The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…
(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)
The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…
(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)
I’m feeling sad. I don’t really want to explain. Can I get some hugs?
Commence the confusion.*huggles* ❤️
~spicy oreos~*hugs* <3 we're here for you!
*hugs*
*hugs* <3
“Rubber quacks.”*huggles*
*Huggles* Feel better soon!
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*bear hug*
You've yee'd your last haw.I checked live chat to see if it was open. It was closed, but that’s not the problem – I read the earlier messages and apparently someone was insulting others and using bad language, and talking about “killing useless cats” and executions. I don’t know who it was, but it really disturbed me and now I’m kind of scared.
I need sirius helpI’m sorry you had to see that, Raven. We closed it down as soon as we could and have taken steps to make sure the user can’t comment again. 🙁
BlogTeam Administrator, LeaderI was gone for three minutes on that chat and came back to find that it was closed and that had happened . It shocked me that that had happened . I’m still a bit shaken but but really relived that that it was dealt with . * hugs *
Running for SW!I was really when it happened and I was just mad and shocked. I don’t remember the cats part, but they did use a lot of *words*. I feel like they weren’t even apart if blogclan saying things like that
You've yee'd your last haw.if it makes you feel better, the “killing useless cats” thing was a different person quoting jayfeather
nvm it was the same person but still just a quote
I have stomach ache and it feels like period pains, but I’m not on my period
going to the toilet doesn’t help much and its been hurting for at least a week now on and off
my parents are seriously considering taking me to the doctors to get it checked because worse case it could be a grumbling appendix, which from when I looked it up is basically slow to happen appendicitis which is not good and might mean I have to get my appendix removed in surgery. Luckily we don’t think its that but the whole idea is still terrifying
Somewhere that’s GreenMy cousin is a doctor and my mom was having the same problem. After some conversation he said that you should change your diet. Hope that helps!
*huggles* I’m sorry Maple <3 I think it might be good to visit the doctors if it's been going on for this long <3 <3 I hope you feel better and I hope it's nothing too serious
It sucks being transgender and a Christian. Literally everyday when I go to church I can’t stand it because no one supports transgender/LGBTQ+ at all, and they act like they do, but they don’t. When we were going through our series on LGBTQ+, the messages boiled down to “it’s okay if you’re LGBTQ+, you just can’t be happy in life because you’re not heterosexual” and “if you’re transgender, you’re not valid and you need to fix yourself”. And I’ve seen some people irl and on the internet treating LGBTQ+ (specifically transgender people) as if it’s some sort of disease and people at my school besides my friends constantly make anti-LGBTQ+ jokes. And it sucks even more being transgender because you have even less of a chance of actually having a successful romance in your life because “you aren’t a proper *insert gender here*”. I’ve literally lost all will to actually go to church because of this, and I really hate going to youth group and church now because I really don’t like hearing about how “I need to be fixed”. My parents know that I’m transgender, and my mom has called me an “it” on some occasions. My mom also outed me on purpose to my grandparents, and that hasn’t helped things whatsoever. It doesn’t help that my parents claim that I abuse them. I’ve told both of my therapists, but they don’t really help that much. It took one of them a very long time to suggest foster care to me, but even then she switched the topic so quickly that I couldn’t even say anything, and she’s still pitying my dad because of the fact that he was abused as a child and that he “cares” about me. If he actually cared, he wouldn’t [mod edit – removed possible triggers]. Not to mention the fact that one of my doctors think that I’m going through a phase with the transgender thing and that I’ll grow out of it and that my dad is forcing me to take anti-depressants, even though I clearly stated that I didn’t want to take them to both my dad and that same doctor. They claimed I had a choice, but I said no and they didn’t care, they still prescribed it. I don’t care if it is expensive, I’m not taking them because 1) they make me extremely sick. I mean, those are side effects but I constantly felt like I was going to pass out and/or throw up each day after taking them. 2) I had no choice in the matter and I’m not taking them if they’re not helping and if I didn’t have a choice in taking them.
[mod edit – removed possible triggers]
No one irl besides Middy and my friends actually care and believe in me any more…and it doesn’t help that I have an algebra final next week too. But I already know that I’m going to fail it, because I cannot do most of the math we’ve done this second semester besides the stuff we’ve recently done. I barely understood most of the first semester, and I got a D- on it. I already know I’m getting an F-, don’t tell me otherwise because it’s true and we all know it (I have proof that I’m willing to share because I really don’t understand any of it, and my teacher isn’t any help; “checking the video” will not help, the person making the videos doesn’t explain anything at all). I also have a science test that same day (I believe) and I hardly know any of it. My friends who are in the same classes never help me at all, they’re usually busy doing their own work or helping each other, and I’m stuck with understanding nada. And yes, I’ve tried asking them for help but they never listen to me at all, and like I’ve mentioned, the teacher doesn’t help either. (I already know I’m retaking algebra next year. Saying that I’ll do good on the algebra final will not make me feel any better, do not say it because that just makes me feel worse about it.)
