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Needing some hugs right now 🙁
I was having trouble with some math problems, so I started silently crying. My mom saw, gave me a disgusted look, essentially said I wasn’t smart enough, and left the room. She’s currently sitting on the couch right now watching her talk shows on YouTube and smiling her head off. Well I’m glad she’s enjoying herself???!
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*HUGSS* That’s so mean!!! Like what she can’t do that that’s basically bullying what the flip
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Math is annoying and having to deal with seeing your mom smiling her head off?! Oh wow!
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Cookies to help 😀
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I said it before and I’ll say it again, one day I’ll just march up to her and say, “you have an amazing kid right here. Show her the respect she deserves because she deserves ALL of it.”
And then she’ll probably be confused but at least I’ll get my point across
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GO DO IT DAWNY I WOULD HELP BUT YOU DEFINITELY LIVE CLOSER THAN I DO 😭
YES DO IT
*Hugs* That was not okay of your mom to act like that
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*Hugs* Oof- Sorry Reedough, that stinks 😕.
Thanks Mapey + everyone <3
*hugs and cookies* That’s unfair. When she’s annoying, maybe just ignore her?
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I’m so, so, sorry, Reedough. The way your parents are to you is completely unacceptable. Struggling with schoolwork is completely fine, and your mom shouldn’t ever treat you the way she did. And she’s smiling??!!
Try to ignore her, and one day, she is going to realize how amazing you are
and then start sobbing and begging for forgiveness for how mean she’s been to you and you can say no or yes 👿Also here’s some cookies 🍪 🍪 🍪
I’m so sorry, Reedz 🙁 You are not at all stupid for not being able to do those math problems. You can only do things when you learn how to do them / get the hang of it; before then, how could you possibly just do it? Maybe ask your mum to help you instead of making you feel upset or belittling you? After all, how will that help anything at all?
Maybe ask your teacher or friends to help if you don’t want to ask your mum? *hugs*
Thanks Silv + everyone 🤓🤓🤓🤓
Feeling ✨nerdy✨ thanks to you guys <3
FIRSTLY, do NOT listen to a word that comes out of that lady’s mouth. you are certainly not stupid, especially since school is HARD.
Staying in an unsanitary building with a bunch of other kids (some of which need a shower, let’s be honest), having the smallest passing periods imaginable, trying to understand the material being shoved in your face before the next test, cramming in homework at the end of the day while ALSO trying to have a somewhat normal sleep schedule almost EVERY DAY is HARD.
The point is, you’re doing your best, and that is enough. Don’t stress out about math problems so much, either. There’s this cool ai that I could recommend, called Flexi. It gives you steps on how to solve the equation, so it’s a lot more in depth than Google! Or (if you’d prefer to talk to real people, lol) the Training Hollow on BlogClan is pretty helpful, as well, but of course there’s a delay in answers.
Sending hugs, cookies, and ice cream. You can do this <33 /plat
*hugs* that sounds pretty hard! I’ve cried bc of math many times and it always turned out ok in the end. Good luck with your hw!
there’s this really cool college-prep high school I want to go to really badly, but i’ve never really gone to school before? i’m homeschooled, and i tried a year of middle school at this really small place and it basically just made me more anxious. i have social anxiety disorder that’s super bad and I want to go to this place next year but i’m really scared and honestly a coward.
first-world spoiled kid problems but I need advice 😛
hugs to anyone who needs them <33
edit – dang you page flip
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personally, i’ve never been homeschooled before but i can understand the sudden change in environment. it’s super scary to go to a different place (going to a “real” school for the first time– in a while at least). also this is super cliche but make a real friend who is in the school. you only need one but it’ll feel like you have a support to lean on. make your own decisions though, i’m only speaking from my experience and this might not apply to you.
best of luck as always <3
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I wish I had advice for you, but I hope everything goes well!
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That sounds really difficult and scary. If it makes you feel any better, high school is going pretty good for me. Despite all my worries, I found friends and nearly everyone I know has their place. It may seem frightening (especially so given your social anxiety disorder) but I promise everything will be alright. Maybe seek therapy or something else go help you adjust to the change? Best of luck <333
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I relate to this. While a lot of my friends are planning on perusing competitive programs in competitive Canadian and US schools, my own anxiety and introversion has drawn me back from going too far from home.
We don’t really have prep schools where I live, but I looked, and it the way they work seems somewhat similar to the private school I go to. These sorts of institutions tend to be lacking the chaos and drama of public high schools, they have smaller class sizes, and the people who go to them tend to be genuinely motivated to work and prepare for post-secondary study. All in all, if you’re looking for a gentle ease into the way colleges run, a prep school seems like a good idea, but of course, not the only option for a successful career! I’m sure whatever you choose will work out, since you seem like an exceptionally smart and hard working person (:
(Little side note, but you’re not a coward for having social anxiety! We all have things that come a little easier or harder to us. Sometimes, as an introvert, speaking up once requires a braver act than an extrovert speaking up a hundred times <3)
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I believe in you, Amethy <333 You can do it <33 I don't really have any advice, but I can relate. I was homeschooled for like a year, but all my life I've been to a private school, that is set up totally differently. Like, there are three grades in one classroom that normally totals to like 15 people and we don't have subjects in an order we just kinda do them in whatever order we want and we can just kinda walk around and talk to eachother and we do everything on google classroom in my grade, but before it was mostly just materials that we can take out and learn math with. It's just so unlike a traditional school I’m so spoiled
Sending many hugs <33
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sending hugs <33 I wish you the best of luck Emmy!!
