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I AM. ALIVE.
WOOOOOO
the fire was put out the day it started
there were four different spots the fire started, and it’s been confirmed that three of them were arson. the one closest to us was because somebody threw a cigarette out of their car on the interstate, or had something dragging behind them that caused a spark to fly onto the grass.
it’s really dry here bc of the drought, and there are so many fires going on and it’s super-smoky all the time.
it really puts into perspective what you care about (i couldn’t part with any of my WOF books :P). I brought literally two memory boxes and a suitcase filled with clothes. we had a helicopter flying over us to gather water from our neighbor’s lake, it was that close.
but they contained the fire and it’s gone now 😀 thanks for all the hugs guys, i really did appreciate it.
aah I’m so happy you’re safe!!!! <3 <3
I’m glad you’re safe, Dapple!!!! <3 <3
I’m so glad you are safe!!! I really was worried, I know fires can be no joke.
And arson? That’s terrible! I hope they catch the criminal!
Yay! I’m so glad it’s put out now!
Yay! I’m happy the fire is out now 😀
Hi y’all! So my therapist gave me a list of questions for myself if I’m ever feeling anxious about something, and I was thinking that they might help some other people. <3
1. Is there substantial evidence for my thought?
2. Is there any evidence contrary to my thought?
3. Am I attempting to interpret this situation without all the evidence?
4. What would a friend think about this situation?
5. If I look at the situation positively, how is it different?
6. Will this matter a year from now? How about five years from now?
Hope this helps someone! <3 <3
Oh my gosh Goldie, these are so helpful. Thank you so much! <3
<3 <3 I'm glad it helps, Birchy! 😀
These are great, Goldie! 😀 Especially number 6. 😛 Thanks, I’ll definitely remember these. 🙂
It’s 12:23 AM here in North Carolina, and I’m sitting in the bathroom with my sketchbook, my phone that won’t charge and is going down alarmingly fast, colored pencils, a stomachache, and diaherrea. I’ve been in here for over an hour. It’s only 9:23 PM back in California but I’m extremely tired and I’m worried I’m adjusting to local time, which will suck because I go back home on Friday. My phone is “reaching the end of its life,” according to my dad who works at Apple and is probably right. So now in addition to being slow, glitchy, and having the power go down fast, my phone shuts down, the power goes down even faster, and it won’t charge. Awesome.
I feel really disoriented and I know I need to get more sleep, but I don’t. For years I haven’t gotten enough sleep, and it’s showing. I’m always tired. I’m not a morning person to begin with. And now I’m getting up at 6:45 AM for Symphonic Band, and it’s so much worse. I pretty much never fall asleep right away or sleep through the night anyway.
Also I’ve been feeling these sharp pains when I occasionally turn my head fast. They usually happen like once every 2-3 weeks or so and I got two today. They hurt and I have no idea what’s causing them and how to stop them.
I have a parade Sunday night and I’m worried, because I’ve been on vacation and not been able to practice. I’ve found that playing and marching is so much harder than marching and doing colorguard, and I’m doing so bad. Plus I haven’t really touched my Symphonic Band concert pieces. I know I’m not practicing enough, but I can never find the time. The eighth grade workload is horrible and I’m seriously struggling. I have a D+ in ELA right now, and I have no idea how to bring my grade up. And if I’m doing this bad now, how am I going to do in high school and college????
Plus, I really, really miss my cat. 🙁
I could use some hugs, medicine, my cat, and a good night’s sleep right now. I’ll probably feel a little bit better when I check in next, but it feels good to vent.
I’m sorry. Wavey. I understand feeling tired constantly. I found a lot of the time I have trouble sleeping if I’m stressed out or worrying about something. Dealing with something stressing you out would probably help you sleep a lot better.
As for school, I know it’s stressful when your mark isn’t consistent or is lower than you’d like (my science mark last year went from failing sections on a test to doing pretty well, and then failing again), but grades are in no way an indicator of your intelligence or character. Is there anyway you could redo a test or maybe get extra help in your classes? Last year, in science, I had learned one small thing incorrectly, and so everything built on top of that, and I had no idea what was happening for the entirety of the electricity unit. Speaking to a teacher, or just going through and making notes helps a lot.
Also, I found a lot of 8th grade was preparing for high school, and we learned a bit about how to deal with the work in high school, and stuff like that. I think for now you should try to focus on 8th grade, and instead of worrying about high school or college, just try to focus on your current classes.
I hope this was a bit helpful *hugs* <3
Yeah, I’ve found that too. I’ll try. And my ELA teacher is very, very strict and I’ve done all my extra credit and stuff, so fingers crossed, but I’ve talked to her before and there’s not too much I can do. I’ll try my best. Thank you <3
No problem, I’m glad something I said helped <3
*Hugs* I’m sorry!!!
Thanks <3
Aww I’m sorry!!! That’s a terrible mis of events right now, I’m afraid I don’t have access to any medicine or cats for you but here’s a cookie🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪 and you can feel free to pet me 😛 *Huggles* I hope you feel better!
