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Okay, so my dog, who was born in our house and is the sweetest dog ever, just swallowed a squeaky toy. The whole thing. And he’s a small dog, which surprised me. Now, I have no idea what’s going to happen to him, but I don’t want to lose him. I’m so worried.
Oh no! Take him to the vet! My old dog (he died of cancer three years ago) ate everything and survived from it, ex. Chocolate bars, chocolate cookies, a porcupine (although he had to have surgery to remove the quills from his throat *shudder* and a lot more so hopefully your dog will be okay!!!
Thank you for the advice! I’m so sorry about the loss of your dog!
Yikes. I hope he’s okay! *huggles*
Thank you. <3
Oh no! I hope he gets better. *huggles*
Okay, I just feel like ranting.
A couple of weeks ago, one of my friends, keeps coming to school, vanishing the next day, coming, going, rinse and repeat.
They keep telling me about what they do when they’re away, and I just KNOW they’re lying.
I’m practically a junior psychologist already, from personal experience. And I’m rather good at telling when people are lying.
Everything, their tone, their body language, and most of all, the absurdness of the statement, points to a lie.
I know this is a really stupid thing to rant about, but I’m a really sensitive person, and I HATE when people lie straight to my face. They could’ve said, “sorry, I don’t want to talk about it”, or something like that.
I don’t confront them about it, because I’ve seen people’s reactions when being accused of lying.
And yeah, I just realized this was a really stupid thing to rant about, but yeah.
It’s not stupid! Though i wonder what they did… *hugs*
I’m sorry, Mistle. Maybe your friend doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you yet, and my advice would be to ask if they’re alright and if they want to talk to you, then listen, but don’t try to force them to speak 🙂
Also don’t feel bad about ranting, we all need to rant at one point or another
I’m the same way. I’m also pretty sensitive and it drives me crazy when people lie to my face (especially those jerks who laugh about it when they think I can’t hear). Lying is like a safeguard for some people and they probably are lying because they don’t want to look bad and/or aren’t comfortable telling you. Yes, they could’ve said that, but it can be pretty hard. Just keep being supportive for then and maybe start hanging out with some other people. And who knows, maybe it’s not something you’d want to know about. *huggles*
It’s not stupid at all! Your friend is lying to you if you want to talk about it then talk about it. I your friend stops lying soon, and tells you the truth. Have a 🍪
My great-uncle died Thursday morning. I’d only met him once, when we were in Europe, but I’m still kind of sad about it. 🙁
Oh no!!!! Icy…. I’m very sorry. And even if you don’t know someone very well, it’s natural to grieve. I’m sorry for your loss. *huggles*
Thanks, Willow. 🙂
🙂
I’m very sorry, Icy. Even if you didn’t know your great-uncle, it’s still okay to grieve. *hugs*
Thanks, Aster.
I’m sorry for your loss, Icy <3 *hugs*
Thanks Birchy.
*huggles* I’m so sorry, Icy, I’m always here to give you huggles and cookies if you need them <3
Thank you, Goldi 🙂
Aww!!!! I’m SO SORRY!!!!! *huggles* 🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪
Thanks Dark. 🙂
Aww, I’m so sorry for your loss. *huggles*
Thanks Wavey.
Oh no! I’m so sorry! *huggles*
My mother’s in the hospital again. 🙁
She isn’t at risk of death or anything, but she’s been there and the doctor quite a few times lately, and she hasn’t really done anything in the past few days, so I’m kind of worried. They said they might do some surgery.
The other reason I don’t like this is pretty selfish, but I HATE being home alone and cooking for everyone and helping my sister with homework and getting my brother not to procrastinate and breaking up all their fights. I also have to walk my sister to school because it’s farther away and she’s on the younger side. My mom works the day so she’s gone from 1 PM to 11 PM, so I’m usually the one doing all that stuff except on the weekends when she’s home. (I’m not the oldest just the most responsible). I kind of needed her to be home because I need to catch up on all the homework and cleaning house stuff I haven’t gotten to, but now it’s back to that.
Sorry for the rant on self-centered problems. 😛
, don’t apologize for that! It’s fine to feel stressed out and overwhelmed even when your moms in the hospital, don’t bottle up those feelings, because it will just make everything worse! *Huggles* I’m sorry about your mom, and I hope she can come home soon. 😊
Oh, my goodness, Mist. I hope your mother’s okay! What’s wrong, if I might ask? If you don’t want to answer, that’s totally fine. 🙂
That doesn’t sound self-centered or selfish! I wouldn’t want to have to do all that either. Maybe you could talk to your mother, and ask her if your siblings could help pitch in a little?