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Try talking to a therapist or just rant it out to stuffed animals or something? Ik I have bad advice srry.
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i’ve never been homeschooled, and can’t really relate to this though I do have anxiety and I know what it feels like to be worried/stressed about something as important as this. I can’t give too much advice except that, the worst that can happen is you don’t get into the school (which probably wont happen if you are dedicated to getting in), and the world will not end. Worrying isn’t going to help.
(Sorry this is really bad advice :P)
Feel free to vent to me I can relate to anxiety. And good luck! <3
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I’ve never been homeschooled before, but I understand feeling nervous about the sudden change in environment. I’m going off to college next year, and the complete change in environment from high school is super nerve-wracking. I also have social anxiety disorder, and some days talking to people is harder than almost everything.
In America where I live, we don’t really have much prep schools, but from what I’ve heard it sounds like a much smaller class size with less overwhelm and drama— and like Dusky said, the people who attend those types of schools are serious students and want to improve for post-HS study. If you want a type of school that’s like a pre-college, it sounds like a great idea! I guarantee that whatever you choose, it will all work out in the end. :))
I totally get this lol. I’m 100% sure I have social anxiety as well (but I’m undiagnosed) and it’s TERRIFYING going to a new school with no one you know :/ Maybe just bring a comfort item with you that’ll make you feel more comfortable if you get overwhelmed? (For me I normally bring a book or my notebook that I write in 🙂
PEBBLE
I’ve been looking for you my appendix
ABGHGVHHVB I’ve been looking for u too!
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*huggos* I also have anxiety and don’t cope well with change, but from my experience, overthinking it in the lead up to an event (like I usually do 😛) can sometimes make you more stressed than the actual event. Also I find that bringing a bit of (insert your favourite treat food here) can help you feel better in particularly difficult situations. Good luck with your new school <33
i need more advice than hugs lol
so uhhhh
i have developed a gigantic crush on my best friend who i have been shipped with before. (i got shipped with him so many times it’s not even funny)
and this time im literally obsessed with him though it doesn’t show (im a bit too good at hiding my emotions /lh)
but then, he has a girlfriend. And he has (had? idk) a crush on my ex-friend (that i had to block for reasons, i spoke about this on the last page i think)
so uhm
help me y’all
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*hugs* i get you, it’s happened to me once as well tho it seems a lot worse in your case :’3 I unfortunately don’t have any advice other than wait and hope
they break upthe crush goes away. cry it out into a pillow <3*hugs
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I’m sorry, Silvy. This sounds really difficult. All you can really do is wait for the crush to go away. Maybe look up ways to make that happen on Google ot something? Wishing you the best <33
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Crush problems are seriously hard, I would know cause I think I was in the middle of a huge love hexagon. :pp
*hugs* Do whatever you want, I think? I can relate about the hiding emotions thing, but if you feel really unhappy, as Jackie said, cry out or at least vent. Good luck on your crush problem ^^
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I’m really sorry, Silvsto. That seems really hard. I can’t really give that much advice, as I haven’t had a past experience similar, but I think that all you can do is wait for the crush to go away
or for them to break up. Wishing you luck <3Some of you may have seen my comment(s) on the tavern about going to school camp. Well, I’ve gone, and I need to vent really quickly because it was awful. 😛
Firstly, after the ferry ride from the North Island to the South Island, we had to hand in our phones and then hike 5 hours to the camp (15 kilometres). We had breaks, but still. We rode in vans when heading back down to the ferry terminal to head home, and it took roughly ten minutes.
Ten. Minutes.
We hiked 5-6 hours in hot sun through the trees, just for there to be a quick road there and back we could have taken.
Then, despite being allowed to pick our tent first, me and my two tent buddies ended up with a tent someone apparently vomited in at some point. It was on a damp part of the camp and it smelled bad and there were bugs (all the tents suffered from this, unfortunately).
My tent buddies – who are my friends – also said some things that made me feel insecure about my body so that was fun 🙁 /s
Moving onto activity number 1 the day after we arrived – biking. The ride to the lunch spot was nice, and I chose to walk this bike trail alongside some other people. During the ride back, we took another trail.
It was rough.
One of my friends fell off once, I fell off twice and cut myself the second time, and my other friend fell off and split open her finger. Me, my two friends who fell, and two of my other friends begged to be allowed to go back onto the road to ride, but they wouldn’t let us.
Eventually, they did. They barely let us rest and made us bike up a hilly road without letting us get off to push our bikes up like we had done previously. They forced us to push through and bike up, but I was so tired at that point I got off and pushed it up the road anyway. Three of our group (myself included) were visibly near tears, and they didn’t care. They kept pushing us despite our pleas to be allowed to walk or rest or stop, and made us bike all the way back to camp.