Thanks! *eats cookie and pets* You’re soooooft 😛
XD
Aww. Wavey, I’m really sorry. I know, traveling can really mess you up. I’m sorry that you aren’t feeling good. I hope you feel a lot better soon. For the stomachache, try to drink some water, and maybe ask your parents for motrin or whatever brand of pain medication you use.
And old electronics are really annoying. I’m sorry that your phone is acting up, Whenever my stuff does that, it really annoys me. Maybe that’s because I’m impatient.. 😛
You should tell your parents of someone you trust about your head pains. I have no idea what’s causing it, and it’s probably just a minor neck cramp, but either way, you should tell someone.
Again, I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well. *hugs gently*
Yeah, I’m impatient as well. I’ll do my best <3 thanks!
You’re welcome, I hope you feel much better! <3
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry! I know your cat is in Starclan right now. <3
For the stomachache, try ginger tea. I heard that can help. Also, try other herb and natural remedies.
For the head, first, tell your parents. And go to the doctor. Hope you feel better soon! *Huggles softly*
Oh. Er, I said that wrong. She’s fine. I was on vacation 😛 sorry! I sure hope she doesn’t go to StarClan for quite a while. Thank you though! <3
*hugs*
● To get more sleep, maybe you could try to get your homework done during school? While you eat lunch, or if you happen to have a spare minute or two during your periods? That way, when you get home, you can practice for band and have more time to wind down.
● You might want to consider investing in a new phone, if you can
● For ELA, do every assignment and turn them ALL in. Forgetting work might not be your reason for bad grades, but it’s still imperative to do the work and hand it in. If you do vocabulary, make flashcards! Take notes and go over them. Seperate your ELA work from other subjects. Organization is key.
● Take some Advil for your necks pains. AND EAT BANANAS. ALL OF THE BANANAS. IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS BUT IT HELPS. If they persist, tell your parents or a doctor about them.
Hope this helps <3 <3 <3
I don’t have any time to do my homework at school. Believe me, if I have time I do it, but my teachers are totally against that :/ and yes, I am TOTALLY getting a new phone! XD. Thanks <3
Aww I’m so sorry Wavey! I’m really tired rn, so I don’t have very prolific advice, sorry. I just wanted to let you know that I care, and I hope things get better for you soon *huggles* 💜💙💜
Thanks Gecky <3
Aww, that sucks! I hope you feel better soon and don’t worry about school! *huggles* here
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Grace says hi! (Okay it’s not Grace but it looks exactly like her 😛 )
Aww, thank you! Hello Grace! <3
Lately I’ve felt really lonely and as if I have lost myself. I feel like I’ve lost my humor, my kindness, my smarts, and other people’s respect for me. My friends say Im being too hard on myself, but I just don’t believe them. I get bullied at school because people don’t agree with my political opinion, and the boys at my table in first hour are calling me stupid. I’m the only girl at the table, and I sit with the meanest boys in my grade. I don’t want them to laugh at me when I tell them to stop being rude, and i also dont want to seem mean by telling them to stop, I don’t want the bullying to continue. My best friend is also moving away…..I feel alone, and as if nobody cares about me. I’m new here, so I probably won’t be your guys biggest concern.
🙁
~Becca
There are the three boys at my table. Lets call them sparrowpaw, huntpaw and beakpaw. Huntpaw and beakpaw are best friends, but they dont like me and sparrowpaw. huntpaw and beakpaw call me and sparrowpaw hillary clinton lovers, and that we should go to…uh….down THERE, because they think Trump is better, and they disagree with sparrowpaw and my political opinion.
Sparrowpaw has stood up for me when huntpaw and beakpaw bullied me, but he doesnt care when they bully him, and tells me to stop when i try to stand up to hunt paw and beakpaw. I asked him why, but he just rolled his eyes and told me to do my work. Beakpaw and huntpaw have both called me stupid and ugly, and have made fun of sparrowpaw because he is Mexican. I don’t know what to do.
It really confuses me because I’ve never had THIS kind of drama with boys before. I want huntpaw and beakpaw to stop……but I dont want them to call me a snitch or think im not cool for telling on them. We’re getting new seating when we come back from thanksgiving break, but if i know huntpaw and beakpaw, they wont stop bullying me and sparrowpaw. me and sparrowpaw are only friends because he’s friends with my boyfriend, so we hang out, but…..ugh i dont know what to do! maybe i shouldnt worry about the bullying….i deserve this……they know it……i know it……*sighs*
Dawnlily, BlogClanners do care about you. I’m new too! I’m not exactly sure what to do about this drama, but just know the whole of BlogClan is supporting you in this time of need of a place to confess and have a hug so…
-hugs Dawnlily-
P.S. I really have no idea how the hug page is supposed to work!
The hug late is a place where people who need to or want to can rant, cry, or complain, and they receive hugs cookies.🍪🍪 and advice, this is a safe place where we share our feelings and make eachother feel bettter. This is one of the greatest places in BlogClan in my opinion, it’s so safe and a better place for you to get your feelings out, instead of blowing up at someone.
Thanks Willow. I didnt think you guys would be interested in helping me because…well i used to go on this other site. when i first got on its chat page, the people there didnt talk to me. it hurt my feelings, and i told them. they said they didnt care, and to go away. i stayed on the chat, and there were a few nice people there. after a while my username was widely talked about, and the people that were rude to me at first were really nice. I didnt understand that. i dont go on that site anymore, because my mom says its not safe, and i agree.
