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43,469 comments

  • I just need some hugs. I’ve been going through a let’s say stressful time, making me want to cry my eyes out.

  • I genuinely feel like I’m not good at anything. Not art, not writing, not anything. And when I do think I’m good and try to post my work anywhere, I’m bombarded by such good works by other people… it makes my stuff look like a 5-year-old did it. I’m not good at anything…

    • That’s not true! I’m sure you’re really good at drawing. Don’t let others bring you down. If you like it, why care if someone else doesnt? You are great at a lot of stuff, especially being a great friend on here <3

    • ˜”*°•.˜”*°•Bee That Flies Over Golden Fields(Goldenbee) •°*”˜.•°*”˜ ˜”*°•.˜”*°•Bee That Flies Over Golden Fields(Goldenbee) •°*”˜.•°*”˜ says:

      Tbh, I can feel the same as you sometimes. But I’m pretty sure that many people on the blog would consider you a good friend!

      I don’t really have a suggestion to help you, but just know that a lot of people think this sometimes, and that you arent alone <3 *hugs*

    • Oh, Captain, you’re good at so many things! I really admire your writing, and your art is beautiful as well.
      It’s easy to feel that way since we tend to notice every little flaw in our own work but not in the work of others. But remember that your work is just as beautiful. I used to feel this way, and I’ve found that it helps to get inspired- to do something just for the sake of enjoying it. In my experience if you enjoy the process without worrying how good it will be, you will find that you’re more happy with the final result.
      And you are good at so many even bigger things- your loyalty, your honesty, your ability to encourage people- that’s important.
      I’m confident you have many more skills you don’t know about yet- the Lord gives skills to each and every one of us. It’s just a little hard to notice them in yourself and it’s possible you have yet to discover them.
      *Hugs*

    • Of course you’re good at something.

      Even if it’s something small like… Ironman trivia or something 😛

      But art and writing, those things can only be improved with practice, and everyone works at a different pace.

      Don’t compare yourself to others, because you haven’t seen what they’ve gone through to reach the point they’re at. And even if art or writing just doesn’t seem to work out, they aren’t the only things you can create. There are so many creative talents in this world and you just need to find the one that complements you.

    • You’re good at a bunch of stuff, I’m sure! 🙂
      You make excellent nicknames, for starters! 😀
      It doesn’t matter if you are not the best at somethings, because with practice and patience, you will be the best at them all. 🙂 But if you don’t want to, that’s fine too, because everyone is good at something. Including you. You’ll find out soon enough what you’re good at! 😀
      *Hugs*

    • There are going to be people better than you at things, and there are going to be people worst than you at things. But those people who are better than you are worst at stuff than others.
      The whole world is viewed as some sort of competition, and you feel horrible if you think you’re not good at anything.
      But Falconstorm, that doesn’t determine your self worth.
      I remember one time, my aunt told me “We’re human-beings, not human-doers.”
      So yes, maybe some people are better at art than you.
      But some people can’t do art like you.
      It doesn’t matter because maybe you are very good at being giving or kind to others; or something that other people struggle with.

      Trust me, I’ve dealt with this same problem, feeling like I’m not good enough. But what qualities are you good at? What do you acknowledge about yourself? Try and focus on good things about yourself that YOU ARE, not what you do.
      And also, try and see those artists as inspiration, not a competition.
      *hugs* Hope you feel better! 🙂

    • I am absolutely positive that is not true.

      Writing and drawing are just two things. My sister took a few years to find out that gymnastics was what she was good at and loved. I tried all sorts of sports and clubs before realizing that singing was my thing. And you wanna know something? Even if your art looks like a five year old did it (which I’m sure it doesn’t) you are still better than me! My stuff looks like the works of a TWO year old! And you know what? I’m fine with that. I own it. Find something that you truly love doing. Even if you aren’t the best at it, all that matters is that you are happy doing it. Don’t try to compare yourself to everyone else. If we all did that, none of us would be happy with our talents. Be yourself, and just make sure you’re happy.

    • I feel like that a lot, especially when my brother is good at everything. But the good thing is you’re not alone <3

    • I feel you. Sometimes I look at my sister, who’s very athletic, and wonder why I can’t do a perfect cartwheel. I always feel embarrassed by my comments, they look so bad compared to other BlogClanner’s. You might not be great at writing or drawing, but there’s always something else. If you want to write or draw, go ahead, even if it isn’t perfect!

    • DONT THINK LIKE THAT! Everyone is good at something, if you like drawing, it doesn’t matter what other people think. If you like it…then do it. It’s YOUR work so only your opinion counts. Don’t let other people bring you down, you’re AWSOME, and if someone says otherwise, they are hugely wrong! You’re awe-inspiring!