The following day (today) we kayaked which was fun. At 12 pm, we left the camp and basically sat on the beach for hours doing nothing while we waited for the bus to arrive. We had to do this activity with the teachers that involved, you guessed it, exercise! This was beginning to feel like a fitness camp – 15k walk and a 16-18k bike ride, plus kayaking and now more exercise, all in 3 days?! We caught the vans and got onto the ferry home.
We ate dinner and played a card game, and I got yelled at the entire time for every mistake I made.
Later, I got kind of yelled at by two of my friends because they were upset because another one of my friends purposefully riled them up for fun.
I don’t know what it is about me that invites criticism?? But I’m tired of it.
I’m also a bit confused about who I really am as a person personality wise, I feel ugly compared to my prettier friends who all seem perfect, I feel like an annoying and judgemental burden, I am exhausted and insecure, and bruised and sunburned.
I would really appreciate some hugs and support. Thanks <3
I’m sorry you experienced this. Whoever planned these activities didn’t show good sense. Outdoor activities should be fun, not torture.
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I’m so sorry your experience at the school camp didn’t turn out as great as you hoped, Silv. School camps can be a massive hit or miss. :(( I’m sorry that this one turned out to be a large miss.
I get what you mean about the whole feeling like a fitness camp thing. In America we have (not a camp) but a week where we have intensive testing done in our PE classes, and I always sucked at it. It was embarrassing to be the one who lagged behind everyone in swimming, got the worst score on the pacer test, and much more. I get how frustrating that would be, especially if you are athletically challenged like myself.
For the friends issue, I’d recommend texting or calling them after the camp is done and your emotions have simmered down a bit. Tell them that some of the comments they made about your body hurt your feelings and made you feel insecure. Chances are they didn’t realize it, but if they aren’t listening to how you feel, then you might want to rethink considering them as your friends.
Regarding feeling insecure, trust me, EVERYONE is insecure about something— be a part of their looks, personality, or a little thing they do or whatever. But if you really think about it, there’s no such thing as being “ugly”— what you find ugly in yourself someone could find absolutely stunning. This next part may seem difficult, but try to find an insecurity about yourself and turn it into something neutral or even positive if you can. Whenever I feel insecure about how introverted and shy I am, I tell myself that “I’m introverted because I don’t like to waste time with people who don’t lift me up.” That’s a positive. 🙂
And can you think about how boring it would be if everyone looked the same and had the exact same personality? 😛
Hope this sorta helped, Silv. Sending more hugs your way <3333333
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I’m really sorry your not having it. No matter what you think or other people think, you are beautiful. Just because you don’t look a certain way or have certain looks, doesn’t mean you aren’t pretty. If you don’t think you fit a certain beauty standard, you are the best example of a different one.
With the camp, they shouldn’t have made you do things you didn’t want to do. That isn’t okay, I’m sorry <3333
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*Hugs* I’m sorry all of that happened, that’s horrible! I hope you recover from it soon <33
i’m so sorry that your experience was not ideal. i hope you feel better soon <33
aw mannn that just sucks
give me the address of those teachers, i have some stuff in store for them /lhj
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Thank you everyone!!! I appreciate your support so much and I’m feeling much better now <3
that’s great <33
I’m happy about that <3
I’m happy for you <33
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*hugs* That must be SO SO SO awful, all the teacher and friend problems. Don’t get upset when they comment on your appearance, your inside is prettier <3 And you still have many stuff that you are better than them, everyone does. I hope your injuries get better and you feel happier soon!
Awhhhh I’m so sorry silv *huggosssss* <3333
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I’m really sorry about this, Silv. I was super excited for my school camping trip, and while mine wasn’t nearly as disappointing as yours, I do understand your disappointment and irritation. I’m really sorry that they (your friends and the camp councillors) treated you that way, and that you didn’t enjoy it. If you want, you can feel free to vent to me. <3
*hugs* I’m sorry you didn’t have a good time Silv. Camps are meant to be fun, and a good experience. They shouldn’t be miserable.
That all sounds awful Silv, I’m so sorry. Your friends shouldn’t have made those remarks about your body, nor should they have yelled at you in the card game – perhaps you could tell them that made you uncomfortable and ask them to refrain. What they did doesn’t show friendship. And the behavior of the camp counselors (I believe that’s who the leaders are) pushing you like that when you were injured and tired without letting you rest was not good. My only guess is that maybe they thought getting to campsite faster would allow you to recover, but that’s a shot in the dark. Is there someone at the school you could inform about that behavior?
And you are not an annoying and judgemental burden, you’re one of the most caring, kind, and genuine people I know <3 Anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. And I've never seen you but I'm sure you're beautiful <3 That's only fear and/or insecurity speaking, and not the truth. *hugs*
BTW I just came here but I have a whole truckload of homework today and I’m regretting my procrastination on it earlier…
I’m sorry, Fals <3 Good luck completing it 🩷
*hugs* good luck fallowsy!!!
saammeee- 😭
You can do it Followsy I believe in u!
