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Fading Echoes

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  • I’m really worried.

    Next week, I’m going to high school for the first time for like an introduction, I guess? But we’re going to be joining in in classes and stuff, if you know what I mean.
    And I’m really worried that people are going to laugh at me because I have really bad acne for my age, I have something close to a monobrow, and just… because.

  • I’m really sad rn… I’m thinking of my ex-wife Lil (not Lilybreeze to be clear, ty) we had a wedding on an online wolf game and we had four pups but then we divorced because I was battling a lot of the time, and my dad (not irl dad) didn’t like her. We were still best friends but the online game never works anymore for me and idk why but I can’t sign in to my Discord to talk to her again. I really loved her but now I can’t see her at all. I just wish that I could remember what old email I used and my password so that I could sign in. I still had feelings for her too and I could never tell her because she was currently dating a wolf named Rasberry and then I forgot the email and password. After that, I became straight (I think, still trying to figure things out) I really need some hugs rn. Sometimes I just randomly start missing her. :((

      • Lil wasn’t bad, we actually called and were best friends when we weren’t playing our wolf characters. I just really miss her. Thanks…

    • Sending lots of hugs, Dazzle. Online friendships can be so hard and I’ve definitely lost contact with people I wish I hadn’t. I’m sure Lil misses you, too. Do you remember anything from her username that you could look up on the game?

      • Well, everytime I try to join an online game on my wolf game (the only game that I know she plays) I get kicked off and idek why. Idk her discord username either. But thanks!

  • Honestly I feel so depressed, and I know I shouldn’t be but I am. I feel so bad about my dumps of inactivity and I feel like a stranger to the Blog, and like it’s all my fault. I’ve dealt with a lot of loss recently, and I’ve been very stressed with a lot of other things too, and I feel like I should try so hard to be active on BlogClan. I’ve missed the Gathering, and I feel so bad because I was supposed to host a game and I missed it. I feel like I’m an unkind, overly-excited, rude, thoughtless, cringy, obnoxious, self-centered person that does not deserve to be in a loving community like BlogClan, and maybe this is just me being emotional, but I feel like I should just leave. I’m sorry for being a bother to you, you all deserve so much better than someone like me.

    • Cold, you are such a value to BlogClan and we care about you, however active you are. I’ve gone on hiatus and I seriously relate to feeling like a stranger, but you aren’t. Real-life comes before BlogClan and it’s totally okay to be inactive, especially with personal issues going on. I’ve totally forgotten about Gatherings or making posts and missed them, and that doesn’t make me a bad BlogClanner. You matter so much to all of us. From what I’ve seen you’re a kind, passionate, empathetic, and accepting person.

      If you think leaving BlogClan is what’s best for you and your mental health, then we support you. But I promise we don’t want you to leave. Everyone leaves their own mark and makes the blog a better place to be, including you. You’re not a bother and please don’t feel bad for being upset. ❤️

    • Cold you are already a BEST blogclanner. You make people feel good about themselves, give compliments, and share your opinion frequently. No one blames you for not being that active, especially since you have tough things going on. In fact we dont deserve you, you’re too amazing. You’re right we don’t deserve you because you’re TOO GREAT. You can never bother us, and feel free to share anything with us. Thank you for being a part of blogclan. ❤️

    • Coldie, it’s okay to be inactive. Real life always comes first, and we will never be angry or upset with you if you have other things going on in your life that keep you from being here. I’m so sorry you are dealing with so much right now, and I hope it gets better. Plenty of people have missed gatherings, and I’m pretty sure at least two others missed their games. I had to reschedule and later cancel mine! No one is going to hold that against you.

      You are a kind, wonderful, polite, thoughtful person who cares about others. I mean every word of that. BlogClan would never be the same without you, and I hope you know that we care about you and we love you. We all have our flaws, but that is what makes us human. When I first met you, I thought that you were super nice and friendly. I have never seen you be anything but kind and friendly and a wonderful addition to the blog.

      If you think leaving will be best for you, I can’t stop you. But know that you leaving is not what anyone here wants. Do what is best for you and your mental health, and please know that no matter what you decide to do, we will always love you.