      Remember, practice makes perfect!
      -Crystalsight

    • No, Captain.

      A quote I learned somewhere: “Don’t compare your journey to others’–theirs is totally different.” It’s a cliched saying “don’t compare yourself to everyone else”, so I get it if you’re like “uggghhhhh”, but it’s totally true.

      Everyone is good at something. If you aren’t good at drawing now but you want to be, draw draw draw. A thing that happens with artists that is really, really, really annoying and puts you down in the dumps is when artists are starting to see flaws in their work. That turning point makes you want to shred every drawing you make and go into a soundproof room and scream. I have an entire SKETCHBOOK with creepy drawings of Saga as evidence I’ve gone through this and it lasted a lOnG time.

      But slowly–like, months later–I started getting a little better at anatomy. Eventually, I could draw a good figure without having to look at a reference. This is a real thing. It’s how turning points for artists manifest. They start to see how bad their work is. And that means really, really good stuff. Since you can see how bad it is you have a starting point to improve. Here’s some random, may-or-may-not-apply-to-you lessons I’ve learned on anatomy from my awful-art phases:

      1. Looking back at my old drawings, I see how little of a forehead my characters have. Like, where’s their brain?? It didn’t look realistic, and it did look squished. Did you know that eyes are actually halfway down your face?

      2. The shoulders aren’t a straight, horizontal line below the neck. There are actually muscles behind your collarbone (like, on your back) that slope up toward the neck.

      3. On humans the bottom of your ear lines up with the bottom of your nose and the top of your ear lines up with your eyebrow.

      4. There is the space of one eye between both of your eyes.

      5. Women (in general, but not always) have more of an hourglass shape to their torsos, meaning their hips and shoulders are around the same width. Men are more likely to have a triangle shape, meaning their shoulders are wider than their hips.

      6. The hinge of your jaw lines up with your temple, or just behind it.

      7. The jaw isn’t a straight line jutting from the face; it slopes downward in a curve unless the jaw is clenched.

      8. If you want to make a character look cute, give them a bigger forehead and a shorter face. Big eyes set far apart definitely help with that too.

      9. Memorize basic muscle anatomy–it reallyyyyyyyyy helps. I don’t look at literal muscle anatomy charts, those are very complicated. But if they work for you, absolutely do it! What I do is I study my arm, for example, if I’m trying to draw an arm. Or I look at a picture of a person on the internet. But anatomy memorization is super handy when you want to draw but don’t have a picture to look at.

      10. You also have yourself as a reference, quite literally on hand! If I can’t find the right reference I just make one myself by setting my iPad’s camera for a ten-second countdown and posing what I want to draw the best I can. (tip: if you can’t do the pose, it (usually) means it’s not a realistic one! Unless it’s an acrobatic pose or something and you aren’t an acrobat.)

      Unless you’re drawing an animal 😛 Then you’re out of luck on this tip.

      11. If you draw digitally and find it hard, you can make your sketch on paper, take a picture, and upload it into your drawing app/software. I use Procreate and do this because digital sketching is difficult for me.

      12. When drawing eyes for a realistic or semi-realistic look, remember they aren’t flat. Some drawing styles, like anime, make eyes look flat. That’s absolutely okay! If that’s not what you want, though, picture an eyeball inside the skull inside your character’s head. Do you need to shrink or expand the eye, or tweak it’s shape?

      13. Imagine the bones/skeleton inside your figure. If it’s hard to imagine them, draw them. I did this on one of my drawings before, because my character Onyx had her rib cage too long. Once I actually drew the rib cage bones, I adjusted her figure and it made a tone more sense!

      That’s all I can think of for now 😛 I’m sure I’ll think of more after I’ve already posted this…

      Anytime you want tips, I can try to provide some 🙂

      You are good at something, Captain. If you’re not good at what you want to be good at, you can make yourself good at it with the work. I’m not going to say “practice makes perfect” because that’s so cliche it’s lost it’s meaning. XP Instead: if you want to be good at drawing, you just need the patience and passion :3 Which I see you definitely have.

  • Soo…i really want an adopted baby sister but my parents think i hate little kids and always refer to me as the child born in our family…how do i drop hints to them without fully saying Out aloud i want a adopted baby sister…..

    • Maybe start finding videos online of people adopting little kids and show them to them? But like, run up to them and show them like you’re excited and it’s something you really love?

      And then like “I really want to be able to do that!”

    • Um, maybe you can show more interest in little kids? If you’re around them, maybe try to help them or hang out with them. It could be possible that one of the reasons your parents would not adopt is because they think maybe you couldn’t handle the responsibilities that come with being an older sister that would need to help.
      But if you show them you’re responsible and take an interest in little kids, maybe they will get the hint.

