The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…
(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)
The Hug Page is here. Because, whoever we are, we still need hugs. This is still the best place to come if you’re feeling sad and need a hug from BlogClan…
(Sh! This is a new Hug Page. You can find the old one here)
I’ll go into a little more detail later but I just need hugs right now.
I wish I wasn’t so pathetic and stupid. I wish I was actually good at something that could make a difference in my life. I wish my parents trusted me more. I wish my sister would stop lying and acting like she’s older than me. I wish I was a better person.
Forgotten StarsStar, you’re not a failure. You’re not pathetic. You’re not stupid. You’re you, and that’s enough, okay?
You’re trying your best and that’s really what counts. Life really isn’t a competition, and you’re valid and valued just by being here day-to-day, okay? I promise you’re worthwhile. I know it might not seem like it, but there are tons of people who know and love and care about you. You’re worth so much to so many people, okay? Please don’t forget that
I’m sorry you’re not feeling valued or cared for as much by your family. It sucks that you feel constantly compared to your sister. Try not to compare you two, though, since you’re two different people with different strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, etc. And that’s okay. *huggles*
I don’t think you can be any more amazing!!!! Star, you are the brightest of all of the stars in the sky!
Remember LifeAwwww that’s so sweet ❤️
Forgotten StarsAw Star, you’re not pathetic and stupid at all! You are brilliant and so so sweet! I can tell you you have made a difference because you’ve made a difference in my days sometimes when talking to you has cheered me up. I know it’s small, but it’s very meaningful. I think you should sit your parents and sister down and tell them how you feel and how much it affects you. You might want to work out a program with your parents where you can get more responsibility in exchange for more trust. And you are a wonderful person. Believe me, I can’t think of any way you’re not. *huggles*
🌊 Queen of Canon Correcting🌊Star, you’re not pathetic or stupid. You’re smart, and amazing, and the best part, you’re you! I agree with Wavey, I think you should talk to your parents and sister and tell them how you feel. You’re amazing, Star, and you’ll never not be ❤️
Insert creative signature here*hugs* ♥️
You’re not pathetic or stupid, and I know at least one thing you’re good at, like giving me advice that really helps. ♥️
You’re already a great person, regardless of what your family thinks. ♥️ ♥️ ♥️
The Election Of 2019, not 1800Star, I’m so sorry you feel that way 🙁 I know it’s easy to feel horrible about yourself. I promise you aren’t pathetic or stupid and I promise that we love you for just being you. I understand that you feel your talents won’t get you anywhere, but at this point? I don’t want you to worry about what you’ll do in the future. If you feel like your talents aren’t helpful, just wait until you’re older and one day you’ll find something that suits you perfectly 🙂
I don’t know how to help you with your parents – could you try doing extra chores without them telling you? I’m sure they really love you and just don’t want anything to go wrong – I think most parents are like that!
As for your sister, even if she acts older, try and act more mature around her. And if she tries to lie, maybe try calmly saying how that’s incorrect? I’m not really sure about your sister, since I’ve never had that issue.
I totally understand the wishing you were better. I feel that way all the time. Welcome to the club! 😉 I use BlogClan as a place for me to be the person I wish I was in real life, because even if I can’t control my emotions around real people, on BlogClan I can and I end up feeling like a better person here.
We love you Star <3
Don't Lose Ur Head 🗡💚you arent a failure until you stop trying, so keep trying and dont give up. parents can be protective, mine are usually pretty chill but there are still a lot of strict rules. it just means they love you. you are a good person and you are loved and appreciated, the blog wouldnt be the same without you
wibbly wobblyStar, you are definitely not a failure, pathetic, or stupid. I’m sure you are good at lots of things, now you just have to seize opportunities to let those talents shine. As for you family, sometimes families suck. But you are absolutely not your sister, because you’re both unique in different ways that will be seen by different types of people. I know that BlogClan and irl friends aren’t the same, but just know that we’re here for you, and anytime you need to vent, we’re here to listen. <3 🙂
young, scrappy and hungryI don’t even have any advice, but something I do know is that you are neither pathetic nor stupid. You are super talented. Especially at writing!!
And, lastly, you are and amazing person.
So huggles x ♾ for you ❤️❤️❤️
*Hugs*
You’re not pathetic, you’re not a failure, and you’re not stupid. You’re amazing <3 I’m sorry about your sister, could you talk to her? But really, you’re the best friend someone can ask for.
Sometimes you may feel down, but
Take a moment to see your true brightness,
And you’ll find your true value,
Right there, right inside you.
But you’re everything to us.
Learn to love yourself,
Open your eyes to see your true meaning,
See how much you’re really worth.