    • Cold, you’re an amazing addition to BlogClan, and one of my best friends!
      You are definitely not a stranger. It’s okay to be less active sometimes, it’s okay to miss gatherings, and you’re still part of our family.
      You are an amazing person. I know it can sometimes feel like you aren’t but the truth is you are. You are caring, wonderful, fun, and kind- and an important member of BlogClan.

    • Coldie, it’s okay! Everyone at some point has stages like that, and it’s perfectly natural. As long as you keep doing the things you love, you will eventually feel better. You are an amazing BlogClanner, and honestly, you aren’t a bother.

    • 🏳️‍🌈 Freepaw/flame; He/Him 🏳️‍🌈 IT’S PRIDE MONTH! HOORAY! 🏳️‍🌈 says:

      It’s COMPLETELY okay to be inactive. There is no reason you must be constantly online every day, every night. There is no minimum comment count daily on blogclan. It is not your fault – BlogClan can move quite quickly sometimes, if you know what I mean. If you’re stressed, try fidgeting with something for a little while – like a stress ball. Even a napkin rolled up will work. Try to just take out all of your hurt and pain out and just relax. then, whatever is stressing you will be less scary. You should also try – I know this is a common suggestion but it DOES work – breathing. The gathering is not required. Stress is not required either – don’t let us get you stressed. Real life comes before BlogClan. We understand. You’re NOT unkind at all. In fact, you’re one of the kindest people I know. You’re not obnoxious or self-centered. You’re kind and including, and you help make people’s days. BlogClan is here for everyone – there is no need to be hurt by the kindness of BlogClan. In fact, you are a large part of BlogClan being the kindest community I know. If you left, we would miss you, but if you feel like you would need to leave, we’ll always remember the amazing contributions you’ve made here. You’re better than you think you are. <333

    • Coldie, you are amazing! You aren’t at all a stranger and we love you! Real life is more important than what’s going on online. 🙂

    • Coldie, It’s okay not to be super active! I wasn’t active yesterday at all, and I am extremely inactive over the weekends. And you are an amazing coder, so you have things to do on the wiki, which means you won’t be too active on the blog! You are not a stranger and you are one the most helpful people on the blog. We love you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • Coldie, it’s okay to be inactive. I’ve been inactive on the Blog as well at times! As others have said, real life comes first and it is okay to devote time for that. Hey, I’ve missed many Gatherings – that doesn’t make you a bad person. <3 You've been going through some things, and it's okay to let yourself move through them.

      But guess what? In all the time I've been talking to you and seeing you on the Blog, not once have I ever thought that you are unkind, or rude, or cringy, or any of those things you said up there. You're so kind, empathic, and caring.
      You absolutely deserve to be a part of BlogClan. If you need to leave or take a break for your mental health, then that is fine. But I'm telling you that you are an amazing person and we will always be open to you. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

  • So…I have another dentist’s appointment. If you know me, you know I’m like Chase from PAW Patrol- I’m leader of the pack, yet I really hate the dentist. So there’s that. I also couldn’t sleep last night and had to wake up early, so I’m exhausted. I’ve had a stomachache all day, and I feel weird (if you know, you know) and I’m supposed to be super busy today… I’m just feeling really bad today.

  • 🏳️‍🌈 Freepaw/flame; He/Him 🏳️‍🌈 IT’S PRIDE MONTH! HOORAY! 🏳️‍🌈 says:

    I’m being laughed at because of my name, my culture and my ancestry. I am of Spanish descent, and my last name is a little strange, I guess you could say. They’re purposely pronouncing it wrong. Also, there was a transphobic person I met at camp who was bullying someone. I tried to go over there but the counselor wouldn’t let me, and then I felt like I should’ve tried harder to help the victim. Also, I have a very shy personality, which never lets me stand up for myself, and I feel like even though it’s normally okay, people have seen that I am not as bold as others and target me. The thing is, there aren’t actually people who are bullying or targeting me, just my own anxiety. I’m really indecisive and can never decide what to do, while others do easily, leaving me feeling left behind. I also feel like I’m so lazy, and I try to get everything done on time, but even tiny things (like my NTA, seeing family, etc.) stress me out so much. Also, my parents have recently become much stricter about the internet. I am afraid they won’t let me go to BlogClan anymore, and that’d just ruin Warriors for me completely. So many things are scaring me and stressing me out right now, I just feel like… I don’t know. I might have to be really inactive, I might be laughed at forever, I might be targeted, I’m just scared. Sorry for the long rant. Could I have a few hugs please? Thank you <333