I’m sorry, Mist 🙁 *huggles*
She had contractions and they think she’ll have her baby soon. They’ve been worried about it though (premature birth), which is why she’s been to the doctor. Since it’s probably going to be premature birth though they’ll be keeping her until they’re sure it’ll be okay, because in all the thingys you get done to see the baby it’s been really small. The surgery is unrelated and won’t happen till after she’s had the baby and it’s been a month or so. I don’t know why she’s getting surgery, but she’ll have some explaining to do soon. . . 😛
Thanks. 🙂
Oh no!!! I’m very sorry, I hope she can come home soon.
And I know it is tough, but imagine how proud your mother would be, knowing you took care of everything and everyone for her. You are doing the right thing, mist. *huggles*
Awww I’m so sorry about your mom! I will certainly be praying for her <3 It is so brave of you to step up and take care of your siblings while she is gone, so don't apologize for ranting! If you are really struggling to keep up, my advice is to politely ask a trusted adult or family member to check in on you every once in a while and maybe help around the house a while. Good luck Misty *huggles*
Thanks. 🙂
*huggles* I hope your mother feels better soon. Do you have any siblings that are slightly responsible and that will do some of those stuff while your catch up on homework and clean?
*huggles* I hope your mother feels better soon. Do you have any siblings that are slightly responsible and that will do some of those stuff while your catch up on homework and clean? You are NOT being selfish or self-centered, Mist.
There’s only my little sister who isn’t old enough, and then my brother, but he’s the procrastinator who needs to constantly get stuff done as well. He has some major problems with it and it’s hard to get him to do things. He also can’t do anything with my little sister without fighting like crazy. 😛
Thanks, Goldi. 🙂
I’m so sorry I can’t imagine how hard it must be. I hope She gets better soon.
Thanks. 🙂
That’s selfish, but at the same time not. Im pretty sure if someone else was going through all this, they wouldnt want to cook and be the mom all day. (ESPECIALLY breaking up siblings fights! 🙂 )
I need some hugs, guys. I woke up today at my grandpa’s on vacation with a horrible neckache, and on top of that my head hurts really bad. I just feel like crap, and I need some gentle hugs and cool washclothes (because I don’t have one.. all his are mildew-ish. 🙁 )
*hugs* feel better soon <3
Thank you, 🙂 I am feeling a bit better
*hugs* I hope you feel better soon, Willow <3
Thanks! I am feeling a bit better. Wollow took care of me, she told me to drink lots of water and that helped. 😛
*huggles* I’m sore A LOT because of gymnastics and am always complaining about something that’s sore. Many people have told me to use a heating pad, so if he has one try that for your neck or take a hot bath. Does he have any aspirin or anything that he’d be willing to give you?
Thank you for the advice! 😀
I feel much better, Wollow told me to drink some water, I did, and that helped my head. He also did give me some aspirin, so that helped. I also took a long hot shower. Thanks again!
*hugs*
Feel better soon.
Thank you. 🙂
uGH
It’s official. There’s a 95% chance that I won’t be able to go on the wiki for a while. Yes, I’m aware Wollow gave me an account. Well, turns out, my mom doesn’t like that. She’s the kind of mom who often worries about her kids and is skeptical about online stuff (really, it’s a wonder i managed to convince her to let me join blogclan), and she doesn’t like how I might have to lie about my age to get an account. I should have told you this earlier, I’m really sorry.
Welp, I’ll see you on wiki chat. In 2 years.
That’s to bad.
My mom didn’t like that I got insta without asking, but I was all like “look mommy here’s my followers I know all of them IRL” ” them she was OK with it. Maybe you could show your mom how safe and sane the wiki is and then she’ll let u.
she isn’t concerned about the safety of the wiki, she just doesn’t like me having to lie about my age 😐 might try something like that anyway though… so thanks!
Yup, my parents are like that too, but I’ve gotten them to trust me, so hopefully that will happen with u too!
Thats so totally my mom right there. Its because she wants to protect you, but it really gets under my skin when my mom gets into my BlogClan project and Email and stuff.