All of this has led me to believe that I’ll probably be a high school dropout right after freshman year starts. Any actual advice is appreciated, specifically towards the situation with my parents, I think I’ve made it clear that positivity with the algebra situation will not work, because I am not smart. Don’t say I’m not dumb, because that seriously is false…I’m not smart and that’s the truth. And that just makes me feel like I’m stupider than I already am. So don’t.
uSE thY lIMBs tO uNMotIOnHazy, please call the police or a helpline or Child Protective Services or anything like that. You need to contact someone who can get you and Middy into a safer environment and away from your parents. And keep talking about foster care with your therapist – if she mentioned it once, she might be able to have a more full conversation about it with you if you continue to bring it up.
You’re not stupid. Your grades don’t determine your intelligence or value as a person, okay? People learn in different ways and at different paces, and that’s okay. It doesn’t make you stupid or dumb or anything – it just means you might need to be taught a different way or to spend a little more time on the concepts you don’t understand. I’m always here to help with math if you have questions, and I’ll try to help explain as best as I can. But just remember that it’s okay to not entirely understand something immediately! The number of times I’ve sat in my math class this year and had absolutely no idea what was going on is astounding. And it’s taken me quite a bit longer than some of the other people in my class to understand what’s going on, but I’m getting there <3 and I know you'll get it soon
But I'm completely serious about contacting a helpline or the police or something. This is really serious, and if it seems like your therapists can't/won't do anything else to help you, you need to contact someone else who can, okay? In the meantime, we all love you and care about you and want you to be safe. Please stay safe Hazy.
Oh my Hazy I’m so sorry <3
I’m really sorry I can’t really help you because I’m not too comfortable talking about LGBTQ+. But don’t get me wrong, I would NEVER discourage anyone from being who they really are. It is not a disease. You are human, like everyone else, regardless of everything they say.
Also, your grades do not determine who you are as a person. I’m really sorry but I just can’t resist giving some advice… maybe try an online curriculum or something? Again, sorry, I know you didn’t want advice.
AND YOU ARE NOT STUPID! You are a beautiful person!
Hugs!
I’M BACK!(I think)
I’m sorry, Hazy. I honestly had np idea you were trans, and I’m sorry you have to go through that. My religion doesn’t necessarily treat it as a disease, but something someone shouldn’t be or do) , but I still am sorry. *hug*
You've yee'd your last haw.Hazy! I feel so bad for you! Please call child care or even 911. Your living conditions have to change. And you are NOT dumb. My sister got a 220 when she was nervous for the map test. She even through up before the test! But next time she took it, she wasn’t nervous and got a 247! You are probably stressed and with your bad parents out of the way, you will get good grades! I promise! *hugs*
(Commenting because (a) I care and (b) I care)
About the parental situation: since none of the adults are actually listening to you (from what I gather from previous and this comment), is there anyway you can contact people that actually WILL care? (Like Birchy said, and many before her. I don’t know any specific lines but I’d be happy to search some up for you. However, I do not know if that will help or not, because I don’t know stuff like if you have a fully functional phone.) Since your friends are your lifelines here, I’d suggest staying over at their place more often if you can. Getting out of there is crucial, even if only temporarily until you can get out permanently. But, I don’t know much on this, so take my advice with a grain of salt. Just know that I’m praying for you.
About LGBT+ and the church: we don’t often go to church, but honestly, I’m thinking I don’t want to go. I have no idea if this church is affirming, and, given where it is, it most likely isn’t. I’m also in this pit of “having less chance of finding romance” because, as you know, I am also a part of the LGBT+ community. (Currently questioning my sexuality, though I label myself queer and nonbinary.) I often search up queer Christianity, and I have a handful of websites that I skim through that maybe you’ll like. (Note: most are side A, or the side that thinks being gay is not a sin, because personally I don’t think it is. I don’t have a fully formed opinion as of yet though.) If you ever want to chat about being both a Christian and being LGBT+ I will be open for that. 🙂
About algebra: okay, this is also a personal thing, and I completely understand. So I’m homeschooled. My mom doesn’t really pay attention to my schoolwork, just checkmarks it. So, being the lazy being I am, I mostly just do over the same math questions over and over, never learning much about anything. Heck, I probably have a lesser understanding of triangles and whatnot then you! I don’t really have any advice (have I really offered any of any value, though) but I just thought I let you know I’m also bad at math.
So…. yeah. I’m probably just being a nuisance, not really any advice. Sorry.
Hazy, this situation is not good for you and Middy, physically and mentally. Please, as soon as possible contact the police, a helpline or anything that will help you get out of this situation. Maybe try and bring up foster care again, and talk about it more with your therapist, if it is something you really feel will help then please let them know. And if your parents find out, remind them that whilst in foster care you can see your parents (I know you probably won’t plan to but still) and that perhaps a change will help your mental health and generally help you sort out your life. But if you can maybe try not to tell them. Just make sure you can get away to a safe place and somewhere that will support you and Middy
If you don’t want to take anti depressants, please try as hard as you can to avoid taking them. Even if you have to pretend to swallow but keep it in your hand, if you aren’t comfortable with taking medication, don’t. I heard on that anti depressants can increase the risk of suicidal thought, so if you feel like you can cope without them and don’t want to take them then just stop. You shouldn’t be forced to do that.
