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Frost on a Crystal who's mad at Winter and the Cold(Frostcrystal, call me Frost)
Frost on a Crystal who's mad at Winter and the Cold(Frostcrystal, call me Frost)
November 30, 2020 10:34 pm

Hi, guys! I love blogclan, and I’m always here like everyday! But, my parents and friends are getting pretty annoyed that I’m going on blogclan 24/7. Ahhhhhhh, I really like being here! So I might be gone for some time, I hope I’ll be here everyday! I don’t know what to do!

Anyways, that problem aside

I’m feeling really weird, no physically. Now that I know a lot of really bad stuff happening, I want to help! I feel so useless! And I’m getting stress from everything I guess! I get unnecessary nightmares and pictures. I’m dealing with life, I wish I was a kid again :l

frost that forms on slate (slatepaw who might be slatefrost in a few years? idk)
frost that forms on slate (slatepaw who might be slatefrost in a few years? idk)
November 30, 2020 11:40 pm

Aww Frost, that happened to me a while ago too
like in the summer, I felt like laying around, doing nothing, and just evaporating lol i felt really weird. I asked for comfort on the hug page, actually, and got very nice support and help 😀

  1. Relax. I get the feeling that you want to help, but the truth is, you can’t help with everything. Do what you can, and be aware that those things are happening, but your well-being comes first! And you’re definitely not useless (especially if you care enough to be on BlogClan this much :P)
  2. Do some stuff to get your mind off things. Are you stressing over the nightmares? If so, really try to not remember the nightmares a lot and focus on the good things in life! I’m struggling with that one myself, but I’ve observed that it really helps to do something enjoyable, lay down with stuffed animals, read a book, or think of the amazing Thanksgiving Break I just had and the amazing Winter Break I will have after the next 3 weeks >:D
  3. Tips with nightmares: I don’t know if this applies with other people, but for me, when I grew up a little and was like in 4th grade, I was mature enough to realize that dreams are not real, even when I’m still dreaming. It’s hard to explain, but I would be able to sense that the world I’m in (when i’m dreaming) is kind of hazy, and if I opened my eyes further then I would wake up. So I would open my eyes REALLY FORCEFULLY and then I would wake up..? (still not sure how it works lol, but for me it does) I escaped a lot of weird and scary nightmares like that before, but I’m not sure whether or not it works with other people. And it can sound stupid, but I think I’ve gotten used to what I had considered nightmares. I now see them as weird but amusing dreams… idk if that’s an improvement or just strange.
  4. Try getting your family members to help you. It doesn’t seem like there are too many family issues (which sounds weird now that i’ve written it), so talking to your parents or your friends can really help! Getting reassurance from people you’re close to can boost your confidence and self-worth 🙂

Good luck!

Slatepaw’s inner foodie says: If you really can’t handle, eat some of your favorite food :3

Frost on a Crystal who's mad at Winter and the Cold(Frostcrystal, call me Frost)
Frost on a Crystal who's mad at Winter and the Cold(Frostcrystal, call me Frost)
December 1, 2020 2:01 am

Thanks, Slatepaw! That was great advice!

Willow that is not taking your Halloween candy
Willow that is not taking your Halloween candy
December 1, 2020 12:35 am

*hugs* if you’re getting nightmares tell your parents for sure. You can help in some ways! The internet has plenty of ideas. *hugs* im sorry you have to deal with so much stress. <3333

Batnose
Batnose
December 1, 2020 3:54 am

Bye Frost/Crystal! I know you probably don’t know me but I’m Batpaw/nose. If you feel helpless, you can help out by maybe you can be safe, (if you can) make homemade masks, or just advise people to be safe. But be safe! Maybe you can hang out with your family and friends for a bit before you get on BlogClan, and you can make more good memories so you DON’T have nightmares. I am younger than you and this feels weird sooo. One last thing, If you can’t sleep, or you want read good stuff before you sleep. Anyway, goodnight, hope I helped!