OK so I switched schools and at my old school we were this big squad and now I hang out with four other cats, let’s call them Leafpaw, Graypaw, Inkpaw, and Littlepaw. Last year they were their own group, but since I joined them were all fighting almost everyday and I feel like they think I’m intruding on their little club and they’re also kinda different they’re only apprentices but they think about diets a lot especially Leafpaw, like once I was drinking the juice left over from my lunch while I was waiting for them to come to the bus stop, and Leafpaw was like “omg. Your drinking juice? That’s so unhealthy.” I just said that I could drink whatever I wanted. Another time I was talking about dance and Leafpaw was like “you’re in the nutcracker? Thats so lame I went to see it and we left at intermission.” Idk why but sometimes they really get on my nerves cuz they’re really clingly halp
Aw shellpaw you shouldn’t worry about them! Just ask them straight to their faces, and if they’re honest there’s nothing to worry about! *hugs*. That probably didn’t make sense xD
Aw, I’m so sorry Shell 🙁 Fake friends seriously suck. Maybe try finding a new friend group or ask them why they are doing that to you. Hope things get better! *huggles* *gives bag of cookies* <3
Oh no! if you want my opinion, these don’t sound like true friends. Don’t listen to what they say! First of all, I personally love juice, and second, the nutcracker is amazing! Congrats on getting in 😀 Try and find a group that accepts you for the fabulous person you are *hugs*
I’m sorry! *huggles* Tell them that their actions are making you uncomfortable. If they still don’t stop, consider finding new friends.
Gah, I’m sowwy. *huggles* Clingy like clingy bad…? Jealousy? Anyways, they don’t sound like they’re real friends or anything. And you shouldn’t worry about juice, dieting, or dancing. Actually, I’ve always thought being able to dance would be so much fun and would be so awesome to be able to do. Talk to them and figure out why they say stuff like that to you. They may not know they hurt your feelings.. Honestly, you guys dont seem to get along well. I think perhaps you should get a new friend group or some new friends, simply because it doesn’t seem like much of a friendship right now.
Clingy like “why didn’t you eat lunch with us?”
Aw Shell don’t worry about them! Don’t let those nags get to you, I’ve seen people like that before, and if they’re constantly acting like that, they don’t sound like true friends. I hope everything turns out fine *hugs*
Hello.
I just received bad news that my grandfather has died.
He died of heart attack/old age at the age of ninety five, a year after my grandma passed away from cancer.
I will mourn for a long time, he and grandma was really close to me, I might not be here for awhile, but I might, who knows.
I forgot to add this:
I can’t be at his funeral, since he has died in Adelaide (Australia) and I’m all the way in Asia.
I don’t know who my Aunt is feeling, she was pretty sad when he died.
My dad however is really really sad.
I am sorry. My great grandfather died too. I am pretty sure that was like 5 years ago. But I wasn’t as close to him as you were to yours. *Huggles*
Thanks.
I hope you feel better 🙂
Oh god now I feel bad because I’m In Australia, ALL THE HUGS
Oh, Cindergoose. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thank you 🙂
I’m so sorry, Last year my grandma died from a heart attack and it was really hard. We’ll always be here for you if you need to talk and we completely understand if you need some time to grieve. <3
Thanks!
I hope you feel better from your loss <3
OH NO!! I’m so sorry! *Huggles* if you ever need anyone were here for you
I am so sorry Cinder 🙁 If you need to talk about it, we’re all here for you. If you don’t want to, that’s completely fine. *huggles infinite times* <3 <3 <3
Thank you, Dark! <3333
*Hugs*
I’m so sorry, Cinder 🙁
Thanks, Birchy <3333
Awww I am so so sorry Cinder! I know there is nothing I can say that will truly help you, but I am always here if you need to talk. I will be praying for your family <3
Thanks Gecky <33333
Oh no! I’m so so sorry for your lose! Don’t worry, Blogclan is always here for you! <3
Thank you, Owlwater <333333
Oh, Cin, I’m sorry 🙁 *hugs*
At least he lived a long and ripe life, and (at least in my experiences) thinking about the happy times helps. I’m really sorry for your loss and I truly hope you begin to feel better soon <3
Aww, Thanks Flo <3333
I’m so sorry for your loss! *huggles*
Thanks, Wavey <333333
I’m so sorry! We will be here for you if you need us. I’m sorry for your loss, but at least he lived a very long, happy life! I would love to life to 95! *hugs*
Oh, Cind. I’m so sorry. *huggles* <333
Sorry for your loss Cindy 🙁 I’ve never met one of my grandmother, or grandfather. <3 hope you are ok soon
aw cindy ;( My best friend’s grandfather died last week, but I’m not going to easy I know how you feel because I don’t. *huggles* have a cookie 🍪
I am deeply sorry.
He lived a long and wonderful life, I’m sure.
~fluffpaw
Oh no! I’m sorry for your loss Cinder! I lost my grandfather back in 2012, and I learned that it’s easier to bear if you just think of all the good times you spent with him instead of thinking of how he’s gone *huggles*
I feel you my great grandma died on Halloween she was 99 years old I loved her so much but one of the worst part is is that my mom went missing like 3 days before and she is still missing
This isn’t really a big problem or anything, but, does anyone cry SO easily, not from being happy but my eyes act up even from the smallest of thing to upset me.