      I’ve never been in this situation before so I’m not sure if it will help, but I hope things get better!*hugs*

  • stuff that may be upsetting for people






    aaaaaaa I need help. a while ago, I joined this thing for scratch because i was just getting really bored of scratch and stuff. I was on it for a few days and it was fine but then i stopped going on it for a bit because i was really busy. I come back today, and it’s complete chaos. theres this guy posting really really inappropriate pictures, joking about abuse, calling people slurs, pressuring people into showing their faces and bullying them for how they look, sharing people’s addresses, and trying to get people to join zoom calls. oh and saying blm isn’t amusing anymore and it was just a trend. ineedhelpineedhelpineedhelp




    • Okay, report the guy and log off for a week. The app or website will find all the things this guy is doing and they will most likely ban him from the website. For your safety, log off so there’s no trace of you on the profile for him to pay attention to you.
      I’m sorry, Ivykit…but hopefully after being reported, in a week, he’ll be gone*hugs*💛

    • Tell a trusted adult. You shouldn’t have to deal with this on your own, so find an adult who you feel will be able to help you.

    • Like Blossompaw said, report him, and let the runners of the website/app deal with him. Don’t try and call his attention, stay as far away as that person as possible. And like Fallowheart said; tell a trusted adult. It’s the wisest thing to do, instead of trying to fix the problem yourself. Don’t try and convince him of changing, you will most likely be an objective. Log off the website, just like Blossompaw adviced. If he still doesn’t get banned, the wisest thing is to leave the site. It could be really dangerous to have someone like that in the internet.
      Staay Safe *hugs*
      -Crystalsight

  • I AM SO CONFUSED.
    So the teacher made like half the class look dumb because one of the questions were Are All even numbers composite? And like a monh ago, she said 2 was composite but I didnt think so but my dad said to go with what the teacher says. So now, I remember her saying 2 is composite i say yes to the question with half of the class. Now she’s saying 2 isnt composite at all! That’s what I believe but because i hafta go with what the teacher says, I apparantly got it wrong >:(

    She’s just changinger her mind .. so confusing

  • Update on my grandparents: now the lady is trying to SUE them and put my grandmother in court its getting to stressful for them and i hope they can keep the house

  • So um, Im feeling pretty stressed at the moment. If you remember my comment from exactly one week ago, succeeding that, all of my electronic privileges got taken but I’m slowly earning them back. That isn’t the problem though, at school I get all this homework PILED on top of me. By the time I’m finished every day it’s already dinner time. My mom checks the gradebook super frequently, and if she sees anything lower than a C, I get screamed at and guilt tripped and gaslighted. And my mom being very petty doesn’t help. And all of my relationships are getting worse, my friends and I fight often because we’re all super stressed and accidentally lash out at each other, but we understand it’s from stress and we don’t actually mean it. Third, I got my first period in January, and that’s been super annoying. It obviously hasn’t regulated yet, so just when I think it’s left me alone, it comes back like 2 weeks later to ruin my clothes. My cramps usually aren’t that bad, but right now they’re pretty excruciating. And 4th, my birthday is coming up, and I don’t know if I can spend it with my friends.

    • Swirl, I’m so sorry. I’ve never understood why some parents are so hard on kids in school. You’re just a kid, and you’re trying hard! Parents used to be kids, too–they should be able to put themselves in your shoes. So I don’t know why your mom is being like this. I’m really sorry. You shouldn’t have to have so much stress heaped onto you. Would your mom listen to your side if you told her? If you tell her, speak calmly and evenly, not angry. She’ll be more likely to listen to you if you seem more mature, like you very probably are. Hugs<33

    • I’m so sorry swirlfeather! Tbh my dad is the same way except if its anything lower than an A he’ll sit me down and he just talks about it for hours. If it’s below a b+ he’ll start yelling. And I’m also stressed with school espescially bc its online. And uh I cant help on the period stuff bc uh i havent gotten it but uh ..congratulations?? Hehe. Any happy early birthday! I’ve only spent one birfday with my friends. Most of them its just some family. I hope everything will be better soon <33

  • Avatar 🐅🌟Tigerpaw/shine (Tiger Dashing Under Shining Sun/Tiger Shine/Tiger) (mae/mim/mair/mairself, rav/rae/raven/ravenself, she/her/her/herself)🐅🌟 says:

    We’re getting up at 3:45 AM PT tomorrow to take Grandma and Grandpa to Texas. Ordinarily, this isn’t concerning, but they’re going because Grandma’s brother has heart failure again. He’s survived (I think) 3 strokes, and his heart fails pretty regularly. He was supposed to die at 62, so it’s surprising he lived until 70. But his luck seems to be running out. I’m relatively sheltered by my parents, but from what I can figure out he’s got Water Heart (I’m the only one who calls it that, I dunno the real name) and it drained a bit but then it got worse. And if I understand it correctly, Grandma has been actually discussing his will, funeral, inheritance, and other stuff in private because she thinks he’s going to die. Now, that’s not actually concerning, because he’s gotten this bad and actually worse and she discussed his death and he got better after like a month, and besides, I don’t really know him well, so it honestly wouldn’t impact me too much if he died. But I still feel bad for Grandma and I know it’s gonna be hard for her, and me, because I’ll probably be sad about not getting to know him, if he dies. And death is likely, though every time his death was likely so likely means nothing. Just kinda updating you guys.

  • This probably sounds stupid.
    so me and my cousin liked to play on the xbox (not anymore for me cause mine broke 🙁 )
    and there was this guy Ill call him jojo. He would always join or voice chats and say curse words and even if you block someone they can still join. He said the n word to someone. my cousins cat lexi died, which was hard enough without jojo telling us that he was glad that lexi died and saying bad things about her. Jojo would grief our minecraft servers, hed cuss at my 7 year old sister!!! the list goes on. We reported him and got him banned, but he has a new account and im scared he gonna do this to someone else or hurt us again. He also did this to someone else my cousin was kind of friends with. (the kid he did it to was 8 so he didnt really understand)
    sorry this is all over the place and i just wanted to put this somewhere.

    • The internet is very dangerous. And I’m glad you and your cousin got Jojo (i think..) banned. Again, same old advice but….TELL A TRUSTED ADULT. That’s the most safe thing to do, and they will probably give you some advices on how to avoid him.

      Hoping Jojo never appears again,

      -Crystalsight

    • I played a Sim game once and it was full of bullies. I didn’t play the game anymore.

      I’m sorry. Some people suck. I would suggest playing a better, safer game, not because you’re running scared but because you’ve got too much dignity and self-respect to be around such behavior. But if you like the game too much, what I would do is encourage everybody to report bullying without hesitation.

      *hugs<3

  • prepare yourself
    I feel awful about everything. I feel like my friends moved away because of me, I feel like two of my other friends’ mental healths are in a bad state because of me. No-one wants to hang out with me. During gym, we were doing some kind of hand-eye coordination-maths thing in groups, and I asked if I could join a group that my other friend was in. She said I couldn’t, because apparently they only wanted their group to be a trio. So I had to be in a completely random group with people who very obviously didn’t want me there.
    Fun.
    I had a complete breakdown at lunchtime though. I started crying, and everyone was crowding around me and asking me questions all at once and I hate being the centre of attention.

    After lunch, we had to make a digital presentation in a group project, AND BY THE WAY, digital group projects are THE WORST. You’re either stuck with a lazy group, or a huge group that doesn’t listen, or a group that constantly changes things and/or copies YOUR work and claims it as their own. *deep breath*
    And everyone was either yelling at me, asking me questions, or changing everything about the presentation. And then I ran out of the classroom and into the bathroom, where I proceeded to calm myself down by punching the walls 🙂

    I did beat like five people in a race though, and their faces were a picture, which was quite fun.

    • I am very sorry this is happening to you. Not EVERYTHING is your fault, because your friends moved away doesn’t mean that it was because you. I have the same issue as you, NO ONE wants me with them, I am weird, and probably that’s why, but the best option is to tell a teacher or parent. You probably heard this advice many times, but the reason to this it’s because it DOES help. Tell a teacher or your parents how you have been feeling lately, they can surly help you with your problems, or at least make you feel better.
      *Hugs*

      -Crystalsight

    • I’m homeschooled so I can’t first-hand relate, but I’m sorry no one wanted to have you in their team. I can imagine how you feel. I’m sorry your friends moved away. But rest assured, a whole family wouldn’t move away because of you. Trust me. <3 It is definitely not your fault in a single way.

      Oh yeah, group projects are more often than not a huge fail. I can relate there. I'm sorry <33

      Yessss, I wish I would've seen you beat them like that! At least there was a highlight of the day!
      I’m sorry about the trouble. <3

  • Ok, so lately I’ve been really stressed, my family is moving, and everything seems to be going fine, my family is really excited, but I’m just stressed. I feel like I can’t talk about it, but I really want to. On top of that, the music i like to listen to (NF) has been called obnoxious a lot recently by my siblings. My mother has no clue how I really feel. I have been dealing with a ton of emotions and questions, and I feel like if a ask my mother about it, she will just say that’s how the world works. I DON’T WANT TO HEAR THAT! I want answers. Sorry for venting, but Blogclan is the only stable place I have right now.