The Hug Page

Asp, you are a good person – I promise. Bad people don’t care about becoming better people and certainly don’t feel remorse for past mistakes <3

And while we're here: everyone makes mistakes. You're not a bad person for younger you doing something a little foolish, and I don't think anyone will hold things like that against you, I promise.

I've dealt with a lot of intrusive thoughts, and the thing is, you can't wish your thoughts to go away. Unfortunately, the more you concentrate on trying to think of something else, the more your brain returns to the thought you'd really rather not be thinking. Instead, we can try to distance ourselves from our thoughts. One thing that's helped me when there's far too many thoughts racing around in my brain and I feel overwhelmed is to imagine stepping onto a subway car/whatever vehicle, and to imagine that you're watching the thoughts go past you. In my experience, this can at least distance yourself from the intrusive thoughts so at least they don't feel like they're taking over you

For the nausea/other physical symptoms: I know that anxious feelings can cause you to feel nauseated and have other physical symptoms, so to try and combat those I have a few techniques. The first one is to try and ground yourself, which basically means returning to the present if you feel that you're being swept up by your thoughts so much you're losing touch with reality. You can try to find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. Alternatively, you can find an object in the room you're in and try to describe it in as much detail as possible (what does it look like? What would it feel like/what is its weight? colour, texture, size, etc).

You can try some breathing exercises, too. One that I personally really like is to breathe in for a few seconds (say 3) and then exhale for longer than you've inhaled. To do this, you need to breathe in the same way as if you were blowing out a candle on a birthday cake. I'm not sure of the science behind it, but it really does calm my nerves and slow my heartrate <3
I don't have a lot of tips specific to anxiety induced nausea, but if you're feeling sick, lie down on your back and try not to crunch up your stomach too much by curling into a ball. Sipping ginger ale is really good for stomach aches, too.

Try listening to some music or podcasts if you're feeling overwhelmed. I know personally this lets my mind focus on what I'm hearing, especially if I know the songs really well/can predict what the next lines are, instead of spiraling <3

If things are really bad, do you think you could ask your parents to take you to see a counselor? You don't really have to go into detail with your parents about why other than you're experiencing a lot of anxiety/distress. <3 *huggles*