! As long as you try your hardest, it doesn’t matter if you get first place or last place.
      Here: Have some HUGS!!!!!!!

  • I feel really bad.i leared im going to possibly get an adopted sister but im worried it wont go through the results will come in tomorrow me and my parents are very nervous…

  • Ok so i have a huge problem and im stressed about it.
    My grandma and grandpa have lived in there house for 20 years ever since they found it abandoned and grass grown all around it ( they say you couldn’t even see it.)but now theres this lady shes a lawyer saying that the house is her famlies and my grandparents don’t have the right to own it/live in it . What makes it worse is that my grandparents don’t have a lot of money. And if it got taken away they would have nowhere to live and they love that house.

    • That sounds really hard. I’m sorry that your grandparents have to go through this and I can tell how much you love your grandparents by how concerned you are for them. They are so lucky to have a thoughtful grandchild like you. <3

      Is it possible for you to reach out and talk to your grandparents directly? Just to check in with them and offer support, even if all you can give is emotional support?

    • That sounds horrible, I’m so sorry Honeywing!!!
      Maybe, if your grandparents loose their house, they could temporarily move in with you and your family? Just like Sunlake said, they are very lucky to have such a wonderful grandchild who worries for their well-being. 🙂 And you could try supporting them emotionally, like Sunlake suggested! 😀
      Good luck! Don’t worry; things tend to always work out. 🙂

    • That’s horrible! Maybe you and your parents could try to convince the lawyer that it’s your grandparents’ house? If that doesn’t work out, they can stay with you for a while until you guys figure it out <3 *hugs*

    • I’m so sorry!!!
      I can relate. My grandparents had this beautiful house that I spent most of my childhood in. Everything’s going to be okay 💛 Could you contact your grandparents to offer support? No matter if they move or not, just remember that at least you had all those years at that house☀️💛

  • This isn’t really a big deal but I need to get it of my chest
    So I moved school this year for year seven (yes I’m English) to an all girls school, everyone there is really ‘girly’ I am really not, along with my two younger sisters and my best friend, she was put in the other class and because of covid we don’t see each other that much. I made two friends in my class, and there are two other girls that I don’t know what there problem is with me, lets call them, Ravenwing and Slateheart, me and my friends liked going to the music room for lunch break and one day my friend didn’t want to sing I don’t know why still don’t know why but I don’t need to know if she didn’t want to tell me then she doesn’t have too, she told her other friend who went to her old school so at least she told someone, then Stateheart came in and started shouting at my friend to sing I stood up to her and told her to leave she didn’t and kept shouting at her to sing I got really angry with this so I shouted and told her to leave she eventually did and my friend was in tears. I realised that she couldn’t have known that my friend hadn’t wanted to sing unless someone had told her and it turned out that my other ‘friend’ had told her and I felt really betrayed. After this Slateheart and Ravenwing wouldn’t leave me alone and keep telling the teachers lies about me, Ravenwing even told the teacher that I had punched her! My mum said at the beginning of the year that we could all go back to our old school if we really didn’t like it but my younger sisters are really enjoying it and my sister who I am closest too is a different person she is much happier and doesn’t come home crying everyday, so I couldn’t do that to her. Also all my class hate me because Slateheart and Ravenwing have told them lies about me too. And so does my form tutor because she keeps having to talk to me about stuff I haven’t done and I am stuck with these people till year nine. Also my friend who didn’t want to sing she moved back to her old school, so I don’t really have any friends except ones in the other class but we don’t see them much.
    I know this is really lengthy and it’s not much of a big deal it’s the holidays now but I am kind of scared too go back to school. I hope this all makes sense.

    • That’s a lot to be going through at once. It sounds very isolating not having anyone you feel comfortable with at your new school now that your friend has left and you definitely did not deserve to be treated that way by Slateheart and Ravenwing just for standing up for your friend. I hope with the holidays starting for you, you are able to reset and spend time with your sister and do things you enjoy. You seem like a very caring person with how you stand up for your friends and even are willing to keep going to the school for your sister despite how hard it has been for you. I hope you are able to take time and care for yourself as well. Your wellbeing is important, too. <3

    • They must be horrible friends 🙁
      I’d honestly pretend I’m the only one in class! If people try to bully you just ignore them like they don’t exist at all. It my be hard, but I bet you can do it! I don’t know if it’s good advice whether or not I will give you hugs! <3