Silverfeather (Call me Silvy)
Silverfeather (Call me Silvy)
December 1, 2020 10:49 am

*hugs*

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 1, 2020 7:02 pm

Hey! I saw this earlier but didn’t have the time to respond so sorry I’m a bit late-

  1. Blogclan is super fun to comment on and reloading the page for comments can be exciting- but if you’re spending time one the blog instead of one school/family/friends/hobbies then it’s probably best you rethink how you’re managing your time. People’s comments come and go pretty quickly- and anything really important that’s going on would probably be a pinned comment or article 🙂
  2. I totally get not being able to help. Last night my friend was forced to come out to her mom and there’s really nothing I can do. Try just saying you’re there and offer for them to dm you if they ever need your help. Sometimes being there is all you can do. <3
  3. I’ve been struggling with fear of the dark this past week and I don’t know why because I grew out of that awhile I get- but try to listen to some chill sounds/lofi before you go to sleep!
Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
December 1, 2020 12:22 am

I don’t feel like talking about the problem,but I’m dealing with something. May I have a hug?

Cheetahspark
Cheetahspark
December 1, 2020 12:26 am

of course! you’re always welcome to talk about it here if you want, but it’s also perfectly fine if you don’t and we’ll always be here for you 🙂 *hugs*

❄️Moons waning over frosted spirits•Moonspirit❄️
❄️Moons waning over frosted spirits•Moonspirit❄️
December 1, 2020 3:30 am

of course! *hugs* <3

𝓒𝔃𝓪𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓪 𝓡𝓸𝓼𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓶 💧
𝓒𝔃𝓪𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓪 𝓡𝓸𝓼𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓶 💧
December 1, 2020 3:50 am

Of course! You don’t even have to ask <3
*hugs*

falling feather
falling feather
December 1, 2020 3:55 am

you can always have a hug!! *hugs*
you don’t have to talk about anything you don’t want to!! <3 🙂

🎄Christmastreestripe❄️️ (Pinestripe)
🎄Christmastreestripe❄️️ (Pinestripe)
December 1, 2020 6:34 am

*Hugs*

Silverfeather (Call me Silvy)
Silverfeather (Call me Silvy)
December 1, 2020 10:37 am

Of course! *hugs*

Christmas Turtle That Plays In Snow ❄️❄️❄️🐢🐢🐢
Christmas Turtle That Plays In Snow ❄️❄️❄️🐢🐢🐢
December 1, 2020 2:13 pm

*hugs Poppypaw*
I hope everything turns out ok! ❤️
Blossomfall defender

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 1, 2020 3:28 pm

*hugs*

Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
December 1, 2020 3:57 pm

Thanks guys. I’m somewhat better now.

Starkit
Starkit
December 1, 2020 6:09 am

Hi so my bff lets call her Juniperheart she kind of ditched me for 2 other girls and I was really lonely but I still had a whole bunch of friends then but then she sent all my other friends a message that I was mean and a whole bunch of other horrible stuff about me that wasn’t true and all of my friends believed her and only 2 girls believed me so they sent me the message and when I told my mom she told the Juniperheart’s mom a message about it Juniperheart said sorry but she never told all of the people who believed her that she was wrong now the 2 girls who believed me had moved to another school and Juniperheart thinks its over but really the only reason we became friends was because she approached me first and she introduced me to all of my old friends and now that I’ve lost them and Juniperheart talks to me now and then but other then that we’re not really friends anymore and this is the first time anything like this has happened to me so I have no idea what to do or how to get more friends 

Willow that is not taking your Halloween candy
Willow that is not taking your Halloween candy
December 2, 2020 3:29 am
Reply to  Starkit

*hugs* juniperheart is mean 🙁
Im sorry you went through that, that sounds absolutely awful.
A good way to make friends is just be nice and ask people questions and be friendly. *hugs*
💚💜💛

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 2, 2020 4:12 am
Reply to  Starkit

Hey hey it’s ok! Something like this happened to my in 8th grade. I literally sat with one other girl then I asked this guy and girl and if I could sit with them and slowly I just began to have fun not worrying who I was talking to or why… I ended up making acquaintances with a ton of people and honestly having one of the best years in my life so far 🙂 See this as an opportunity to meet new people and to get outside of your comfort zone!

Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
December 2, 2020 6:43 pm
Reply to  Starkit

*hugs*
I’m not good at advice, but I know you come out of this stronger!