Awww, I’m so sorry Dawny. You really don’t deserve to be treated like that. Try telling an adult about how they are acting, because it’s not okay at all. We all care about you and personally, I’d love to get to know you!!! *huggles* <3 <3 <3
And adding on to my above comment, here’s a quote: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/c5/a1/37/c5a1376a41cebf262b6052ed16560685.jpg Hope things get better! 🙂
Thanks Breezey. I’m really excited for new friends in BlogClan. Especially because everyone here loves warriors just as much as i do. 🙂
Aww I’m sorry, on warriors wiki once I posted an article on how I didn’t like a certain character and got a lot of hate, I think that was my last post on there.
Dawnlily I haven’t really seen your name on here before, so I’m guessing your new, which means you get to experience one of the greatest realizations BlogClaners have when they first post something on the Hug Page. You are now cared about at thought of fondly by tons of people all over he world that make up BlogClan. We will be here for you. *Huggles* Tell the teacher that those boys are tormenting you like that just because of your opinion and your friends race, who cares if they think it’s uncool and your a snitch, they were just harassing you, their opinions on your actions don’t matter. You don’t deserve this, you are a wonderful person. Welcome to BlogClan
Thanks guys…but I really don’t feel all that wonderful right now…Why would they bully me if I didn’t deserve it? I used to be good friends with huntpaw until he found out i was democrat. Now when i try to talk to him he backs away and says, “go away, clinton lover. go to —-.”
Im used to his bad language…..but it hurts. and he doesnt realize it.
Listen my parents are democrats too, and so am I. Plenty of my friends are Republicans so the problems not with you. It’s with them. If they judge you on your opinions so harshly then they don’t deserve your friendship. You are wonderful. And you don’t deserve this.
Hi Dawn. I want you to know that no matter how new you are, all of BlogClan cares for you. There will always be someone to give you a hug <3
If Huntpaw and Beakpaw claim to be your best friends, but they also don't like you, then that is a friendship you do not need in your life. It's toxic. They are hurting you and your friend. It's abusive. Tell them to their face that it would be better for the both of you if you just stopped being friends. That will remove a large amount of stress from your life. Remember, you don't 'deserve' any of this. Good luck <3
Huntpaw and Beakpaw hate me and sparrowpaw. they bully sparrowpaw because he’s Mexican, and bullies me because of my political opinion.
You do NOT deserve this. Those boys are mean and I hope you get to move far away from them. I read your thing about the other website and BlogClan will never do that. We will always try to reply to your comments and I promise that we will never tell you to go away. If you get seated near one of those boys, ask to move because this is not acceptable. *huggles* I hope things get better soon.
I did ask my teacher if i could move to a different table and he gave me detention…..
I’m so sorry! I hope they stop. I don’t really have any advice since I’ve never had that problem, but I hope it gets better soon! *huggles* and have a 🍪🍪🍪
That is not fair! It does not matter who you vote for! *Huggles*
I feel you there I have 3 boys at my table that harass me everyday and 1 of them isnt just rude harassment…. and yeah me too I have lost myself too because my mom has been missing for almost 2 months now D’:
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Don’t sit by them. They’re terrible. When you say one ‘isn’t just rude harassment’ are you talking about sexual harassment? Because that isn’t just mean. That’s against the law and you need to report him as soon as possible.
I do report them but I live in a stupid town AND school where they don’t do anything about it ive told everyone! But nothing gets done! 🙁
I’m so sorry, Raincreek. I hope your mom comes back safely and happily. It must feel awful. Well, here’s some cookies!
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Thank you (I changed my name)
Holiday is right. If someone besides your mom or doctor touches you and it makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to tell an adult, thats not okay. Hope those boys stop. *huggles*
~Becca
Dawnlily, I have not seen you here before, but we care about you. And just because you’re new, it does not mean we don’t care about you (we were all new at some point or another 🙂 ).
Is there anyway you can ask to move away from them? Or talk to a trusted adult? I know sometimes it feels like you’re alone, and that people don’t care, but please believe me when I say that we do care. You’ve stumbled across a group of the nicest people on earth, and everyone cares.
I’m sorry, Dawn. *hugs*
-hugs-
Hey, don’t listen to them. Your opinion is YOURS. It’s not your fault it’s THEIRS. Try to report the bullying to a teacher, and see if that helps. If it doesn’t, tell your parents or principal.
To sum it up, don’t let them bring you down 😉
First, I wouldn’t care any more or less about how a person is feeling based on how long they’ve been on the blog. Okay, that was worded weirdly, sorry. Anyways, two, *hugs* You need it. I’m really sorry you’re hurting so much. Don’t keep it all bottled up. Your irl friends are right, you’re being too hard on yourself. I’m not sure why you’re beating yourself up. As for the guys, political thingies are just so dumb. Honestly, I don’t understand why people have to be so hurtful over political views- especially when half of them probably never even watched the election or understand what was going on. Opinions are opinions and you can’t change them with mean words. I feel like the occasional snide remark is going to happen. I personally don’t think you can do anything about that, but bullying is different. I think you need to tell your teacher and/or your parents. Try talking with your friend, ask him why he doesn’t want you to stand up for him. Maybe he’s one of those selfless people and doesn’t want them to meaner to you during one of your efforts to help him. Maybe he’s just embarrassed that someone has to defend him. You won’t know till you talk to him. And no- a person never deserves someone else bullying them.