    • These ppl sound awful
      Avoid them if u can but if u can’t and they keep coming tell someone u trust eg ur parents. Try explaining to ur Form Tutor what’s happening with ur friends in the other class and if that doesn’t work and it gets really bad try convince ur parents to talk to ur form tutor
      Hope this helps *hugs

    • I’m so sorry, Willow. It seems like you have a lot of stress in your life!
      You are an amazing friend, how you stood up for your friend who didn’t want to sing. That must have taken a lot of courage and bravery. 🙂
      How about you try talking to your mom, and tell her how you feel and all that happened? With the holidays starting, you’ll have a lot of time to relax. 😀
      You are amazing and brilliantly, and one day soon you will meet a wonderful friend who you deserve. Hang in there! 😀 Things will get better!
      And remember, care for yourself first. You sister might like to go to that school, but what matters now is what you like and what you want.
      *Hugs*
      *Hugs*
      *Hugs*

    • Oof that must be terrible :C Remember that if you can’t deal with everything then tell your parents! Or your school counselor, if you have one. Try to explain to your teacher what really happened. Your teacher doesn’t have evidence, so they can’t believe Ravenwing and Slateheart over you! *hugs* <3

  • I extremely stressed….i have to get these shots on monday but there is a huge problem with that. One of my triggers is needles. I tried to tell my family the best i could by saying i dont like the needles/dont want to be near them.
    But they said i was overreacting. Ahhhh im so nervous and have been feeling sick to my stomach and my heart beating fast every time im reminded about the doctors visit on Monday…

  • I feel so emabarssed.
    I told my mom i wanted mary janes but she gave me a strange look and said “those are toddler shoes. Teens and adults shoudnt be wearing those!” i wish my parents wouldnt judge me on my dream style

    • I’m sorry, if its any help I think they are stylish! *hug*

    • *hugs* I’m sorry but I really don’t know how to help. Some parents are just like that. All the same I hope things work out <333

    • What?? I just looked those up and they’re so stylish! Why shouldn’t you wear those? (Spoiler: There’s no reason.)
      I’d say ask her again, and say that you like them. I’d say ask her why she thinks what she thinks about them.

      You should really be allowed to like what you like. How many years you’ve been alive shouldn’t apply. I mean, Mary Janes are made in every size.

  • Sorry for posting so soon, but I-I’ve been worried lately. It’s allergy season, and it’s getting harder and harder for me to breathe. I know it’s nothing, I’m so scared and can’t help thinking about whether it will hurt me badly or something. . One moment I’m fine, and the next I’m struggling to even take one breath, and it’s hurting me both inside and out. Can I have advice?

    • I’m sorry Nightwish!
      Allergy season can be really tough. I don’t think it will hurt or harm you, so you should be fine! But if it really hurts or it feels very tough to breath, I suggest telling your parents, or going to the doctors. Otherwise, you will be okay!
      Allergy season is over soon! 🙂
      *Hugs*

    • It’s okay Nightpaw! I have asthma and in the 3rd grade I had an asthma attack and I couldn’t breathe. I’d recommend taking deep breathes and staying away from pollen. Hope this helped! (Probably didn’t, so if it didn’t I’m sorry.)

    • I feel the same way you do! It does get hard to breathe. But maybe you could try yawning or drinking water, That usually works for me. It’ll all be over soon tho <333

    • allergy season SUCKS
      talk to your parents, first and foremost. they can talk to your doctor, who in turn can prescribe certain medications for you
      there’s over the counter antihistamines that are helpful, but again, talking to a medical professional will help you understand your options better :))

    • Definitely talk to your parents about this. You may need to see a doctor if you’re struggling to breathe at all during allergy season. If you have asthma or something similar, you may need an inhaler or other device that will help you breathe normally, and you’ll be all set! <3

    • Tell your parents! You could have asthma and need an inhaler, like Blue said. There’s nothing wrong with that. My pepere has asthma. An inhaler would make it a lot easier for you. The only way you can find out is by telling your parents, who should take you to a doctor. Tell them, but don’t worry. <3 When I was around 8-9-10, I got chest pains and I worried, a lot. It turned into panic so I couldn't sleep at night, but I rarely told my mom because I was always very independent and I'll-take-care-of-it-myself. But I should have told her sooner, because I found out it was just growing pains. It would have saved me all the panic.