Does this happen to anyone else?
Yeah. Even a really nice tree can make me well up.
Yes, it happens to me if I’m near lots of dust. 🙂
Oh I totally feel you Fox! But it’s okay to cry, so don’t feel bad about it <3
Yup, me too 😢
Aww! Don’t worry, I’ve heard that happens to others. When I am upset, lately I have been crying a lot more. Maybe it’s a growing up thing? *hugs*
HAHAHA, I know exactly what you mean. I was weeping up a flood today because I promised my Mom I would call her and I didn’t on time. You’re not alone. 🙂
Oh.
I cry really easily.
Don’t worry about it, Fox! <333
Yep. But nothing really upsets me sometimes – like sometimes in singing practice I just start tearing up for no reason. (That did happen in the chorus concert but nobody noticed but my friends haha 😛 )
However often you find yourself crying, I prolly do it more. xD I’m very sensitive for reasons I don’t know. If I get scolded or yelled at the tears come, even if I am totally okay with the situation. It’s horrible.
The same thing happens with me.
that actually happens to me as well!
Same!
Same
Don’t worry, I cry over the smallest things sometimes, it’s perfectly okay 😀
I’m emotional :P. I can cry because something is just SO BEAUTIFUL sometimes.
Not really, but I cry when I laugh (like really laugh). *huggles*
Yes! Me!!! (I cry over so much little things….. and it’s wierd)
Totally. Once, I started welling up because a character in a book was leaving the protagonist only for like, two weeks.
Yup.All the time.And then people invade my privacy.
This one girl at school is like “Why are you crying?Are you okay?I promise I won’t laugh at you.”
And then she laughs at me AND tells the rest of the basketball team.I just say “Shut up.It’s none of your business.”
Same! Every time something happens it just…. UGH ITS SO ANNOYING
I cry SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO easily. Whenever I’m having a fight with my family or siblings I start crying and they taunt me, or act like I’m doing it on purpose! Like I have any choice, haha. The waterworks probably go off AT LEAST once a week for me. 😛 (I googled methods the other day to try and combat this stupid problem! Nothing seems to be working, though. I might try biting my tongue or the inside of my cheek. Or looking up. Or pinching myself. Or taking deep breaths.)
Don’t feel bad about it. Totally normal and OK. 🙂
Yup. Most of my crying is done in PE. It’s normal so don’t feel weird about it. Or um, bad about it.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone 😛 Emotional books or songs, dust, and even extreme heat building up in my eyes make me well up.
All the time. Your not alone.
I found a bunch of cute images online that I wanted to share with you. Here we go!
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Have a fantabulous day! 😉
Aww! Breezy, those all made me feel so happy! <3
Yay! 😀
yay! 😛
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I . . . I’ve been really stressed out lately. I mean really. I don’t know how to stop it and I don’t know where it came from. I broke down in front of my art teacher last Tuesday, and I hate that because it’s so embarrassing. I just went to a healing person today to try and stop my parents, it was like 150 dollars and I’m still nervous and stressed. I feel so bad because my parents just spent a ton of money on me, and it didn’t work. I’m so scared about things out of my control, like death. My parent’s deaths. I feel like I’m stuck in a repetitive loop of terror. I need help. I need advice. I need hugs.
Aa, I feel you. *hugs and hands cokies*
My advice is to stay positive even I don’t it’s hard to.
I don’t really have better advice, but I hope you’ll feel better soon!
Thank you, Cindertail. It helped.
*Hugs a million times* Try talking to your parents about regular therapy appointments, it can really help. If you’re anything like me, you might feel like you’ll never trust the therapist or ever feel comfortable talking to them, but it can help so much (though it depends on the person). If your parents aren’t willing to send you to therapy, or you’re not willing to go, try talking to a close friend about it whenever you’re feeling stressed out or scared. If they’re not willing to, all of BlogClan is willing to talk to you always. <3 Therapy might help a lot and might help you better than just a few words of advice over the internet, but, again, it just depends on the person. I hope you feel better soon, Snowbreeze.
First, thank you so much. I don’t really feel comfortable talking to anyone about my feelings yet, so Blogclan might be my safest bet at the moment. But I will try therapy. Sometimes I start to cry when I’m talking about my deepest darkest fears that haunt me now and again. And I find that really embarrassing. I feel ugly whenever that happens. But I think that talking to someone might benefit me in the long run. Thank you so much for the advice.
