The Hug Page

The Hug Page is here. Because, even in a brand new blog, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…

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  • Why do all of my internet friends have social anxiety, depression AND horrible parents all at once? (At least, that’s what they say

    I try to help, but they never listen. One even got mad at me for trying. Sometimes, I wish they could die already. I can’t help them, and they want to kill themselves, why not do it? But I know this isn’t going to help. But I can’t help. I’ve wrecked my room twice over these issues, and sometimes scratching myself over it. My parents are starting to get suspicious over all that, but they also disapprove of the internet in general. If I told them, they’ll just tell me the internet is a horrible place and ban me from going on. I feel like I’m stuck in a corner right now.

    But what if none of its true? What if they’re faking it all, for attention? What if all they want is the chance to yell at someone and feel satisfied? Why am I thinking these these thoughts about my so-called friends?

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    • I’ve come across many people that in fact are faking the depression, horrible parents, and the social anxiety yadayadayada.

      Here’s what I’ve learned:

      People with depression/anxiety that ACTUALLY HAVE IT don’t usually have awful parents. They instead think they do as their outlook on situations may be different. But I’ve also found that people that actually have it will not want to talk about it to others and will usually keep quiet. They may seem down but unless you’re VERY good friends with them they will NOT mention that they are depressed or have anxiety.

      Some of them probably are faking it. I knew someone once who would NOT stop talking about how depressed he was, his constant attempts at suicide. I once asked him to stop joking about suicide (as I have had a friend who’s struggled with that, she’s doing better now) and he got mad and refused because apparently because he’d attempted it once he had the right to joke about it. I finally ended things when he started drinking something that he said would make him puke. I figure he was bluffing about it all because of how absurd all of it was, but it doesn’t matter even if he wasn’t. I can’t help him. I’m not close with him, I don’t know him irl, I didn’t know what he even looked like! It’s up to the people around him and his parents to find what he’s doing and help him there. Because I can’t.

      It’s tiring trying to help someone who thinks these things. Exhausting. Unless you think they’re not faking it and are genuine, don’t waste your time talking to them. Distance yourself and eventually stop talking to them. Don’t listen to their threats that they’ll kill themselves if you don’t talk to them. Because they’re most likely bluffing and even if you tried to help they wouldn’t listen. If they really are then you can’t help them a whole lot, and it’s just up to the people around them to recognize what’s going on.

      I really hope this helped and I’m going to be praying for you, that’s really stressful 🙁 I had to type this quickly so disregard anything that doesn’t make a whole lot of sense.

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    • I’m sorry Blizzard. I don’t think you should assume they don’t have those problems if they’re telling you they do. You said they’re internet friends, so maybe they feel more comfortable talking to people about those problems. I know it feels like you can’t do much, but you have to try to be there for them.

      I know you’re doing everything you can, and you’re in a tough situation, but try to continue to be there for your friends. If they have those problems, they should probably be talking to a doctor or a trusted adult, who can help deal with the situation better (if they can talk to them) because depression and social anxiety are actual mental illnesses, and bad parents is also a large problem.

      Sorry if that sounds really confusing, I’m not the best at advice

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    • Wishing someone would die is never the right answer! However, I know you’re only saying that so we can understand just how frustrated you are. We all have dark thoughts occasionally; we just can’t let them get the better of us! Never lose your compassion. 😀

      Now, my advice to you:

      1. It seems like these relationships are making you stressed out. That’s no good! Distance yourself from these people! I know you might be hesitant to, but if they’re your true friend, wouldn’t they want you to be happy too? Talk to those who make you smile, make you laugh, comfort and support and send you lots of cute animal pictures. 😉 Don’t get caught in a whirlpool of negativity. You don’t deserve that. You deserve so much more. (Footnote: having a friend who is depressed/suicidal is fine, of course! — oh gosh, I hope I didn’t make you assume I think otherwise! — but when it comes to the point where they’re seriously affecting your state of mind (and making you scratch yourself!) it’s time to let them go. You can’t fix people, but you can help them, and ultimately they’ll need to find the strength within themselves to heal.)