Star, you are worth everything to us,
Oblige yourself and see, that not only
Me, but everyone else here, we care about you, never look down at yourself, but rather, compete with yourself. Who will be the better one? Your future self, or your past self? And you figure that out, by starting with your present self. <3
(Btw, those on mobile, turn your screen sideways to see the poem 😛 )
WYATT BLUE GRASSI-HOYING😭😭😭😭😥 true, true
Remember LifeSo, for the past couple of nights, my nephews temperature goes high, then goes low to about 94. something. He went to the er yesterday, but I found out they are thinking about keeping him in the hospital. I’m really worried and don’t know what to do. Please help me 🙁
the best you can do for him is not panic. *hug*
wibbly wobblyI’m sorry, Lightning ❤️ What Thunderheart said, the best you can do is not panic. I hope he gets better soon *hugs* ❤️
Insert creative signature hereOh no!! 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 Yes, don’t panic! Try to distract him, and pray, and do things like read to him if you can <3 <3 I hope he gets well again! 🙁 <3 <3 If you can’t, pray for him. <3 I send hugs and hope and prayers! <3
Writer and artist hereThanks, Pebblepaw. I am so lucky to have you as a friend🙂 and everyone else, too. Thanks
I hope he feels better Lightning <3 As for what you can do, I think the best course of action for you right now is to trust the doctors, and don't panic. The doctors should know what they're doing, and they will definitely do all they can for your nephew 🙂
young, scrappy and hungryOh no, I hope he feels better soon!! All the people working at the hospital probably know what they’re doing. They’ve gone through a lot of training. *huggles*
🌊 Queen of Canon Correcting🌊I’m sorry about that Lightning. All I have is to visit him and give him as much love as you can *Hugs*
There’s going to be a typhoon in Taiwan soon, so if I suddenly disappear, which probably won’t happen because I’m using my dad’s WiFi hotspot, it’s because the typhoon wiped out the Internet. Don’t worry, I’ll be fine, I live in a safe place and my family and I have enough food and supplies. 🙂 The really annoying thing is that today I had to trudge through the rain to buy pack noodles and that my sketchbook got wet 🙁
The Election Of 2019, not 1800stay safe!
wibbly wobblyI’m glad you’ll stay safe! ❤️
Insert creative signature hereThat sucks your sketchbook got wet 🙁 And omg a TYPHOON!? Stay super safe!!!!
Writer and artist hereAhhh stay safe! ❤️❤️❤️
Forgotten StarsTry to stay inside 😀 It’s way better to be inside when it’s raining 😛
young, scrappy and hungryHey, Raven! I’m sorry you’re going through all that. 🙁 Hope you’re alright soon!
reality is an illusionAww I’m sorry! I hate it when books get wet 🙁 hopefully it dries okay! And stay safe!!! <3
🌊 Queen of Canon Correcting🌊Stay safe Raven!
You’ll be alright. I know it.
Remember Lifei feel like i’ve been exposed to too much information at too young an age
lately my brain has felt clogged and i can’t just focus on things i find pleasing like i used to, there’s always something bad lurking in the back of my mind playing tug-of-war with whatever i’m trying to focus on
eI know Asp ❤️
I think everyone has experienced that at one point. I’m a little unfocused at a young age. I realized all of a sudden how dangerous the world was last year, and I just kinda snapped. I get depression sometimes. I used to be super happy all the time.
All I can say is to sit down somewhere quiet, take a deep breath, close your eyes, and push all those thoughts out of your head or to the very back of your head. It’ll go away eventually, I promise. Just try not to think about it too much. Pretend it’s a mosquito bite. If you think about it, you’ll want to scratch it. But if you don’t, you’ll be fine.
*hugs* ❤️
Forgotten StarsI know exactly how you feel!! It’s terrifying. I’m so sorry! If there’s a specific website or something that a lot of this information is coming from, lay off it a little and give yourself time to process. *huggles*
🌊 Queen of Canon Correcting🌊I know how you feel, I remember in 5th grade and before I just wanted to know everything and was super nosy, and I don’t really do that anymore. I agree with Star and Wavey, you need to give yourself time to process, and sit somewhere quiet. *huggles* ❤️
Insert creative signature hereokay i know i just posted here and i’ve been posting on here more in the past week than i ever have before but
i just feel awful. i feel like a disgusting little gremlin for taking advantage of my parents’ trust for so long just so my stupid old self could look at fanart or dumb memes or occasionally awful things to satisfy her morbid curiosity. i know that’s all in the past now but it still lives on in things i’ve sent my friends and stuff and i’m scared to death of my parents finding out. i’m worried that either a. they’ll find out on their own and be SUPER angry and hate me and trust me less and start supervising everything i do or b. i’ll eventually end up telling them (i know i said i was going to do this but i’m starting to rethink that) and they’ll still be SUPER angry (possibly even more so because i didn’t tell them sooner) and once again hate me and trust me less and start supervising everything i do. recently i haven’t been able to stop thinking about stuff like this. sometimes these intrusive thoughts are even worse, like i start worrying about getting murdered or hit by a truck or something along those lines. i know the chances of something like that happening are pretty slim but still i catch glimpses of things on the news and stuff all the time and wonder if i’ll end up being one of those unlucky few
once again i absolutely cannot stop thinking about these things. i’ve been eating less and throwing up a lot. nothing i do in an attempt to feel better works because i always start telling myself that happy things are just a distraction from the harsh reality of the world and someday something’s going to happen that will ruin my life or maybe even end it and i’m never going to be happy again and this phase i’m going through is going to last for the rest of my life and so on
i feel like i really need to go on a vacation or something but currently my family can’t do anything like that because my mom’s going through some work-related difficulties and once again it won’t change the fact that eventually SOMETHING really bad is bound to happen to me and it’ll possibly be my own fault. i feel like i’ve ruined my own life for no good reason
hugs are fine but what i really need right now is someone i can relate to. has anyone here gone through something like this? if so please explain in detail how you got/are getting through it. i just need advice
god this comment is long
eAsp, you are a good person – I promise. Bad people don’t care about becoming better people and certainly don’t feel remorse for past mistakes <3
And while we're here: everyone makes mistakes. You're not a bad person for younger you doing something a little foolish, and I don't think anyone will hold things like that against you, I promise.