Don’t feel bad about crying, it’s good for you to let it all out. Everyone cries at one point, some more than others. I bet you’re an amazing person that just needs to let it out sometimes.
Whoops, sorry for commenting the same thing twice
No problem. 🙂
Don’t feel bad about crying, it’s good for you to let it all out. Everyone cries at one point, some more than others. I bet you’re an amazing person that just needs to let it out sometimes. *huggles*
Thank you. You are very kind. <3
<3
I’m sorry, Snowbreeze. I think, like Goldie said, that maybe speaking to a parent or a therapist would help a lot. I hope everything’s okay, and I think talking to someone would help a lot 🙂
Thanks Birchfoot! 🙂
Yeah, I get stressed sometimes too because I feel like I need to be constantly good in school because the teachers and students around me have very high expectations which makes me a bit more emotional, I’ve had friends who freak out over death as well, and I’ve definitely been worried as well, but not really to the extreme, so i don’t really know how to help you, but what usually helps me is reading, because I get caught up in this amazing world where the stresses of everyday life don’t matter, so maybe it will help you *Huugles*
Thank you for the help! <3
Don’t worry about it, Snowbreeze. Try writing down how you feel, which usually helps. Practice thinking positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts. Another option is to do things you enjoy such as reading. *huggles* <3
I’ll try it! Thank you. =)
No problem 🙂 *hugs again* *gives pies*
Snowy. First have some hugs *hugs*
Second. I can somewhat relate. At some point when I’m at home, I just get so stressed and anxious. For me it seriously helps to recognize the stressor and plan plan plaaaaan how I’m going to work everything out.
Third, BlogClan will always be here for you to rant and just remember if you ever need support we’ll always be here *hugs*
Love ya, Snowy, I hope you feel better.
Thank you for the advice. I will try it!
Yikes, that’s happened to me. Try to find things that make you comfortable and make you laugh, and it’ll pass in time. *huggles*
Thank you Wavey. I’ll try to find those things. <3
Awww, don’t worry Snow! Like most of the others said, talking to a parent/therapist might help, and maybe get a notepad or something that you can use to write about it and just pour out all your emotions. I hope you feel better soon! *huggles*
I feel what you’re feeling, Snowbreeze. When I have nothing to do, I think all the worrying future-death-oh-no thoughts and I know what it feels like. It feels like the world is so dark and nothing is right, but I kind of try to think of other happier things to keep the negative things away. I hope this helps and…
-hugs Snowbreeze-
I’d really appreciate some advice.
I’ve been feeling really horrible lately. About life, about myself, about anything. Lately I’ve started to realize that my self-esteem has been crippling my day-to-day life. In every action I take I constantly have the reminder that I am not good enough. I look in the mirror and if I ever think to myself “I look good!” my brain reminds me that I am just comparing how I look to how I usually look–like “yeah, but no one else thinks you look good at all–you just see yourself so much that any little difference makes you feel better.” I can’t make any decisions because I remind myself that I’m not the smartest or the most skilled. This is especially a problem with clothes. I’ve looked for ways to raise my self-esteem, and the first option is to dress better. But I just can’t–any clothing decision I make I’m not confident in! I look at myself in new clothes and think that people will think I look stupid for something, or I’m pathetic for trying.
It’s my junior year of high school and I haven’t made any close friends. I just got off on the wrong foot and I know that I don’t really feel close to any of the people there, but I don’t think I especially want to. I’m just lonely. My best friends are my sisters, who are older than me and don’t live at home, just occasionally come home on the weekends. I love them immensely, but I get the feeling by unanswered texts that I love them more than they love me. And if I ever asked them they’d think I should just get some friends.
I have incredibly loving parents but there’s something very different from parental love to friend love. I just don’t feel happy with myself, and I really don’t know what to do about it. The last time I brought up something about my state of mind to my mother I found later that day that she told my father and my sisters, and I felt quite embarrassed. When asked if I wanted to see a counselor I just brushed it off. I just don’t like the idea of my family seeing me as something different than I am. I feel like they’d just think of me like I’m going through something that they’ve all pulled through without any help.
Anyway, what I’m saying is probably gibberish now. Thanks for reading if you did.
Kat, I’m so sorry. Try not to compare yourself to others, because you’re your own person! And you definitely are good enough! I don’t think anyone will think that you’re pathetic for wearing nice clothes, Kat, and they do, then that’s their problem. I know it can be hard to make friends with people (I’m so horribly awkward :P), but maybe just start small by saying “hello” to someone. I think maybe also reconsider talking to a counselor, because they can really help, and if you do end up talking to someone, it doesn’t make you weak or anything.