      2. Unless there are major red flags, I believe you should always take someone’s suicide/depression seriously. Nevertheless, yes, there are emotionally manipulative people online who will abuse your friendship and try to blackmail you and whatnot. I would really, really, really highly recommend and consider googling about this stuff. It’s really interesting and can be an eye-opener.

      3. You can be my friend. 🙂

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    • I’m so sorry this is happening to you Blizzard, I’ve been in these situations and I really understand what you’re going through! There are a lot of people out there who try and manipulate you, so I suggest you quietly remove yourself for from the situation. But just in case they are being real, make sure an adult knows about the situation. Research their possible condition before you go and make sure you feel comfortable in the state you are leaving them in. Please, do no tear yourself up over this, and I will be praying that this situation works out <3333

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    • Yikes. I’m not very experienced in this department, but there are definitely people out there who will fake it for attention. :/ If they’re really stressing you out, avoid going on the site where you meet them and go to a site with other friends/content that makes you happy. I’m not suggesting you quit the site, but if they’re causing you grief, try to avoid them, especially if it seems to be really overdone and fake. If you do decide to keep meeting them/they corner you, just be sympathetic, offer what advice you can, but don’t let them force you into giving them whatever. Let them know that you’ll be there for them, but you won’t be blackmailed into giving them overattention/stuff. And I really have no experience here, so I’m sorry if that was terrible advice. *huggles*

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  • ok so at my school they have boy scouts and everything sounds super awesome( i love nature, surviving in wilderness, widdiling[however you spell it],woodworking, archery, making fires, first aid, etc.) I love wild animals too.and I’m dying to do it but it is only for boys. I can’t even do any of the stuff because i live in a city and there’s no wilderness to go into( i really like country better):( 🙁 :(I’m so jealous

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  • I feel sort of complainy. This is my second hug page comment in less then a week. *sigh* anyway, so at my schools camping trip, my friend(she’s on BlogClan but not to active) Autumnpaw, whose grandmother has very serious cancer, was sick, and was breaking down into tears because she was so worried about her grandma, so I hugged her a lot… Now I’m sick. I considered calling home like five times today because if it, but I fought it out, because if I miss a cross country practice, I won’t be able to go to the meet that was supposed to be on Wednesday. But during cross country practice we found out that the school who was hosting the meet canceled suddenly without any warning, and now the meets at a diffrent school, on Thursday, which is the same day as leadership, and at the same time. So now I won’t be able to go to leadership till October. :I I think I might have to stay home tomorrow, which I really don’t want to do, but I might have to if I want to even run in the meet. Also my friend Snowpaw went home during the first period because the girl (Brackenoaw) who has been harassing me and my friends for a year now, said some really mean things. I hope she’s okay. She’s never gone home because of Bullying before. Anyway, yeah, sorry for being so dramatic lately. 🙁

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    • Aw… I’m sorry! *Hugs* And you really don’t have to apologize for complaining! That is what the Hug Page and BlogClan are here for! I hope you feel better soon!

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    • I’m sorry! *huggles* It is not complaining, it’s not being dramatic. Is Snowpaw doing okay? Does anybody know that Brackenoaw is such a…… um. Is there anyone who can help her???????????

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    • You’re not dramatic, it’s fine to have problems! Personally, I recommend you do take the day off tomorrow, if you need a break, take it! Also, try texting Snowpaw and asking if she’s okay. I hope you feel better soon, and that your run goes well *HUGS8

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  • Today was a half good and half bad day…
    I enjoyed the way there were gray clouds in the sky for five hours (Aaaaa its just so calming and relaxing <3 ) and had KFC for the second time buttttt
    too bad PE had to have students choose a partner every single time they go to the fitness center (and choosing partners is always what gets me in a grumpy mood but walking always calms it down 😛 ) and all of the gate students have to do the History Day project for two months… although no one knows how relieved I am that I can work on it solo! 😀
    (seriously i just hate partner stuff that it made me hate school even more because im not used to speaking to people anymore after having friends that kept on moving away)
    but omg
    it
    rained
    for
    a
    little
    :OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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  • I’m so upset right now…. My cat Misha was gagging and throwing up earlier and now he’s missing. Mom says that cats hide when they are dying. Someone blamed it on me because I left out some cake supplies. Later, I saw another kitten of my vomiting this white stuff. After two bouts of vomit, she was fine. It’s been since yesterday morning, but MISHA STILL WON’T COME OUT OF HIDING. What do I do? What if he dies??????????