❄Snow Covered Ivy Wrapped Around a Glowing Christmas Tree |Ivykit❄
❄Snow Covered Ivy Wrapped Around a Glowing Christmas Tree |Ivykit❄
December 1, 2020 2:24 pm

soo for once i’m on here and just need advice!
first thing: im having a little trouble figuring out what i identify as; am i lesbian, bisexual, biromantic/ace, pansexual, or panromantic/ace?? i for the 2nd problem i feel like i need to know what i identify as first. that brings us to the 2nd problem. i want to tell my parents but idk if they’re like my grandma(doesn’t support LGBTQ+). im 99.9% sure my sister supports it bc i may have accidently read a letter to her future self when she was 14. i just dont know how to tell her, if she’ll take me seriously, and i feel like i need to know if im lesbian, bisexual, biromantic/ace, pansexual, or panromantic/ace.

Birchfoot
Birchfoot
December 1, 2020 5:55 pm

you don’t need to know right away, Ivykit – most LGBTQ people don’t fully understand their identity immediately, because it’s a learning process! and your identity might change later on – this kinda stuff is really fluid. there’s no rush <3 so please don't stress yourself over it

Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
December 1, 2020 6:39 pm

Birchfoot summed it up pretty well, no need to rush! <3 If you’re unsure right now, you could try queer or questioning?

Again, there’s no need to rush! <33

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 2, 2020 4:14 am

Don’t stress about it, stuff like this takes time 🙂 You’ll figure it out eventually <3

Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
December 2, 2020 6:46 pm

I don’t know my identity either! And that’s fine!
You don’t need to know right away, we’re still pretty young!

Flowerpaw (Flower)(Flowermoon)
Flowerpaw (Flower)(Flowermoon)
December 1, 2020 3:15 pm

I have terrible news
I might be allergic to cats
I love cats as much as I love myself
All my life I thought I was free of gene my papa passed down to my brothers
but now I have allergies to…
Why couldn’t the stupid allergies come when I was like 2 and hadn’t formed any personal attachment to anything
I was going to adopt 2 cats, I already knew their breeds and names, but now I’m going to lonely someday when I move out.
I’m just really sad right now.

Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
December 1, 2020 5:52 pm

Hello, cat-allergic person with cats here!

Depending on the severity of your allergy, you could just get watery eyes and a runny nose, or it could endanger your life. I’m guessing they’re closer to the former, as you only found out about them now. That type is easier to deal with (usually taken care of by medicine) so you could still spend time with kitties!

But you could still get hypoallergenic cats! And contrary to popular belief, they aren’t all hairless 😛. I had a Siberian, who was very floofy and very hypoallergenic.

Also, it depends on the cat! My current cat, Luna, is a mix but I don’t have any sort of reaction to her. Rarely, when my allergies are already acting up, I have to dial back the cuddles a bit 😛

I hope you can still find a way to enjoy cats!!! *hugs*

Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
Flowerpaw/moon wrapped up in christmas lights
December 2, 2020 6:48 pm

:O
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 1, 2020 7:04 pm

Aw I’m sorry :c There’s not much I can say except I know quite a few people who are allergic but have cats/hang out with mine. Blueflower gave really good advice!

Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
December 1, 2020 10:36 pm

That sucks,but depending on the severity of the allergy you could still own cats. You would just have to take medicine. Some cats don’t cause an allergic reaction either.

silverbreeze
silverbreeze
December 1, 2020 8:12 pm

cw/tw: cyberbullying, mentions of eating disorders:

so i made some friends in a fandom about a year ago and we all hit it off and became super close. we had fun times in our group chat with the occasional argument, but we were mostly peaceful. but soon things got really tense and it seemed like there were three or four of us who seemed to hold the power in the friend group and there was always someone they’d pick on or run into trouble with and eventually cast out of the friend group.

there was this one girl who they loved to bully mainly because she didn’t understand when they were bullying her. when i and a friend of mine were ranting about how they treated her and agreed to stand up for her the next time it happened, well, one of them had my login because i needed her to check something quick for me and we were really good friends so i trusted her, and she saw this stuff we were saying (we were pretty heated about the people bullying her), she sent screenshots to the rest of them, and she exposed me on the group chat for “talking crap about them”. i was beyond livid and she pretended that she didn’t tell them individually and instead confronted me on the groupchat out of anger and she wasn’t thinking clearly when in reality the rest of them goaded her to expose me and the other friend. things cleared up soon though and the girl apologized and they all agreed to stop bullying the person and being rude and hostile to others.