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you can do it Fallows, good luck! *hugs*
Relatable- good luck, Fallowsy. You’ll get through it <3
*hugs* that’s sadly relatable-
good luck <33
you got this! keep your grind on and you will finish your work!! *hugs*
sending hugs <33
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I just spent two whole hours working on something on Procreate—OF MY MOM’S REQUEST—and when I was finished, she took one look at it and didn’t even acknowledge my efforts. All she could do was critisize it and make requests, and when I fulfilled them, she immediately changed them and then accused me of being unfair when I got mad at her. This happened two days ago as well, and instead of apologizing, she started making excuses like “I can’t control myself”.
Hugs please >:(
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That’s really unfair, I’m so sorry :((
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I’m sry, that sounds super difficult 🙁
*HUGGOSSS* Im sorry Reedo, that’s so unfair <33
*Hugs* I’m sorry, that sounds really difficult!
I’m so sorry :(! that must be hard *hugs*
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That’s so unfair, Reedo. I would definitely be upset too. Maybe the next time your mum does this, gently remind her that she is upsetting you and being unfair. I don’t know what type of excuse, “I can’t control myself” is. As a grown woman, she should be able to praise her child’s work without finding every little thing wrong with it.
Remember you are amazing and so talented <3333
Thanks everyone <3 I’m so glad the hug page is here…
*hugs* I’m sorry, that’s very unfair. I hope you feel better. *hugs again*
*hugs* i’m sorry she said those things to you :((
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That’s really unfair and your mom has no right to do that. I’m so sorry for you. 🙁
*HUGGGOS* That sounds unfair, maybe try to tell her how you feel?
Awhhh that sucksssss <3
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that sounds really hard, reedough. Maybe tell her about how you feel? Sorry, I don’t have much advice but feel free to vent to me <3
*hugs* That sounds really hard.
Thanks again everyone 😛
sending hugs <33
Thanks again again Flowerpaw + everyone 🙃
Okay, let me try to start this:
I want to be famous. Doesn’t everyone at one point in their life? But I really, really, want this. My reason is that I’m scared of just living my whole life unnoticed and unseen. I guess I just want to be someone who makes a mark on the world. It sounds really childish and not interesting, but hugs and advice would be appreciated <33
*hugs* and some cookies to help you feel better 🍪🍪🍪
I completely understand this feeling. Sending hugs <33
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i can really relate and i often feel the same way.
in fact, here’s a little poem I wrote (don’t use it please since I’m submitting it for a competition and yk plagiarism stuff)
Sometimes, I dream of
Glory, a stage shining with
The light of a thousand stars.
Is it so wrong to crave attention
To live for a second in a spotlight?
Sometimes, I dream I
One day, might become something more
Than a thirteen-year-old wannabe author
Treading in the ocean and gasping for air,
One day, I might control part of the tide,
Of never-ending words, of
Unprecedented eloquence, of
Heartbreak and healing and heartbreak—
I, one day, might play with your heart, to and fro
And to and fro, as if a cat teasing a mouse
With nothing more than a few smeared blots of ink
On a thin sheet of A4 paper, fresh out of the printer
And the strange power of hallucination.
And I dream of a meteor; could she be me?
A blazing star plummeting from heaven,
Shining brighter than a thousand, a million,
With a streak of burning ice flying behind her.
On impact,
A wave of dust and an eerie silence.
A dent in our humble world, a lingering trace.
A legacy to live on, live on.
That’s a great poem, I hope you win!
This is so beautiful!!!
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That’s totally relatable, tho I want to be famous because of pressure. It’s okay to what to be famous and make a mark on the world, it’s great even!
I get you. I don’t really want to be famous so to say, but I get scared about not making enough of an imprint on the world. That I won’t do anything meaningful enough to be remembered beyond one or two generations. So no advice, because I also worry about that, but know that you’re not alone and it’s not childish or uninteresting <3
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i get that totally <3
i feel quite similar to you often, and part of me wants to make a huge major discovery and breakthrough that will change peoples lives for the better. but whilst it's amazing to have aspirations like that, not being mega famous doesn't make you less incredible. i love that you want to have a positive impact on the world around you, i think everyone should aim to! but you're not unnoticed or unseen. you've made so so many peoples lives better, maybe even without fully realising it! to this day, i still love to think about all the lovely things people i barely know have done for me, and i always try my best to make peoples lives a little better. whether that be helping them with something, giving out compliments (even though admittedly, i'm not great with that because i get too nervous to give people i don't know well compliments haha. trying to get better though !) trying to stay in contact with others, the list goes on with small things you can do. and people won't forget that ! you've certainly made a mark in the lives of many many people - you already have with so many of us on the blog !
*HUGSS* I get the feeling, and you’re NOT being childish!! It’s great to make a mark on the world, and understandable if you want to. Good luck in changing the world my friend <33
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I really feel you! I wanna make a mark! And that’s not bad! It’s great that you feel that way, that you wanna show the world something great! *ugsss*
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I can relate. Everybody wants to make a good mark in the world, and thinking you aren’t able to do that is a terrible feeling. It’s not childish at all.