    • That’s horrible Free, but you’re strong I know that you can get trough it. Terrible people are eventually going to suffer for what they do don’t worry. You did all you can, and if you didn’t feel safe helping, that’s okay. Heritage and culture are very important and beautiful, please don’t feel ashamed, and different names are amazing. <3 *hugs tight* I hope that things are easier in the future

    • 🙁 I’m sorry Freepaw…. My last name is actually supposed to be a bad word but idc what others think. I’m asian, german, italian, seminole indian, american, and spanish. I’m very shy too but slowly get into the swing of things which brings down my shyness. I hope that things get better for you. *lots o hugs* Just ignore those other people… ik that you know what’s right

    • Sending many hugs your way, Free. None of what you’re going through is okay at all, and I’m so sorry that people are so mean. Anxiety can hurt just as bad as bullying, and you’re completely valid. You are not lazy. I’m so sorry that you’re stressed and scared. ❤️

      If you do have to be inactive, that doesn’t make you any less of an amazing BlogClanner. You are cared about and add so much to the blog just by being yourself. ❤️

    • You’ll be okay. Everything will ease out. It’s okay to be scared. Names can be chaotic, but don’t let that stop you. If you’re inactive, you’re inactive, and that’s what happens. Don’t let other people get you down. 🙂

  • Im really worried
    Im going to my grandmas house near the beach, and her husband has a cold or worse he has a fever, and feels horrible, but my grandmall get tested on monday, and ive been really looking foward to going (its in july)
    Im also nervous, because Im going to see my cousin, and I havent seen her in two or three years. Same with my friends at the beach
    One of my friends and i haven’t really talked, and we used to be good friends. I dont know what happened

    • I’m sorry you’re worried, Anon. I totally understand being worried about your family and I hope your grandma’s husband recovers quickly and your trip goes to plan. ❤️ If you know any of your cousin or friend’s contact information or social media, there’s no harm in reaching out and seeing if they want to make plans in advance. I know that it can be very anxiety-provoking, though.

      I’ve also really struggled with falling out of contact with friends and not really knowing what happened. You may be different people now after a few years, but that means that you can have a new and possibly different friendship. If you’re both willing to try, go for it. ❤️

    • I haven’t seen my cousin in 2 years either and she is coming to my house in four days ;-; I’m really sorry about what’s going on. I hope your grandma and grandpa get better and I hope that your friendships are renewed when you go. Sending lots of love with this message! *hugs* <3

  • Okay, I’ve been really stressed lately. (this isn’t from the Blog although I do care more about helping and answering to others) irl, I’m always getting responsibilities dumped on me and I already have my own including my puppy who’s been pooping and peeing everywhere and all of my other pets, and cleaning, and trying to finish stuff. I know I’m just a kid and shouldn’t be complaining and it should be my parents who are saying this, but, I’ve just been so tired and I have BLACK BAGS UNDER MY EYES! The Blog isn’t what’s keeping me awake either, I just can’t sleep and the Blog is what I use in my time (also watching Modern Family and Friends) Anyway… sorry but this is dumb. I just needed to get this off of my chest. Thanks for being the amazing people you are. *sigh*

  • I’m really sad at the moment. I had a crush and then I confessed my love to him to which he said that he wasn’t ready for a relationship at the moment because he had just gotten out of a relationship. He then messaged me a couple of hours later about how he talked with his sister and that he was ready to be in a relationship to which I said ok. Then we talked for a little bit about how we were going to plan stuff to do and then he just said “on second thought, Im really not ready for a relationship right now, sorry.” To which I replied on it’s no big deal. I was fine for about an hour until I started to think that it was because of how I acted or something. Now I’m really upset to the point that I don’t know what to do.

