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Honestly, I’ve gotta say, the needing to be the center of attention and feeling like your personality is too much for people to like hit home for me. I do have a question: Does this bubbliness feeI fake or real to you? As in, when you’re expressing it, does it feel like the true you? It’s okay to not know yet. But, I will say this –
If it feels fake or insincere: I would wonder whether you feel like other people might not like you if you are serious. I think it’s good to observe ourselves, see what we are doing, and think about why. Sometimes it is easier to joke around because then if people seem put off, we can feel it wasn’t really us. Since it was a joke and not sincerity, then we can remain “hidden,” as it were. This is a defense mechanism that is different from joking around with a friend because you genuinely find it funny and are having a blast. Just so you know, I like you when you joke around and I like you when you are serious! <3

If this aspect of your personality does feel genuine: Then I think the best way to let yourself be bubbly but also have confidence is to be confident, truly confident, in who you are as a person. Easier said than done, I know. But, if you love yourself as a person and know your worth, you’ll have a backbone that people will sense. I’m going to give you an example in Dumbledore (hear me out haha 😛): He is a whimsical individual who is totally himself. He’s not afraid to be lighthearted and even silly, but he also has stores of great power and great wisdom and everyone knows he has that seriousness to him. One of my favorite examples of him keeping his jaunty wits while asserting himself is when he stops in the Dursley’s house to pick up Harry. The book says ‘here was a man who would be very difficult to bully,’ and then Uncle Vernon says, rudely, “I don’t mean to be rude” and Dumbledore says “But sadly, accidental rudeness occurs too often,” in a conversational manner. He lets Uncle Vernon know he won’t play that game. People can be both bubbly and serious and be a complex person worthy of being valued and taken seriously.

For your religion, I say it’s okay to question! Perhaps talk to other Muslims, do research on ways to practice, I’d even say if you want to do research into different religions to understand what other people think. But no matter what path you end up choosing, even if it’s a while before you know, you will be okay. You’re a good person no matter what.

*hugs* <33333