I get that feeling, I really do. I feel the exact same way. But let me tell you, I don’t know what mark you want to leave on the world – art, science, whatever it is – follow your dreams, follow your heart, and you will. Why do I say this? I think about all of the creations I enjoy – using art as an example, the shows and movies that have deeply helped me through life, the books that I’ve pored over, the music I absolutely adore, all of them have resonated with me even though they’re at different popularity levels. And each one of them still has an active fanbase as it were, and each one of them is remembered.
This is to say, no matter what you do, your creation will make a mark in the world. You’ll never truly be able to count the lives that you have helped, I don’t think. There will always be more people affected than you realize, and in the most profound of ways. I can’t tell all my heros what their works have done to me, but that doesn’t extinguish the impact in any way. Maybe someone will daydream about your work in bed while trying to calm down to go to sleep and it makes them happy, or maybe your invention will bring joy to someone who uses it or uses its concept and they thank their lucky stars for it every day. Especially with our modern world today and the Internet, everything is documented and can be found! Not to mention guidebooks and history books and the like! I believe there’s always going to be people out there who remember you, your impact, and your legacy. The world needs people to make and create and put themselves out there regardless of fear. There’s nothing to be gained from stopping the urge to make something out of yourself altogether out of that fear. The world can never have too much of something’s that’s magical, of something that’s given from the heart. Go out there and do what you love in your life, above all be happy in your life and what you do because that’s true fulfillment, and the rest will follow. *hugs* <3
*hugs* It’s okay to aspire to be famous, or make an imprint on the world, and I’m sure loads of people feel the same.
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I relate to this so, so, so much. However, remember that nothing really matters that much in the end. Maybe these famous people will be remembered for longer, but in fifty, a hundred, two hundred, years they’ll be all but forgotten by most people. You can make an imprint on the world – in fact, everyone does – whether you’re famous or not.
Remember that when you die, it won’t matter if you made an imprint on the world by playing soccer or singing or teaching or being a therapist or being a groccer. Everyone is equal and everyone is eventually forgotten. And there’s some beauty in that – don’t worry about your mistakes, your embarrassing moments, anything like that. You live life to the fullest and then one day you are gone, and there is something beautifully freeing in realising that.
Being remembered does not necessarily show how much you have done to the world. Bring forgotten is a normal fear, it is not childish at all. Maybe write a journal or something to give to your family? For example, I want to write a journal full of advice for my future daughter, then she can give it on to her daughter or grandchild or niece or whatever, and then it’ll keep being passed down for everyone to read. Or you can get a family heirloom (like jewelery), and you’ll pass onto your family members, and they’ll mention you when they give it on to the next recipient, and they’ll be like, “omg great great great great great great great grandma Olli wore this?! It’s so old, that’s so cool!!! What do you mean she had this in 2025? That’s nearly three hundred years ago!!” or something like that.
And and and you should travel and take risks and do cool things, because imagine being able to tell those stories to your grandkids!! And then your life stories being cool stories that are passed on for generations!!
Maybe even make a book with pictures of your family members (yourself included) with summaries of their lives so nobody will ever be forgotten!
I hope this makes you feel better, Olli <3333
I’ve always wanted to be famous too. An NFL quarterback, and it shouldn’t be childish. It’s a personality trait. Maybe you want to play in the womens world cup (since you like soccer), then you should.
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that’s really relatable!! i’m sure everyone has wanted to be famous at some point in their life, to make a major mark in the world. you already have made many impacts on many lives in the world, positively- the BlogClan community would never be the same without you, Ollipop, and I’m sure it’s the same irl <33
Thank so much to everyone who gave me hugs or advice, this warmed my heart <333
Hi guys, I’d appreciate some hugs and/or advice 🙁
I feel kinda bad coming on here again the day I come back from my blog break since I’m on here so often but oh well.
1. So today my parents switched where me and my younger brothers (who are still in car seats) sit. No big deal right? Well for some reason, I’m not sure why, it sent me into a mental breakdown. I’d always sat on the right big seat since I was like 2 years old. My youngest brother in the middle, my middle brother on the left. But now I’m in the middle squished in between them and I have no room and my brothers both have these giant seats. Anyways I just kinda freaked out and almost started crying. I don’t really know why it sent me into a breakdown when much harder/worse things I’m just kinda apathetic at :/
2. People who have seen many of my posts on here know that my mental health is pretty bad. I’m 100% sure I have social anxiety, but I’m undiagnosed. (I don’t want to be that person who self-diagnoses for attention but I’ve been researching for like 3 years) Anyways next year I have to leave the school I’m at now bc it’s only Pre k-8 (I’m in 8th) It’s really hard because my class only has 5 people including me, and we’re all really close. Their all going to the same school, which is the school I want to go to, but my parents might make me go to this other school like 40 mins away. I think part of it is due to my parents thinking that my friends (who are all LGBTQ) “influenced” me into being lesbian so they don’t want me to be around them. If I have to go to this other school it’ll probably be terrible for me because 1) I can barely function in places were I don’t have anyone I know or trust, 2) My friends are pretty much my only support system (besides BlogClan) and 3) School and my friends have always been my safe place, but my dad works at this other school so I’ll constantly feel like he’s watching me.