Silver i would try that, but sparrowpaw is only better than huntpaw by an inch. he has the same vulgar language, but the only differnce is that he’s my friend, and its him being my friend by saying stuff like “your mom” jokes and “thats what she said”
Dawnlily, we help all Blogclan members, old or new. I’m very sorry about the bullying, and I know what it feels like. And nobody deserves to be bullied. Here’s my advice for you. Tell your teacher privately. Or maybe the principal, or your parents. They WILL stop this. You deserve to have your own opinion, and they can’t change that. And I hope you don’t have to sit with the two mean boys again. I’ll prey for you, and I’m very sorry. *Hugs* I’d love to get to know you better. And remember, nobody deserves to be bullied. Not you, not me, not anyone.
I need this hug page right now my own Mom has been missing for almost 2 months now… I dont know what to do with myself I feel guilty because everytime I would visit her, I was embarrased but now ill never be embarrassed ever again… I just cant right now…. (this is totally real!) (Name is actually Raincreek)
Hi Raincreek. Hang in there, alright? It must be so hard to have your mother gone, and I can’t imagine what you are feeling. BlogClan is always here for you. I hope your mother returns soon <3 <3 <3
Oh Raincreek! I feel so bad for you! *hugs*
Oh my goodness Raincreek, I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine how that must feel. We’re all here for you if you need to talk about it. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. *huggles infinite times* *sends feel better pies* <3 <3 <3
I’m so sorry. *huggles a million times* I hope she is okay and that she returns. We will always be here for you <3 <3
Omg Dusk I am so so sorry!! I know there is nothing I can say that will ease your pain, but I will certainly be praying for your family. If you ever need to talk, I promise I’ll be there to listen <3 *hugs*
I;m so sorry, Raincreek. I hope your mom is alright!! *hugs* <3
Aww Raincreek I’m so sorry!! !i really hope your moms okay. Remember BlogClan is here for you if you ever want to talk *Huggles*
Hang in there Raincreek. I really hope she comes back soon. *huggles* and here’s some cookies because you need some right now 🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪
-hugs- We hope your mother is safe. Remember that God is here for you <3
*huggles* Oh geez Rainy, stuff like that always hurts. I understand stuff like this and if you ever want to talk, I’d be happy to listen. I hope she comes back. *more hugs*
I’m so sorry, Raincreek! I hope everything gets better. *Hugs* Don’t ever give up hope, and always remember that us Blogclanners will always be here for you.
Thanks everyone for your support I feel alot better with your support <3 🙂
Lately I’ve been stressed. As in, a crying-myself-to-sleep, headache inducing, bags under my eyes sort of stressed. My parents are extremely strict about my grades. Academically, everything must be PERFECT. I’ve been dealing with this since I started schooling, and it’s starting to take its toll on me. As fortunate as I am to receive an education, I’m starting to hate it. I hate staying up late, hunched over my desk, checking and rechecking my homework. I hate fussing over every little grade, and I hate how I’m always being compared to other students. I don’t know how I’m going to handle this for the next couple of years when I’m not even in high school yet.
On top of this, I fight with my mother on a daily basis. She’s a perfectionist, and I’m not. Most of the time, we fight over my physical appearance. My hair isn’t straight enough. My skin isn’t clear. She has called me a “wannabe dirty butch feminist”. She cancelled my acting classes because I didn’t shave my legs. I have had a bad body image for the longest time. I’ve tried starving myself in the past to lose weight. Her comments aren’t helping with this. I tried pointing this out to her, and she told me to get over myself.
I’m going to live in this house for the next six years of my life and I’m unsure of how well that’s going to go. I have all these pent up emotions and I’m afraid they’re all going to spill out one day. I need some advice and hugs. Thanks for reading this.
Oh, Cypresswind. That sounds terrible. I wish I could fix it. I hope BlogClan can offer you the support you need so badly. Please keep sharing with us. We care very much about your happiness and you can be as dumb and hairy-legged as you want, because we care about YOU and not how perfect you can be.
Thank you, Kate (Kate? Ms. Cary? Cakestar? Supreme Overlord?) <3 <3 <3
Hehe. Just Kate. And please vent here when you need to.
And may I suggest you check out some yoga videos on YouTube? I follow videos by a lovely young woman called Adrienne. Yoga is a great practise for relieving stress but especially for teaching you to love and accept yourself. It gives you a place away from the outside stresses and disappointments. It’s like carrying your own happy place with you wherever you go. 🙂 Plus it keeps you fit!
Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll check it out.
I use yoga to manage stress. It really works for me. 🙂 I hope you have a good week. Sending you positive thoughts!
Cyp, I’m so sorry.
Please don’t starve yourself, you’re absolutely perfect the way you are. You’re an amazing person, and your worth is not defined by whether or not you shave your legs, or how well you do in school.