    • *Hugs*
      It’s not your fault.
      Relationships are complicated and come with a lot of complicated feelings, which is most likely why he feels unready at this time of his life. Feelings like this can be on and off, which sounds like what he’s experiencing, and it’s not because he has anything against you- he just needs time to work through his emotions.
      I’m sure he appreciates you for being patient and understanding. <3

    • I’m sorry, Anon. I know that’s really hurtful, but it’s nothing you did or something wrong with you. ❤️

      I’ve personally not been ready for a relationship before, and it’s not because I didn’t care about the person or that they did anything wrong. Sometimes people aren’t emotionally or mentally ready to get into a new relationship.

  • Ugh.
    I’m a failure. I can’t do anything right, I’m stupid, I have the intelligence of a rock, and I’m slow.
    And on top of that I’m going to the dentist on Friday.

    • Wow.
      You’re amazing, You’re awesome, You are brave, and you’re smart,
      And you’re great.
      I cant think of anything the dentist is terrible.
      You are unique and great in your own ways, you just need to see it. Whenever you feel like that, just try to think of good things you have done, and how no one can possibly be the same as you, because you are unique and are fantastic.
      *hugs*

    • Hey Minnow!! I can tell you that your not a failure!! You do your best, which makes everything awesome in the end!! Your definitely not stupid, I can guarantee you on that! You don’t have the intelligence of a rock, yours is so much higher!! Don’t worry, I’m a bit slow as well 🙂

      With all things above said, I hope the dentist visit goes well <3 *hugs*

    • You are NOT a failure
      You ARE doing things right every day, even if you don’t notice it.
      Did you know that rocks way smarter than we think they are? We think they are doing nothing, but “at the microlevel, it consists of an unimaginable number of atoms connected by springy chemical bonds, all jiggling around at a rate that even our fastest supercomputer might envy. And they are not jiggling at random. The rock’s innards “see” the entire universe by means of the gravitational and electromagnetic signals it is continuously receiving.” (From an article I found.)
      And you are SMARTER than a rock.
      WAYYY SMARTER.
      You are smarter than something that has “an unimaginable number of atoms connected by springy chemical bonds, all jiggling around at a rate that even our fastest supercomputer might envy.”
      the dentist is the worst, but hey, we all have to do it, and we all survive.
      HUGS FOR YOU! IT’LL BE OK!

  • Im sick and tired of people telling other people my secrets and then they get mad when i tell them to stop!!

    • Don’t trust anyone who will tell your secrets, because they most likely are not good people to trust them with. Instead try writing your secrets down if you need to get them off your chest, or tell the people a fake secret that isn’t true to see how fast they spread fake news.

    • I had told my friend that I liked a girl named Isabella and then they told her in front of two other people, and everyone called me gay and laughed and the school counselor had to talk to me. It really sucks when you trust someone enough to tell them a secret and then they just tell it.

  • I got like two hours of sleep because Luna’s sick and I wanted to watch her throughout the night because it reminds me of R2-D2 (my first cat) and how he got sick and passed 🙃

    She’s going to the vet today though, which is good but also reminds me of R2-D2 and I’m feeling absolutely awful today 🙃🙃

    (But Luna’s behaving normally/energetic, which is good)

  • I am very much questioning my gender right now but honestly I don’t know. It’s not that being female doesn’t fit me, it’s just that sometimes I guess I think that other things fit me better. I have researched different genders before but I really don’t know what I’m doing with this or which one fits me most, and I’m kind of afraid that I might think that I’m one gender when I actually feel like another, and uhh yeah I’m just
    gender confusion

    • try genderfluid? idk i’m having the same crisis, although generally i tend to just go as unlabelled and queer and that works for me. you don’t have to figure it out really quickly either, take your time <3 hugs !!

    • Maybe you’re a nonbinary. Or agender. Or anything else, really! But it doesnt matter what you are, because you are you and we will always accept you no matter your gender! 🙂 *Hugs*