Anyways, thanks for listening to my rant that got WAY longer than I thought it would be lol. Hugs to anyone who needs them! I hope you all have a great day 🙂
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Omg I’m so sorry pebbles that all sounds so hard <33333 I’m so so so sorry about you having to go to a different school to your friends, I hope y’all can stay in touch, and no matter how awkward you might think you are you will make friends eventually. *huggssssss*
*hugs* Hopefully they let you go to the school you want!
I’m so sorry, Pebs. I can only imagine how upsetting this must all be.
Firstly, maybe try to explain your feelings about the car seat to your parents? It makes perfect sense that you would be upset about this – you’ve sat in the great seat since you were two and now you’re squished in the middle! Try to let them know why it upsets you and ask them to change it back.
Secondly, I would definitely try to explain to your parents how nervous you are and how upset you’ll be if you can’t be with your friends. Basically explain to them what you said in your above comment to us, but maybe elaborate more on the lesbian thing to be like to your mother, “You being married to a man who obviously has an attraction to women doesn’t make you like women, does it? So why would me bring around gay friends make me lesbian? It’s just who I am,” or something like that. I hope this helps!!! *Hugs*
Aww I understand how you feel for 2) because my mom also thinks some of my friends have a bad influence on me, you’re not alone Pebs <3
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*huggos* i’m so sorry pebbs, that all sounds so hard :'(
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1. It’s not weird being upset when things you are used to suddenly change.
2. Uhhhh sounds annoying :c Maybe talk to them about how you feel?
sending hugs <33
*HUGSS* Fight for your will, my friend <33
Hugs would be appreciated I’m scared to go back to school on Monday :'(
So basically, there’s been some really intense drama in my friend group. My friend, who I’ll call Sagepaw, has been really hurtful to my friend who I’ll refer to as Beepaw. me and my other friend Ashpaw confronted him about it, and kinda made me and Beepaw have a mental breakdown. Since then, I’ve been thinking about it and I really don’t want to go back to school next week. Ashpaw has contacted me and we’ve been discussing it but Beepaw doesn’t have socials and we hope he’s doing okay.
Tips or hugs pls?
*hugs*It must be hard, sorry that I have no advice but you sure are a good friend ^^
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I’m sorry this is happening with you and your friend. Maybe talk to Beepaw, and try to get him to talk it out with Sagepaw? I know that it might seem like you are being a bad friend, but it’s not you. So just try to help Beepaw as best as you can. <3 (sorry this is not very good advice)
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I would highly suggest leaving Sagepaw. They are clearly toxic and not a good person to be around. Maybe just start your slightly smaller friend group with Beepaw and Ashpaw. I hope everything works out <33 Remember you have two friends on your side and Sagepaw has no one. You’ll be okay, I know things like this can feel like they are the end of everything but you’ll come out the other side ❤️❤️
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*Lots of hugs*
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I am turning 12 tomorrow, which means I’ll be treated as an adult in many aspects, and that makes me scared :’)
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As a twelve-year-old, I act like a five year old and no one treats me like an adult. You have nothing to worry about 😛
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I totally get why that feels scary! If you feel like too many adult responsibilities are being put on you, then maybe remind your family that you’re only 12 and need them to lay off. Happy early birthday by the way <33
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*hugs* I understand that can be scary <33
sending hugs + happy bday <33
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I understand how being treated as an adult is scary! If you think that your parents are giving you too much adult responsibilities, maybe tell them?
And happy birthday <3
This is a pretty stupid thing to come to the hug page about, but after the Ohio State game, I just got really angry at the Michigan players for how they celebrated the win.
Basically after they won, they tried to put up a flag in the middle of the stadium. That’s just not cool man. After you win a game, you go and celebrate with your team. You don’t put up a flag, that’s just wrong. The worst thing is that they said that Ohio State just “didn’t know how to lose”. They know how to lose, you just don’t put a flag in the middle of a logo. Then the entire two teams got into a physical fight and it was terrible. Coming from me, a super competitive person, it’s just a game. You don’t have to go that far.
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That sucks! I don’t watch sports but you have the right to be angry at the Michigan players. Hope you feel better soon Frogpaw <33
sending hugs <33
*hugs* and this is coming from me, a super-competitive MICHIGAN FAN who is VERY HAPPY we won, and i totally agree. sports shouldn’t go that far, and fights are awful :((
*hugss* I totally agree, and I’m a Michigan supporter :’/ fights are awful
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I’m sorry. That was such an extreme reaction for two teams to have over a game, and Michigan shouldn’t have acted that way.