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    • What kind of cake supplies were they? I’m sure Misha will be okay. Does Misha have a favourite treat/blanket/etc you could lay out to try and lure him out? If you can, I’d see how he’s doing and take him to the vet, especially if he ate any of those supplies that could’ve been poisonous. *Hugs* I’m sure you’ll find him 🙂

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      • Um, marshmallows, skittles, mnm’s, Vegtable oil, frosting, and food coloring. Thats what I left out I think. My mom says she found him in the closet yesterday night, but he won’t come out and I haven’t seen him yet. I dunno if he’s even alive, or even in the house! Thanks for the hug.

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        • Unless he’s allergic, the only thing that I can think of that would’ve hurt him is the M&Ms. It depends on how much he ate. The oil might’ve upset his stomach too. I’m not sure what advice I can give you besides if you can, take him to the vet. You could also call the vet and see what they say?

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    • Oh no! Take the kitten to the vet, I don’t know the behavioral norms of cats, because my whole family is allergic, but don’t feel bad. Don’t blame yourself okay?

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      • Thanks, I guess it’s not my fault. I’d take him, but my family doesn’t have alot of money, and mom said he’s not allowed out of the closet yet if he’s hurting.

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    • My cat isn’t very stable and she can only have one type of cat food, and she vomits a lot from other foods, maybe you should try some new cat food.

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    • Try not to blame yourself, but I strongly recommend taking Misha to the vet, just to make sure she will be okay. I will definitely be praying for her <3 <3

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  • Okay…I need y’all’s help on a tiny problem I’ve been having.
    So I have a neighbor who’s my age, and we’ve been really good friends for the past year. But she found another group of friends, who come to her house to play tennis with her like, every day. And whenever I try to say hi to her, she completely ignores me like I never existed. She doesn’t even glance once in my direction when she’s with them. I’ve been thinking about ignoring her back, but I don’t know how that will work out. My mom already talked to her mom, but seriously, I have no idea how that’ll go from there. And we are neighbors, which means I’ll still have to interact with her whether I like it or not. Any suggestions?

    Thanks a bunch! 😀

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    • I’m sorry that you have to be in that situation. I’ve had a similar experience, and it is no fun. My suggestion is to let her know how you feel and then wait it out. If she’s a real friend then she will understand and try to fix it, but if she doesn’t then she is not worth your time. You deserve good friends, and I’m sure that you’ll find more if this doesn’t work out. Good luck!

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    • Aww I’m sorry. Try to arrange a time to hang out, and then explain to her how you feel. It’s always best to deal with a problem face to face, and I’m sure she’ll come around *huggles*

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  • I have finished making today’s Warriors Cats BlogClan Roleplay! It’s loading, but may not be out until late tonight. I think you guys will like this episode. 😉

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  • Okay I’m scared

    Some of you might know that I have an extreme problem with horror movies/stories. I freak out. I can’t sleep and it consumes my life to an extent. Well yesterday my band teacher told us a bit of a story for our creepy piece for the Halloween concert so we can play it better. It worked, but it freaked me out, and I got about 4 hours of sleep last night and that was with my parents. And I’m 13. >.<

    But that was last night, and I survived. But one of my friends just texted me a chain link and it's really scary and tbh I don't want either end of it, but I don't even have 10 people to send it to. 🙁 scaaaaared

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    • Ah, the land of nightmares. I know it well.

      I’m having the same problem, so I don’t have much advice, but I’ll try (these are all things I do)

      – Try getting a brighter (but not too bright) nightlight, so you can look around and see where you are.
      – Put a small lamp by your bed and sit up and read for a bit. I find it can help if I do something to take my mind off whatever it is.
      – Focus on where you are. Tell yourself “nightmares aren’t real. They can’t hurt me. I’m safe at home and nothing can hurt me.”
      – As I said above, just remember they’re not real, and they can’t hurt you.