Again, I’m sorry <3 *hugs*. Feel free to rant to me anytime, I'm always here to listen
Thank you Birch <3
Oh Cyp!!!!!! *Huggles* I don’t really know what to say! We will always be here for you, remember that. And we love you, very much, whatever you look like, we don’t care, you are a kind and amazing person. You could try talking to another a fault about your mother if you feel comfortable they could help. I don’t know. But we love you *Huggles*
Thank you <3
*Huggles*
I’m so sorry Cy! (Can I call you that?)
I’m also sorry that I don’t have any advise except for be your self. *Huggles*
(Of course you can)
Thanks for the hugs <3
Oh, Cyp. I’m really so sorry you are going through this.
You are AMAZING just the way you are. Here, we all love you, and we love you for who you are. There are so many people out there, who do things like starve themselves, or do plastic surgery to try to be “perfect” and end up ruining themselves. You were born the way you were, and that means you were meant to be who you are.
Please, please do not starve yourself, or stress, or cry. Oh, Cyp, I’m so sorry. Is there anyone you could confide in to help you with these problems? Can you tell someone you trust about what is going on? Someone who can help you?
Cyp, just remember, you do not need to have perfect grades, and your legs don’t need to be smooth. Nobody is perfect. We are all human, and we should strive to be HUMAN, not perfect. You are amazing, and beautiful on the inside and out. We all love you, so don’t let this bring you down.
Here are some things I think might cheer you up. Love, Willow.
http://imgur.com/3B92eOP
http://imgur.com/mQK5NpA
http://imgur.com/xUpR7YB
I really, really hope things get better. I am literally, so, so sorry Cyp, I wish I could do something to fix this. 🙁
Thanks Willow <3. Those images were really sweet.
You’re welcome, Cyp. <3
Here are a couple more for you. 🙂
http://imgur.com/d9P17SB
http://imgur.com/BRnmTKl
http://imgur.com/IQmLYfS
http://imgur.com/1v4qp9C
Again, we all love you. I hope things get better for you. <3
I’m really sorry, Cyp.
You’re an amazing person, and we all love you just the way you are. Whatever you look like or act like doesn’t matter one bit, because we love you for the person you really are. Your personality is what matters. Don’t let others get you down. Your happiness is something we want for you to always have.
Again, I’m very sorry, Cyp. Be the person you really are, not the most perfect person out there. Be your fantastic, magical self.
I’m always there if you need me, Cyp. *huggles* <3
Thank you Aster 🙂
I’m so sorry Cyp! I wish there was something I could do to help. If there is let me know I can’t imagine how hard it must be!*huggles* and cookies 🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪
Thanks Owl *devours cookies*
Aw Cyp, that must suck. You are perfect just the way you are! We love you for who you are: incredible, sweet, and beautiful! *huggles* <3 <3 <3
I am so sorry! I know how it feels for a parent to have high expectations, but probably not as much as you. Maybe you could ask your mother to talk? You know, have a friendly conversation, and let her know that you try your best in school, and there’s not much more you can do. Or maybe you could just lightly let her know that it hurts when she comments on your appearance? I hope you two could make up soon and you can feel happy about living in that house. *hugs and gives virtual cookies*
Thanks Ice *eats cookies*
Cyp, I feel you :/ My parents always force me to get straight As, not a single B. This made me the perfectionist I am.
And seriously? Your mother judges you for how you look? That’s like judging a fat or skinny person for their size, or scorning others because they’re incredibly short!
People need to quit judging others because of little things. Be who you are, Cyp.
Thank you Juni <3 <3 <3
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Oh, my goodness, Cy. That’s horrible. I’m so sorry. I’m always here to talk if you ever want to. I get being strict about grades, because, hey, they want you to be able to get in good colleges and such. But a B here and there is absolutely fine. Grades don’t truly reflect how well you can do something, anyway. Sometimes people learn in different ways, and you might not understand the way you’re being taught. That happens with me a lot.
You are gorgeous, Cyp. Gorgeous. Don’t let anybody tell you different. It’s your body, not hers. She shouldn’t tell you how you have to look. Starving yourself is not the way to lose weight. I totally understand wanting to lose weight, but starving yourself is very bad for your body. Proportioned amounts of healthy food and exercise is much healthier. (I partly starved myself once and got really sick) But like I said, you’re gorgeous. Look how you want to look. She can’t live your life for you.
Try writing in a diary. Drawing. Anything to relieve those emotions. Punch a pillow. We’re always here to talk, and always here to give hugs. You’re wonderful and beautiful, Cyp, and we love you. 🙂 *Hugs*
Thanks Icy <3 Ily <3
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I feel incredibly guilty for writing this rant now. Even though my parents do and say all the things I listed, I still love them dearly. If my mom were to find my rant she’d probably yell but then start crying and I hate thinking about that. Wow…I’m terrible for writing this about them omg. I sound like such a brat. They stress me out and sometimes make me feel awful but I would be devastated if anything happened to them. Idk guys. Emotions are weird.