Sooooooo uhm, I guess I’m just… confused. Very confused. If you’ve been here for a while you must’ve seen me yapping about my crush. But now… idk. Everything about my relationship with her is just confusing me right now. First, I’m not entirely sure if I still have a crush on her. Since we’re in the same class, she’s gone from this special, elusive person I missed and I looked forward to seeing every time, the only person at school who seemed like someone who was always there for me, to a person I see every day in the boring, annoying class atmosphere, who pays way more attention to her bestie than to me, and who isn’t the only real friend I have anymore now, and I know it seems bratty to love her less because of that, but it’s not that I love her less, I love her in another way. I love her as a person I like talking to, and as a person I know cares about me, and as a person I love a lot as a friend, but the romantic stuff kinda went away. But not totally. I don’t know if it’s still there. Maybe. I don’t know. I really don’t. Something I’ve been thinking about a lot these days is: ‘Would I have a crush on her if I hadn’t met her at the school play, but this year in our class?’ And mist of the times, I think the answer is no. But then again, if it is because of the school play that I have a crush on her, that doesn’t mean I can’t still crush on her now. So do I have a crush? Maybe. The other thing that confuses me is the fact whether she likes me back. I know pretty sure that she used to have a crush on this boy that’s in our class too, and I have to admit it kinda made me hate him. It made me hyperfixate on all the annoying things he does, and even tho I wouldn’t have liked him anyways, I’d probably just be like: ‘Eh, he’s kinda annoying’, and not ‘OMSC I HATE HIM!!!’ But anyways, it’s still possible she’s bi or pan or used to be straight and became lesbian like me. And she does act like she has a crush on me too. But maybe that’s just my imagination + a good dosis of wishful thinking, again I don’t know. I’m also confused on whether I want romance or not. On one hand, I just think it’d be a great feeling to know there’s a person who will always be there, and who loves you, but on the other hand, I’m kinda like: ‘I don’t know, maybe not.’ As you can see, I don’t know yet again. And last thing I’m confused about is whether I’m mad at her and her bestie or not. Bc we’re in Greek class with five people, and at the start, my crush-maybe-not-crush-but-whatever and her bestie always sat next to each other, until our teacher said it’d be funner for the others if we wisseled every week and we did. The ethos was great for a while and I really enjoyed Greek class. But now, they decided to sit next to each other again, EVERY. SINGLE. WEEK. And one of the other people in our class is really angry at them now and lets us all now, and while I’m kinda mad too, they are my friends, and I don’t want a fight with them. And also, if my bestie was in Greek class, I’d want to sit next to her often too. But still, not every class. I just think it’s a bit childish and egoistic of them. But I’ve also told myself that every person, even my crush (or maybe not my crush but whatever), and if I’d want to be in a relationship with her, I’d have to learn to live with them and accept them. But still, this makes me really sad and angry. I thought she liked me, and I didn’t expect her to want this. But she’s still nice to me, and her bestie too, and it’s also her bestie who had the idea and I get that she doesn’t want to speak up to her. I just really don’t know anymore help me😭😭😭
*hugs* Regarding the crush part, I’d recommend just letting things play out. Maybe you still have a crush on her, maybe you don’t, and either way is natural–we can’t control our hearts. Try spending time with her and let things develop, and see where they go?
About the second part, I’d suggest talking to her about how you feel. She might not realize how you’re feeling right now, and in my experience an honest but non-judgemental conversation to clear things up often helps.
*HUGSS* I can’t really relate, but my honest advice is to just keep going as usual, you’ll find out eventually whether you’re still crushing on her or if your feelings have faded <3
sending hugs <33
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I’m sorry, Fallowsy! This seems like a complex situation. Maybe just ask yourself if your crush-not-crush asked you out, would you say yes? Take your time to think about it. It’s completely alright if your feelings for her have become platonic. I don’t have much advice for everything else unfortunately, but good luck!!
I have been suffering from chronic voice and throat issues and pain for a little over two and a half years, and I am utterly sick of it. I injured myself singing a Broadway song for hours straight without any rest, and then through my injury performing the song on my concert night. And I did all this deliberately – my first injury, I knew I was in pain, I knew it was bad to continue, I kept going, and I wish I could go back and tell myself just how much that decision has cost me. I still haven’t forgiven myself for doing that and I don’t know how to. There’s more to it but I won’t get into it, but I will say what’s happened since then has been crazy, including my tonsils being swollen for a little over a month straight from the initial injury to having to be put on a liquid diet (only for a few weeks, but I digress) to going completely mute (and I do mean mute, not even saying “Mm-hmm”) for a solid two months. Whenever I still talk for too long, I get sore and have to stop. I just talked to a friend for a little under two hours this afternoon, it’s almost 9:00 p.m., and I’m still sore. Doctors can’t figure out exactly why – and no, I can’t get a camera down my throat to look because it’s so tight that I’ve been professionally recommended against it.
That being said, there have been positives. I’ve been able to talk more and more for the first time since I can remember – I usually don’t get as sore as I am today, those days are becoming less and less frequent. I’ve even been able to start humming exercises again, which – even just hearing my singing voice through one note every night has been such a joy and light to hold onto. I’m working with a fantastic physical therapist who says she has helped singers before and believes I can make a full recovery. It’s just hard to not spiral down all my doubts and what-ifs.