I’m sorry, Kat, I’m rubbish at giving advice, but I hope something there helped *hugs*
Aww Kat I’m sorry. No one will think of you any different if you go to therapy and if they do, shame on them. There’s this song by U2 and one of the lyrics is ‘Free yourself to be yourself’ and I think that is what you might want to do. You are good enough even if you don’t recognize it yet, you are amazing Kat, remember that. You can be yourself, if others don’t recognize how awesome you are, don’t dwell on that, look for new people, people who recognize how amazing you are, and hopefully you will be able to as well. *Huggles* we love you Kat 🙂
Aw, that sucks Kat 🙁 I’ve been in the same situation and the best thing to remember is that you are perfect just the way you are. Surround yourself with positive thoughts! You are a living miracle and an amazing person! You are the best Kat there is on the whole Earth! No matter what you wear, I bet you look great! Don’t worry about your friends, they’ll come around. If they don’t, they have no idea what they’re missing out on. Hope things get better and I’m always here for you if you need it! 🙂 *huggles* <3 <3 <3
Kat first of all I love you so freaking much and really appreciate you. Truly, all of us do. But enough about that. Kat, I’ve seen you before and you’re honestly super gorgeous and your personality is simply amazing. I can’t put into words how much I love you and how gorgeous and lovely you are, but honestly I hope you know that I think you are amazing.
I totally understand where you’re coming from with self-esteem issues, and honestly I don’t know a solution to that. I care about my looks so much, but in reality, it. does. not. matter. Kat you’re really great and anybody who says otherwise is simply wrong. Don’t listen to what other people say about you. I’ve said it before to others, and I’ll reiterate it again.
People who judge you, people who think you look stupid, people like that do not deserve your respect. They do not deserve your respect, so you should not care what they think. The people who love you unconditionally are the people whose opinions you should care about. People who don’t like you? Well they don’t matter, seeing as they’re completely and utterly wrong because you’re wonderful and don’t deserve to be put down.
If you fake smile enough, you start to feel happier. If you tell yourself you’re beautiful long enough, you’ll start to understand that it’s true and you’re a gorgeous, selfless, talented person.
And Kat, I know I’m not either your sisters, but family love is something special. Your sisters love you, of course they do, and it might not seem like they love you as much as you do them, but they do love you. You’re family. They couldn’t not adore you.
As for the issue with friends, I can almost relate, but I really don’t know what to tell you. If these people are not people who you feel comfortable with being friends, then yeah, don’t be friends with them. Because, while you’re lonely, is it better to have fake relationships, or being alone yet not uncomfortable? Besides, remember that while we can’t be in school with you, you’ll always have this entire community happy to support and love you,
I’m sorry this wasn’t the best of advice, but remember that you are loved and you will always be loved. You’re gorgeous, inside and out, and nothing anyone else says should change that. I love you, and appreciate you, Kat *hugs*
And you think you don’t give good advice FLO :0
not helpful advice 😛
Kat
KAT.
This entire blog loves you. Actually LOVES you. All the amazing advice you give??? Your kindness??? Your personality??? How could anyone NOT love you? You’re one of those people who is full of light, who leaves a smile on our faces every time we see your username. The WORLD is blessed to have an empathetic, beautiful girl like you in it. You have a way of making everything magical and bright. You deserve nice things. All of the nice things.
You need to live your life. You need to prioritize yourself. You need to do what makes YOU feel happy. You are too amazing to doubt yourself. BlogClan is always here for you *hugs*
Totally right. I LOVE you.
Love you too <3 <3 <3
Kat, you are one of the most amazing person I’ve ever met, I can’t offer any advice, but you seriously are awesome and anyone would be incredibly lucky to be friends with you. *huggles*
Kat, you are SO amazing in every way possible. You are a great friend to everyone on the blog and if people don’t see that you’re super amazing at your school, that’s their problem because they missed out on making an amazing friend. We all love you so much, as our medicine cat and our friend. I know I smile and immediately read your comment whenever I see your username. (I’m so sorry I’m so bad at giving advice) We’re always here for you, Kat. <3 <3
Kat. You are one of the most-loved ones on the blog. You are kind. And hilarious. And an inspiring and wonderful person. And your personality… woah I wish I could be like you, to be honest. You are so warm and helpful, and the world needs more people like you, people who are easy-going and get along with everyone.
Don’t feel low. All of the blog loves you, and honestly, ANYONE who meets you will be very lucky to be friends, even acquaintances with you. Because you, Kat, are a completely beautiful person.