No! Cyp, nobody judges you here. You are not terrible, you just needed a place to rant. Emotions are weird when you grow up, I know. I can be so mad at my parents, but I can still love them too. I understand. And You did not sound like a brat, you sounded like you need a hug! SO here, have one. *Hugs*
Don’t feel guilty, Cy! You have every right to rant. It doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person. You needed help. That’s nothing to feel guilty or terrible about. *Hugs again*
(Emotions are weird. Totally bonkers! One minute you’re happy and then you’re angry and then you’re happy, angry and totally confused 😛 Or is that just me? 😛 )
*hugs* I’m sorry. Never ever feel you need to do something to alter how you look. I don’t actually know what you look like, but you have a lovely personality. As your mother and a human being in general, she has no right to be saying things like that. At all. I don’t know how to help with that, I’m sorry. Do you have anything that you’re passionate about? I found it helps me with stress to draw or write stories and/or poetry. So maybe you could try one of those things? If you ever want to talk, I’ll be happy to listen. I hope things get better. In the meantime, vent to us as much as you need to.
I know how yu feel with your grades I just skipped a grade and things are really hard for me mostly math and langage arts and just like you im staying up all night hunched over my desk working my parents are aso very strict my sister-mom (mom in the household) is like that right now she isn’t QUITE like that, but close and lately she has been locking herself in her room for HOURS trying to find my mom (she is missing) and my advice is to keep toing, but dont let you or your parents push you too hard :bear hug: and if it helps try and write down all of your feeeligs on a journal. 🙂 🙂 :bear hug again:
Hey guys, remember when I said a while ago about me being constantly tired, and not knowing why? My mom talked to someone and they said it could be a symptom of anxiety, and I’m getting help for that in January, but I feel absolutely awful,.
I have exams soon and I don’t have the motivation or the energy to study for them as much as I probably should. I don’t really know what to do, and I’m just overall really stressed. Sorry to bother you guys again.
Birch, you never bother us. As important as exams are, your mental health is far more important. Just do the best you can, alright? I hope the help for your anxiety works out <3
Thanks a lot, Cyp. <3
It’s okay. Anxiety doesn’t change you. No mental disease will. Trust me, I know some people who have mental diseases and they are changed. It will never change who you are. *Hugs*
Thank you, Wolf. 🙂
Oops ment they are not changed
You are absolutely not bothering us, Birchy.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Exams are very important, but make sure your mind is still as calm as it can be. I understand anxiety, as I’ve sometimes been through it. I hope things go well- just try to do as well as you can! *hugs* <3
I hope it gets better soon! When I’m stressed I eat food so just in case here’s some food 🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍅🍅🍈🍈🍍🍒🍗🍜🍢🍧🍬🍱☕️🍺🍻🍶🍲🍭🍨🍣🍝🍘🍓🍎🍉🍉🍉🍆🌽🍊🍏🍏🍔🍔🍙🍞🍤🍩🍩🍩🍮🍳🍷🍸🍹🍴🍵🍰🍯🍫🍪🍦🍥🍡🍟🍛🍚🍖🍕🍑🍐🍌🍋🍇🍇🎂🎂🎂🎂
I really hope things get better Birchy. I have anxiety problems and it helps me to have a stress ball or something I can squish. Try taking deep breaths: inhale and exhale slowly. Laughing and taking a break form whatever you’re doing helps too. Feel better! *huggles* <3
You’re not bothering us at all, so don’t feel like you are.. *hugs* You’re mental health is important, invest time in getting better. I hope you do well on your exams, good luck. I hope your anxiety gets better.
Guys. I just read Cyp, and Dawnlily, and Raincreek’s comments here.
I feel disgusted,
How can the world be like this? These great, amazing, beautiful, GOOD people are abused and troubled. Why does this happen? Why can other humans be SO CRUEL to one another? I am on the verge of tears because I am so angry, I FEEL these people’s pain. I am very empathetic, and I feel awful.
I know there is good everywhere, in the littlest places, but why does this stuff have to happen?
Bulling is something I feel SO strongly about. Same with abuse, racisim, hating someone because they are a girl/boy, and every other horrible thing.
I mean, why? Do these people know how terrible they make others feel? I am just filled with so much disgust and hate, HATE for the people who do this. I have witnessed bullying, been bullied, been harassed for being a girl, and I hate it.
I have had to stick up for so many people. Little boys being pushed around, Girls being taunted, people with mental disorders being hated on. I have had to tell these people to shut their stupid mouths.
I wish we could just go back in time, and FIX all of this. I am really just feeling horrible for Cyp, Raincreek, and Dawnlily. This should never happen to them.
I just feel like… like people instead of rising up are sinking DOWN. Like the people are getting worse, and worse, Crueler, lazier, meaner, and selfish..
After reading their comments, I feel SO lucky that I have good parents, kind parents who I can tell ANYTHING to. Good, kind teachers who WATCH OUT for me. They have my back. Friends who stick by my side in fights.
I’m sorry for crying like a baby about other’s problems. It’s ridiculous. But I can’t help but feel down right now.
I’m sorry Cyp, Dawnlily, and Raincreek. I hope you will make it through these tough times.
I’m sorry for this huge, pessimistic rant. But I try SO hard to ALWAYS be optimistic. When we moved into our temporary rental home, it was TRASHED. There was mold, rotten parts, and the water didn’t even work.