      Point is, tell them. <3

  • Hey guys! I’m kinda stressed out right now. You see, I have this guy from school that I really like, but I can’t ever seem to be sure if he likes me back. We have been really good friends ever since 3rd grade, and we always seem to find a way to make each other laugh even in the toughest of times. We talk a lot in school when we can, but he’s only in 3 of my classes out of 9. I often find myself missing the times in elementary when we just had one class and we could hang out all day long. But I know that if we truly are friends, then our friendship can continue despite not seeing each other all day long. But even though we talk and laugh a lot when we see each other in person, I always seem to find myself starting the conversation when we talk online, such as on Snapchat. He also, not a lot, but sometimes just ignores my texts. If he did really like me, wouldn’t he want to talk to me as much as he can? I might be over reacting a bit, but idk. Can you guys relate? If so, I’d love to hear your output on my situation! Thanks again 🙂

    • I can’t exactly relate but I do have to say, most that are close ignore texts! Ignoring texts may be snnoying but it happens. A LOT. Anywaaaay, I’m not sure if he likes you, but you could always ask! Even if he doesnt feel the same way, if you’re truly friends, you’ll still be friends <33

    • There are always reasons why someone would ignore your texts. Often when people are texting they are also multitasking, so he might just have a really busy life 🙂 You can always ask if he likes you or not, and if you don’t want to do that you can get a close friend to ask him 😀

  • (TW for animal abuse)

    My anger:
    Ugh, I’m so frustrated right now and I just had to get it out.
    As if the commercial egg industry didn’t make enough of an enemy already they HAD to make me even angrier by coming up with the most stupid and cruel procedure in existence. I despise the process of ‘debeaking’! The idea that some people see it as ‘worth it’ or ‘necessary’ is disgusting!
    Cutting of a chicken’s important and sensitive beak should be illegal.
    There is no valid reason why they do it- they claim that chickens are ‘aggressive’ (me: wait a minute, how can you accuse THEM of being aggressive when you’re being the aggressive one by hurting them), but in reality, they’re not. Chickens are kind animals who do not pluck each others feathers in a normal, natural environment. But when they’re but in a cage and starved half to death what do you expect? The solution to feather-pulling is NOT to destroy their beaks, but to get rid of the cages (which I hate just as much) and return them to the natural environment God intended for them.
    I really crave to have a sensible debate right about now- to get in touch with someone who supports debeaking and talk some sense into them, but I have no way of doing so.

    Sorry for the long rant. I know you guys don’t support this cruelty- I’m just mad at the people who do.

  • The sick baby chicken I rescued yesterday just passed away. 🙁 Her name was Chance.
    She had a short life and I only knew her for one day, but at least she had a chance to know love, even if it was for such a short time.
    I have no regrets about saving her- If I had known she wouldn’t make it I would have done exactly the same thing. I would have begged my parents to take her home for her last day so she could feel love before she goes. <3

  • This is something stupid to rant about but my violin teacher goes so slow. I have been in this class since the beginning of fall and we’re starting to play Old McDonald and we’re playing it VERY SLOWLY. We havent even started playing on le g note or e note. I’m sorry but it bothers me A LOTTTTTT. But I know she’s doing what she thinks is right.
    Sorry 😛

    • in that case i’d recommend going online to find youtube tutorials or other similar things to branch out and learn other violin pieces faster! no harm in going ahead of pace C:

    • If you want to speed up, you can always look for tutorials 🙂 And maybe tell your parents that the class is moving too slowly and switch to a one-on-one lesson?

  • I just have something I want to say. A kid in my school killed themself. (I will not be revealing anything about this person’s identity, including their gender, so that is why I am using they/them pronouns when referring to them.) They were in my grade. I never knew them, but it just made me so sad. We are so young and have so many amazing possibilities ahead of us, but they ended everything and now they will never get the chance to truly live their life. For anyone who is feeling like they are out of options, I just want to tell you not to give up on yourself. Suicide isn’t something you can just take back. It’s final. Think of the most amazing thing you can make of your life, and know that it can happen one day, but only if you keep going. The bad days, they don’t last forever. Get help, talk to someone you trust. There is always a better option, even if it seems impossible now. You have no idea what you can make of your life. You could be so happy and live such a wonderful, beautiful life, but you will never know that if you end it all. Keep moving forward, and never give up.