You shouldn’t worry about what others think of you, because you need to treat yourself. You need to do what’s best for you.
We’re always here if you need us, Kat. *huggles* <3
Kat, I completely understand how you feel. I wont go into details, but I want to let you know you are not alone. But through the years I’ve come to know that even though you may feel alone, you never know how much might mean to someone. Just keep being you, and I know you will find friends that love you like the amazing person you are. In the meantime, I hope the blog can let you know that you are loved. We all care for you SO much Kat, and will always be here if you need to talk. We love you <3
*Hugs!*
Bad self-esteem is like hypothermia. It’s cold and lonely and the slightest bit of warmth seems a lot more than it is. When you talk to yourself negatively maybe take a step back to notice what you’re thinking. Look at a different way. Find the optimistic view if it helps. Instead of thinking you look good because you’re comparing yourself to other days, know that even if that were to be so, you still look better than before and for yourself that’s a step in the right direction. Remember, looking good isn’t about perfect make up or whatever labels we chose to like, it’s about feeling good. There’s beauty in life in so many ways. Beauty in passion, beauty in art, most of all: beauty in love. Learning to love yourself is how to be beautiful. The people you should care about are the ones that see your heart before your face. Honestly in the end, it doesn’t matter what your facial features are like, that’s not a big worry.
You don’t have to be the smartest or the most skilled to make a decision silly. Most decisions are based on opinions anyway which means you can be wrong (or right for that matter) and there’s nothing wrong with that. There might not even be a wrong decision, you should just do what feels right. And if you don’t know what feels right, that’s okay too. I’m no good with clothes myself. But when I get clothes, I do my best to ignore what looks good or bad. I get what I feel comfortable in and what expresses me. If you’re in high school deary, I’m sure you’ve seen more than enough people wearing weird things or going all out on halloween. But it doesn’t matter what people think of that, and usually it’s not that much. So when you go to JCP or target or wherever you get your clothes, nobody’s gonna think you are stupid or pathetic. No matter what people say, trying is not pathetic. Trying takes courage especially when it’s in hard situations like these.
It’s never too late to make friends! Friends will understand if you want to be alone or to yourself or anything. That’s what they’re there for. It doesn’t matter if you get off on the wrong foot when you have millions more to take. As a well known quote says “it doesn’t matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up.” So a little stumble ain’t no trouble. I play softball and sometimes you get your footing a bit off which makes throwing harder to do correctly. At those times, you just gotta reset your feet and then throw. No sense in trying to throw before then. The same goes for life. Just don’t be afraid to take that extra time to reset yourself. It doesn’t have to be a single day, week, or even year. Take the time you need.
One of the most common answers people give to decline help is that they don’t want to be seen any differently. It makes sense too. But you don’t have to worry about that. Your parents sound like they won’t feel any differently about you and just want what’s best. Keep in mind that everybody goes through life differently. Just because someone else may have gone through worse or been through the same thing it doesn’t mean you aren’t entitled to help. You don’t have to suffer by yourself.
A friend of mine who I spent saturday with has said she has a goal to raise my self-esteem. She said it would be step by step, a process. One step would be decision making, another would be putting a pizzazz in my clothing style. The point of this is to say that friends will be there for you to help you. BlogClan is here to help you too. You don’t have to suffer through everything on your own. People are here to support you no matter what.
Do what feels right, you shouldn’t accept yourself as ugly or stupid or pathetic. Being you and being happy is what makes you smart or beautiful. I know that if you feel better in the meantime it’s not likely to last. I know that this is all easier said than done. But that’s okay. Even if things get harder or easier, there’s always a happy time to look forward to. You are beautiful now and forever.
Kat, I’m sorry you feel this way. *hugs* But you are one of the best people ever. Everyone on the blog loves you and looks up to you. II know you think that they did something all on their own, or it seems that way, but they relied on someone. If you think that you need to talk to someone, do it. And if you dont want to talk to a counseler, I’d listen. It’s not gibberish, it’s how you feel. As for changing yourself, if it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. You’re a wonderful person already. Almost everyone you meet or know worries about what other people think of them. *Huggles*
Aww, don’t worry Kat! You should never compare yourself to others because you are your own, amazing person! If people want to berate you because of the clothes you wear, they are truly bad people whose opinions don’t deserve to be heard. Maybe visiting a counselor might help if you need it. I’m horrible at giving advice, but just know you have lots of friends here that will hear you out and listen to your problem *huggles*
Sorry, this is probably going to turn out be a rant. I’m the kind of person who will smile all the time. Lately I’ve been crying and I don’t know why. I literally have no actual friends and I doubt anyone wants to be mine anyways. No one even likes me and I feel invisible whenever I try to hang out with people or go on chat. I have no idea what to do anymore and sorry for wasting your time 🙁
*huggles and gives lots of cookies* I bet you’re an awesome person. You are not wasting anyone’s time. If you come on chat and I’m there, I’d always be willing to talk to you. <3 <3
*Huggles*
Crying is a way the body relieves stress and sometimes it feels good to just let things out. Even if you don’t know why. It’s alright to not understand why you feel some way or do something, especially when it comes to emotions. Those are a complicated mess that can be tremendously hard to comprehend. There’s no reason to think nobody will want to be your friends, and if they can’t see why they should value you then there’s no point in being friends with them. You should never think that there’s not a person who likes you. People can be quiet about their opinions of others so it’s never easy to tell what they think.