I've dealt with a lot of intrusive thoughts, and the thing is, you can't wish your thoughts to go away. Unfortunately, the more you concentrate on trying to think of something else, the more your brain returns to the thought you'd really rather not be thinking. Instead, we can try to distance ourselves from our thoughts. One thing that's helped me when there's far too many thoughts racing around in my brain and I feel overwhelmed is to imagine stepping onto a subway car/whatever vehicle, and to imagine that you're watching the thoughts go past you. In my experience, this can at least distance yourself from the intrusive thoughts so at least they don't feel like they're taking over you
For the nausea/other physical symptoms: I know that anxious feelings can cause you to feel nauseated and have other physical symptoms, so to try and combat those I have a few techniques. The first one is to try and ground yourself, which basically means returning to the present if you feel that you're being swept up by your thoughts so much you're losing touch with reality. You can try to find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. Alternatively, you can find an object in the room you're in and try to describe it in as much detail as possible (what does it look like? What would it feel like/what is its weight? colour, texture, size, etc).
You can try some breathing exercises, too. One that I personally really like is to breathe in for a few seconds (say 3) and then exhale for longer than you've inhaled. To do this, you need to breathe in the same way as if you were blowing out a candle on a birthday cake. I'm not sure of the science behind it, but it really does calm my nerves and slow my heartrate <3
I don't have a lot of tips specific to anxiety induced nausea, but if you're feeling sick, lie down on your back and try not to crunch up your stomach too much by curling into a ball. Sipping ginger ale is really good for stomach aches, too.
Try listening to some music or podcasts if you're feeling overwhelmed. I know personally this lets my mind focus on what I'm hearing, especially if I know the songs really well/can predict what the next lines are, instead of spiraling <3
If things are really bad, do you think you could ask your parents to take you to see a counselor? You don't really have to go into detail with your parents about why other than you're experiencing a lot of anxiety/distress. <3 *huggles*
thanks a lot birchy, but i guess i should have made it clearer that i went behind my parents’ backs for years and only stopped relatively recently. and once again i’m worried that if they ever find out they’ll be angry i didn’t tell them before and lose their trust in me
eadding this as a reply bc i ran out of edit time
i just love my parents and i know they love me too and i don’t want that bond to be weakened by something so stupid
eI’m sorry <3
This is just going to be one post, but I do have something else I want to discuss later.
First of all, today I took a quiz. I guess I failed, and I got 91%. And now my mom is making me feel really bad about myself, because in my house, if you don’t get 100, you’re a failure. A good-for-nothing failure. And I already feel really terrible and I’m stupid. How does someone screw up that badly on a quiz? I told my mom I got the plus-minus sign confused, and she’s just like, “Oh you can’t do that”. That definitely helps.
Secondly, in my writing class, my friend, let’s call her Strikepaw. I wore a skirt today, because you know, it’s summer here and it’s hot. When I sat down during class, Strikepaw said, “Why are you wearing a skirt? How could you?!” And I really didn’t understand that. Heck, she and I are both girls. We’re allowed to wear skirts. She’s one year younger than me, so it’s kind of understandable that she’s immature. Kind of. She skipped a grade, so I expect her to be a bit more mature. Sadly, she is not. I know we had this phase where we hated wearing dresses, but what’s the problem with a skirt? I can move, I can run, there’s legit no problem with it. And then she asked me why it was neon. WHAT? Am I not allowed to wear neon colors? Am I condemned to forever wearing dark clothes because I get depression sometimes?
Another issue in my writing class, there’s this fifth grade girl who’s really, really, reallllly immature and obnoxious, and it really gets on my nerves. She never stops talking, and always seems to think everything’s about her. She also repeats the same thing she says over and over, and that is so annoying. I always hate it when people just say the same thing again and again. When I was in fifth grade, I acted much older than her.
A third issue today: so in my writing class, I’m part of a tiny squad (?) of friends. So one of them, Jewelpaw, invited Strikepaw and Lilypaw to her house on Friday. And I was standing right there, being blatantly ignored. I’m always left out for some reason. Being alone over the summer is so much better.
Tomorrow I have a math test. Wish me luck!
Forgotten StarsGood luck on your test and just remember whenever you feel lonely, the people on Blogclan will always be there for you. Hugs
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