that didn’t happen. they instead held a grudge against the friend i was talking to and they were also really jealous of her being talented and she never hesitated to stand up to them, so they staged drama to get her kicked out. they made this triggering eating disorder joke and encouraged her to repeat it and she did as she had eating problems herself. they were hoping that she would make the joke in front of one of them who had a severe eating disorder (who was also in on this and used her disorder to exploit someone else) and when she did, the other girl who they constantly bullied didn’t realize that it was triggering and repeated the joke, and all of them in on this plan attacked her and didn’t give her space to explain she didn’t realize and they called her all sorts of insults and she had to take a break because they wouldn’t let her breathe and even then they attacked her for not apologizing immediately (she did apologize though, and she was very genuine and sorry about it). two of us stood up for her but then they got attacked and bashed too and in the end, the bullied girl ended up leaving.

a while after that, there was even more drama and two of my best friends ended up being kicked out because they couldn’t stand how awful some of the people in the group were and and anonymously called them out which led to them getting accused of bullying and thrown out. it was so messy and mine and the remaining people who weren’t part of this toxic group were drained and our anxiety was really bad because as much as we wanted to stand up for our friends, we were scared what the others would do to us. eventually one of them had enough and left because no matter how hard they tried to stop their awful plans it never worked and they just wouldn’t listen. this person told me and another friend that the toxic friends had a secret groupchat where they would plan out drama and strategize on how to take down people they didn’t like or were jealous of because they loved the power rush it gave them.

we’re stuck in a limbo now because we want to confront them but they know lots of personal stuff about the friend who used to be one of them and we don’t want this friend to get hurt and we’re fairly sure some of them changed for the better but you can’t really forgive this stuff easily and honestly typing it out reminds me of how sick it really is. and i don’t think some of them even realize how much they hurt others and they just chose to brush it all under the rug and move on and it’s so infuriating and i want justice so bad but we’re stuck on how or when to confront them for everything. any advice?

Starkit
Starkit
December 1, 2020 10:44 pm
Reply to  silverbreeze

You should try telling an adult

Waffles (Waffleheart, he/they)
Waffles (Waffleheart, he/they)
December 2, 2020 12:06 am

didn’t really know where to put this, but i guess i’ll put it here 😛 i’m still on a little “break”, but i just wanted to update y’all a little bit 😛

i’m trying out they/them pronouns, because i think i might be gender-fluid or non-binary 😛 it’s okay if you use he/him, that’s what i’m used to, but i’d love it if you tried to use they/them when referring to me

in norwegian there isn’t really a gender-neutral term except “hen” which was created specifically for non-binary people, and that feels like too much of a stretch for me sort of? that might sound disrespectful, i’m sorry if it came off that way.. what i’m trying to say is that i wanna try out gender-neutral pronouns on blogclan before using it irl! anyways i’m rambling… love blogclan love the community love everyone i’ll see you guys around<3

🍂 Cheetahspark 🍂
🍂 Cheetahspark 🍂
December 2, 2020 12:11 am

waffle if a set of pronouns doesn’t feel right for you you absolutely don’t have to use them! and I’ll definitely start referring to you with they/them! <33

Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
Potato 🌸(Blueflower)💙
December 2, 2020 12:26 am

Okay, I might be wrong about this, but I’m pretty sure a lot of neopronouns are created for languages without gender neutral pronouns!

This post on tumblr covers some of it! (I can write it down if the mods would rather not have it linked!)

And like Cheetah said, you don’t need to use hen if it doesn’t feel right for you! <33

°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
°•~A Black Friday eBay Sale (Ebonyrain)~•°
December 2, 2020 4:14 am

Cool! I use they/them too 😛

Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
Poppy who is excited for Christmas (Poppypaw)
December 2, 2020 3:52 pm

I’ll remeber to use they/them from now on. I hope you figure everything out! *hugs*

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