But through that I stayed optimistic.
And now, I feel like it’s too hard to stay positive about everything.
Agh.
Wow. It’s late, and I’m ranting way too much. I’m sorry guys. I just had to. I had to. 🙁
Anyway. I’m done now. Enjoy the super pessimistic, drama-filled, Willow rant. 🙁
Wow. I re-read this, and I realized I was being really stupid. I still feel the same way, but this was kinda stupid. Sorry about that. 🙁
It’s not stupid, it’s amazing. It’s the truth, and your right, we need to change this!
Thanks, Darky. 🙂
I’m sorry again for the rant, but like I said, that has been one of my biggest pet-peeves about the world. I feel like we all need to show some compassion, and start caring for one another, like we do here. <3
My biggest pet peeve is this as well. My second is when conversations like this go on
Teacher: alright Tommy (random name I came up with) how did you get your answer
Tommy: well first I TIMESED 3 and 2 and I got 6 then I PLUSED 7 and 6 getting 13 and finally I MINUSED 3 getting the answer which is ten.
And I’m over in the side of the room cringing 😛
XD
Willow, that wasnt stupid. Im empathetic, too. your a kind loving person. i havent been on this site very long, but by the comments on here from and towards you, i can tell your amazing.
~Becca
Thank you so much Dawnlily! <3
That really made my day!! 😀 You are a great person too, and I hope things get better for you. <3
Your welcome. <3
Woaaaah Willow, please don’t let it all get you down. As bad as some aspects of life are, there are beautiful parts as well. Stay positive, and stay wonderful <3
Thanks Cyp. I’m sorry that I freaked out, it happens to me. I’m fine today, and I think I just took things too seriously. Again, sorry about that. I feel stupid for freaking out. 🙁
(EVERYONE CAN IGNORE THAT COMMENT UP THERE… 😅 😅 )
Willow, you are honestly one of the kindest and sweetest people I have ever met online. You are not stupid whatsoever, you are sweet and wonderful, and I’m really glad I got to know you here on BlogClan.
There are really great things in life. The world can be beautiful. Sometimes, don’t worry, be happy. 😀
Awww, Aster, That literally made me tear up. You are so sweet <3 Thank you so much, You made my evening great.
And yes, I shouldn't have been so down. Thank you for the advice! <3
This isn’t stupid at all and thank you willowpaw I have only been part of blogclan since October and now I feel really loved and welcomed and I agree people keep getting worse and we do need to fix that! 🙁 Thank you for your support, ~Raincreek ♥ (I have 3 names Duskstar, Raincreek and Snowheart)
Aww, Raincreek, I’m glad I made you feel welcome! <3
Everyone here is very kind, good, and special, and that includes you. I hope that luck will start coming your way.
~ Willow
Okay. So, here’s the thing. I need to vent about my boyfriend, but I’m afraid I’ll be snunned from you guys if i do….is it okay if i do? meh i feel awful…..
No! Of course it’s okay. You can talk about ANYTHING here. 🙂
You can rant to us anytime you need to! <3
Go ahead. You can rant about anything here.
You can rant about anything here it’s a safe place
Rant about anything and everything if it helps. We’ll try and help. 🙂
Go ahead! You’re free to rant about anything here if you’d like. 🙂
You can rant about anything <3
Wait I’m confuzzled are you the same as Sandheart?
If you need to rant about something we’re here for you!
I need help! My boy friend used to hug and try to hold my hand all the time but my friend told he I didn’t really like it (I don’t mind the hugs) and now he is really awkward around me and goes to hug me but stops. I have told him I don’t mind it but he just brushes it off. 😭
Aww Sandheart -hugs- I’m not sure if this works, but hug him as hard as you can! But make sure you don’t choke him 😉
Okay thanks I will do!
Aw. *hugs* Ask his friend why he did that. Tell your boy friend you don’t mind, and hug him even more often. When he stops in the middle of hugging you, hug him as tight as possible without hurting him.
Okay thank you for your advice! *Hugs back*
Oh no! Next time you see him, give him a hug. I don’t know why your friend would say that. 🙁 *hugs*
I don’t know I spoke to her but she kina just brushed the subject off… *hugs back*
Oh no! You should tell him straight up that you don’t mind it! That is such a rude thing for his friend to say! I hope you figure things out! *Huggles*
My boy is HUMONGOUS player. he has “dated” lets see…. *counts* ………. 5 girls, 6 including me. this past week, in class i got really sacred. and anxious. i felt scared about my relationship with him, because before he “asked me out” we were best friends. he has had romantic relations with both of my best friends (that are girls) and they hate him. I know he’s a selfish person that only wants a girlfriend, but i cant bring myself to break up with him. i know i should…..meh. the one day when i got anxious, i broke up with him, then we got back together. the relationship has made me uncomfortable, because he got me a bff necklace before we were dating…..ugh this is terrible….i just want to be his friend, but if i break up with him for good the friendship will be ruined. I’ve already planned to break up with him…..my bestie thinks i should. its for the best, i tell myself…..
I’m so sorry! That must be such a hard decision! I know you’ll make the right choice in the end!