      *Huggles*

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      • Thanks Icy!

        I actually don’t have a nightlight right now since the plug-in thingy by my bed is blocked by my nightstand, but that and the lamp is a really good idea 😀 I read in bed with a flashlight a lot, but using a flashlight kind of creeps me out when I’m scared like that.

        Thanks, I will definetly try. 🙂

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        • Reading can help me take my mind off things, and when I wake up/can’t fall asleep because I’m scared, it helps me to be able to see where I am. Another thing you could do is play some soft music at night. I don’t like hearing the various creaks and sounds at night, so music helps to muffle those sounds 🙂

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      • I hate when i read/watch something scary. Even though i know it’s not real, it still. I’m sorry, but i don’t have any advice, because the same thing happens to me.

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    • I’m sorry Wavey! I can’t say much, because Im the kinda person who reads Creepypasta (online scary stories) for fun. I used to be like that, now I’m not. Its a mind of matter thing. Whenever something scares you, think of this

      “Tis I,
      The Frenchiest Fry.”

      I dont know about you, but when I’m scared laughing helps. (Okay that makes me sound insane) But it might just work! *huggles*

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      • Yikes. I tried watching a creepypasta video once and stopped a couple minutes in. Not for me 😛

        Thanks! Laughter definetly helps. That gave me a good idea – to think of my favorite funny quotes. Thanks! 😀

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    • Wavey, we all get scared, no matter what age we are. And it’s completely normal to be scared by scary stories or movies, because that is literally their point. They are meant to scare us, and they work on most people. Anyway, just ignore the thing your friend sent you, it’s not worth it to be scared. And by sending it to anyone else, you could.scare them too.
      I think you need something to take your mind off scary things during the night. Read a book or listen to some music, anything that keeps you focused.

      I’ll pray for you! -hugs- 🙂

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    • Don’t worry Wave, I totally get you. I kinda have issues with sleeping at night as well, and I know how terrible it can be 🙁 What I do is try and zone out before bed, and try not to let my mind wander to scary or upsetting things. Try reading books or listening to music before bed and see if that will help. And don’t be embarrassed about sleeping with your parents. If it helps you, that’s all that matters <3

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    • Aww sorry Wavey! Just know that none of what your band teacher told you is real and there’s nothing to worry about! You don’t need to do any of this “chain link” stuff and maybe you could tell your friend that you don’t like that? None of the stuff is real so you’ll be fine! *huggles*

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    • Don’t worry, I get really scared of horror movies and stories at times, too. I don’t watch horror movies, but sometimes I get really scared when I hear horror stories. I don’t often get scared when I’m listening to them, but when I try and go to sleep I get really scared.

      A few things you can do are: turn on a light and read, listen to music, or turn on a light or flashlight and look around the room.

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      • Eh, I doubt I’d have the courage in the middle of the night to turn on a flashlight and look around the room. But thanks, and music definitely helps!

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      • Me too. When i’m reading horror stories, i’m like: “This is cool!” When i get in bed at night, i’m like: “Oh, shoot. Why did i read that?” Lol

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    • For our Halloween piece, my orchestra teacher told us about a zombie who was in love with rosin.

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  • I have the same problem, only not from horror movies. I think this is sort of going to be awkward, but hear me out. So, when ever I get a fever I have these things that I named fobias, and these are mainly things that are small and big, such as dust particles and barbels. and then it just freaks me out and i don’t know why. I told my mom this and she seems to understand, so she told me it will go away with its own time. But, two months ago I was sick after going to a trip and it was really hot so we turned the air conditioning on all day and night. And when we had come home, it was all throwy upy and vomity for me. And then the fobia happened.

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    • I think it’s spelled phobia ^^ and those are completely normal. It might go away, it might not. Being scared really sucks. *huggles*

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      • Thanks, but it should have gone away by now. Its been two weeks. Usually its only one or two nights and then it passes. Thanks for caring anyway. ^-^

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        • Well, a phase usually lasts a couple months-years. The shortest phase I’ve had was around a month and a half and the longest was about 2-3 years (that was pretty bad but I was really little then). It varies. Take it one day at a time. *huggles*

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