With algebra I completely get it, everyone has something they find really hard. For me its trigonometry. But what you have to do is keep trying, look up online classes, get shown it a different way. The best maths teachers should have a million and one ways to explain something to you, and if none of them work they will simply create a new way. Try practice questions and just don’t give up. But also make sure not to strain yourself. You learn best when you are well rested and calm, and when revising the best way to do it is 40 mins of revision, a 20 min break and once you have done three revision sessions take at least an hour’s break. Grades don’t define you, and you should always remember that, because with everyone, you always have one person who will always be better, however smart you are. But don’t let that put you down. Just take it as a challenge, and try and stay positive about school work. Sounds cringy but changing your mindset and using yet when thinking actually does help
” You haven’t got the hang of algreba YET”
” I haven’t fixed my mistakes YET ”
I’m so sorry about the church, I get that some religions disapprove of the LGBTQ+ community, but that does not excuse acting cruelly and unfairly to those people. You can disagree with someone’s views and life decisions without have to challenge them over it. Try and stay strong and ignore them, you know that it is wrong what they are saying, what ever people’s views are they shouldn’t be homophobic
Hugs !
Somewhere that’s GreenImma be frank, Hazy. You’re probably my best friend on this blog. You’ve corrected me when I was downright rude, assisted me when I was uninformed and taught me more than I can tell you. Nothing about you can change what you’ve done for me. Listen. All the complaints they have about you are predicated on old principles that are honestly beyond wrong. The schooling system, for one, is an outdated, broken system that was created back in a time when we needed workers and not people. It does not measure intelligence in a proper way. It hasn’t been updated since the Industrial Revolution, and even before then it was faulty. They are trying to “”””””””””suggest”””””””””” their “”””””””””respectful”””””””””” opinions and those are the worst kinds of people. It’s alright for them to not support trans but denying you a choice? That’s absurd! They have no right to treat you, Middy, Cottonkit, or anyone that way. If they don’t lay off it, I swear by Schrodinger’s cat I will shove their own mindset so far down their throat their intestinal track learns what dusty, outdated bigotry tastes like. If you need a private place to chat uncensored, I have a way to set up a chatbox and I can send you the link to a doc with it. Don’t worry about them, Hazy. There’s no reason for you to be malleable to their whims, and whatever choice you need to make is alright.
Where do you find hope?I had a nightmare and woke up at 4 in the morning with sleep paralysis in the darkest room ever. I am severely tired and drained and need hugs to get over this lol. Thank goodness I dnot have a SP demon
You've yee'd your last haw.I feel so left out of BlogClan. I hate myself for saying this. It’s my fault I’m so inactive, but I just hate it so much that I’ve fallen so far behind. I’ve missed signing up for so many fanfictions, I am a part of a few roleplays that I barely comment on… I just hate myself for being inactive.
You are starting to get active in my opinion. But life is more important than the blog.
Star <3 I feel like you are very active i'v seen many of your comments<3 And remember the Blog is not a chore like Silverpaw said real life is more important<3 Don't hate yourself<3
Iron Man is my Fave!I feel the same. Just know that you’re not alone.
Tina is best Scamander.This isn’t about me, but two of my friends, Stormpaw and Rosepaw. Long story short, they say that they need to “lose weight” even though they are pretty healthy already (and I weigh a few more pounds than either of them lol) and have started doing some sort of diet. They have a shared document in which they were going to record what/how much they ate and stuff that they were planning to hide from their parents. And I’m getting a little worried about them. Rosepaw told me that she smashed her finger under a weight and it was bruising a lot. I’m scared they’re gonna starve themselves or get themselves injured one way or another. I’m not sure if I should do something or not. It’s not a secret with my other friends (just the girls in our group though), since Rosepaw and Stormpaw told them about it, so should I talk to them? Should I just not do anything?
And also, not related, but yesterday night my family was on the highway, headed home, and eventually we were on the far left lane with a semi truck on our right side. I was listening to music on my phone, so I wasn’t paying attention to anything. But then the car slowed down really suddenly. I jerked my head up and this deer just materialized in front of the car. And then there was this sickening thump. I don’t know what happened to that deer, but it’s probably dead. We’re all fine. For the rest of the drive home and when I was on the road today, every time the car slowed down even slightly I would look up, almost expecting to see the deer again, when it was just a red light or something. That night, I kept having vague dreams of hitting and killing random animals on the road. And the sound of the car slamming into the deer. I don’t know why I’m still so rattled even though it’s been an entire day, but I keep thinking about it. Am I overreacting? Is it normal to feel guilty about killing the deer even though I could have literally done nothing to change it?
I would suggest talking to your friends about it. It’s not a bad thing to be healthy – to try and lose weight though isn’t very healthy if you’re already on the skinnier side. Keep an eye on them, if it gets concerning I would recommend talking to an adult or someone about it.
And about the deer thing, it’s probably shock and completely normal. Hopefully you’ll be fine soon and forget about the details a bit. Hugs ❤️
wildflowers ~