Oh no! Dawnlily, that’s terrible! I’m so sorry. I understand how hard that must be for you. My advice might be crappy, but I’m gonna try.
Maybe you could tell him that you still care about him, as a friend, but you really don’t feel like the bf/gf thing is working out. You could try to explain to him that you want to still be friends. Maybe he will understand! If he doesn’t and gets upset, remember, you made the right choice. If you are not comfortable with the relationship, then you should end it.
If not, I know you will still make the right choice. I hope everything turns out okay. Good luck, have a hug. *hugs*
In the end of the day, Dawnlily, you should only date someone who respects you as a person. Who makes you happy. Don’t settle for anything less. You deserve that and so much more. If he only wants a girlfriend for the sake of having one, that’s wrong. (Although this is a horrible comparison . . . whenever someone’s going to get a new pet, I always ask, “will you actually love and care for this dog/cat/hamster? Or do you just want one because it sounds “fun,” like a toy or any materialistic good. If that’s the case they’re usually not responsible enough for one.) Sorry this post is really negative, haha. I just don’t think you should be in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable, unless you think it can change for the better. If you want to break up with him, do it kindly and see if you can still remain friends afterwards. *hugs* No matter what happens, we’re here for you always!!! 🙂
lol, you sound like my best friend. she and i get along well, even though she’s a pessimist, and im so optimistic. she hates him. i broke up with him anyway. he does such idiotic things. my gym teacher threw a basketball at his head in Physical Education. I didnt laugh, but i wanted to. and if you guys remember Sparrowpaw? maybe, maybe not. but sparrowpaw had to do 40 pushups. the way it works in gym, is if you bounce the basketball once, you have to do 2 pushups, so he bounced it 20 times in total. when will the boys ever learn? i have no idea. not to stereotype, but most of the boys in my class are completely…..well, they dont respect rules. haha says the one who played the chicken dance in reading hour. im such a rebel. 😛 <3
~Becca
If he is making you uncomfortable, talk to him, or break up with him. If he doesn’t listen to you when you’re explaining you should break up, too. You shouldn’t feel forced to be in a relationship, and you definitely shouldn’t feel uncomfortable! I understand it would probably be really awkward to break up with him, but at the end of they day, you shouldn’t have to stay in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable!
I hope this helps <3
Awww I am sorry *Hugs you* If its making you unhappy then you should just confront him and tell him your feelings… actually that’s easier said then done…sorry
I know I have already mentioned that my mom is missing, but people at my school are harassing me about it especially lets call them stupidpaw dumbpaw dumberpaw and stupiderpaw like gettting in my face and saying ur moms dead dead dead dead and making fun of me like “you want your mommy awww” I ended up flipping stupiderpaw off and slapping dumberpaw a few times. And in my school there is SOOOOOO much gosssip, that rumours like every day “oh they found bloodstains on the carpet and oh they found a fake letter!” So thats why my mom is homeschooling me for awhile. I just lost myself I cry myself to sleep EVERY NIGHT im miserable any advice?~Raincreek 🙂 🙁
Oh my goodness, those kids are terrible! Report them to the principal or supervisors immediately. That’s verbal abuse and they need to be seriously reprimanded and taught how to act appropriately. I’m so sorry your mom is missing. That is beyond devastating. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If only I could take all your pain and shoulder it myself, then I would in a heartbeat. *hugs* Stay strong! BlogClan is here for you!!! We will always be your friends. (Feel free to email me: [email protected]). Never forget that we love and care for you too!!! 🙂 Although things aren’t going great right now, understandably, try to find positive outlets. Sometimes the little things in life can make you smile, even for a second (which is enough!) *hugs again* <3
-hugs- Ignore them and tell a trusted adult. We will all pray for your mother and hope she will come home.
Oh God, that’s terrible. *hugs* These are just awful people, and I’m really sorry they’re treating you like this. When a person you love is gone, someone should not make fun of it. Tell an adult. Don’t hesitate to do it, this is just a terrible thing for them to say. Gossip shouldn’t be flying around about something like that. I know it’s probably going to happen, you can’t really stop it. Make yourself deaf to it. Learn how to block it out. Like I said, I’m sorry they’re doing this. They’re just making an already painful event even worse. I know it hurts. I understand. Just keep your chin up. Crying is okay. *hugs* Stay strong, kay?
Thank you you guys I feel loved <3 🙂
I’m so sorry, Raincreek! I hope your mom is okay <3 *hugs*
As for the kids treating you like this: you should tell an adult. A teacher, a parent, whoever, as long as someone knows, because this is absolutely not okay. What they're saying is really bad, and they shouldn't be allowed to say things like that anymore <3 *hugs*
Raincreek, I can’t really say that you’ll…well….be in my prayers, cause i dont really belong to a religion, but I’ll think and hope that you’ll see your mom again. i cant imagine life without my mom, so your being very brave, and crying yourself to sleep is really okay. and not to promote violence, but if dumb boys did that to me, i would have punched them by now…….heh…..
~Becca
I am soooo sorry! Those kids have no idea what you are going through! The best advice I can give is to just ignore them and they will adventally leave you alone, you know the truth and they don’t that gives you and advantage. *hug*
Thanks you guys <3