I miss singing dearly. I miss it so, so much. Not only that, but how hard is it to get through life without being able to speak very well? It affects my schoolwork – I have many assignments to finish but I’ve been lagging behind on them because I’m distressed. I think what worries me is that I may not be able to find an answer to why this is still happening – why am I getting chronic inflammation when I speak, if my initial injury happened that long ago? And I went silent for two months straight? What is there left that hasn’t healed, and why? My mom believes that having no answer won’t affect my healing, that we just continue to work on me and make progress until I don’t get pained anymore. I wonder how I can be healed if we don’t know exactly, precisely what’s causing the trouble, though she says there may not be a way to find out. Either way, I just want out, I want out of this whole ordeal and I don’t want this to plague me ever again.
Thank you for reading this, I know it’s a lot, I just needed to get it out. I know it sounds terrible, but like I said, there have been positives. Though there are better days and harder days, my better days are becoming more and more frequent. I guess it’s just hard to deal with the fears at times – it’s hard to believe going back to a normal life of speaking and singing is in my future, even though people around me promise that it will be.
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Awww Snowy I’m so sorry that happened to you! I can’t imagine how I would feel if I couldn’t sing, let alone TALK. I hope you have a super speedy recovery, or at least as fast as possible! <3
Your voicebox just needs healing. Although I am no nurse, my grandma is and your injury is nothing compared to the horrific ones she’s seen or fixed. Best of luck and lots of cookies.
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I’m sorry that this is happening to you, Snowy <33 I don't have much advice, but I do hope you have the fastest recovery as humanely possible!
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I’m so sorry, Snowy. I find it’s remarkable how positive you remain through all of these challenges, you’re such a ray of light. Remember that though it’s easier said than done, it is unfair to blame yourself for a decision you didn’t know would end up this way. As far as two year ago Snowy knew, she would have performed and sung and ended up fine. Everything is clearer than hindsight than it is at the time, but wishing you could go back to fix a bad moment is very normal. I’m glad you’re making progress and again, I’m really sorry this is happening to you. Good luck with your healing journey <33
I’m really sorry that this has happened to you, Snowy. I don’t have any advice for you on the physical side, because it sounds like you are already doing the right thing, working with an experienced therapist. On the emotional-psychological side, I think you need to find a way to forgive yourself. Nothing you do now can alter what you did in the past, so there is nothing to be gained by dwelling on it. Learn from your mistake and take better care of your voice in the future. Be patient and allow time for the healing process. I know all of this is easier said than done, and I know that it must be very frustrating for you not to be able to sing now. I wish you complete healing and a bright musical future.
I’m so, so, sorry, Snowy. I can’t imagine what that feels like. I have a slight physical disability that requires me to go to physical therapy weekly, as well, but it’s nothing close to what you have.
This is going to be really cheesy, but all you can really do is keep trying as hard as you can. And don’t beat yourself up about something that happened two years ago- it won’t change the present, no matter how long you persist. It’ll just make you feel worse and worse, and nobody wants that. Past you is not Present you. Focus on what you want Future you to be instead, and try to make decisions to make Future you Present you. (if that makes sense??? LOLL)
Sending lots of hugs, cookies, and ice cream, I hope your better days soon become every day <33 /plat
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I’m so so sorry Snowy. I can’t imagine how severe your throat injury must have been. I had an unknown virus last year that left me in coughing fits for almost a whole month and my voice was WRECKED after that, and I didn’t think that I would be able to recover. I’m super sorry, for we singers our voice is a part of our soul and it’s heart wrecking when we lose that part of us 🙁
It’s good that you’re working with a good physical therapist! Have you considered getting checked out by a speech pathologist who specializes in working with singers that have had vocal injuries (I may or may not be biased here because I plan on studying speech pathology in college :P). They may be able to help you out and give specific tips on how to slowly progress your voice. It does sound like you’re making good progress though, you mentioned you’re having fewer sore days which is a really good sign!
You mentioned that you had swollen tonsils and a very tight throat, have you had a history of tonsillitis or strep in the past? If so it may be possible for you to get a tonsillectomy and get those removed if possible. Many singers have had throat injuries and discovered it was an issue with their tonsils, and recovered from the process.
I hope things get better soon, Snowy, and I wish you the best on your healing journey. 🙂 <33333
*hugs* That sounds super rough, I can’t even imagine how I would feel if I couldn’t talk for that long. Glad things are getting better, and I hope your throat gets fully better soon <3
*HUGSS* That sounds really hard, Snowy, I’m really, really sorry <33 As a relatively loud person at times, I can't imagine what it would feel like to go mute for two months, and then have a bad throat for such a long time! It must be awful <33 I hope you'll recover as quick as possible!!
*hugs* i’m so sorry about that, Snowy. wishing you a speedy recovery <33
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*hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* I’m so so so so so so so so so sorryyyyyyy! That’s sounds awful! I’m a very chatty person and do lots of activities that involve my voice Im in my school’s concert choir and on the Speech and Debate team and those are pretty big parts of my life. I’d be devastated if that was all taken away from me. 🙁 🙁 🙁 wishing you a speedy recovery <33333 ❤