I know the feeling of invisibility around people. I have to say though I often enjoy being ignored and just observing the world. Sometimes you just gotta put yourself out there though. Which I don’t need to be told is easier said than done, but it gets easier. Finding common interests is a good way to talk to. Humans like to hear their own opinions reflected. Of course friendly arguments can be just as attractive. Just remember to be yourself and you’ll be alright. Being happy is what’s important and whether that’s around people or by yourself or anything else is up to you.
You’re not a waste of time. I’m afraid that no matter how hard you try or think, you don’t get to decide what’s a waste of someone else’s time.
You’re not wasting our time. 🙂 I’m that kind of person too, the one who would keep smiling even if the world was falling apart around me. You might not have friends, but that doesn’t meant that they don’t want to be. They just don’t know YOU yet. They don’t know that you are someone that they really want to be friends with. I often feel invisible, unloved, unneeded, whatever. Everybody does, which isn’t to take away from your feelings but to say that pretty everyone on the blog, every teenager and preteen in the world, knows how you feel.
The only advice I can think of is to look for opportunties. Maybe you see someone alone or you see someone reading a book you like or something. A lot of times, people aren’t outgoing because they are scared and insecure. But really, everyone is their own worst enemy. Everyone demands more perfection from themselves than they do to others. And often, the people who seem like they have it together are the ones that are faking it the most. And often, people notice us more than we think. We can’t see what’s going on in people’s heads. Maybe they honestly want to talk to you but are super shy themselves.
Things aren’t going to fall together instantly for you, but I will keep you and your struggles in my thoughts and prayers. 🙂
*Huggles* hey, we like you, who’ve you are, 🙂 if you ever need anyone we’ll be right here for you, if the kids around you don’t notice how amazing you are, go up and show them, introduced yourself and start over. 🙂 and on BlogClan wiki chat at the begging I would like log on and people would be like ‘ who are you?’ Cause my wiki username is different then Darkpaw (Mistystar22) and after I told them and started to log on more everyone would recognize me, and we chat happily, so, this works 🙂
*hugs* you’re certainly not wasting our time!
First of all, don’t say you have no actual friends. several of us here are glad to be considered your friend <3
On chat, I understand that you may be feeling invisible, but don't! Chat generally goes by fast, so sometimes we may not see your comments, and in my case when I have nothing to say, I just don't respond at all. I'm sorry you've been feeling left out 🙁
And there's nothing wrong with crying. Heck, sometime's crying's actually a good thing. I'm sorry this wasn't a very good response, also. Anyways, *hugs*
Awww I’m so sorry! But crying is not a bad thing, sometimes it’s better just to let it out. And don’t say no one wants to be your friend, all you need to do is branch out a little. I’m sure you’ll find the right friend soon! I’m so sorry you feel ignored on chat, but you can always talk to me if you feel alone. *hugs*
Don’t feel sorry, you most certainly did not waste any time. Everyone needs to rant sometimes, okay? There’s no shame in doing so 🙂
Often times I cry a lot if I’m really tired or stressed, so maybe there’s something stressing you out? Second of all, you have us. We’re your friends. Chat is sometimes really hard to keep up with, so I’m really sorry if I’ve made you feel invisible, but a lot of the time it’s hard to keep track of everything that’s happening.
We’ll always be here if you need to rant <3
We’re your friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 You can talk to me whenever!!!!!!!!!! If you come on the Wikia then PM me pronto 😉
*PANDA HUGS*
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Hi Anon. I don’t exactly have time to type up a long comment right now, but know you are loved. If you’re on the wiki, feel free to PM me at any time (I’m Cypress25).
Don’t worry, there are probably tons of people willing to be your friend! I bet whoever you are, you are still a great person and you’re not wasting anyone’s time! I hope you feel better soon *huggles*